Sweet or Needy: Which Are You?

February 27, 2012  |  
"Couple hugging"

A woman’s biggest fear is coming off as needy. Why else would we be taught exactly when to respond to a text, when it’s okay to ask a guy out, when it’s okay to say, “I love you” for the first time? It’s engrained in our minds, put the breaks on. So, want to know if you’re being needy or just sweet in your relationship?

"Girlfriends drinking wine"

You miss him when he’s not around

That’s normal! If you didn’t even notice your man’s absence, then you aren’t that into the guy. It’s normal and healthy to think, “I wish he was here to share this with.”

"Woman having anxiety"

You get anxiety when he’s not around

That is needy. That implies a co-dependency that has formed. You don’t feel secure enough in yourself, or in the relationship, to just enjoy yourself when your man isn’t there. If you get anxiety when you are separated from your boyfriend, that means you think even the tiniest time apart could weaken the relationship. And that is needy.

"Woman texting"

You text to make him smile

You send him a sweet text in the middle of the day and all you are expecting is that he will smile, maybe laugh, and turn his phone over and get back to work. That in and of itself will make you happy.

"Woman waiting by the phone"

You text for affirmation

You text because you need to constantly re-connect throughout the day. You feel you two are drifting apart if you haven’t spoken for a few hours. If you don’t hear back from him, you think, “He doesn’t feel the same way!” That is needy.

"Couple talking"

You argue over an issue

You are genuinely upset about something he did that you feel is wrong. You want to communicate about it and see how you can move forward without it happening again. That is normal.

"Couple arguing"

You argue for attention

You may not notice when you do this, but if you’ve been getting into a lot of arguments lately, it is for one of two reasons. 1) Your relationship is shaky (sorry) or 2) You are craving attention. Getting your boyfriend riled up makes you feel that he cares about you, so you pick fights over little things. That is needy.

"Couple in bed"

You crave sex for intimacy

And if your man is just so exhausted or not in the mood one night, you understand. You’re bummed, because you feel close to him when you have sex, but that is normal.

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  • Samirah

    I disagree with 9. You may get Angry because women have needs just like men. It would only be an issue if it happens often because men ALWAYS gotta have it. If they don’t , red flag.

  • msBootsy

    wuh oh…. i’m needy AND married…. time to shape up or ship out lol

  • Aanekosikie

    Iḿ sweet 

  • applesauce585

    “Sweet” that’s me.  Being needy or dating someone too needy drains your energy.  I aint got time for that! lol

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  • wiser now

    I am so needy!  I fit all of those.  I know it’s because he’s been doing some dirt and as a result, I’ve become dependent.  Calling up a therapist in 5…4…3…2..1!

  • NVAdamzz

    They need to make one of these for men cuz my man is TOOOOOO needy. It drives me effing nuts!!!! I can’t stand needy people. That’s why I quit food service. 😀

    • Tee

      Aww he probably just loves you and your just so awesome! ;).

      • NVAdamzz

        There’s a heartwarming thought, Tee! However, his constant need for reassurance, him constantly calling and getting mad because I call (not hang out with, because I don’t have time to, but CALL) my friends is just tooooo much. He’s gotten better with the calling but he still has this thing where he needs me to “prove my willingness” because he doesn’t feel secure in our relationship. Like OOOOOHHHH MYYYY GOOOOOOODDDDDDD!!

        • LoraJ1218

          run! it only gets worse! i know! been there, done that!

          • NVAdamzz

            Girl I’m out of that relationship. I dumped him prolly a little while after I wrote that. Needless to say he didn’t take it well but it was great for me. Sometimes when I think about it I wish I could break up with him over and over again because it felt so good to get my freedom back! Lol!!

  • pashunfruit

    used to have needy tendencies but grew out of them as my tolerance for BS depreciated  =)

  • Mariah

    i’m sweet but it’s been so long since i’ve had a decent relationship i can see where i am becoming needy…Lord, help me.

  • StuckInDaMatrix

    I’m needy!

  • LaTasha

    most definitely sweet!!!