7 Ways You May Be Emasculating Your Man

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February 23, 2012 ‐ By jaebi

Gone are the days when men wore pants and women didn’t. Thanks to women’s suffrage and common sense, women wear what theywant, earn competitive wages and have more to look forward to than being someone’s housewife. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.

It’s a liberating time to be a woman, compared to eras past. When it comes to being politically correct, men and women are equals but all that liberation shouldn’t go to a gal’s head. While culture has widened what’s acceptable for a woman, it hasn’t allowed as much wiggle room for men.

While you, and society are upgrading what it means to be a woman, guys are still expected to be MEN. Every woman wants her guy to be a man but many modern ladies struggle to allow him that space. Worse yet, in an effort to be his equal, you may act to rob him of his manhood altogether.

It’s a move every single man fears, and every committed man hates: emasculation. Rather than assume you know that you’re doing (because if you do, he’s in big trouble) view these next slides as the top ways to show a man that being a man don’t mean squat:

Not what you want to do.

 

"Emasculate his job"

Source: blackhealthzone.com

 

Belittle what he does for a living.

Today, like 1000 years ago, who a man is has been directly tied to what he does for a living i.e. a baker, blacksmith, shepard or financial analyst. If you don’t respect what he does for a living, you need to end it. But if you decide to stick around, know that belittling his profession is like laughing at the size of his penis. His feelings will be hurt and he is going to resent you.

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  • Jonathan DjPhase Argiri

    Woman need to know their role and shut their hole. Lol Man up men. They don’t own you.

  • Zed

    I think most women do these things intentionally, with forethought, as a means of gaining power in the relationship.And. if your man is weak or just stupid, they will work. If he’s not, he will tire of your antics and leave. You’re basically saying “I only want a weak and/or stupid man. Some other girl can have the strong smart ones.”
    Have fun with that! :^)

  • Llekyamer

    My wife and I have been married 15 years, she is a MD while I never made thru 9 grade. We have a wonderful daughter together and I have a 17 year old son who she considers her son also. She does not want me to work as she prefers for me to always be with her for lunch or whenever she has time off. I don’t really see the problem and obviously neither does she.

  • SmokeyTownson

    Is this article just for black people?
    Thought so!

  • Candace

    Emasculating men. Ha ha ha ha ha. A lot of men don’t act very manly to begin with. Talking about women’s hair like catty women. Expecting to be catered to without giving in return. Don’t make me laugh.

    • Hshsh

      Not our fault u got no hair nappy hoe

  • April Flowers

    These are typical things anyone wouldn’t like, why does it have to be reduced down to a gender war by using terms like “emasculate”? A woman wouldn’t like that same behavior so what term would the use then? Since emasculate is for men, where is the equivalent term for women? I would say effeminate but that’s been assigned to men’s loss of manhood as well. There not being a word available shows that there is an inherent bias.

    • Pokegn

      Today it’s he other way around. Since when is it normal to boss women around? Once a man does that he is frowned upon but when women boss men around they do what she says . And yea my girl flips out when I ask for ONE favor…wow and I’m called a sexist. You women need to stop your c r a p
      Btw feminity and masculinity are Taught! Not natural. Learn something before you open ur mouth

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  • mandy

    ok

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  • whistle blower

    It’s the subtleties gentlemen… we’ve gotta be more alert to the subtleties.
    These are some high level demonic strategies that are being played out. Many, many women have soul out to Satan for power money and fame. they have turn their backs to the GoD who made them women. many are practicing witchcraft. A lot of you Brothers are under demonic spells and don’t even know it. God made man Masculine, any attempt to undo what he intended is anti-God; it’s EVIL!!!

    • Bella

      Oh, please shut up.

      • whistle blower

        i got news for Bella, man was made in God’s image. you were created for no other purpose but to be there for him. any other endeavors is idolatry.

      • Hxhd

        No. You shut up stupid

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  • Guest

    I like that this piece is plainspoken and I like its message – “If you want your man to act like a man, quit de-nutting him”

  • VirtualClover

    I do want to say this though – the constant criticism of your guy (or your woman if you’re the guy) is doing major damage to your relationship. You’re constantly sending a message that you don’t like who he is, you don’t respect his ability to make decisions, you don’t like what he does, you don’t like anything about him.

    So don’t whine when you find out later you’ve been cheated on a dozen times and that “skanky ho” who appreciated him for exactly who he is, complimented him, provided him some ego candy, and enjoyed him as a man “steals” him right out from under you. 

    And by “steals” we mean “he chose to go, nobody stole anybody”

  • VirtualClover

    Asking another guy to do it better.—-

    Hahah, yeah but nothing gets that Honey Do list done quicker! 

  • The Patriot

    One more thing: ALEXANDER NENA, you hit the nail right on the head! Gender roles hurt people rather than help them, not allowing individuals to be who they want to be (this results in anger, depression, and in some cases, violence). Unfortunately, morons like Fox News Commentator Bill O’Reilly don’t understand this (just look at the way they force female hosts to wear miniskirts – a clear sign of their “old school” belief that women are inferior). Fortunately, there is at least ONE Fox woman host named Margaret Hoover who, in 2011, wrote the book “American Individualism.” Her book supports individual liberty in ALL its forms. She is a true patriot who believes in our American principle (which has yet to be completely supported) of “be who you want to be.”

    • yetanother22

      Men created their own gender roles and they don’t want to change them, so why should they? Because women insist?
      I’ll choose how I want to be, not you.

  • The Patriot

    “… ways to show a man that being a man don’t mean squat:

    Not what you want to do.”

    When I read this article about how women, at least in fashion, want “special priveleges,” as well as the views of society itself, I likened it to “Animal Farm.” In other words, we’ve gone from bad to worse – that is, from “seperate but equal” (both men and women had an equal number of different roles) to “all are equal (both sexes can work or play sports)” but “women are more equal than men” (in fashion).

    First of all, unlike the ancient Roman men who wore togas (THAT is manly), today’s men cover up their bodies in pants – something very similar to women in Iran covered in burkas. There is nothing masculine about hiding the male figure. During the last decade, I’ve counted 17 men wearing kilts, manskirts, and sarongs in a few areas in the Hudson Valley, NYC, and Connecticut. They definitely have style. And by the way, change is part of life – without it, we’d stagnate.

  • ladyami

    I like so much of the stuff posted on this website but I’m sorry, there is a lot of sexism in this article. Problems in relationships like this often have deeply rooted causes that are traced back to the societal power men continue to have over women, even if they are doing it unconsciously, and we need to acknowledge that. So many of the “things” listed in this article are rooted in male power and stereotypical gender roles – let him fix the roof badly even if you know someone who can do it better? Because it might hurt his ego? It sounds to me like women tip-toeing around to continue allowing men feel like they are the head of the household, rather than just being genuine and equals. And wow are there female stereotypes played up in here – nagging, jealous, paranoid, irrational, manipulative. The article makes it sound like sexism is over because of the women’s rights movement, and men are somehow the victims of this shift (which hasn’t really even occurred). If men want man-hood redefined to fit better within a non-sexist society, they have to do it themselves. Women did. And women would love to see that happen, so we can stop having conversations like this one and have fuller, more loving, equal relationships with men.

    • yetanother22

      Men are evolutionally the same now as they were thousands of years ago, so you can’t expect them to change overnight. The same can be said for women, which is why gender relations are so bad now- women want to act like men and men simply do not want to act like women.
      All these problems- for men- are in fact a result of the women’s right movement, before which men liked their (traditional) gender roles just fine, even if women didn’t like theirs.
      You say “if men want man-hood redefined…” but men never wanted the changes they are living with today. These changes were in fact imposed upon them by women, and now men are coping with them.
      Women don’t want to see men change. They don’t want men to stop being masculine. They don’t want men to make less money than they do. They don’t want submissive men. Women want men to be masculine men, not feminine men.
      Women don’t want equality in relationships. They want the majority of the power. That’s why family law as it is today- not fault divorce, women file for 70% of divorces, women get custody of the children 85% of the time- was moulded by women in their own favor. When it comes to income, women still want a man who makes more than them, not less.
      Women don’t want equality in relationships at all. They don’t know what they want.
      Women created this entire mess. Now we’re all miserable because of it.

    • Bris Ben

      I think the point isn’t about his qualifications to fix the roof. The point is the woman’s instant dismissal of her mans ability to fix a problem- what ever it may be. Maybe it’s a trampoline that needs assembling. she gets an old friend to do it because she knows he has a trampoline like it- meanwhile her man is scratching his head wondering why she doesnt remember the day they were both down the hardware store and he bought a big bag of tools. or perhaps its some video editing of her camera phone movies and she gets someone real cheap who lives local- ignoring the fact her man shoots wedding videos as a second hobby job.

  • Sdd428

    Totally agree with this list.  I’m a Black female and I find that it appears that a lot of Black women do manage their relationships with Black men in this manner.  Here’s a simple solution if you can;t help but make issue with the things your man does: find a new one…who embodies your ideal of perfection!  If the shoe were on the other foot, you’d holler and moan and b***h about how Black men ain’t no damn good and are chauvinistic.  Everyone deserves to be supported in their endeavors.  Also, another note for Black women, choose wisely!

  • BobCme

    8)   Drive a wedge between your man and his friends/family.  Insist that he is not allowed to go out without you.  Be hostile and cold to his family.  Make yourself the unchallenged center of his life and brook no competition. 

    • tanstaafl2

      Dead right!  When the genders are reversed, this is one of the key traits cited that a woman is in a relationship with an abusive man.

  • Fififj123

    This article is so true and the same vice versa. Its is vitually important to only allow people in your life that allow you to express yourself and you must allow the same without rebuke or shame. This works in all relationships but especially your marriage and love life. The more people are able to be thmeselves, the happier you both will be, and it brings out the best. You must allow your man to be a man or you will be manless when the other lady allows him to be himself

  • Elegance

    I agree that putting down a guys job or his income is emasculating. But tell me why in the world unemployed, underemployed, and uneducated men are pressuring financially successful career women to date them? These men already know successful women won’t respect their job or income yet they try to get us to lower our standards and date them. They are putting themselves in a position to be emasculated on a daily basis. Why don’t these men listen when successful women say they want someone on their level? They are doing you a favor! Go for a woman who brings in less money than you and is less successful than you are and you will be less likely to be emasculated. If she has no job she has no business criticizing yours. 

  • 4Clover

    This article is real.

  • Kindama

    What I have noticed about these kind of articles is that I usually agree with the largest portion of them. I also find that most women I talk to about them have a hard time believing they hold true. I know I’m not perfect, and I admit that freely. Its only respect for the person I am that I ask for, and find that its hard to get.

  • Kindama

    What I have noticed about these kind of articles is that I usually agree with the largest portion of them. I also find that most women I talk to about them have a hard time believing they hold true. I know I’m not perfect, and I admit that freely. Its only respect for the person I am that I ask for, and find that its hard to get.

  • http://www.facebook.com/dtrouble Crispin Nisbett

    This is just wrong

  • http://www.facebook.com/dtrouble Crispin Nisbett

    This is just wrong

  • Alexander Nena

    If the topics discussed in this article were the least if my problems in a relationship then I wouldn’t have any problems. I don’t think I can prevent a man from being a man any more than he can prevent me from being a woman. Just be who you need to be for you.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_F522656PRUK6BDSU5HSLQUYHKI Cindy D

    I think it is all crap…If we are to be equal, we all get a say…As far as the calling a pro when he isn’t qualified…I wouldn’t let my husband do my roof for ONE reason…He might fall and die…If the pro falls, he is covered…

    • butterfly

      I wouldn’t let my hubby do certain things either, he’s not a plumber or an electrician so I wouldn’t risk it..I would hope he would know that too and I don’t have to tell him. Lol

      • BernieNac

        You don’t LET your husband do …. blah, blah blah? You sound more like his mom than his wife. Amazing how you can’t see that you’re cutting his balls off by telling him he’s too stupid to fix the plumbing. What if he told you to hire a cook becaue you might “hurt” yourself in the kitchen. C’mon ladies. You so used to wearing the pants in the family you forgot what a dress looks like.

        • Ebony in Hartford

          Hire a cook? Great! More free time with my uterus intact! I have a hard time people really believing think manhood are so rigid and fragile.

  • http://www.robertreeveslaw.com/injuries/brain-injury.html Brain Injury Attorney

    I totally do at least 5 out of these 7 things to my man…I feel terrible now. I work as a Brain Injury Attorney, and that’s tough for him.

    • DeLeon629

      Da hell does your profession have to do with you being a s****y lover? :/

  • MISSDANIBABY

    I SEE WHAT THE AUTHOR IS SAYING BUT I AM A LITTLE IRRITATED BY THIS ARTICLE. THE KEY IS “RESPECT” NOT WHO WEARS THE PANTS OR IF YOUR MAN HAS B***S IN THE RELATIONSHIP. I MEAN, DON’T FRONT ON YOUR MAN IN PUBLIC OR BELITTLE HIS JOB?!  DUHHHHHH!   I WOULDN’T DO THAT FOUL CRAP TO “ANYONE” I REALLY LOVED, LET ALONE MY PARTNER!  OF COURSE YOUR MAN WILL END UP HATING YOUR FRIGGIN’ GUTS IF U WERE DOWN RIGHT MEAN OR ACTING THE FOOL 24/7…BUT SO WOULD “MOST” PEOPLE!  THE AD NAUSEUM ARTICLES ON “GENDER ROLES” IRK ME.

    THE PROBLEM IS THAT PEOPLE DO. NOT. RESPECT. (I REPEAT)  DO. NOT. RESPECT. ONE ANOTHER.  IT DOESN’T TAKE A GENIUS!  WHEN WE LEARN HOW TO BE MORE KIND, LOVING, UNDERSTANDING AND “FAIR” TO THOSE WE LOVE (MOST ESPECIALLY THOSE WE LAY DOWN WITH EVERY NIGHT!)  THEN THE WORLD WOULD BE A BETTER PLACE AND RELATIONSHIPS WOULD BE A HELL OF A LOT STRONGER.  TRUTH.

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_2ADEGLZJBLKSZSVPOT5QWM3NYY W

      Over the past 30 years, this country has slid too far to the right for us to respect each other, so don’t count on it. (I know I’m politicizing something that wasn’t political to begin with, but that doesn’t mean it’s not true.)

    • http://twitter.com/MaxineShawEsq Maxine Shaw

      This is little more than MN’s usual “Why You Black B*****s Suck” articles. It’s like you said – all of this is just basic RESPECT. Respect one another!

  • Wdanin

    At the end of the day emasculating a man in these ways, and many others not mentioned here equate to intentional or unintentional disrespect. If you truly love and respect your man your actions will show that. But it takes understanding that we as women are not always perfect or right all the time.

  • NarutoFriendOmoi

    I love this Madame Noire topic.  We gentlemen need to be treated as human beings and not like marionettes.  Y’know a point that could have been brought up on here is “WOMEN HITTING MEN.”  I saw this video today or yesterday on Worldstarhiphop of this woman on the floor beating the lifesavings out of this guy.  The guy gets up after a 10 minute beating and states that he does not hit women no matter what.  But, even through his tough and masculine act, he is still hurting (mentally), but he does not express it.  Not revealing our emotions is the reason why women’s life expectancy is higher than men in all countries and nationalities.  We need love too, just like Naruto got from his mom, okay?

  • http://Facebook.com/beautifulJazzymarie Erica Marie

    Hmm interesting. Follow me @LovinMy2As #teamfollowback

  • LotusLeader

    Unless you have restrained a man with a very sharp object, there is no way to emasculate a man.  A boy yes, but never a man.

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QYTYVDIBS5A4Y5EAAUVYTUE7JY Dollie

      Who emasculates children or little boy’s that sounds like a case at Penn State. However, please look up the definition of the word emasculate, the root word masculine. Your statement is the equivalent of me stating, ” It is impossible for me to objectify women, you can only objectify little girls.” C’mon son put some more thought into your argument before you start spewing your fallacies. 

      • LotusLeader

         Understood and agreed!  Please allow a clarification, by boys I meant immature adult males.  It is possible for a mother to insult and degrade men around her young son and remove his sense of maleness.  Perhaps you disagree?  Thank you for your response.

        • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QYTYVDIBS5A4Y5EAAUVYTUE7JY Dollie

          I agree with you, plus I like your retort back to my comment I presented above. Thank you for thanking me…LOL.

    • Diamondntharough78

      Well we should refer to males. I see it a LOT, women who shout and start fights with their man in public, who curse them out and act like they wear the pants in the relationship. I think that is what this article is basically saying. We as women have become so independent financially that men don’t feel like men. I struggle with that as well. I am successful, and it seems like the men I date tend to feel ‘intimidated’ because I’m not hitting up their pockets. One of my exes even said as much, and he cheated on me with a woman (who he is still with) who belittles him and yells at him in public and in front of his family, but yet makes him ‘feel like a man’ because she is financially dependent on him. 

      • Ebony in Hartford

        So women need to cry poverty so men can feel like ballers? Find a better crop of men.

        • Steven

          For real. You can be your own strong-willed, financially secure, independent womanly self and at the same time let me be a man. I wouldn’t be threatened by your success, and your not being financially dependent upon me won’t be what emasculates me. But fighting with me publicly, belittling me or my profession, basically everything the author of this article mentioned….yeah those things emasculate me and I resent those things.

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_2ADEGLZJBLKSZSVPOT5QWM3NYY W

      Right. “Real” men are supposed to have skin as thick as rhinoceroses. Everything should bounce off them like it’s nothing. I guess you missed #7. Or you’re just too slow to comprehend it. … Yeah, if *everything* gets to him I agree he’s not much of a man. But the invincibility notion is simple and way off.

      • LotusLeader

         Men are human beings who would never suffer disrespect and contempt.  This is not invincibility but rather the wise and mature action of self-protection of ones heart, mind and soul.  This is an adult action.  Are we clear?

        • Bris Ben

          Even buildings topple if you hit them hard enough.

  • Younggentleman1

    These are the reasons women end up unmarried miserable and alone at 45. Mad at the world and making excuses about you being to much woman for a man. Lolol I wish a lot of you would take a step back and see some of your short comings. Although you have more “education and degrees” from a college stand point they don’t really mean much if you can’t cultivate a healthy relationship with your partner. If you act like any of these things that man will do one of three things or all of them. 1 # leave you he will bounce on you cause you are ahead ache and you don’t trust him. 2# stay with you and cheat he will go find solace in another’s arm all the while still being with you it’s secret pay back for your funky attitude. 3# either drink or do drugs just so he can still come home and deal with you. Lolol So thats the choices you will face. The man picks from them which will ultimately lead to you being alone. Cause either he’s not going to put up with your crap or your not going to put up with his. So change some of your convictions or be that 45 yr old clutching a bunch of degrees and not a decent man. Lolol

    • Ebony in Hartford

      Blahblahblah… Enjoy your GED ‘brotha’

      • Fodnn

        You know u would get jealous of the cook stop like u want it

      • OfficialGrimmjow .

        haha what you salty for? because he perfectly described your life?

        • Ebony in Hartford

          I do have several degrees, yes, but I would never have married a man so dumb as to throw ‘education and degrees’ in a woman’s face as some sort of insult. My husband is not the kind of man who would be threatened by education or a woman with opinions. Let me know how life works out for you at 45 with no education, degrees, and a funky attitude towards powerful women. Expand your dating options, black women. Stop dating Pookies and Ray Rays who are JEALOUS of you!

  • Simone

    point one is hypocritical. If there is someone being belittled for what this someone is doing as a profession then it is women! There is this theory that once a certain percentage of women (I believe it’s 30%)  is entering a certain formerly male dominated field of profession, salaries go down or stagnate at best. Cf banking, teaching etc. Smartest thing to do for a woman is to enter a profession which is absolutely male dominated. High salaries are usually a given.

  • Elle

    In other words, being a black woman.

    • Fififj123

      This is a learned slave abuse trait essentail to help our sons and spouses to survive whereas they were not allowed to speak up for themselves. The black women were allowed and had to step into the male role. Slave abuse dumb down black male masculinity by eye contact avoidance, rape of their spouses, selling off of their children, beatings, calling grown men boys, fear, murder, etc and Black women had to step in for the survival of their sons and spouses. Thus the creation of black female survival attitudes. Now that society has changed for the most part, black women no longer need this survival mode characteristic, Thank God, so we have to transition back to the female role because now our men are allowed to be men more in this society when its wasnt safe for them to do so. We still have to keep it in our back pockets when racism resurfaces.

  • JusSayin

    I can be honest. I did this in my last relationship. And; It dawned on me that although we have so much in common the way he handles business never worked for me. Never.I could never trust him to handle situations in my life because he couldn’t handle his. I felt like I was micromanaging and becoming his mother, fixing his finances, helping develop drive and I basically felt like I was building a man. I am too young for that and I backed off. I honestly was having doubts about leaving him then I read this article and felt 100% better. This situation? Tends to happen when women attempt to lower their standards and they try to deal with things they have no business handling in the first place. Somethings just don’t work. If you can’t trust in your mind, confide in him and value his opinion then let him go. He isn’t your puppet and you dang sure ain’t no puppet master. 

    • Cali Brotha

      You make tons of valid points, but you’re missing the gist of the article. A man is a man is a man! Take this with you in your present or next relationship, “It will always be better to build than to break.” Not make or create but build, you have to build on potential. Your words are that of a strong and highly opinionated woman, men love that! You also mention that you were young, when I was 25 I spent most of my money on Jordans, cd players, throwback jerseys, Burberry, etc. Now I’m 35, totally different state mortgage, car note, good career and guess who help me get here?! Yep, my wife still bosses me around, but she allows me to be a man. When you break a man, he will resent you, he will hate you, and he will grow insecurities. My baby is not picture perfect either, there is a lot of herself that she sacrificed to please and make me happy.

    • Cali Brotha

      You make tons of valid points, but you’re missing the gist of the article. A man is a man is a man! Take this with you in your present or next relationship, “It will always be better to build than to break.” Not make or create but build, you have to build on potential. Your words are that of a strong and highly opinionated woman, men love that! You also mention that you were young, when I was 25 I spent most of my money on Jordans, cd players, throwback jerseys, Burberry, etc. Now I’m 35, totally different state mortgage, car note, good career and guess who help me get here?! Yep, my wife still bosses me around, but she allows me to be a man. When you break a man, he will resent you, he will hate you, and he will grow insecurities. My baby is not picture perfect either, there is a lot of herself that she sacrificed to please and make me happy.

      • JusSayin

        I Completely Agree! There is a different between a woman that is “bossing” you around and one that you can grow with. And; I believe that I see the article in a different light. And I do appreciate your response. I personally feel that every woman and man have their own boundaries. And; when it feels like I’m mothering a man or “making” a man then at that point… Its no longer about your potential or if I want to “upgrade” you. Now; its more so… creating or developing someone like raising my son. I want to be able to support my man/husband and most importantly he should be able to support me. And; I think that is one of the things that get lost when someone is “building” a someone. They are no longer looking for support, they get lost in this idea of being the major bread winner and not knowing how to allow others to care for them. Eventually Trust is lost and so is the man. 

      • April Flowers

        When I hear brothers talk sometimes it reminds of racial issues. Everything is black or white. Everything is let him be a man. We would all benefit if we would throw away all these gender role expectations since clearly it is not working and has not been working for a long time. If you bossed your wife around, what would that be called? Not letting her be a woman? Of course you wouldn’t say that since its supposed to be normal to boss women around but wrong when a woman does. No one should be bossing anyone around only suggestions. You seem like its ok for men to do it but when a woman does it, it’s emasculating

        • Jomeamelpv

          You started the gender war here not the Topic creator. Weather the word Emasculating is in it or not it is y’all who make this more complicated then it needs to be.

      • lyn

        @Cali Brotha. what do you do if a woman did break a man without the intentions to do so?
        @jussayin are you still in that relationship?

    • Elegance

      So true! Any man who is asking for a woman to motivate him is just asking to be emasculated. If she is financially supporting him he will not feel like a man. If she has to tell him how to succeed or pull strings to get him a job he will also feel emasculated. Probably if a woman does help a man to become successful he will leave her anyway because of this. Never raise a man. Date a guy after he has finished becoming something because you can not raise him. 

      • April Flowers

        That’s a huge problem right there; a person’s ego is so big that they can’t even allow someone to help them without resenting them? That shows who the problem really is with. It’s something wrong with that type of thinking

        • Gdhejkskjkzkmjshsjdjxj

          Ego is not the problem here….the disrespect and the additude u bring when u are TELLING ur man to do something rather then asking. Yall are so clueless I swear it’s laughable.lmao

  • JusSayin

    I can be honest. I did this in my last relationship. And; It dawned on me that although we have so much in common the way he handles business never worked for me. Never.I could never trust him to handle situations in my life because he couldn’t handle his. I felt like I was micromanaging and becoming his mother, fixing his finances, helping develop drive and I basically felt like I was building a man. I am too young for that and I backed off. I honestly was having doubts about leaving him then I read this article and felt 100% better. This situation? Tends to happen when women attempt to lower their standards and they try to deal with things they have no business handling in the first place. Somethings just don’t work. If you can’t trust in your mind, confide in him and value his opinion then let him go. He isn’t your puppet and you dang sure ain’t no puppet master. 

  • Bella

    Although I liked most of the article, I found it a little threatening and over-the-top, especially the part about equating being a bossy-boots to slavery, but that’s just my opinion. 

  • Bella

    Although I liked most of the article, I found it a little threatening and over-the-top, especially the part about equating being a bossy-boots to slavery, but that’s just my opinion. 

    • Fififj123

      Alot of women are over the top and try to be the man over their man. Wont ever work. It keeps a woman more feminine when she allows her man to be the man. If he is lacking, play up what he is doing right and it will help when you need him to correct other areas. But woman have to do so respectfully just like we do when we need to get a point across at work or with other respect relationships, we have the skills but fail to use it in one of the most important relationships in our lives.

      • Ebony in Hartford

        “It keeps a woman more feminine when she allows her man to be the man.”

        If the ‘femininity is so natural, why would all this tiptoeing around be needed?

      • April Flowers

        Y’all got too many issues if someone can say or do something and now you feel emasculated. Feminist and masculinity come natural to humans therefore a women can never do anything to take away someone’s manhood

        • Hathyuawc

          Your the one with the issue. Instead of looking at the issue at hand, u make it something that is totally not