My Goodies, Not My Goodies: Reasons You Should NOT Give Up the Cookie

September 22nd, 2012 - By Brooke Dean

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Your Religious or Core Beliefs

If you feel strongly that premarital sex is a sin, then by all means, stick to your guns and wait until you’ve meet the man who is willing to make a commitment to you. If he respects your wishes and your beliefs, then he will make sure you’re both ready and won’t pressure or guilt you into having sex before you’re ready to. Sure, sex can be considered an important part of a relationship, but so are shared values. By abstaining from sex, you can focus on growing emotionally and spiritually with your partner and your union will be stronger for it.

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  • Is It 5:00 Yet?

    It’s a shame that as a 20 year old black woman the doctor thinks I’m lying when I tell him I don’t have any kids and I am still a virgin. We got to do better people!

    • Dr. Rampersaud M.D.

      You lying ni66a bytch.You overdue for a HIV test.

      • Is It 5:00 Yet?

        Your ignorance is amusing.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Latrece-Hoskins/100002627012546 Latrece Hoskins

      naw,they’re just racist. imagine how they look at me at 29 years of age.

      • Is It 5:00 Yet?

        This is true. My brother waited until he was in his early thirties and he stood out like a sore thumb lol.

    • msblackrose

      Because its extremely rare. So many chicks are haux these days. I was a virgin until 21, and now Im 30, practice celibacy and still dont have kids. Im waiting for my God to give me a husband, with a lot of the mess out here these days it really aint that serious

  • MsMotherSister

    A lot of women have been giving it up with a double coupon for so long they don’t know anything else. If they would take a moment and realize that the man who is worth their time doesn’t mind waiting a while they would be alright.

  • Jud Jud

    I have chosen to be celibate and its going very well for me. This is where God wants me to be. I am using this time to focus on myself, enjoying my life and accomplishing my goals as a young twenty three year old woman. I will be until im married if its in God’s will for me to be married. If not then that’s okay too ill stay celibate. Its so much nicer being single anyway so peaceful (lol) Whoever does not make this choice I feel truly sorry for you. Get your mind right.

  • cellyb2000

    Clearly this article is targeted to teenagers, what grown woman don’t know these things?

    • she so lucky!

      Hmm, you would be surprised.

  • Adrina

    Self-worth is more than just making him wait…it’s also dismissing him if he belittle you for wanting to wait. Sex definitely has to be disconnected from self-worth though. I put men through a preliminary phase…I’ll ask you questions and based on those answers I’ll know if you’re even worth a conversation let alone sex. Sometimes when you first a man, you can’t give them a second thought…and talk to him when you talk to him. But women now fall in love after 5 minutes of conversation because they just want a man soooooo bad. He can display all the signs that you need to run, but women are blinded by what they want, they’ll put up with the bs. SEX WILL NOT KEEP HIM AROUND!!!! So stop thinking it! He has to want you emotionally as well.

  • GodJudgesMeNotYou

    My late mother always says if a man can’t respect your worth, then he’s not worthy of your time and space.

  • koffybrown

    The hell with it,just stock up on some toys and call it a day. Free yourself from the claws of men and have your own party….lol

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