Why Online Dating Doesn’t Work For Black Women

January 13, 2015  |  
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Looking to find love online this year? You might need to look elsewhere. The studies are in and black women come near the bottom of the pile when it comes to finding love on mainstream dating sites.

Online, Like Attracts Like

Online, Like Attracts Like

Most daters on mainstream sites like OKCupid, Tinder and Match.com are white. And the statistics say that most of those white men are looking to date someone who “share their racial background.” That means that, for the most part, black women’s profiles are passed by.

Interracial Dating Isn't Really On The Rise

Interracial Dating Isn’t Really On The Rise

Anyone who read the recent survey results on interracial dating like I did is really surprised by these results.

But as it turns out, even though 93% of people aged 19 to 29 say they accept interracial dating who they actually date is a different story.

Black Men Aren't Interested In Black Women Either

Black Men Aren’t Interested In Black Women Either

If OKCupid’s studies are anything to go by, black men gave black women the cold shoulder too and vice versa.

A recent study found that black people of all ages were 10 times more likely to initiate contact with white people than other black people.

You Have To Do All The Work

You Have To Do All The Work

One dating expert said “If you are a black woman on Match.com and you’re not going to initiate contact then you are not going to date. That’s just the reality.”

To get any response at all, black women have to reach out roughly 1.5 times the amount of any other group — and they are still the group that’s the least responded to.

You Can Feel Unwanted

You Can Feel Unwanted

Putting in all of the effort for men who may or may not be interested in dating black women is frustrating enough.

But men are also more honest online. And that means that black women encounter a lot of profiles that blatantly say “no black women” or other comments that completely rule women out just because of the color of their skin.

White Men Are A In Demand

White Men Are A In Demand

White men are most numerous on mainstream dating sites like OKCupid and Match.com and that’s where daters go to look for them.

Black women looking to date interracially are up for some stiff competition. Women of all races have their eyes out for white men on these dating sites.

Add slim pickings to lots of competition and online dating can be a frustrating experience.

You hate being on the computer a lot

You’re Likely To Be Exoticized

“I don’t date black girls, but I like you.”
“I’ve been looking for a black girl.”
“I don’t date white girls.”

Black women report that white men who do contact black women online often exoticize them.

Women who do go on dates with those men sometimes find out that they’re more interested in dating a skin color or a stereotype than getting to know them as a person.

"Racially Ambiguous" Women Have A Rough Time

“Racially Ambiguous” Women Have A Rough Time

“What are you?”
“What kind of Asian are you?”
“What country are you from?”

Women that don’t look typically black or Asian or hispanic find that a lot of the messages they receive contain rude questions about their race.

You Should Wait

You Should Wait

The online dating landscape doesn’t look great for women now. But analysts predict that by 2017, African-Americans will be the most represented out of any ethnic group online. That could mean a lot more dating opportunities for black women on mainstream sites.

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You’re Looking In The Wrong Place

Until mainstream online dating sites catch up on colorblindness, many experts say that black women have more success on sites like Meld, BlackPeopleMeet or other sites designed for black people and the people interested in dating them.

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  • Makara

    Not sure what or who this article is based on…as a black woman I have no issues getting tons of messages from men of all races on dating sites. I prefer black men and some sites don’t have enough. My issue is that I keep meeting Caucasian men who are age appropriate, career oriented, ready for marriage and family and not meeting black men who are as ready. The black men are more challenging. A lot of people are telling me to just settle and marry outside my race but I honestly do not want to. Im not a bigot, I just want to marry someone with a similar cultural background. I know love has no color but comfort for life would be nice in terms of relating to my spouse and raising our children. I am currently dating a black man I met on the infamous Tinder….lol I know, I know but he is very cool but very broke financially. He is very educated and talented. (Artist) My friends are telling me NO but I think its worth a try. I have had my share of dating men with financial stability with no emotional stability which I take responsibility for. Now I am trying something new and hope this works out. Black women give some brothers a chance, they might not have it all together because of the socioeconomic hardships society throws at them. Under all that financial broke can be a masterpiece of a man. I only recommend this with men who have a degree or several with a discernible talent. Don’t believe the propaganda of us being at the bottom of the barrel etc. Thats ludicrous, we are still procreating far more than all other women so they are plenty of men looking for us however we must be looked at as wives not baby mothers. Fingers crossed that I have found my King and good luck to all of you Queens looking for your equals.

  • Baba Almonte

    Most of us are only undatable to the undateable. Most guys are good and honest. If you keep picking cheaters it ain’t them, it’s you.

  • I agree that on line dating is a means of meeting new people and getting more active on the dating scene. It allows people to hone up on their dating skills. By letting go of the expectation of meeting “the one,” a large number of my clients meet a really great guy in normal day to day interactions or at events.

  • MasterMind

    Black women need to close their legs before marriage, and get rid of that nasty weave (love themselves first) then they will become more desirable. Oh! that loud animated attitude is not cute.

  • Jones

    this post was discouraging, but it completely represents my experiences with online dating. the one area where i seem to have the most luck is men who are old enough to be my father and are looking for a “night of fun.”

  • todd.sherise

    A couple of studies have found that a considerable amount of nonblack men send messages to racially mixed part black, part white women. It is one race black women that hardly no nonblack men message. Now I don’t know if there are so many more men open to having a serious relationship with a part black woman than a one race black woman or if men are simply more open to casually dating mixed race black women. Whatever the case, mixed race blacks get more nonblacks messaging them.

  • Gaylon X Stanfield

    Well I don’t know what will significantly change between now and 2017 that will make it better for black women in regards to online dating. I know I personally don’t like online dating, But It’s a cool way of meeting people I wouldn’t normally meet. I’m a full time father and don’t get out much. I don’t think black women are undesirable it’s just sometimes as a man when you have been thru a lot of failed relationships in life you just don’t have the energy, the faith or the time to invest in starting a relationship. People hide so much these days. I suggest doing Criminal Background checks. It Just takes you meeting someone that you feel you really need to connect with to make you want to invest the effort but I just don’t see me meeting my Future Wife online. Just don’t see it happening.

  • What!!

    I tried to date this bw who gave me such a hard time and when i was asking what was up she says well her past situation everything was percect and when she got pregnant he left. She told me shes having issues with that. Im thinking to myself so basically what happened was when it was time for hime to be a man for you and his child he got up and left but you say everything was perfect smh. I just moved on that was the last time i made an effort i got sick of bw giving me a hard time.

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  • Jon Johnson

    Oh, please! That’s nonsense. There are lots of good black men out there, but most black women prefer the THUGS! The very same guys that you say you don’t want are the very ones that attracts you! That, says more about you than about them. Go figure! That’s exactly why good BM move on to non-black women.

    • A Vocal Guest

      Maceo > You married and chased after WW for 40 years only doing for them while putting BW down. You said you wanted to help out only WW hence WM!
      So don’t get mad now that I want to go to the top of the Food Chain! LMAO A WM only for me!

  • Carlos

    The problem with black girls online is that they simply cannot compete with white, Latinas, or Asians. Almost every black woman I’ve seen has the typical fashion: cheap heels, tons of makeup (as if black women needed it,) gaudy forever 21 clothes, and that those hideous extensions. Where are all the natural sistahs? Why all the effort to look like dark skinned versions of cheap white women? Did I also mention that most of ya are obese? Yes, non stop fat rolls hanging down your inner thighs – black women are supposed to be skinny and graceful, the kind white men drool over.

    • Unreal

      I really really wish black men who hate black women would just move on and stop spewing the negativity 24/7. Just leave us alone and go get a white girl. We honestly don’t miss you anyway.

  • Carlos

    Hey black women, don’t feel alone. My Lack of height and medium to dark skin color excludes me from many a woman’s preference, including yours. And I’m handsome, but that’s still not enough.

  • Torri Nadal

    This is a stupid article. There are a lot of black women on dating sites who get approached by ALL men. I am one of them. I get letters from black , white , Hispanic , East Indians, Asians, Arabs, etc…The thing about it is that NONE of the men who are writing are of any quality, so I don’t respond. I think it doesn’t have anything to do with the black women and men not wanting them on dating sites, I think it has more to do with THERE ARE NO GOOD MEN ON DATING SITES in general. And if there are, it’ll take a while to fine them.

    Also, Black women can date, marry, and have children with men of all races. These articles are nothing, but put in place to stop black women from dating outside of their race. They put fear in us and make us believe that we can only get a black man and that sites like Black People Meet and Meld are the only ones we can use. Don’t believe that. And, if you’re a black woman who wants to date outside your race, please don’t listen to this crap! Don’t just give in and think that black men are the only way to go because that’s not true. Keep an open mind, stay positive, and stay beautiful!

    Black men aren’t our “knights and shining armor.” They aren’t our protectors and they don’t treat us with respect and love either. In fact, they are the reasons why our situation seems so hard. Most men of other races value their women, but it’s not the same for black men. The only thing they do is tear us down and disrespect us. We should get tired of this and stop running back to them and being so loyal.

    • Unreal

      You’re dismissing the very real, very hurtful fact that society openly devalues black women and constantly send us the message that we are undesirable, and men of all races buy into it. I agree with you that we do better on sites like black people meet, where black men who show up actually want to date black women. But there are still 10-20 of us for every one black man on those sites. So the outcomes while better still aren’t great. Denial doesn’t do anyone any good.

  • Dena Alabama-girl

    This is not true , I met my husband on bbw .com three years ago . He is a good black man from Tuskegee , Alabama .

    • Beautiful. Glad to read a positive online outcome

  • A Vocal Guest

    I look at the facts, BM have “Messy lives” or bring too much baggage. I see nothing wrong with Dating/marrying outside the race. I rather date/marry out then accept a “Less than” BM . There’s far too many BM who have messy, high-risk lifestyles you can’t partner with them less you lose out.

    Even old Jessie Jackson (Keep home alive) who was married had a baby in an affair stealing funds from OPERATION PUSH to pay child support!

    Ill pass on BM, too many high risk, no rewards!

  • keisha

    I hate to say it but this article has some truth to it. I’ve tried online dating sites a number of times since offline dating has never come easy for me. After being single my entire life it does get really discouraging, especially growing up in a predominantly White and Asian city. I am a visible minority and often overlooked/rejected online and offline. It has reached a point for me that I don’t even waste my time reading profiles anymore, I would just scroll down directly to their ethnic preferences to see every race accepted except for black women. I was hoping there would be some suggestions on how to meet men who are interested in black women offline. I’ve tried church, praying, community events, volunteering and nothing. I’m at a place in my life where I would like to settle down, get married and have a family. Instead of just mindlessly going to work everyday, then coming home to an empty apartment to eat a meal alone that I didn’t even really feel like cooking in the first place, because it seems like a waste to make a big mess of dirty dishes for one person. Sorry that I sound so pathetic, I’m just feeling discouraged..

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  • Kelly

    This is not true. I don’t have problems on dating sites. Stop writing these negative articles about black women.

  • Silver Joystix

    I shouldn’t even have clicked on this nonsense and read it, but I did. I conducted a study after reading this article and I came to the conclusion that that black people need to stop worrying about these “studies” and start taking action on their own lives.

    If you like someone, pursue them…stop waiting for some magical miracle to take place and stop eliminating everyone who doesn’t fit your “ideal” vision. Articles like this do nothing but discourage people from trying and some women read this and internalize it rather than take a chance.

    And thanks for making every black man in the world look like he doesn’t care about black women. Pushing these stereotypes doesn’t help anyone become better at interaction!

    You put white men on a pedestal in about 4 different places and just tell black women readers that black men are not interested in them.

    Shame on you Meg Butler – or whoever the hell wrote this.

  • PuLLitYouWnt

    #8 and #9. God`s honest truth and that`s why I got off the one site I was on. It just felt like a joke after awhile and it`s not just white men that treat us like that either.

  • Caydence James

    Wow! Thanks! That was so uplifting.

  • MsLadyE

    I’m done with these negative, whiny, sour grapes articles about how Black women can’t find a date, can’t keep a man, won’t get married, blah, blah, blah. Black women are dating and getting married every day. Online dating DOES work for Black women. It’s just another dating option we can choose from.

  • Darcampb

    Yes, we get it. We are fat , ugly, ignorant, stupid, ghetto, mean and nobody wants us. Yawn.

  • Hope Floats

    Hate to say it, but me too :'(

  • Beyond Tired

    MN please STOP IT with these tired articles. #StopSpreadingTheLies

  • Redgirlndc

    Who wrote this article? I have dated online and have been very successful and know a lot of others who have as well. This is ridiculous! I’m dating a guy that I met in Match 7 years ago and we are happy. My girlfriend just got engaged to a man that she met on Match. My other girlfriend is in a long term relationship with a Hispanic man she met online. So this is crap! And the other relationships I mentioned are with highly professional black men and they did the reaching out. As for white men the would hit my profile up all the time. However, I would never date a white man because to me they are not desirable, I am not attracted to them, and they could never compete with my black man. Who writes this crap. Please spare me another black women are undesirable article. We are queens! Recognize!

  • Define2

    It never occurred to me to find a black man on white dating sites..who is that dumb? Stop trying to depress black women and make them feel unwanted. I met my husband online but not on a white website. I also have famy members who met their spouses online but again not on white websites. I learned years ago that black dating sites are the way to go. More choices of black men that want black women and just know white women are on those sites too and also white men who want to date black women.

  • youngblackwomanlooking

    THANK YOU!

  • ShannyLo

    Oh the nerve of this article! Beating down your own race is never the answer. You make it seem like all we have to resort to is online dating.

  • Successful black online dater

    Yea this is bullshit.

  • Mrs.Stephanie C

    Well, my experience was quite the opposite. I got about one or more dates a month on Zoosk, from black men. Some inquiries from white/hispanics…..but mostly black men. In fact, I met the love of my life..my true soulmate.We were married a year and a half later, and applying tp adopt and start a family. It took me about 5 years on and off, ( lol) but I found him. I met many different types of men…(never slept with em)..and I learned what traits to avoid or look for. I’d say ho for it and give it a try. Follow online safety guides, don’t sound desperate, and have some fun meeting new people…You never know!!!!

  • Lisa547

    Just joined Tinder and am having a lot of fun with it. A few of the guys even have real potential. I don’t know about online dating in general (I had bad experiences with POF, the guys were total headcases) but Tinder seems cool. I’m getting shown a lot of interest. Now if only there were fewer smokers to choose from!

  • chilltowntv

    Totally agree. I’ve dated a lot of guys who I met in online dating that I wouldn’t even dream of seeing a second time. Low “inventory” and the few that are there usually have issues.

  • Sonia

    Hmmm, I don’t believe this article. My girlfriend met her husband (who is white) on E Harmony and he treats her like a Queen.I have other friends (who are black) who have met their mates on dating websites too. I think it really depends on where you live.

    • Beverly

      I am SO GLAD these savy, smart, Black women on this site did NOT fall for these “made up” statistics that always put us as Black people at the bottom of the barrel . These negative statistics about us not ever being able to find suitable mates are true ONLY IF YOU BELIEVE THEM. I also appreciate all the great examples of how Black people these women knew found love on and off line.

  • mmmdot

    “Four Myths About Black Marriage”

    Black Women Don’t Marry

    The barrage of news reports about the black marriage rate gives the impression that
    African-American women’s chances of walking down the aisle are bleak. A Yale University study found that just 42 percent of black women are married, and a variety of high profile news networks such as CNN and ABC picked that figure up and ran with it. But researchers Ivory A. Toldson of Howard University and Bryant Marks of Morehouse College question the accuracy of this finding. “The often-cited figure of 42 percent of black women never marrying includes all black women 18 and older,” Toldson told the Root .com. “Raising this age in an analysis eliminates age groups we don’t really expect to be married and gives a more accurate estimate of true marriage rates.”

    Toldson and Marks found that 75 percent of black women marry before they turn age 35 after examining census data from 2005 to 2009. Moreover, black women in small towns have higher marriage rates than white women in urban centers such as New York and Los Angeles, Toldson remarked in the New York Times.

    Educated Black Women Have it Harder

    Getting a college degree is just about the worst thing a black woman can do if she wants to get married, right? Not exactly. News stories about black marriage often mention that more black women pursue higher education than black men—by a 2-to-1 ratio according to some reports. But what these pieces leave out is that white women also earn college degrees more than white men do, and this gender imbalance hasn’t hurt white women’s chances at matrimony. What’s more, black women who finish college actually improve their chances of marrying rather than lower them. “Among black women, 70 percent of college graduates are married by 40, whereas only about 60 percent of black high school graduates are married by that age,” Tara Parker-Pope of the New York Times reported. The same trend is at play for black men. In 2008, 76 percent of black men with a college degree married by age 40. In contrast, only 63 percent of black men with just a high school diploma tied the knot. So education increases the likelihood of marriage for both

    African-American men and women. Moreover, Toldson points out that black women with college degrees are more likely to marry than white female high school dropouts.

    Rich Black Men Marry Out

    Black men drop black women as soon as they reach a certain level of success, don’t
    they? While plenty of rap stars, athletes and musicians may choose to date or marry interracially when they achieve fame, the same is not true for the bulk of successful black men. By analyzing census data Toldson and Marks found that 83 percent of married black men who earned at least $100,000 annually got hitched to black women. The same is the case for educated black men of all incomes. Eighty-five percent of black male college graduates married black women. Generally, 88 percent of married black men (no matter their income or educational background) have black wives. This means that interracial marriage should not be held responsible for the singleness of black women.

    http://racerelations.about .com/od/diversitymatters/a/Four-Myths-About-Black-Marriage.htm

    • Hope Floats

      Interesting.

    • Guest

      Thank you for this mmdot. I remember seeing this report everytime I went to fact check this BS propoganda about black marriages. We know hollywood plays by a different set of rules than the rest of the country–so I’m preplexed as to why these sites keep using their marriage pratices as the standard in comparison to the rest of the country, which already shows that interacial marriages are STILL a minor % than non-interracial marriages.

      • mmmdot

        You’re welcome! And all I can think is that this must be a result of internalized anti-black misogyny. Because as website for black women should NOT be yet another place where we catch hell for just existing and fed the distortions and lies that were SPECIFICALLY created by racist and misogynistic white people to make us feel inferior about ourselves.

    • Adriannan Nonyo

      yeah ik this sounds dumb but as a person who is anti-social plus a black woman I believe the statistics and thought that ill never get married. its good to know they’re false and that my chances arent that bad.

      • mmmdot

        Wow! I’m glad to know that what I posted was really of some help to someone! Thank you for letting me know!

  • gapeach0614

    It works for some, and it doesn’t work for others. I honestly feel that people who have online dating profiles are easily able to portray yourself to be more than what you really are to try to get any type of attention. I think it’s also completely false when MN stated that black women are least likely to do all the work. That isn’t true. Personally, when I tried online dating, I sent messages to some men. Did I get a reply? Nope, but hey, that happens to the best of us! There’s nothing like meeting someone the old fashioned way and that’s in person. You can meet people anywhere! Library, church, grocery store, wherever!

  • mmmdot

    Anti-black racism + misogyny = misogynoir. Being black does not mean that you can’t be
    patriarchal or insensitive or outright hostile to Black womanhood. AND there are
    PLENTY of Black women who have internalized this anti-black gendered racism and colorism and they don’t value Black womanhood either. Black women ALREADY catch enough hell from society and the mainstream white media for just EXISTING, so WTF does MN think it’s doing with these kind of crackpot anti-black misogynist articles? All you are doing is propagating the FAKE and DISTORTED white mainstream media created “crisis” of single, “unwanted” black women. You SHOULD know better but yet, you keep fxcking doing it? What is it with you people? Stop doing these BULLSHXT articles. Black women *DO* get married, and even if we don’t want to get married we can go and get men *IF* and *WHEN* we want them. SO either get your information correct so you can address this topic intelligibly or leave it the fxck alone.

    • Lisa547

      So true.

  • Kina Gloria

    Well I must be the exception to the rule because every dating site I got on, I was bombarded with men (mostly black) contacting me. Im very picky so I barely responded. There were times where I reached out to a few guys I thought were cute and they always were very open. A few guys were straight up gross – asking about my bra size and saying they wanted sex stupid stuff but thats expected when you have perverts who can hide behind a screen. Im not doubting the statistics but I never ran into THAT problem with online dating and I dont think black women should be discouraged from online dating. The key to online dating is weeding out the liars, cheaters, and bs’ers ( the same with face to face dating) The good thing about online dating is that you can talk to the person whoever long you want to before actually investing time into meeting them in person so that helps. I met my current and 2 of my ex boyfriends online.

  • kierah

    My husband and I met online and are celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary this month. My cousin met her husband online and they have been married almost 2 years. My good friend met her husband online and they just celebrated their 10th wedding anniversary. We’re all Black, educated, and no one had any children upon meeting. Don’t be discouraged if you don’t find Mr. Right straight away. The point is that you have opened yourself to the possibility of finding someone.

  • Tamika

    This article is inaccurate. It’s very interesting to me that someone took the time to write such a thing regarding the African-American woman. To me, this article represents a scarcity conversation. There are so many men in this world who are dying to meet, date, fall in love with, and marry an African-American woman. It’s called Abundance. Practice it. Please stop printing ignorance. People have better things to do with their time than read this garbage.

    • Unreal

      “There are so many men out there that are dying to meet, date, fall in love with and marry an African American woman.”

      I’m all for being positive but telling our daughters flat out lies is just setting them up To destroy their self esteem when they find out just how little black women are valued. Not saying there are none but we have an uphill battle like no other group of women on the planet.

  • DCguy0101

    MN… this article is full of lies…. Stop acting like black women arent desirable, when they really are! Online dating is a tricky creature, both parties have to work at it… anybody thinking that a man must do all the work when getting a woman in online dating is setting themselves up for failure….so you gonna create a profile and sit around and wait for a man to send you a message and ask you out??.. its 2015 not 1956, theres nothing wrong with approaching a man, and not seeming desperate.

    I tried online and Ive met very few normal women… but the majority have issues… major issues..or you can tell they just got out of a long term relationship, or they are serial online daters. Im sure it goes for the men too. You have to do ALOT of evaluating and screening before you move forward with someone….

  • BWWed

    I met my husband on a dating website, we’ve been together for 2 years and have a newborn baby girl and I approached him on the site with a simple hello. Keep hope alive ladies, there are good black men out there, they may be the nerdy guy or the one with less “swag” but those are the dudes that just might makes great husbands and fathers. When I went online I wasn’t looking for a boyfriend, I wanted to find a guy who looked like he was a good guy and may be a good husband. My husband had been overlooked by many women because he’s simple, quiet and isn’t swagged out, but he’s very attractive, a good man and just a good human being. Don’t overlook the good guys, they’ll bring you less heart ache than the alternative.

  • Joy41587

    I’m sure I am in the minority regarding dating outside of your race but I am a black female, and I met my boyfriend online and he is white, but I have experienced in the past point blank when guys put on their profile they will date any ethnicity as long as you are not black. Of course that can hurt, but at the end of the day you have to know who you are and not get discouraged 🙂

    • Guest

      But there are black people who will date anything but white–same difference. Blacks have racial preferences just like everyone else–inspite of what the media tries to tell us.

      No one should take those dating preferences personal. My motto in life has been, I only want people that want me.

  • Ash

    I will admit that Ok Cupid is not the best site for women of any race in regards to an abundance of quality men, especially if you live in a smaller area and don’t want to do long distance. Seems like a hookup site and a lot of people who lie about their motives. But that shouldn’t stop you from trying other sites.

    • Ellie

      Neither is POF.. when I got on there it was nothing but lying, lazy, BM who was just looking for puzzy, and told all kind of lies to get it, faking like they want a relationship..

  • lenflady

    I met my husband on Our Time, which is linked to Black People Meet. We’ve been married since April of 2014 and it’s been great! Treats me like a queen. We haven’t had any arguments the entire time we’ve been together. I was blessed with him. I did date online prior to meeting him – dated a guy for 6 years. We had some good times together but I sincerely believe he had “commitment issues” – he said he wanted to be married but didn’t make any moves whatsoever in 6 years. But I will look at it as God was saving me for the man in my life now. Advice? It will be like looking for a needle in a haystack but it is possible to find someone….

  • NOPe

    MN really is a piece of runny crap site. But it’s like a car crash and tough to look away.

    • hollyw

      Lmbo SON! I’m reading through these comments after only being able to get through 3 slides, and I was thinking the saaame thaaang! Like, they’ve never been on top, but I was seriously contemplating just not commenting or even reading them anymore over their shenanigans these past few weeks. Just HORRIBLE!

      • Lisa547

        Agreed. This kind of nonsense is why I switched to Bossip instead.

        • hollyw

          …you went to BOSSIP from MN?! Lol now I know there ain’t no hope, I’mma just give it all a rest smh lol…

  • BNYC

    Dear single black women, don’t be discouraged. Despite rehashed articles like these that base their reports on studies from several years ago, I continually come across black women who are in committed relationships with, engaged to and married to men, both black and non-black. This article was written to get an emotional response because other crappy articles on this site don’t get enough.

    • kelly

      Exactly. These articles are written by black women to get site hits…smh

  • cocoachanel

    This is not true. I’ve met a lot of men through social media and dating sites ..heck even a chick reached out to me.

  • Bgirl

    I swear these same articles are recycled at least 10 times a year on here & say the exact same thing. “Hey Black women. In case you had any type of confidence or hope of finding the one, let me remind you why you shouldn’t. Remember no one wants you.” Toodles. Like seriously????

    • Hope Floats

      Lol smh

  • bg

    How about writing an article on suggesting ways to get better results on dating sites rather than telling us how undesirable we are. We’ve been told that we are not desirable since slavery. Why is MN reinterating ideas what western civilization has already pushed on us? Who are the real writers for this article?

    • LuLu

      THANK YOU!! I met the love of my life ONLINE! Within 4 months, we were married. We’re still married…8.5 years later. He’s absolutely the sweetest, best-looking man I’ve ever met. Did I mention he was 10 years younger? 🙂

  • bg

    I’ve been doing online dating a for a few years and so has my group of friends who are also BLACK WOMEN. And we do not identify with the many struggles of dating online as MN has suggested. So I have reason to think that the stats the article is referring to is outdated or incorrect.

  • Chanda

    Well dang, MN. You make black women sound like we’re some ugly, mean-spirited mugs no one wants to deal with. Ladies, don’t let this bogus material stop you from wanting to date online or otherwise. You may not attract every man that sees you but in the words of Patti LaBelle: Somebody Loves You, Baby whoa whoa whoa.

  • vicki gordon

    Satan the Lord rebukes you…I know that sounds extremely strong, but this article is nothing but another attack of the enemy to make black women feel unwanted and to keep us alone, it’s just sad that it’s our people reporting this mess, but then again black people as a whole are good at putting down black women. It’s so ironic that in the new year when so many sisters have committed to finding new love or just to get out of the house an article comes along and says fuggeda about it, it’s no use in you even trying. Another odd thing about this article is that it may very well be true but it’s written in a very mean spirited way. I for one think that on line dating is a place to start and should only be a part of an overall dating plan not the only way to try and meet men. I do not know the intention of the person who wrote this article but you didn’t discourage me from trying online dating you motivated me to try it as well as to get out and meet people.

    • Guest

      “I do not know the intention of the person who wrote this article but you didn’t discourage me from trying online dating you motivated me to try it as well as to get out and meet people.”–And don’t be discouraged. It is not the only place to meet a man as you stated, just one more option. I (a plain jane) have tried online dating and had no problem meeting men from ALL ethnic backgrounds. Although I met my husband off line, the experience online was not bad at all. These articles gloss over the fact that of course the majority of the men on these mainstream sites will have a preference that corelates with the numbers in the real world. Being that interracial dating and marriage is still a small percentage of overall marriages, so it would make sense that you won’t find a slew of men wanting/looking to date interracially online. These articles are so redundant.

    • Bgirl

      I’m in a current serious & happy relationship with a BLACK man that I met online. What’s funny is that I got equal (and a lot) of attention from White & Black men on the site before I met my current guy. So dont ever be discourage or let these “studies” keep you from finding happiness.

      • Jones

        you must be lightskinned. dark women get no love online.

  • Neva

    I say online dating isnt worth it. Dates through social media is best. Black women dont be discouraged, yes you can still find husbands lol. Why do they keep repeating the same statistics though?

    • Guest

      “yes you can still find husbands lol. Why do they keep repeating the same statistics though?”– That’s what I’m trying to understand. These stats have been around FOREVER and they make it seem like black women are desperate for non-black men. Black women are not checking for non-black men and this the norm for EVERY ethnic group. So a black woman shouldn’t be surprised by this when they join a main stream dating site.

      • A Vocal Guest

        This is BS, I just got on a “White Site’ and got 119 emails mostly from mainly educated WM, almost 85% of my response were from them. I don’t look ghetto, I’m attractive, slim figure and well spoken.

        Matter of fact, I intend to date WM only or other races like the article stated, I didn’t respond to few BM who responded to me. Those BM emailed me and said they knew they had to complete with WM to get me or they asked if I’m dating White men and if I was they wouldn’t have it!

        I married a WM prior, I intend to find another WM. BM are too high risk, too many felonies, always getting other women pregnant in affairs, broke, chasing trashy WW and want BW to accept them Sub par” . I don’t think so!

        Sorry, I”m not accepting this BS! Every single one of my GFwho crossed the color line not only lives well but married WM only. Its the BW with BM who cheat, BW are the breadwinners, their husbands/BF make babies with their adulterous affairs, they’re not supportive or loving!

        Sorry, I’m not wasting any more time with Brothers, they don’t do anything for the race but take it down and you with them! If you want a Happy life and a normal relationship you can’t date BM their too high risk! Until that changes , which I don’t see in my lifetime, I’m dating and marrying out!

        Don’ listen to this article find another race and leave these sorry high risk BM alone who’s destroying your life! Your chances are better dating out/marry out!

        • Adriannan Nonyo

          I agree with you comment, the person above is dead wrong. There are black women that are not close minded and date outside of their race, my first boyfriend was black.. in a matter of fact im not even attracted to black men. But even I understand the shortage of “good black men”, like seriously if a woman wants a man really badly why the hell she is going to sit there and age for some black dude that might or might not come?

          • Torri Nadal

            Exactly!!!!

          • Ellie

            I am so with you on this!

        • Torri Nadal

          Totally agree!!! 🙂

        • Unreal

          You’ll get responses from white and other men on the sites but most want to hit it and quit it or have some sick fetish they want to act out. When to comes down to serious relationships they won’t risk the humiliation of friends, coworkers and family asking them why on earth they are with you.

      • Jon Johnson

        Black women can discover love, and happiness just like any other women. But, they need to take care of themselves and lose all that weight, drop that all too well known negative attitude, and let your men be men…not the boys that you make them into! BM aren’t your pets…so stop treating them as if they were! Lastly, try listening more, instead of thinking that you know everything! That clearly shows your own insecurity coupled with your usual low self-esteems.

        • A Vocal Guest

          Maceo ~ This is correct which is why I chose to marry outside the race! BM don’t show they value or appreciate women. Most BM don’t even know how to court women or treat a woman like a woman! Since I have my self togeher as a woman why would I invest in BM when their behaviors are high risk? BM rarely bring anything to the table and want to live off women! They don’t know how to be the and want you to take the Man’s Role!

          I don’t think so ! Many BM don’t even have the basics down and its sad!

        • A Vocal Guest

          *Maceo* So sad to see you waste 40 years of life and have nothing to show for your time chasing WW! I guess you acted like your Absentee Father, foolish!

        • todd.sherise

          I know a woman who is black and native American and she is five feet four and 115 pounds. She says that she sometimes gets these big, fat black men trying to hit on her though she also attracts not fat black men as well as white men checking her out b/c many men are not sure what race she is. Anyway though she says not that you judge by weight but what makes a big fat guy thinks he has a chance with this mixed race, slim and in shape woman and they are built like sloppy joe. This is one heck of a good looking woman and she says big fat black men seem to think that all women are just so desperate for a man that he can be any kind of way and get in shape women.

        • Jones

          what do you think being a “man” entails?

          getting your education, having a good job, being a provider, a supportive partner, taking care of your children so that they can thrive, and being a leader in your community.

          if you choose not to go to college, if you engage in criminal behavior that gets you arrested, if you have unprotected sex and end up with multiple children that you hardly have the means to support, if you have unmarketable skills and can’t get a job that you would be proud to have, how exactly is it a black woman’s fault?

          now let’s match that up with the problems you find with black women:

          – how exactly does a black woman’s weight or her lack of charm prevent a black man from going to college, turn him into a criminal, prevent him from using a condom, prevent him from having a strong work ethic???

    • Tina

      I say try all mediums. Look in the real world, cyber, make believe a black woman is at a disadvantage in life. There is no difference in anything in that regard. That’s just how the world is toward a woman of black heritage. I personally do not believe a lot of what they say, but I do validate that their beliefs and actions toward us are cultural. I cannot be mad at society too much because the people in it just don’t know any better. Americans are often ignorant and products of the cultural values. Just be the best women you can be, don’t isolate yourselves, get out there and enjoy life or at least try to. Don’t settle with men who do not reflect your basic values and who would not give your future children a good example to live by. Some of us will be alone and that’s ok. Life is what you make of it. But I refuse to wither away because of society’s lack of humanity as well as a conflict of interest.

  • Guest

    Why does MN keep regurgitating these articles?!?!? We’ve seen this same exact theme posed in ten thousand different ways. Just stop it already with this tired propaganda. As with all other ethnic groups that marry their own kind, most black men marry black women. The very few that hunt down partners outside of their ethnic group is STILL minute and nothing to write home about in comparison to the norm. Stop feeding this ridiculous and tired “woe’s me I’m a black woman can’t get a man” beast.

    • MsLadyE

      Thank you! These articles don’t encourage or help Black women think positively about themselves. We have enough negativity coming from mainstream media. We don’t need our people running us down too.

    • Lisa Sample

      That is true that most black men who marry, marry a black woman. About 97%, I think.

      The problem is that black men in America have the lowest marriage rates among all groups. More has to happen other than telling black women to think positively. More effort needs to be put into to encouraging black men to view marriage as beneficial.

      Marriage is used as a way to build wealth by other successful groups. Our parents, grandparents and great grandparents did this as well. The reason why our community continues to be less successful than others is because the newer generations have abandoned this way of life.

      • Tina

        Yeah, that’s not saying much when only bout 35% marry period.

        • The Honest Guest

          True and 22 to 25% of BM are married to other races while 12/14% are with BW, BW plan is to even it up even if they don’t get married to you, because you generally live off those WW as well!

      • Jon Johnson

        BM in the USA in fact do have the lowest marriage stats, because they’d rather be single…than having to settle for marriage to a black women. It, is what it is!

        • A Vocal Guest

          *Maceo* BM don’t get married because there is “No incentive” to marry BM, you don’t get anything for investing in BM. Most BM are not an asset their liabilities like yourself. You married a WW for 20 yrs and didn’t help her with her business, you chased WW P*ssy in your office instead! lmao

          • What!!

            Most bm no youre right but truth us most if yall do invest un them. Shii a kid is an investment and most of you have one by a bum or two or three.

          • sick

            Wow You are really sick. I recognise you from topix, your name is ‘ sad but true’ and you have been talking to ” maceo” on every site for over 10 years.

            MACEO DOES NOT EXIST!

            • The Honest Guest

              Maceo Patterson exist hes like LEGION he has many profiles and he’s 61 yrs old man that lives in Virginia and harasses Black women on YouTube, Topix, Maceo does exist, hes an old Fool!

    • A Vocal Guest

      Black men simply don’t get married or Black women can’t afford to marry them. There are no advantages

      • Dena Alabama-girl

        Education is the key , we can move mountains with each other .

        • A Vocal Guest

          Yes, Education is the key or as most Black men say “Your education” is the key to your place, he can live off you!

      • Tina

        True, black women don’t really enter marriage reaping advantages from marrying black men, because according to reports, we’re always marrying down in income and education versus equal or up. Marrying black only serves black women to have a title and a ring. Not much else. However, there is a group of men – neither black or white who are highly educated, not on the cultural radar, that I’ve found to be open-minded and not as race based or culturally influenced. I won’t say what that group is…you have to find out for yourselves. It works very well for me. I get a highly educated, good looking man, nice, who isn’t a well known commodity and egotistical as they guys in the pop culture scene. I’m in heaven now!

        • A Vocal Guest

          Do what you have to do, I wish you luck.

        • A Vocal Guest

          You can find husbands if you date and marry out. Every one of my GF who dated out to WM generally got married. Every BW that I know who dated BM never get married their money was taken and they go to the next BW/WW and repeat the patterns!

        • What!!

          You sound stupid af ijs

          • Ellie

            im dyin at this comment.. stated so nonchalantly.. i love it!

        • Jones

          who are you talking about? asian men? or middle eastern? janet had to go to the middle east to find her billionaire.

  • Cat88L3

    Meld is an awesome idea. The problem with this app is that there are a lot of kinks in the app and it doesn’t work most of the time. Also, the developers need to promote the app-I live in NYC and I probably have the same 7 matches for the last 3 months…

    • How u

      Same here I live in Philadelphia and that app has given me the same tired matches for months. I just deleted my profile.

  • slim pickings for a sista

    We already know it’s hard out there for a black women. And what’s makes it even more frustrating out of all, when you’re rejected by your own kind…..

    • Chanda

      No we’re not don’t believe this mess. Even Aunt Esther can get a man w/ the right personality.

      • papillon

        Didn’t she marry a wino?

        • Chanda

          Her husband was Woodrow not Ned the Wino, wrong show.

          • cassanova1974

            Yes but Woodrow and Ned the Wino were played by the same actor.

      • slim pickings for a sista

        Aunt Esther is from a different era in which black people still were getting married and interracial dating was a taboo…..

        • A Vocal Guest

          Maceo Who is Aunt Esther, someone like your Mother? LMAO

      • Jon Johnson

        Then explain why most black women aren’t married, and 45% of you will never marry in your lifetimes? And, it’s not about one’s personal choice…like BW continue to say as a “cop out”! In truth BW are considered by all races of men as being the most undesirable!

        • todd.sherise

          A couple of studies have found that a considerable amount of nonblack men send messages to racially mixed part black, part white women. It is one race black women that hardly no nonblack men message. Now I don’t know if there are so many more men open to having a serious relationship with a part black woman than a one race black woman or if men are simply more open to casually dating mixed race black women. Whatever the case, mixed race blacks get more nonblacks messaging them as well as more blacks.

        • Bear Mitchell

          BULL ! I’m a white man and consider black women to be THE most desirable women in the world. I’ve been to Asia, Europe, The Med. Black women are the bomb. When I was young a black women wouldn’t or couldn’t date a white man or I would be married to one now. I envy the young men of today who can pretty much date any race the find most attractive.

        • Baba Almonte

          Actually, 15% of black women never marry. Maybe if enough guys keep passing up the best woman on Earth for dumb ideas and washboard butts I will have to marry all the Black women!

      • Jon Johnson

        Well. you’re post reflects exactly why this trend continues with black women’s failures to engage. Think about it!

        • destiny

          Jon shut up. If you actually cared to look at the stats for black MEN and marriage you will find that they are statistically LESS likely to get married than black women. Also, interracial marriages involving black men are still in the minority and have some of the highest divorce rates in the country, even higher than when they marry black women.

          • Settle Down, Beavis!

            U mad? Black women are disgusting. Only the mixed/biracial black girls might have a chance depending on their appearance and how they talk.

            • Baba Almonte

              You sound pretty stupid. mixed race is fine, but there’s no better looking skin on earth, timeless women, smell the least offensive even when they have an excuse, perfect women and the best option in most cases.
              There are always terrible women and I’ve yet to meet a man who has dated his race or others that’s never met a terrible tactles woman from his own race.
              I’ve met terrible Black women a couple times, I rarely have dated or been with them and when they did slip through the cracks, I got rid of them.

    • BNYC

      WHO CARES!!! Last I heard the only kind was humankind.

    • Herm Cain

      Not rejected just to stubborn to change what pushes your men away the easy way out is blaming colorism or self hate it absolves sisters from any responsibility because he has an issue not you its a little easier than looking in a mirror

    • Slim Pickings for a brotha

      I feel you…….but Black men don’t have it easy either.There are a lot of sista’s that have been burned and put that on the next man who may or may not be trying to do right. Have faith

      • Jon Johnson

        Look, there are lots of good black men that are available today. But, in truth the majority of black women prefer to be with THUGS! That’s the bitter truth….so black women don’t complain, because of the choices that you make!

        • Gray Light

          Something’s bitter around here, alright. Don’t know if I’d call it “the truth”.

          • What!!

            If you go to the black community youll see with your own eyes it is the truth. Most bw, even the ones who work a kid by a bum or a loser and will continue to f with those type of men. It is no coincidence 80% are single mothers its beyond the fact the relationship did not work out because that happens in all groups of people. Its about the quality of the men they choose. Its easy to say someone is bitter to dismiss truth.

            • Settle Down, Beavis!

              I agree. Im a black guy who is with a Middle Eastern girl and have only dated white, latina, and middle eastern for the last 5 years straight and lovin’ it.

            • Baba Almonte

              You exaggerate ho “bad” it’s supposed to be. I rest in Bed Stuy. While I can tell marriage is rare, I don’t see a lack of fathers, black couples holding hands, etc. maybe you picked the wrong chicks, as I’m no thug and I never seem to have a problem, Black women of all shades dig me pretty well. Most of my guys have no problem either.

        • A Vocal Guest

          Maceo >>>Good at what? Living off women? Chasing WW P^ssy? Not taking care of their childen? There are so many things that BM fail at all the time, what’s most disapointing is that most BM don’t even try! LMAO

          • What!!

            And most bm are bums who are with bw because they are not desired amongst any other type of women and they damn sure wouldn’t sit and have all these kids by one. If that bm are w ww theory was as real as ya say there would be a totally different face on the African American community. The few bm who are with other races (not the trashy ones) are the few bm who have something going for themselves and not always but usually was passed up by bw. Most bw i see be with some sneaker wearing sagging over grown teenager. The bum nigg!# win and always get first dibs on bw. Such a shame.

            • A Vocal Guest

              black men are sorry you die wthout any respect even your children hate you

              • Baba Almonte

                My children love me. And I love my dad. Wtf are YOU talking about?!?

          • Baba Almonte

            I’m good. I have four kids with my ex wife. My best friend has four with his BM they been together 20 yrs. all my cousins over 30 are married with kids except two. One being my sister who’s engaged. Both moms side and pops side. Literally nearly 50 individuals.

            If you’re Black bashing your own, I can’t wait to see you continue to fail after you hop the fence. True indeed some a y’all will be lucky, but there’s a reason a host men or woman left you or played you out.
            Once or twice your luck failed. After that you choose these folks y’all selves.

        • Violette_Crime

          I agree, my dad was a cop and when other BM saw him it was either a handout man or he was a Tom. Since when are decent working men a bad thing? Because they aren’t a thug, got swag, blah, blah. Or it seemed the guys in the front seat of the car got no play and the ones in the back seat did. His BM friends got a few badge bunnies but when it came time to settle down they weren’t interested, just not cool enough. I am 63 so it may be different now, but it seems about the same.

      • A Vocal Guest

        Maceo> Nobody cares about BM these days especially educated BW they’re not taking or even thinking about BM other than how to stay away from you and your high risk behaviors!

    • Tina

      I don’t feel bad. We all want who we want. For me, it’s not always a black man. I’m just being honest.

      • Jon Johnson

        Well, it’s for sure not a white man, because BW are the very last on the list for marriage by all races of men on the planet. You’re right behind white, Latinas, Asians, and others! Check the marriage stats out for yourself.

        • A Vocal Guest

          Maceo, I told you as an attractive racially mixed BW, Ive had no problem attracting quality WM. Matter of fact, BM can’t even complete with the WM that I date in almost every area. Most BM have “No redeeming qualities” right up front. You don’t know how to “Court women” or even date correctly! It so sad and shameful that all I can do is laugh! Its so bad that I’m thinking about writing a blog on some of the sorry practics and BS that middle aged BM do and say!
          Then you wonder why BW have attitudes! Rather than have an attitude, I rather go where I’m being treated well, in the arms of WM or other race! Ain’t nobody have time for BM practics and BS! Those days are over especially as much as you put WW on a pedestal for over 40 years, you really need to STFU! You didn’t have any kids and didn’t do a damn thing with your life! Your White wife was the breadwinner while you stayed oniine whining about BW and chasing WW P*ssy in your spare time, You wouldn’t even help your wife with her business! SMDH

          • todd.sherise

            A couple of studies have found that a considerable amount of nonblack men send messages to racially mixed part black, part white women. It is one race black women that hardly no nonblack men message. Now I don’t know if there are so many more men open to having a serious relationship with a part black woman than a one race black woman or if men are simply more open to casually dating mixed race black women. Whatever the case, mixed race blacks get more nonblacks messaging them so…

            • A Vocal Guest

              Maceo, I told you as an attractive racially mixed BW, Ive had no problem
              attracting quality WM. Matter of fact, BM can’t even complete with the
              WM that I date in almost every area. Most BM have “No redeeming
              qualities” right up front. You don’t know how to “Court women” or even
              date correctly! It so sad and shameful that all I can do is laugh! Its
              so bad that I’m thinking about writing a blog on some of the sorry
              practics and BS that middle aged BM do and say!
              Then you wonder why
              BW have attitudes! Rather than have an attitude, I rather go where I’m
              being treated well, in the arms of WM or other race! Ain’t nobody have
              time for BM practics and BS! Those days are over especially as much as
              you put WW on a pedestal for over 40 years, you really need to STFU!
              You didn’t have any kids and didn’t do a damn thing with your life! Your
              White wife was the breadwinner while you stayed oniine whining about BW
              and chasing WW P*ssy in your spare time, You wouldn’t even help your
              wife with her business! SMDH

          • Baba Almonte

            For white women to be on such a pedestal, they sure don’t get many marriages out of us. It’s not like we’re slumming it with you all. Like I said, you picked the wrong ones.

            • The Honest Guest

              Maceo your an Old Foolish 61 yr old go find another Poor Fat WW! lmao

        • todd.sherise

          A couple of studies have found that a considerable amount of nonblack men send messages to racially mixed part black, part white women. It is one race black women that hardly no nonblack men message. Now I don’t know if there are so many more men open to having a serious relationship with a part black woman than a one race black woman or if men are simply more open to casually dating mixed race black women. Whatever the case, mixed race blacks get more nonblacks messaging them. So being part white actually makes a difference.

          • A Vocal Guest

            Maceo, what an OLD FOOLISH MAN

            I told you as an attractive racially mixed BW, Ive had no problem
            attracting quality WM. Matter of fact, BM can’t even complete with the
            WM that I date in almost every area. Most BM have “No redeeming
            qualities” right up front. You don’t know how to “Court women” or even
            date correctly! It so sad and shameful that all I can do is laugh! Its
            so bad that I’m thinking about writing a blog on some of the sorry
            practics and BS that middle aged BM do and say!

            Then you wonder why
            BW have attitudes! Rather than have an attitude, I rather go where I’m
            being treated well, in the arms of WM or other race! Ain’t nobody have
            time for BM practics and BS! Those days are over especially as much as
            you put WW on a pedestal for over 40 years, you really need to STFU!
            You didn’t have any kids and didn’t do a damn thing with your life! Your
            White wife was the breadwinner while you stayed oniine whining about BW
            and chasing WW P*ssy in your spare time, You wouldn’t even help your
            wife with her business! SMDH

        • A Vocal Guest

          Doesnt matter, Im dating a very successful WM My GF WM has cancer and she dark skin very attractive her last WM is dying, I saw her at an event with another handsome WM

          I dont date BM I would find another WM if things didntt work out!

    • Jon Johnson

      Well, if black women like yourself and in general would try investing time and take care of yourselves, because the majority of black women don’t! Then perhaps you wouldn’t be here online posting that! Also, it’s more than just about your weight, it’s also about your typical negative attitudes…that in reality puts just about everybody off. And, please drop the “hair hats”!

      • A Vocal Guest

        Maceo, I”m slim, Petite, educated, attractive, real hair and there’s tons of Fat, Obese, Broke, BM who can’t even afford to date! Or they have so many bad decisions that trail them including their disrespectful, ghetto attitutides many BW like myself would be wasting our time. There’s simply too many WM asking me out that have far more to offer than most BM! The WW you married for 20 years and the WW you chased in adultery were low grade, your choice. I date men on my level which excludes most BM due to their circumstances or poor choices that will effect me should I date them!
        Why would I lower my standards for any BM? Its not like you did for your Mother or any BW in the llast 45 years, so I made the decision to do to you what you’ve done to us!

        WE dont have your support, therefore you don’t get OUR SUPPORT! You’lll see your best looking and most Educated go to White males! lmao

      • A Vocal Guest

        *Maceo* Yes, I invested in myself therefore, I refuse to make sure BM profit from that investment that I put in myself because it simply doesn’t pay off investing in BM! Everybody says your investment rarely pays off investing in BM!

        This is true!

    • Jon Johnson

      You’re not rejected…just don’t present yourselves as being fake! Sorry, but most men of any race don’t care for, nor desire women that are fake …sadly like most Black women.

      • Gray Light

        You’re really pathetic.

        • Jon Johnson

          I understand that it’s difficult having to hear the real truth about black women, especially from a black man. But, black women seem to have no problem whatsoever degrading, and putting black men down at every opportunity that presents itself. Hence, at the end of the day, “it is what it is!

          • A Vocal Guest

            *Maceo* Well, BM like you and your friends didn’t do anything for the Black community. None of you were educated, you chased, married Low grade WW, lived off them, didn’t excel or give back, chased WW H*es, chased different races of women, made OOW babies while married, none of you have anything of your own, the assets belong to the women.
            BW turn BM like you and your friends because you fit the “stereotypes” of BM who chased WW P*ssy at the expense of not doing something with your lives or your communites. BW are simply being honest and your ashamed of their honesty because even you put 40 years into WW with nothing to show for your time! LMAO BW simpy give you FACTS on your behaviors, you should be ashamed, you have less than 2 years to retire and have nothing to show for your time! *Typical BM Fate*

          • Gray Light

            Lol, nice try lonely boy.

            • The Honest Guest

              Maceo your an Old Garbage Man! LMAO

          • The Honest Guest

            Maceo your an Old Foolish Garbage Man! LMAO

    • A Vocal Guest

      *Maceo* Yes, BM feel it as well on the dating site especially from attractive educated BW who constantly reject them due to their high risk behaviors and they don’t bring anything to the table except cheating and affairs!

    • Jon Johnson

      That, perhaps being the case…then have Black women really ever asked why?

    • PulloGorko102

      Umm black women are rejecting black men online! They even say “no black men please”. What kind of nonsense is that?