Convenience or True Love: Which Is Your Relationship Made of?

April 6, 2012 ‐ By Julia Austin
"Man kissing woman on the cheek"

We’re taught to be “mature” about love, to not get “in over our heads” and so on and so forth. But all that conditioning to feel just a little less, has taught some women to believe they don’t need to look for passion anymore, but just something that works. And that’s a shame, because you can definitely have both. Here’s how you know if your love is true love, or just a relationship based around convenience.

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  • Ms12

    I don’t agree with “you’re not worried” point. In many other articles you always “teach” us to be self-confident and have trust in our relationships and our men. And now you say if we’re not worried about him, then there’s no passion in our relationship? Come on, it’s all about trust and loyalty… 

  • ZibyFortunine

    I think this is a good article but I wanna say this. While true love does exist and it’s a worthwhile thing, a relationship of convenience is better than an inconvenient relationship, and it might be better than no relationship at all. When two people come together to live and are kind and helpful to each other, they can accomplish more than if they lived apart. I’m not saying you shouldn’t break up with someone if you’re not really feeling them, but I think it’s important to note that if you can find someone who treats you well and is nice to you, that’s a blessing, even if you’re not really attracted to them.

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  • RenJennM

    That first picture of that couple is so swexy. Whether they’re a real couple or not, that’s a really nice photo. 

    Anyway, I admit that a good amount of guys in my life were kept around longer than they should’ve been all due to convenience. It’s not always easy to start over, fresh & new, when you’re looking for that RIGHT NOW gratification. I had to admit to myself that I’m not as mature in the relationship area as I thought I was (I’m only 23 btw). But that admittance is a big step towards growth. And convenient (aka bulls***) relationships are definitely something that I need to outgrow… in a quick, fast hurry.

  • FabienneDesrameaux

    LOL at this article it is so true and so appropriate for this time in my life. Especially the last part I definitely encourage the guys I date to see and meet other woman. Im not proud but I just cant force feelings and they refuse to leave me….n i refuse to be alone. Im a work in progress…