Racing to the Altar: Why Are People Marrying So Shortly After Meeting?
When it’s true love, do you really just know? Celebrities seem to think so and couples like Keyshia Cole and Boobie Gibson, Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom and Monica and Shannon Brown all have the short courtships to prove it. While some think falling in love and getting engaged in less than a year is an act of fate, I’m willing to bet that for most it’s more like a natural disaster.
As I write this I know I will get a comment section full of stories that are a little something like this: “Me and my husband only knew each other for a month before we got married and we’ve been married for ten years.” It’s not that I don’t believe that people can legitimately stay in love after rushing into a lifelong commitment; I just believe that it’s the exception, not the rule. While unions that result from short courtships CAN be successful, I wouldn’t go shelling out relationship advice for women to marry who they feel is “the one” after only 2 months of dating.
It’s easy to want to go running down to the altar when you first meet someone who whispers sweet nothings in your ear and gives you more butterflies than a Mariah Carey album, but what about when you find out that same man has a tattered past of drug or alcohol addiction that may prove to be an issue in your relationship? While you may be able to accept a not so blemish-free past, the point is that certain subjects aren’t exactly first date material and it can be difficult to really know what you’re signing up for in a short period of time.