You Mad? 7 Signs That Your Attitude Is Hurting You More Than Others
We’ve all had that moment where we were having a bad day (or week) and lost our marbles on somebody on the train, somebody at work, or sadly, somebody at home (actually, all cases are pretty sad). It might have even been a whole lot of attitude that happened to show up when your mother asked you to do something–I’m sure she set you straight. However, if you lose your marbles with people like this on the regular and that’s the reputation attached to you, then that’s a problem. Nobody likes nor cares for the “angry black woman” stereotype, but rage is real, and you can’t be out on the streets releasing it on any ‘ol body who looks at you cross, steps on your shoe, or happens to wheel into the long a** checkout line at Target with a cart full of mess right as you were trying to get in it with two items. If you don’t get your temper in order, believe me, you’ll be doing more damage to yourself than the people you’re losing your mind over.
You Get Mad Over the Inevitable
How can you go to a club and get mad that someone bumped into you? Or worse, how can you get on the train, aka, the sardine can, and pitch a fit, suck your teeth and roll your eyes because someone is too close or runs into you? It’s the inevitable, child. As much as we would like to have our space on public transportation and the like to stretch out and cool relax, this isn’t imagination land. Move over as much as you can without being obnoxious about it (as if to physically be saying, UGH, MOVE B****). Being mad that you won’t get free space on public transportation and other places you know people dwell is like being mad that you’re sweating when you willingly went to the gym to workout. Be cool, baby.
You Can’t Seem to Compromise
You want to go the movies but the people in your party want to walk around the mall. No big thing, right? Maybe next time you’ll hit the theater. Sorry to say, for the lady with a piping hot attitude, when you don’t get what you want, the day might as well be over. The expression on your face will be so clear that you’re ticked off and that your friends suck a** in your opinion that you will literally guilt them into doing what you want. When you’re a little girl, it’s a bit more acceptable. However, as an adult, sulking about not getting what you want will have you sitting in front of the phone waiting for someone to call–and they won’t.
You’ll Go on a Tirade Anywhere at Anyone
I’ll never forget this episode of True Life I saw with people who had anger issues. One woman was running the risk of having her relationship crumble because she couldn’t control her temper. One day, a lady looked at this woman and her boyfriend cross, and before you knew it, every expletive you could think of was flying out of her mouth in front of everyday people on the street. Her man was so embarrassed and angry, and I felt bad for the both of them. She TRULY couldn’t help herself and she was so close and so ready to throw fisticuffs. If you’re not even thinking before you open your mouth when you’re mad and all you see is red, that’s scary and definitely not healthy.
Nobody Can Ask You a Simple Question
“You’re not going to ___? Why not?” If you have a bad attitude, your answer to a question like this definitely gives off the vibe that says, BECAUSE I CAN’T DO IT AND THAT’S ALL YOU NEED TO KNOW! Don’t you get it? The chick with the feisty attitude doesn’t want to be asked any real questions about her business, especially when you’re not included or involved in any sort of way. Ask them how something sensitive in their life is going and you can feel the walls closing in. Sure, they can ask you 20 questions about the smallest things, but when you think you’re close enough to do the same, that’s when their eyes squint up and their facial expression screams, none of your business!
You Know How to Ruin Ish For Other People
*Smiles* I can’t even lie, this is totally me sometimes and trust, I’m trying to do better. But if doors don’t open up immediately for you and things don’t happen when you want them to, how you want them to, a wave of negativity rolls over you. You complain incessantly about how wack the place is that you’re kicking it at, go through a list of things you could have been doing at this time had you not let your friends talk you into showing up–you basically have no patience. Everyone gets a bit antsy from time to time, but you damn near lose your composure within the first 15 minutes waiting on something or someone. WOOSA!
Your Mood is Ruined By the Smallest Mess
Don’t let someone joke with you about something that they didn’t realize was off limits to you…hold your hats folks, homegirl is about to blow! Easily irritable people are perhaps the hardest to read. One minute they might seem like they’re in the greatest of moods, and the next, what you thought was a harmless little joke has them putting you in your place, in public…like, in front of other people little kid style. That’s not cool. Or even worse, they go silent and have nothing to say to you. You’re left guessing as to what you did while they hold whatever it is against you. While the easily irritable chick might claim she has a good sense of humor, that’s a boldface lie–she’s sensitive. If you’re that sensitive person, expect to find yourself left at home alone, because walking around eggshells with someone is not how people want to spend their days and nights.
Your First Instinct is “Whoop That Trick”
To go from level 1 to 100 in less than 20 seconds is a dangerous thing. Folks with bad attitudes can be some of the first people to pop off on someone without thinking about the consequences. While some people would love to avoid unnecessary confrontation and would brush things off their shoulder for the sake of not letting their day go to hell, you’re ready to put your fist in someone’s face. Like the two women who acted a fool in a Manhattan McDonald’s learned, you never know who you’re messing with until they skip karate for CR-azy and put you in the hospital. And if your friends have to get involved in a brawl over your foolishness to look out for you, you probably do need to get your butt whooped.
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