He Is NOT The One: Signs He Doesn’t Have His Life Together

November 28, 2012 ‐ By Julia Austin


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There always seems to be someone that is about to hire him, or publish his novel, or invest in his start up idea. But all the talk in the world can’t cover it up when it’s just so clear, a guy does not have his life together. Not even close. Moocher, slacker, loser—call it what you will—here are signs you’re dealing with one.

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  • successful

    It’s one thing to not want to be with a broke dude, but this entire article is basically about having money. Good way to create gold diggers. Comment by a successful man who’s is disappointed to have read this article.

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  • More reasons for women to turn down a guy that might be good for them. Some of these reasons are just plain stupid, especially the last reason. I have a great job but I don’t hang out with people from my job, I hang with the same people I know from high school and the Marine Corps. I go to work to make money, not friends.

  • This website has made me dumber. Thanks. lol yolo *duckface*

  • Veratta Pegram-Floyd

    I got to No. 11 and stopped reading. Yes, these are signs of men that haven’t grown up but these are also signs of women who haven’t grown up themselves. It is one thing to have your partner’s back every now and then, but for all of these, all of the time? That is too much.

  • I started to worry because my ex wasn’t on the first categories, but he slowly fit the bill.

  • Ladybug94

    I don’t agree with the friends asking about him part. Just cause people inquire doesn’t mean someone is a slacker it usually means you aren’t talking about him enough and they just want info.

  • JustSayin

    You know what? I am a little off about this article. Maybe it is just me. Because; all of these signs don’t point to a total slacker. Just someone who doesn’t have his life the way he wants. I have two degrees, an apartment and I do good with my finances but I still don’t have a job. I can’t find one for nothing. So in a minute? I maybe looked at as a “total slacker.” But; I am not. If your man doesn’t want to work or doesn’t show the consistent strive for success then you can deem that he is a slacker. But; shoot.. maybe he is struggling and needs support. Don’t be quick to give up on a man because you look at these slides and your man matches a few of them.

    • Ladybug94

      There is a difference in not wanting to work and looking and not getting hired. If he doesn’t want to work, I say pass him by. Most women can deal with someone who is actively trying to look for a job but isn’t getting hired.

    • edsullivan

      No, it’s not about being a slacker, it’s about him wanting to be a child or a man. Any woman who does not want a real man in her life is a total fool and not a real woman either.

  • LovingMe

    I’m going through this now…***sigh*** and his a$$ is not trying to leave

  • Meyaka

    Women know when a guy isn’t the one,many don’t care as long as they “have a man”.

    • Tierra

      I know my guy isnt “the one”. But its not that I just want to have a man, its that we have an awesome relationship (friendship)and I really do not know how to end things and keep him in my life, so I’m sticking around hoping that he will morph into the one. Okay, glad I said that out loud. sounds crazy as ever lol

      Sometimes its not at all about desperation.

      • gracie

        @Tierra, am in the same boat and I tell myself all the time that as long as it works for now, am good.

        • Joe

          Good luck being a single mom.

      • Meyaka

        Well,waiting and hoping that a guy will change isn’t the best idea,but I hear you.

  • IllyPhilly

    I am highly offended by that picture because that’s just what I looked like last night including the orange soda. Damn I’m not the one either.

    • Meyaka

      Lmao!!!! you are so crazy