7 Ways You May Be Emasculating Your Man

February 23rd, 2012 - By jaebi

Gone are the days when men wore pants and women didn’t. Thanks to women’s suffrage and common sense, women wear what theywant, earn competitive wages and have more to look forward to than being someone’s housewife. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.

It’s a liberating time to be a woman, compared to eras past. When it comes to being politically correct, men and women are equals but all that liberation shouldn’t go to a gal’s head. While culture has widened what’s acceptable for a woman, it hasn’t allowed as much wiggle room for men.

While you, and society are upgrading what it means to be a woman, guys are still expected to be MEN. Every woman wants her guy to be a man but many modern ladies struggle to allow him that space. Worse yet, in an effort to be his equal, you may act to rob him of his manhood altogether.

It’s a move every single man fears, and every committed man hates: emasculation. Rather than assume you know that you’re doing (because if you do, he’s in big trouble) view these next slides as the top ways to show a man that being a man don’t mean squat:

Not what you want to do.

 

"Emasculate his job"

Source: blackhealthzone.com

 

Belittle what he does for a living.

Today, like 1000 years ago, who a man is has been directly tied to what he does for a living i.e. a baker, blacksmith, shepard or financial analyst. If you don’t respect what he does for a living, you need to end it. But if you decide to stick around, know that belittling his profession is like laughing at the size of his penis. His feelings will be hurt and he is going to resent you.

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  • mandy

    ok

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  • whistle blower

    It’s the subtleties gentlemen… we’ve gotta be more alert to the subtleties.
    These are some high level demonic strategies that are being played out. Many, many women have soul out to Satan for power money and fame. they have turn their backs to the GoD who made them women. many are practicing witchcraft. A lot of you Brothers are under demonic spells and don’t even know it. God made man Masculine, any attempt to undo what he intended is anti-God; it’s EVIL!!!

    • Bella

      Oh, please shut up.

      • whistle blower

        i got news for Bella, man was made in God’s image. you were created for no other purpose but to be there for him. any other endeavors is idolatry.

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  • Guest

    I like that this piece is plainspoken and I like its message – “If you want your man to act like a man, quit de-nutting him”

  • VirtualClover

    I do want to say this though – the constant criticism of your guy (or your woman if you’re the guy) is doing major damage to your relationship. You’re constantly sending a message that you don’t like who he is, you don’t respect his ability to make decisions, you don’t like what he does, you don’t like anything about him.

    So don’t whine when you find out later you’ve been cheated on a dozen times and that “skanky ho” who appreciated him for exactly who he is, complimented him, provided him some ego candy, and enjoyed him as a man “steals” him right out from under you. 

    And by “steals” we mean “he chose to go, nobody stole anybody”

  • VirtualClover

    Asking another guy to do it better.—-

    Hahah, yeah but nothing gets that Honey Do list done quicker! 

  • The Patriot

    One more thing: ALEXANDER NENA, you hit the nail right on the head! Gender roles hurt people rather than help them, not allowing individuals to be who they want to be (this results in anger, depression, and in some cases, violence). Unfortunately, morons like Fox News Commentator Bill O’Reilly don’t understand this (just look at the way they force female hosts to wear miniskirts – a clear sign of their “old school” belief that women are inferior). Fortunately, there is at least ONE Fox woman host named Margaret Hoover who, in 2011, wrote the book “American Individualism.” Her book supports individual liberty in ALL its forms. She is a true patriot who believes in our American principle (which has yet to be completely supported) of “be who you want to be.”

  • The Patriot

    “… ways to show a man that being a man don’t mean squat:

    Not what you want to do.”

    When I read this article about how women, at least in fashion, want “special priveleges,” as well as the views of society itself, I likened it to “Animal Farm.” In other words, we’ve gone from bad to worse – that is, from “seperate but equal” (both men and women had an equal number of different roles) to “all are equal (both sexes can work or play sports)” but “women are more equal than men” (in fashion).

    First of all, unlike the ancient Roman men who wore togas (THAT is manly), today’s men cover up their bodies in pants – something very similar to women in Iran covered in burkas. There is nothing masculine about hiding the male figure. During the last decade, I’ve counted 17 men wearing kilts, manskirts, and sarongs in a few areas in the Hudson Valley, NYC, and Connecticut. They definitely have style. And by the way, change is part of life – without it, we’d stagnate.

  • ladyami

    I like so much of the stuff posted on this website but I’m sorry, there is a lot of sexism in this article. Problems in relationships like this often have deeply rooted causes that are traced back to the societal power men continue to have over women, even if they are doing it unconsciously, and we need to acknowledge that. So many of the “things” listed in this article are rooted in male power and stereotypical gender roles – let him fix the roof badly even if you know someone who can do it better? Because it might hurt his ego? It sounds to me like women tip-toeing around to continue allowing men feel like they are the head of the household, rather than just being genuine and equals. And wow are there female stereotypes played up in here – nagging, jealous, paranoid, irrational, manipulative. The article makes it sound like sexism is over because of the women’s rights movement, and men are somehow the victims of this shift (which hasn’t really even occurred). If men want man-hood redefined to fit better within a non-sexist society, they have to do it themselves. Women did. And women would love to see that happen, so we can stop having conversations like this one and have fuller, more loving, equal relationships with men.

  • Sdd428

    Totally agree with this list.  I’m a Black female and I find that it appears that a lot of Black women do manage their relationships with Black men in this manner.  Here’s a simple solution if you can;t help but make issue with the things your man does: find a new one…who embodies your ideal of perfection!  If the shoe were on the other foot, you’d holler and moan and b***h about how Black men ain’t no damn good and are chauvinistic.  Everyone deserves to be supported in their endeavors.  Also, another note for Black women, choose wisely!

  • BobCme

    8)   Drive a wedge between your man and his friends/family.  Insist that he is not allowed to go out without you.  Be hostile and cold to his family.  Make yourself the unchallenged center of his life and brook no competition. 

    • tanstaafl2

      Dead right!  When the genders are reversed, this is one of the key traits cited that a woman is in a relationship with an abusive man.

  • Fififj123

    This article is so true and the same vice versa. Its is vitually important to only allow people in your life that allow you to express yourself and you must allow the same without rebuke or shame. This works in all relationships but especially your marriage and love life. The more people are able to be thmeselves, the happier you both will be, and it brings out the best. You must allow your man to be a man or you will be manless when the other lady allows him to be himself

  • Elegance

    I agree that putting down a guys job or his income is emasculating. But tell me why in the world unemployed, underemployed, and uneducated men are pressuring financially successful career women to date them? These men already know successful women won’t respect their job or income yet they try to get us to lower our standards and date them. They are putting themselves in a position to be emasculated on a daily basis. Why don’t these men listen when successful women say they want someone on their level? They are doing you a favor! Go for a woman who brings in less money than you and is less successful than you are and you will be less likely to be emasculated. If she has no job she has no business criticizing yours. 

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