8 Signs Your Man Isn’t Ready to Grow Up

June 27th, 2011 - By LaShaun Williams

 

Every relationship comes to a crossroads when both people have to decide what type of commitment they want, if at all. Some of us have clear rules and don’t waste time playing around any longer than three months; while, others hang on for years. But, there is no need to squander precious time with someone who isn’t ready to step up.

If you’re beyond “buddy” or “boo” status and ready for something steady, it’s time to start weeding out the boys (who may be nice) but just aren’t ready to grow up. Don’t know the signs? Here are a few to get you moving:

Tags:

, , , , , , ,
More from StyleBlazer
More from MommyNoire

Comment Disclaimer

Comments that contain profane or derogatory language, video links or exceed 200 words will require approval by a moderator before appearing in the comment section. XOXO-MN

← Older Comments
  • King Lion

    God it’s good to be a guy….we can live how we want forever :) …or at least change when we are ready. Women you really don’t have that choice do you…you mad? LOL be mad…i’ll be over here doing whatever the hell I feel like including spending a few days a week banging the brains out of 3-4 different young women. Tick tock do you here that biological clock ladies…well if you were a guy then it can be on snooze as long as you want…especially if kids are not a problem or priority at this point….God it’s good to be a guy :) .

  • Crystal M357

    My man is 29 going to be 30 really soon.. we have a baby and another on the way.. he still lives at home with his parents and says to me that he won’t pick me over his mothers word or his sisters word. What do I do? How do I get him to see that his mother and sister are evil minipulating brainwashing b*****s who have nothing better to do than f**k with our relationship. Oh btw.. his sister is 38years old and still living at home.. no man..no kids.. only a dog and MY MAN..or guy?..boy? Idk..child… what do I do?

  • Ray

    seen myself in the one about being unemployed, I hate that I'm in college without a job, it;s hard to balance both but loans aren't gonna pay themselves

  • Adrienne

    I think some people missed the point of the article, in no way did I see anyone pointing out Black Men, it's men in general and @ InnocentTruthisBack really dude. I get that everyone is entitled to their opinion but some of the stuff on that list was so juvenile and sounded like such a tit, for tat deal. "you did this, so I'm gonna do this." really? The author was being constructive, in dating advice not on a witch hunt for black men. If you were going to make a list it could of at least been constructive not petty. This article can be applied to women as well for example, in terms of not growing up, women who feel that a man, or woman, or spouse or anyone besides herself SHOULD BE TAKING CARE OF HER (and she's grown.) that's a problem. It's one thing if you are a stay at home mom, (hell a stay home mom is a full time job) I mean when a women feels she wants her own house, car, clothes, etc. but she feels that someone else (not her) needs to pay for it then she needs to grow up, I can't stand it when a woman, or a person in general man or woman, wants to have the world in their hands but don't wanna put in work to get there. A woman who has a child and uses that child to get back at her ex like a pawn in a game of chess, then she needs to grow up. If a ex is an ex, then he is for a reason, whether you agree with that reason or not, you need to move on. period. Unless you both want to work it out together, if not keep it moving, because using a child to back at someone is only going to cause that child unnecessary pain, and resentment towards you. However back on the subject of this article. This was intended toward men, in terms of dating advice, and just giving some signs to look out for, if you decided to take it personally that's on you. I don't believe this article was meant in a harmful way. This article wasn't making the assumption that all men are this way, it just stated that if the man you are dating acts this way then it's a problem.

  • jones

    How about 9 signs your girlfriend is Ghetto… instead

    1) She thinks have rainbow inspired multi colored weave is cute
    2) She describes child support payments as extra income
    3) She uses payday loans to go to the club
    4) She is a 4th year Senior at a Junior College
    5) The Last book she read was Green Eggs and Ham
    6) She still lives at Home
    7) She considers networking as updating her facebook account every 5 minutes
    8) Her life goal is to be on a reality show
    9) Her favorite tv personalities are Frankie and Neffe

  • Anna

    Come again?

  • Pingback: Ohverly Critical » Blog Archive » LOVE & MARRIAGE: 8 SIGNS YOUR MAN ISN’T READY TO GROW UP

  • Chance

    Following Lil' Wayne? That's probably the dumbest thing ever posted on this site. Girl, he follows Lil' Wayne, he ain't never gonna grow up! GTFOHWTS

  • Shayla

    Jody My Jody…When you gon' grow up?

  • Strong

    I don't think the author was trying to single any race out…the majority (if not all) of my Asian-American and Caucasian friends listen mainly to hip-hop. And @KingBeef…I personally would respect and take Lil Wayne a bit more seriously if he actually made music about what he REALLY believes in, instead of rapping about one thing and then doing a 180 and tweeting another. I didn't even know he tweets positive messages but now that I do, it just proves to me the duality of his nature – that he's extremely weak and willing to say whatever will make him more money…a typical sellout.

  • Hooked on Phonics

    I think the picture in the "lives in his parent's basement' is of a white guy. And I'm sure that lots of white males follow Lil Wayne. I live in the DC area, and if you hear hip-hop/rap blasting out of a car it's just as likely to be a car full of white guys as it is a car full of black ones. All of the things she talks about can be said of men of any race; no one race, color, nationality, or gender is all good, or all bad.

  • http://twitter.com/kb.icon KingBeef

    All of these signs were valid except maybe the one about following Lil Wayne. I actually follow him and Lil Wayne is alot more intelligent that his music and actions may sometimes lead us to believe. He posts many positive tweets.

← Older Comments