Brother, Get a Grip! 9 Signs Your Man Has Serious Insecurity Issues

March 10, 2013  |  

Brother, Get a Grip! 9 Signs Your Man Has Serious Insecurity Issues

When you first meet a man who is attentive and loving, it can be easy to fall for him quickly – especially if the last relationship you were in was with a self-centered and arrogant type of man. While the new guy is appealing to you because he seems to want – even crave – your love and affection, you may not realize that his longing is steeped in insecurity rather than true love and devotion. An insecure man may be hard to spot at first because he appears sensitive and may even give you the impression that he feels you are too good for him. For some women, that’s flattering; but, that feeling of flattery can quickly spiral into a feeling of desperation or exhaustion.  Insecure men can drain you of every drop of energy you have in order to make him feel safe and secure in your relationship. If you’re wondering if you man has insecurity issues, look for these signs to see if he may need to be prescribed a visit to a therapist.

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  • I had a problem #6 and #9 in my previous relationship. I would think I was boring my girlfriend and felt that she wasn’t really interested in me. She kept telling me I was she was interested but I didn’t sense that feeling. You females know what a good conversation is like.

    So I wondered if I was right for my girlfriend and kept asking her, “am I boring you?” Then for #9, I actually did break up with her first because I didn’t feel she liked me like that. My conversations with her were dry and I didn’t think I was the one for her. She kept insisting she wasn’t bored by me but we didn’t click like that from my perspective.

    To me, some women can be hard to understand. Thank you for writing this article. It gives me a female perspective about how I may be insecure. It’s good for self-improvement and personal reflection. The good thing though is that I’ve grown from that relationship.

    Sincerely, Joe

    • lonelygirl

      Hi Joe. U sound alot like my current boyfriend whose name is also Joe. He makes me feel like am a terrible girlfriend because I don’t want to be stuck under him 24/7. I’m still young and like to have a good time. I haven’t really hung out with my girls but three times in a year because he says “he don’t want to share me”. Its really killing our relationship. He is always saying that im not into him anymore or that I don’t love him anymore when I do happen to for a night out. He thinks its ok for him to go out but not for me and tries to guilt me for doing so.
      I hope he finds and understands his insecurities as u did.

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  • Natasha T

    I dated a guy like numbers 2-10 for a year and he was a butthurt. I went to a secondary college for computer networking and he got jealous because there were more males there than females and would put me down by calling me stupid and said I’ll never make it. Even when I have to study for a certification test, he gets mad because I wanted to study and he’s a distraction, it’s like he can’t handle a couple of days without seeing me. I tossed him to the curb after that and it was a HUGE relief for me.

  • hollyw

    I dated a guy who tried sabotaging my outfits so I wouldn’t look as good when going out without him…needless to say, we’re no longer together lol.