Girl, Keep Your Eyes Open: Signs He’ll Cheat, Way Before He Does

December 3, 2012 ‐ By Julia Austin
"Man caught cheating pf"

Why? Because we’re told we’re not “allowed” to get mad or be suspicious yet: he’s not our boyfriend yet. This has led many women to believe that behavior pre-relationship is not indicative of what a man’s behavior will be post-commitment – as if he just transforms into a new man once he takes on the title of “boyfriend.” Yeah right. Here are early signs a guy will cheat, way before he even has the chance. And yes, you should look for them.

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  • Sombely

    what crap is this. If you follow half of these stupid, inane, contradictory rules you will deservedly be alone

  • Ronny

    This was definitely a waste of my time. You know a guy is gonna cheat on you because you know he’s not into you. Plain and simple. So what if he does, then kick him to the curb. Secret to a good relationship, make him love you first.

  • Librarated

    Madame Noire, I believe in some instances, you directly contradict yourself with your statements. I read on article where you said it’s perfectly normal for a woman to have multiple men jockeying for her attention, with the hope she can sort out the best option. On the other hand, I’m reading this article and your basically calling a man, “shady” and a “potential cheater” if he does the same. Is this just one of the many double standards of behavior that women think they are entitled to somehow because they are simply female? Inquiring minds would like to know!!!


  • Dude

    #6 You’re not always invited…
    I always do guys night out and its not to cheat… its to hang with the guys. women need to realize sometimes we do just like hanging with other men doing dumbs sh*t that doesn’t have anything to do with other women. Its so much of a double standard. My wife has girls night out, does that mean shes cheating no but when a guy does it its something up his sleeve. I dont invite my wife to a couple of places i go to because like the article says, she wont like it or will spend the entire time complaining about the place or the smoke or the loud people or the waiter or the bathroom or the drinks… you get my point. sometimes a dude just wants to go out with the fellas so that he doesnt have to feel like everything has to be perfect all the time. When i go with the guys there wont be any complaining or anyone saying they are ready to go. Thats what I call a good night out. when you take a significant other and she isnt having a good time then it becomes your responsibility to make sure she is happy which means you have to stop what you are doing (having a good time) and console her.

    I have told my wife, sometimes you make it difficult to take you anywhere because its just to much work. I know the everyones comment will be then you have the wrong woman but we all know that everyone has there own hangups and i have learned that you drop one and get another women, you are just getting a new women with a different set of hangups no one is perfect including me and my hangups as well.

    • ro lari

      I totally agree man. I mean sometimes I really do want to kick it with my boys and watch football or go to the bar or sometimes just not have my girl around. I mean honestly how much of a douche would I appear to be if we all are going out and I’m the only one to bring my girl? Love her but sometimes I wanna hang with other social groups SOLO. Has nothing to do with her or me cheating.

  • Susan

    I would agree with other comments that all women are in for it if this was our guidebook on men, my husbands of 13 years is a soldier, my father is a preacher my brother a police officer ..all very different men with different beliefs, whom all fall under different categories in this artical with things they all do.. now I’m positive some of these situations apply, but if they all did no man would be safe..

  • Ash

    I am sorry I wasted the few minutes of my life that it took me to read this. Did you just make this up as you went along? Truly aweful.

  • sickofthisnonsense

    More proof that black women are the reason for their own problems. What man would put up with this psychosis?

  • dana

    some of these reasons are just bogus smh

  • How about #1 you got with him when he was married/in a committed relationship. My one dumb azz homegirl is always stalking her “man’s” phone/ Facebook because he is married. LOL girl bye!

  • Google : narcissism. That helps

  • Nat

    why are most of the men in the pictures are black??? Subliminal racism

    • Drew Smith

      Get your life, Nat. Seriously.

    • IllyPhilly

      That dude about looks whiter than Lindsay Lohan

  • Nope

    #1. He will ‘cheat’ if he’s not really your man to begin with like in real for real life, which is true in at least 50% of cases.

  • bluekissess

    I think MN is starting to be a repeat offender. The SAME topics over again. If a women hasn’t gotten “the red flag” memo by now then they probably won’t get it.

    • ki

      i been saying this…and when i commented on the repetitive comments the writer tried to check me! i would love a little variety…some health articles, food, fashion, etc.

  • TT

    Welp, that seems to cover just about anything any man would normally do so I guess we’re all doomed to get cheated on…

    • bluekissess

      How can women give advice on what a man would do? That’s why I can’t allow myself to believe this garbage. That’s like getting relationship advice from a single person.

      • FS

        Relationship advice from a single person can be a great thing. It could be better that that from a person in a relationship. Single doesn’t mean they have never been with anyone and if it ended then they know exactly the right advice to give. One can anlalyze a relationship much better when out of it than when still in it. So your comment is completely flawed. Like women learn how men function as they get the experience and start knowing exactly what men do when they are cheating. So women are the best to give you advice as they have experienced it all. The lies, the excuses, the contradicting stories, etc. Experience turns us into pros.

  • IllyPhilly

    First one contradicts another article that y’all had way back when saying, If he’s always talking about past relationships then he’s not the one for you which one is it MN?

    • Nope

      ………. Did the same author write that article……? Because MN has several different writers………………

      • bluekissess

        I don’t even think that matters. It’s the same topic.