Brother, Get a Grip! 9 Signs Your Man Has Serious Insecurity Issues

March 10, 2013  |  

He's Jealous and Possessive

4. He’s Jealous and Possessive

Even if he doesn’t accuse you of cheating, he may simply be so jealous that he has convinced himself that EVERY man on the planet wants you and so, he causes a scene wherever you go. Has he gone off on the waiter because he thought the server was flirting with you when in fact he was simply taking your order? Does he require that you not smile or say hello to the parking attendant or does he get angry when you’re interacting with co-workers of the opposite sex – even if it’s completely innocent? If he can’t control his jealous impulses to the point that it embarrasses you or you cringe at the thought of being out with him in public, you could be potentially putting yourself in a dangerous situation.  This type of obsessive behavior can lead to verbal or physical abuse if he can’t control his temper and his behavior.

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  • I had a problem #6 and #9 in my previous relationship. I would think I was boring my girlfriend and felt that she wasn’t really interested in me. She kept telling me I was she was interested but I didn’t sense that feeling. You females know what a good conversation is like.

    So I wondered if I was right for my girlfriend and kept asking her, “am I boring you?” Then for #9, I actually did break up with her first because I didn’t feel she liked me like that. My conversations with her were dry and I didn’t think I was the one for her. She kept insisting she wasn’t bored by me but we didn’t click like that from my perspective.

    To me, some women can be hard to understand. Thank you for writing this article. It gives me a female perspective about how I may be insecure. It’s good for self-improvement and personal reflection. The good thing though is that I’ve grown from that relationship.

    Sincerely, Joe

    • lonelygirl

      Hi Joe. U sound alot like my current boyfriend whose name is also Joe. He makes me feel like am a terrible girlfriend because I don’t want to be stuck under him 24/7. I’m still young and like to have a good time. I haven’t really hung out with my girls but three times in a year because he says “he don’t want to share me”. Its really killing our relationship. He is always saying that im not into him anymore or that I don’t love him anymore when I do happen to for a night out. He thinks its ok for him to go out but not for me and tries to guilt me for doing so.
      I hope he finds and understands his insecurities as u did.

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  • Natasha T

    I dated a guy like numbers 2-10 for a year and he was a butthurt. I went to a secondary college for computer networking and he got jealous because there were more males there than females and would put me down by calling me stupid and said I’ll never make it. Even when I have to study for a certification test, he gets mad because I wanted to study and he’s a distraction, it’s like he can’t handle a couple of days without seeing me. I tossed him to the curb after that and it was a HUGE relief for me.

  • hollyw

    I dated a guy who tried sabotaging my outfits so I wouldn’t look as good when going out without him…needless to say, we’re no longer together lol.