You Mad? 7 Signs That Your Attitude Is Hurting You More Than Others

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February 6, 2012 ‐ By

We’ve all had that moment where we were having a bad day (or week) and lost our marbles on somebody on the train, somebody at work, or sadly, somebody at home (actually, all cases are pretty sad). It might have even been a whole lot of attitude that happened to show up when your mother asked you to do something–I’m sure she set you straight. However, if you lose your marbles with people like this on the regular and that’s the reputation attached to you, then that’s a problem. Nobody likes nor cares for the “angry black woman” stereotype, but rage is real, and you can’t be out on the streets releasing it on any ‘ol body who looks at you cross, steps on your shoe, or happens to wheel into the long a** checkout line at Target with a cart full of mess right as you were trying to get in it with two items. If you don’t get your temper in order, believe me, you’ll be doing more damage to yourself than the people you’re losing your mind over.

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  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_ZK34QCWL4NGU2CQSTHBBGU56CM Tri Tri

    This sound like a girl i know. She is no longer able to go out with me and my bff. After getting kicked out of a bar because she wouldnt stf that was it for me. 

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_IXWG6EXEZ3FX6RA7BR3UGSIX3U Ralph

    The always angry black woman needs to change her attitudes!

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_IXWG6EXEZ3FX6RA7BR3UGSIX3U Ralph

    And many are manless because of these attitudes and behaviors. It’s no wonder black men are turned off from black woman and seek out whites, hispanics and asians.

  • MixedUpInVegas

    This kind of behavior is just what perpetuates the “angry black woman” stereotype.  That alone is a good reason to get a grip.  Playing to our most unflattering stereotypes doesn’t help us as a gender or a people.

  • disomoge2fine

    i’m guilty of getting angry over little things but only after i attempt to let things build up by good nature-ly ignoring it. I was friendly with a  colleague then I started noticing that she was bossing me around. there’s a way someone asks for help that seems like they’re rudely ordering something at a restaurant with the hand-wave and no eye-contact.  so one day after she was back to her domineering ways and I stopped and looked at her like ‘B*TCH, IS U CRAZY?’ and she laughed in my face (yikes! run-on sentence), i cut her off with a quickness.

  • Jess B

    “Your Mood is Ruined By the Smallest Mess” Oh Lawd, that is me all the way! The smallest thing can ruin my entire day. Say I can’t find a certain pair of shoes that I wanted to wear and end up having to wear a different pair *BOOM* pissed for the rest of the day. Missed the bus on my way to work *BOOM* my day is ruined. It’s funny when I write it down, but it’s honestly something I need to work on. 

  • MixedUpInVegas

    Too many people have had the misfortune to come into contact with the women described in this article.  Guest, Wisdom and Smmmoke hit the nail on the head–cut it out!  Your behavior could rise to the level of being criminal; your unwitting victims could sue you; you could go to jail; you could lose your job and standing in the community; you could be labeled a violent psychopath.  None of this will help you in life.

    Adults cannot assault other people without significant provocation and expect to escape a court date.  The fact that assaulting another person is a CRIME should be enough to discourage rational, responsible people from doing so.  As to loud, profane verbal outbreaks in public, those only convince anyone within earshot that you are crazy and maybe dangerous.  There are unpleasant and lasting consequences to those kinds of behaviors.

    Adults are expected to be in control of themselves.  Any adult who is not should ask themselves what the root of their problem might be and seek treatment.  This is not normal, desirable or civilized behavior.  The consequences of continuing on this path are serious, expensive and long lasting.  Please find out why you may be violent, overreactive, antisocial and dangerous to others.  You only have one life–live it well.

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  • Guest

    Nobody Can Ask You a Simple Question, 
     you never know who you’re messing with…
    Leave people alone. Mind your own business.

     I hate it when people are nosy so they can discuss you with others. Silence cannot be misquoted. If I do not answer, do yourself a favor and quit asking or you might get your feelings hurt.

  • Misscharmaine16

    Didn’t have to read this article to confirm my anger issues. So sad but true! Im working on it.

  • Wisdom

    This is a very accurate list! Here’s the real deal: when you go around acting out the behaviors from this list, you are announcing to the world you have emotional problems. Everytime you outburst like a banshee, a neon sign that everybody else can see lights up over your head. It flashes, “EMOTIONALLY DISTURBED”.

    It is not a sign of strength. 
    It does not get you what you want.
    It is not funny.

    Stop walking around advertising you’re the walking wounded. Walk yourself up into some therapy and work through the painful issues undergirding your hostility once and for all.

    Just a bit of “tough love” here.

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  • Rain206

    i am to guilty of getting angry over the smallest things i can really do think it’s hurting the relationship that i have with my 11 month old baby. i am a stay at home mom and i am guilty of yelling at him and getting upset and it’s not that big of a deal. Now when my son cries he only wants him father. its hurtful but i know i need to change. thanks for this.

  • MZ.79JACKSON

    I AM GUILTY OF GETTING ANGRY IF YOU COME TO CLOSE TO ME,BUT I LEARN HOW TO BRUSH THAT KIND OF STUFF OFF,YOU CANT ACT LIKE A GHETTO HOOD RAT WITH NO MORALS,COMMON SENSE OR LADYLIKENESS IN YOU AND EXPECT TO BE IN THE WORLD.I KNOW CHICKS THAT HAVE THE WORST ATTITUDES KNOWN TO MAN AND YOU JUST REALLY WONDER WHY SHE IS LIKE THAT,NO MAN,NO JOB,NO MONEY,CHEATED ON,ABUSED,BAD CHILDHOOD,DEPRESSION,RAPED, I DONT KNOW BUT I KNOW CHICKS THAT LET THEIR PERSONAL LIFE AND BAD THINGS THAT HAPPENED TO THEM AFFECT THEIR EVERYDAY MOOD,AND I FEEL SORRY FOR THEM,SO I JUST LOOK AT THEM PRAY AND DO THE TOTAL OPPOSITE.SO I’M NOT THE “ANGRY BITTER BLACK WOMAN.

  • Smmmoke

    This is all great advice. It’s very hard for men to deal with angry women because men are at a disadvantage if things escalate to the physical. Especially with brothas because if police are called we are typically the ones to go to jail. It’s best to recognize angry women early and stay away.
    Usually the anger that I come across is much less sensational. It’s when I kindly approach/flirt with a woman and she’s not feeling me for whatever reason. I think that’s the typical anger or attitude that most cats feel from sistas. I mean why have an attitude when someone is just trying to meet you??? I think that’s a big reason why guys like docile, timid women so much. Who can get past that attitude to get to really get to know a person?? This ain’t ‘Jason’s Lyric.’

  • Marier

    The article is on point while my personal examples may be different in essence its the same. Our attitude is a reflection of whats wrong with us. If we are constantly unhappy about the things or circumstances around us its a cry for help on a deeper level. The atttitude isnt the problem its the end product. Solve the original problem & the attitude will be adjusted

  • universal

    my goodness!! these angry chocolate women in these pics are looking supa sexy(especially the first three pics). but maybe it kinda reminds me of my female friend cause she has a “little” anger problem but in the strangest way, it kinda turns me on. but we try hard to work it out cause sometimes her attitude can definitely become a problem especially if were out in public, but maybe thats why i can never really take anywhere “upscale”. yeah, we really tryin hard to figure out her anger pains, but she has been through a lot in her 31 years of life tho. also btw, she exemplifies every one of these angre points (described in this article).

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    E.G., How to act like Tasha Mack from ‘The Game’. 

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