Got A Bad Case Of Baby Fever? Check These Signs That You’re Not Really Ready To Be A Mom

January 31, 2013  |  
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Maybe you think it’s your duty as a woman to reproduce, or maybe you’re feeling left out as all of your friends are skipping your late night drinks for an early morning Jamboree. Whatever the reason, no reason is good enough to bring a new life into this world if you’re not ready to take care of it. Here are the signs you may not be ready to be a mom, you’ve just got a case of baby fever.

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You won’t get a pet because it’s a lot of work

You often think it’d be fun to have a pet, but decide not to because of all the work it would be. Connect the dots there…a small human would be ten times the work.

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You like pets because they’re quiet

The reason you considered a pet in the first place is because it’s an easy, agreeable creature that requires nothing but two meals a day and a nice walk to be happy. If you’re going for an easy, predictable responsibility, a baby’s not it.

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You can’t talk about bodily functions

You refuse to talk about what goes on in the bathroom with anyone, and have to run away when a friend asks you to hold her hair as she vomits. News flash: babies are living, breathing factories of poop and vomit.

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When your friend becomes pregnant, you think about the fact that you’ll lose a friend

Instead of getting excited for a pregnant friend, your mind instantly goes to all the things you two can no longer do together. If you couldn’t even appreciate what would be joyful about a child for your friend, how can you appreciate it for yourself?

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You can’t stand gushing parents

When a parent goes on about how being a parent is the most meaningful job they’ve ever had, you cringe and laugh inside. You don’t see how nursing could possibly be more fulfilling than being a CEO.

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There’s nothing you would wake up early for

Not to see your favorite band play, not to get 50% off a car during an early morning sale—nothing. You treasure sleeping in in the morning above all else. You better switch your thinking about that before a baby who cries at 5 am comes into your life.

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Every morning is a rough morning

You wake up and put your shirt on backwards without realizing it, eat cold pizza because you forgot to buy breakfast food and are (again) thirty minutes late for work. You need to organize your own life before you can be responsible for another’s.

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You go with the flow and are unpredictable

You wake up in places you didn’t mean to, you never know where the night will take you but are happy to find out. You go with the flow, never worrying about responsibilities, or perhaps what the benefits would be of waking up not hung over, and actually in your own house for once. And you love that about your life.

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You’re trying to replace a man with a baby

If you don’t have a partner, you might feel tempted to fill that void with a baby. It’s sort of an “excuse” not to look for a partner anymore. But when you’re sleep-deprived, nursing a crying baby and haven’t seen your friends in weeks, you won’t be thinking, “Take that men!”

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Your life revolves around your figure

You better get over that. You can’t be exercising and sticking to extreme diets when pregnant or when mothering. Your baby needs nourishment and so do you. Plus, you’ll always choose a nap over a workout when you’ve been up all night nursing.

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You become very irritated at crying/screaming kids

You don’t ask yourself what they’re upset about. You don’t feel for the poor mom juggling a baby and a grocery basket. You instantly think, “How annoying for me.”

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You’re nearly broke

Replacing your laptop might break the bank right now. How can you afford a nursery? Baby food? Baby clothes? Or how about taking time off work to, you know, be a mom?

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Your future is uncertain

You don’t know where you’ll be working or living next year and you’re barely trying to figure it out. Having a baby requires all of your focus. You can’t balance any other big changes at the same time.

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Your job takes everything out of you

You work 18 hours a day, you bring your work home, you have to work on the weekends, but it’s worth it because you love your job and are working towards a fulfilling goal. You’d have to give that up to have a baby.

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  • Natalie Marie Alvarez Padilla

    I am 25 and I am sooooooooo not ready, I still feel like I have wild days ahead of me. In my head, baby = jail sentence. I am assuming this is temporary and at 30 I will change. But so many of my friends have had kids already and I wonder why my biological clock has never ticked?

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  • Ms. Kameria

    I won’t ever be ready, because for 1 I just don’t like kids, and for 2, I don’t find it cute being stuck being somebody’s baby mama……AND I didn’t have to read the article to know it, but this has been discussed before.

    • Trisha_B

      you won’t be stuck being somebody’s “baby mama” if you get a ring 1st :/

  • Estylo702

    Sad to say that this is me. Oh well, I’m only 24. Maybe I should try to find my old Giga Pet.

  • psylocke_2001

    I know I’m not ready, didn’t need to read the article. I gotta make sure my career is solid before I go down that road. I want to be able to tell my child “No.” not because I can’t afford to get them something, but because I don’t want them to be spoiled rotten.

  • This was about the dumbest list ever. Come one MN, stop with the silliness.

  • Sagittarius81

    Yesterday I was on the train on my way home from work and I overhear these teenage girls, one of them is preggers and her friend told her that daycare will raise your baby for her since your mom don’t want to help her out. I turned to them and SMH! You know damn well that you’re not ready to be a mom that you want other people raising your baby. When I was pregnant with my baby, I turned over my club pass, my weekly getting my hair and nail done pass (reduced it to once a month) and my cigarette pass because I quit for my daughter.

    • Cinnamon71

      I know what you mean. More people need to realize once they decide to have a child/children, it’s no longer about them, it’s about the child. Selfishness needs to turn into selflessness.

  • realadulttalk

    Is anyone EVER really ready to be a parent? The answer–NO!

  • For the first time in my life, I’m mentally prepared for children. If you asked me 5 years ago, I would’ve scoffed at the idea of having kids. I enjoyed my freedom and wasn’t willing to give it up for anyone.

  • Toya Sharee

    I was kind of lost by page 2. I don’t like to compare people’s children to pets. There are similarities, but comparing parenthood to pet ownership is lie comparing 3rd grade math to nuclear fusion: both involve numbers but at the end of the day not really comparable. I’m realizing more and more that most people don’t wake up one day and a lightbulb goes off that says, “OK I’m ready to be responsible for another life.” Even when people plan a pregnancy they still don’t know quite what to expect; financially they may be ready but emotionally I don’t think it’s as simple as instantly feeling one day like you could be someone’s mom. Maybe it’s me.

  • sweettea

    This list isn’t very good. Most of it is just single girl stuff that everyone feels at some point.Some of this stuff only changes when you settle down and actually have kids not before. Real signs your not ready for a child are you still live with your parents; your in the middle of school for something; you aren’t in a committed relationship or you only want a baby to keep some guy from leaving you

  • Babydoll 70

    I guess I’m not ready to be a reader because clicking through all these pages annoy me.

    • sheena

      Lmao! That was a good one. I just scroll through the comments to get a glimpse!

      • realadulttalk

        Me too. Lol

    • GalaxyEmpress

      Yeeeeeessssss!!! LOL I got to page five and said forget it.

  • Ann

    And also having a baby is not something cute or a fashion statement. Just because you look at crazy shows like teen mom, teen celebrities (Bristol Palin) get pregnant, or one of your buddies is pregnant, that does not automatic mean you should want to get pregnant. Some of these young women now days think being pregnant is cute and a fashion show or some type of fashion trend.

  • bluekissess

    I wonder if Julia Austin is a mother? & what makes her an expert to know if someone is ready to have a child? No matter how many, books, magazines, volunteer work at the YMCA you’ll never be prepared. Stop scaring these women.

  • IllyPhilly

    Ma, mom, mommy, mama, mama, mama, mama! Record a child saying that and play it for thirty minutes straight. When it stops making you wanna pull your eye lashes out one by one then you’re ready. Because even with Daddy there, you’re number one.

    • SunshineBlossom

      You are definitely right about that one. Most people can’t make it past the minute mark without being annoyed.

  • Ms. Kameria

    Haven’t we already beat this topic down…..at least 2 or 3 times?…..

    • bluekissess

      Exactly. MN is quick to tell somebody what somebody else isn’t ready for. They can’t think of anything better? If you notice you have to click through the pages. This is MN strategic move to get paid with ever click and create “traffic” on the website

      • Babydoll 70

        Plus this is the same person always writing about unattached sex. I’m not sure anyone should be taking serious advice from her. ijs.