Did He Really Just Say That? Rude Things Men Don’t Even Realize They Say

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January 25, 2013 ‐ By Julia Austin
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Women always think about the subtext of any text they write, of the underlying message of anything they say, and of all the possible ways something could be construed before they open their mouth. Why? Because they know that the woman they are talking to thinks about those things too. It’s a strength in a way, but can also cause problems. Men, on the other hand, pretty much just mean what they say. They’re about getting the truth out and moving forward. They don’t mean any more, or any less, than what they say. But since women are so accustomed to reading into things, some things men say can come off very rude! Like these.

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  • MicheleLloyd

    Now we know why black men don’t date black women.
    Madame Noire., indeed more like Madame nuts

  • gigi

    Stupid waste of space, I couldn’t even finish reading all the way thru.These are the lamest scenarios, who wrote this? Seems very immature -ish.

  • http://twitter.com/MissAndrist Miss Andrist

    Why are women still being handed any of this garbage? Why are we still expected to care why, when why is another insipid excuse rationalizing and justifying why a man gets to make a woman miserable? Why are we expected to ignore the suspicious convenience and just accept any of this crap? Since when do men let women get away with anything remotely resembling this crap? Just sayin.

  • A man

    Your generalizations are sickening and bland. Not all women think this way, it’s not gender related. So tired of sexist assholes

  • Diso98

    Ugh this article was stupid! I’m a woman, I talk like that and so does my boyfriend- honest and direct. I appreciate it ‘coz I don’t have to then analyse the meaning behind it.

  • Some guy

    All of these are true except the “no stop it I can’t right now”.
    Most of the time it’s sort of “Can’t you SEE how BUSY I am right now?”
    I would also like to point out that most men tend to dislike men that we see similar to ourselves.

  • http://twitter.com/MsRedboneBrite Tee Elyse

    Get into his hair on slide 3 tho!!!!

  • Alex

    I couldn’t finish this article, the article comes off as something with no real insight into the male mind, It is obviously just superfluous opinions and assumptions that might or might not be based upon this women’s personal experience. Give me an article where men and women weigh in on each subject, that is impartial and not something that comes off as biased and sexist.

  • Dale Sorenson

    there’s Male talk… (grunts)…..and female talk….(squeals)…..I listen and enjoy all the great conversations that turn into a whoooop and hollller conference…life is good. “nuff said!

  • http://www.facebook.com/sooki.barns Sooki Barns

    I don’t know, my boyfriend always says EXACTLY what’s on his mind. Whether it’s totally innocuous or totally vulgar. He looks me right in the eye and just says it. I like it. I know what he is feeling and I even encourage it. It doesn’t hurt my feelings at all. He is both the smartest and the most foulmouthed man I ever knew. But somehow it works fine.

  • http://www.facebook.com/sooki.barns Sooki Barns

    I don’t know, my boyfriend always says EXACTLY what’s on his mind. Whether it’s totally innocuous or totally vulgar. He looks me right in the eye and just says it. I like it. I know what he is feeling and I even encourage it. It doesn’t hurt my feelings at all. He is both the smartest and the most foulmouthed man I ever knew. But somehow it works fine.

  • DTJ

    at the end of the day women are women, men are men. we are two different beings and we operate differently, think differently, and interpret differently. however, there are women who are like men when it comes to communication (i’m guilty) and there are men who will question and read between every word you say, the way some women do. i walked into work and told mycoworker (male) he looked like isht (he was all tired and groggy) and he didn’t get mad. but my female coworkers were like “how could you say that?!” i wasn’t talking to them…anyway, when it comes to relationships/friendships, establish communication and understanding before you find yourself in the hot seat

  • Babydoll 70

    Okay, I tried to make it through the various pages but it was just silly.

  • JODY

    wowww, and woman wonder why men lie.. I lie cause I care about and don’t wanna hurt your feelings.. If I tell you the truth then that means I don’t give a f&*k..

    • THE RAVENS WILL WIN THE SB!

      Men lie to protect themselves, not women.

      • Belal

        To protect themselves “from” women :-P. Married 13 years, I know what the correct answer to “does this make me look fat” or “does dinner taste ok??”. Men repeat after me, safest words to use when angry at your women (just change the words in your head) but say out loud “yes dear” :-D

    • THE RAVENS WILL WIN THE SB!

      Men lie to protect themselves, not women.

  • GeekMommaRants

    Why not socialize both men and women to understand each other before relationships become an issue. Many cultures teach men about women and women about men. Why can’t we?

  • FB

    That is right….we don’t put on a face and we are direct. I was laughing at the too much salt comment. My wife always ask me if such and such food has too much or too little salt. She always ask for an honest opinion and end up being mad. If I lie because she knows how I look when I don’t like something. On the other hand, she’ll tell me my food is too spicy, I don’t like this spice, or I like m pasta soft. I always ask, would you like me to make you something else and leave at that.