Things Black People Confuse as Racist

December 9, 2011  |  
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America is such a global heavyweight that we forget the nation is only 235 years old, barely an adolescent as far as empires go. More than a third of U.S. history is marked by the legal institution of slavery and we’ve been dealing with the fallout of racial inequality ever since it was abolished. But cultural traditions run deep and propagate down generations. While progress is steady, America’s color lines don’t erase easy.

And few things warp a child’s mind more than the ridiculous notion that people don’t like you or judge you because you’re black. Even as an adult, it’s infuriating, depressing and demeaning all at once. Socially, it causes us to defend and define our existence out of habit. I’m not a “man in America” but rather a “black man in America,” and the difference is anything but subtle.

Today’s racism is often subtle, unlike the strain that infected the nation during the civil rights era. It’s carefully veiled. Daily situations are more shades of grey than simply black or white. Like any form of oppression, the people on the receiving end are left with the impotence to say something. But sometimes, our learned defensiveness jumps the gun and what appears to be classic racism may actually be a case of mistaken identity.

Here are the 7 most common things that get billed racist when the check should be going somewhere else.

Being Confused as a Store Clerk

Ever go shopping in [insert chain store here] and a white person asks you for help? The first thing you think is, “Oh, you think I work here because I’m black?” but not so fast. There are plenty of non-racist reasons someone might think you work there like your outfit. I’ve been caught out there wearing matching colors to the store clerks.

Sometimes people just aren’t being mindful. Say you knock over a few boxes of cereal and start resetting them as someone walks over with a burning question, hardly looking your direction in her thirst to consume. Silly things like that happen all the time. But if you’re wearing a boardroom suit in the supermarket and some white person comes up talking about, “where’s the oatmeal,” that’s some racist s#!@

“You people”

I know the phrase “you people” to be quite useful to describe a group of folks that share one or more bothersome qualities, like “you people taking up all the space by the subway car door” or “you people who don’t wait till passengers get off the car before boarding” and even “you people who keep sitting on my car.” Annoying people come from all ethnic backgrounds.

While it never looks good when a white person references a group of black people as “you people” it isn’t necessarily a racist statement. What’s wrong with you people?

Followed in a Store

It’s easy to get racist vibes when you’re followed around a convenience store but it’s a tricky proposition. Most people, black, white, whatever, about to commit a crime are dressed for the part. A black man wearing stereotypical clothing made famous by the media (a hoodie) is more likely to be hawked in the store than one wearing a business suit.

As someone that has tested this theory out on multiple occasions I can tell you its exceedingly easy to shoplift when you’re dressed for a corporate office. So when you’re getting a watchful eye from a store clerk or owner, take solace in the fact that though you are being profiled, it isn’t necessarily race related.

Face paint

The practice of blackface enjoyed a long and popular run in American entertainment and didn’t become taboo until late in the 20th century. Now, those ignorant enough to still don shoe polish are publicly crucified or worse. But while you’ll probably always double-take when you see a white person in dark face paint it’s not necessarily racist or blackface. The last time this came on a national scale was Robert Downey Jr’s satirical role in Tropic Thunder, in which he played an white Australian playing a black American general.

Describing Someone as Black

You’re talking with Bob from accounting and he’s trying to get you to remember someone from the holiday party, “you remember Jerry, the tall black guy.” And now you’re thinking, “I knew Bob was racist.” But simply mentioning someone is black isn’t the hallmark of a racist. Sometimes, it’s an effective way to remember someone.

Consider the opposite, which often happens in a mixed-race conversation. A white person, who wants to remind you of a black person without mentioning that key detail for fear of being considered ignorant. She’ll use a load of adjectives that are ultimately unhelpful. You may even be left with the burning question, “is she white or black?” but leave it out to avoid going “racial.”

“Everyone Looks Alike”

I was in the elevator and recognized someone new in the building. I asked, “Do you remember me?” when I could tell she obviously didn’t. Blushing and embarrassed, she admitted, “I’m confused, everyone looks alike.” I might have easily taken what she said as racist (she is east Indian) but I could tell that it wasn’t–not in this case.

Perhaps poorly worded, she was just remarking on the universally confusing task of getting to know new names and faces.

Not Having Black Friends

Birds of a feather flock together and by and large, so do folks from similar ethnic backgrounds and skin colors. So at the end of the day, should you be surprised that the average white (or other) person doesn’t have not a single black friend?

Sure, it may be a little weird, but having no black friends doesn’t make said white person any more racist than does not owning a pet make someone prone to animal cruelty though the door is always open for that possibility, in both cases.

But be on the lookout. The moment you discover an acquaintance doesn’t have any black friends may mean you’re being recruited as the “token.”


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  • Ellen

    One of the things I have come across in the past, is someone saying to me “You don’t like me because I am black?” No, I do not like you because you are never nice to me, period. Just because someone is black, it does not mean that I have to like someone who has traits or habits, or behavior/actions that I don’t like. By habits or behavioral actions, I mean that if a person chronically does something, or acts a certain way that impacts me in a negative way, I am not going to like that person, regardless of his/her race. When I was in school, I was bullied frequently, and it was mostly by the same black girl every single day. Now, do you think that I am going to like this person? I don’t think so! When I talk to people and have a conversation with them, I prefer to talk to people who use straight English. I don’t like to listen to a lot of lingo that I can’t and don’t relate to.

    I am smart enough to know that it is not all black people that are bad. I know plenty of white people who do bad things, or things that I don’t want in my life. So, I am not friends with them either. People have to stop labeling people as racist because of differences, but it is really sad that half of society has fallen for this. We have to thank the media and politicians for how bad things are now. Just about every time there is a crime or incident, the news casters always have to point out that the person is black, but seldom points race out when the person is white. It may be for descriptive purposes, but people are so sensitive that they are quick to assume that is racist. I hope that our society is not heading towards not being able to speak up when something is wrong just because the offender may actually be black or anything other than white.

  • scott miller

    The author says, “I’m not a “man in America” but rather a “black man in
    America,” How can people treat you as an American when you insist on
    the “African American” title. It tells me you do not want to be here,
    you do not want to be an American, you’d rather be an African first and
    foremost. I’m Mexican American, sounds stupid…. right?

    • Travis M.

      I agree and you may not agree, but if they are so proud of their heritage and where their ancestors are from….Then why not pack your crap up and move there? Is it because you have it so damn good here?

  • Max Persian

    I used to work in the music department of a Northeastern department store. My boss hired a fellow from Liberia, a young man about ten years younger than me. I liked him straight away; he was a hard worker and something of a practical joker, an ideal combination. One day I saw him coming in and said hey to him, and he kind of tentatively waved back. It wasn’t until he got closer that he smiled and said hey to me by name, then he came up close and looked around. He then said “Sorry I didn’t respond right away, it’s just that I have a problem. I don’t mean this in a bad way, but… white people all look alike to me!” At that point I just started laughing and replied “You know we say that about y’all, right?” It was a good laugh on everyone’s part. Just the way it should be.

  • Derwood Kirby

    Coooons is too sensitive….

  • lfjdsfdsf

    lmfao article made by a white

  • Vanessa

    This is the most ignorant crap I’ve read thus far. black face is absolutely racist and if you don’t think so you need to do some historical research. This was written by some white middle class person that has never experienced a pinch of discrimination in their lives and cannot begin to fathom what it’s like to live the black experience.

  • tim simms

    “Everyone looks the same” happens to people with prosopagnosia, a cognitive disorder also called face blindness, so not only is that person probably not racist, but if you give them hell about it, you’re probably being insensitive to handicapped people.

  • Jeff

    FWIW I’m white and I’ve never met anyone who’s been asked “do you work here?” more than me. Not sure what it is other than I’m generally clean cut and wear blue. Also, black employees at work confuse me and another white co-worker on a daily basis.

  • Jim Read

    Not a man in the U S but a BLACK man in the U S. THAT IS RACIST period. A man, black, white, brown, yellow is a man. When I am told I am racist just because I don’t like Obama, ticks me off because I didn’t like Bill Clinton for the same reasons and he is white so I guess I am racist against blacks and whites both. This entire article had a lot of racism in it but it did have some truth. I understand why some blacks are racist but not the majority. Many times a black man or woman promote racism strictly by their own actions but so do some whites!

  • Dawnsana

    I don’t care what he says black face will always be racist and it must stop

  • Pamela Kennedy

    Here’s another one: when they’re hell-bent on saying they “don’t understand” how you’re Massachusetts RESIDENT for the past 11 years because you went out TO Teach for America in NEW Mexico and bought a car there; they’re hell-bent on “you’re FROM Mexico” and keep saying that over and over again no matter how many times you tell them the TRUTH they just act like they “don’t understand” you or maybe didn’t HEAR you (I know ASL so that “didn’t hear me” part shouldn’t be a problem, but….) no, thinks you’re FROM where they MIS-read your car license plate as saying, and so “can’t understand” how you’re resident in the same state as they are (white guy, by the way…lower-class “ring around the collar” class, too, by the way). Yeah, at first I just wanted to think he’s just, I don’t know what. It takes me a while to label someone as a “racist” because I wasn’t raised to automatically assume all white people are racist and everything they say to me is going to be racist. I didn’t bother with the “I graduated MIT in 1994” line because that one DOES open me up to racist lines of “how did you get into MIT and Yale, I thought you had to be smart to get into MIT and Yale” which can’t be anything other than racism unless it’s women-bashing as well. I look in the mirror and don’t see anything about me that actually LOOKS stupid, so it’s got to be just the color of my skin…

  • Pamela Kennedy

    No, describing someone by their race IS racist because it means you NOTICED and you bloody well CARED. If you weren’t racist you wouldn’t feel a need to point out what race someone is or is not, or rather what PERCEIVED race someone is or is not.

  • Pinky’s Mom

    Thank you. Example. I was in a Petco today that had multiple pitbulls in it. They were in the aisles with people and were quite loud and it turns out they were receiving obedience training in the store. I like dogs—German Shepards and Beagles especially—but these throaty pitbull dog voices stressed me quite a bit. I went and got my cat stuff and cut the dogs a wide berth, thinking it was the wise thing to do. They were still mighty loud and it drove my BP up. But I was handling it, even though it made me a bit breathless. I mean, this is life; this is Connecticut; it has pitbulls in it. And I have met nice pitbulls. Anyway, I got to the checkout and said to the young clerk, who was offhand talking to another clerk there, one who had just been in the aisles with the dogs, “These pitbulls are stressing me out, but you guys just have a calm way with them. I congratulate you.” The young clerk at the register, who was a young black man with dreads, looked troubled and at a loss for words. He said, “I’m searching for context here.” I said, “Um, I was complimenting you as an employee of Petco? Able to handle anything that walks in the door?” Then I realized what was troubling him. He and the young man he was speaking to were both black, and I guess he figured I was saying, You black people sure have a way with pitbulls! It’s just natural for you! Which wasn’t what I meant at all. I’m aware that pitbulls are a big favorite in my town of New Haven, especially with the black population, but it wasn’t on my mind that day. If they had been white guys or girls I would have used the same vernacular; I’m over fifty, I’ve been saying “You guys” and not even gendering it for about as long as I can remember. But he heard it in a way that made him cringe. When he realized I meant something else (or at least I thought I did), he looked much more relaxed. He told me the dogs were receiving training in the store, and his manner was easy and pleasant, which struck me as his natural manner. We talked a little about cats, the cats I was buying food for. And I thought, jeez, it’s tough—everything’s an issue, isn’t it? I decided, though, I wouldn’t feel ashamed about it—as much as I hate being misinterpreted by anybody—because I was simply including him and his associate in my general concept of the world according to Petco. It’s frustrating, but I guess I just gotta keep treating people as people, and hoping I don’t step in it too much, or if I do, I find out what it is I just stepped in, and learn from it.

  • Jeff Simpson

    Has anyone bothered to point out that “impotence to say something” should be “impetus” to say something?

  • Anonymous Intellectual

    Geese; you lot think it’s so bad in America, think of it like this, in some restaurants in Germany, you may not be allowed to go into them!
    If I were to receive a racist comment from an African American friend, then I would not take offence, because my social relationship with the person would secure that everything was a JOKE. If I am to use terminology which can be applied to ANY culture or race, some may consider it racist,
    Also, as to a referring to a person as “Black” is not racist! In an informal or social conversation, it can be done for speed, as “African American” is more of a mouthful, and frankly, I don’t insist on having my race referred to as “Caucasian” every hour of everyday, “White” suits me just fine.


  • Lael McWinn Harrelson

    This article
    made me smile.

    I used to go into a business and say, “I was in earlier and talked to a tall
    gentlemen with black hair in a grey shirt with black slacks.” Now that I
    have black children, I use the word “black” much more freely. It’s a
    description, not an insult, and it would be derogatory NOT to use it. Of
    course, I also try to be better at looking at nametags!

    I have five children and three of them are
    adopted from Haiti. Being raised by a white mom and dad, they don’t have their
    radar out looking for racism and they usually don’t find it. Of course, we live
    in Colorado and not in the south, so that helps. Recently however on a trip
    through Georgia, my five kids were standing in the candy aisle, pooling
    their allowances to see how much candy they could buy. A lady came over and
    asked to search my daughter’s purse. I tore her up one side and down the other,
    attributing it to seeing several black children in the candy aisle. After, I
    left though I had to wonder, if I had overreacted and maybe she saw five KIDS
    in the candy aisle giggling with an open purse. I don’t know which it was – but
    the possibility exists that I misjudged her.

    On everyone
    looking alike. I’ve been guilty of that but not because I’m racist. We are all
    more attuned to what we are more familiar with. I taught school in Haiti
    before I was married. When I first saw the eighty girls who stayed at the
    school, I remember thinking they all looked the same and I would never be
    able to tell them apart. When I left the school a few years later, I remember
    wondering how I could have ever thought such a thing. Each girl was beautiful
    and unique and looked nothing alike. I have never had that feeling since,
    of everyone looking the same.

    also think for many white people, there is just plain fear of making a mistake
    and being judged. I debated writing this, because I fear someone will pick it
    apart and rip me to shreds for some poor choice of words, but in the end, you
    have to know own heart and not worry about being judged.

    adore my children. I know I will mess some things up by not understanding what
    it means to be a minority and I am sure I am blind to things that happen
    because I don’t look for it. They seem to be growing up happy and well
    adjusted. All five (black and white) of my children’s friends are a mixture of
    black, white, Hispanic, and Asian. Nothing makes me happier than looking
    outside and seeing a jumble of ages, races, ethnicity tumbling around and
    laughing together.

    Thanks for the article!

  • LifetimeBillsFan

    A black female friend, who had been accepted as “just one of the group” by a group of white folks, once told me in a very frank discussion, after hanging out with them, “You know, the one thing that I have learned hanging out with all of you that has shocked me the most is how little white people consciously think about race.” And, except for those rabid racists out there, I think that is largely true. Most white people that I know don’t spend their time thinking of ways to put black people down or even know that they are doing so when they do. In fact, it’s because most white people don’t think about race much at all that they do not see that actions or positions that they may take have the effect of demeaning or degrading or harming minorities. That’s why, when a person of color calls them on something that they have done that is racist, so many of the whites who make up the vast majority of white people react by, in effect, saying, “What? Me? Racist? I’m not a racist! What I just did [or “my position”] isn’t racist!” They don’t recognize when they are being racist because they aren’t thinking in racial terms the way that a person of color has to because people of color are in the minority. These white folks have been so indoctrinated (I would say, raised) to accept so much of the racism that has been inherent in the society that they often think and act in ways that are blatantly racist without ever being aware of the fact that they are doing so.

    Now, that’s not to say that there aren’t a significant number of white folks who are stone-cold racists out there trying to do everything they can to get other white people to do as much to demean and harm minorities as possible. There are. No doubt about it. And, since the days when African-American slavery began (actually it goes back even further than that), these folks have done a superb job of ramping up the long-ingrained human fear of the “other” in white people to just shy of hysterical levels with regard to people of color and especially blacks (regardless of where they come from). It may come as a surprise to some people of color to learn that a lot of the behavior of white people, who are otherwise good people, that is blatantly racist or even just appears to be racist is a product of how much white people have been taught to fear black people and, as a result, are scared of people of color. If they weren’t so scared (which, of course, they will NEVER admit!),a lot of these white folks wouldn’t think or act in racist ways as they oftentimes do.

    It took a lot for my parents to get over their fear and racist indoctrination, but, once they got to know my best friend’s mother–who happened to be African-American–they came to respect her so much that, when I got married and my best friend was my best man, my parents invited his mother to sit with them at the head table with them. That shocked a lot of my relatives, but my parents and my wife and I told them that, if they didn’t like it, they didn’t have to come to the wedding. Nearly all of them came and, guess what, everyone got along and had a good time. I don’t think that people of color, especially African-Americans, realize just how much they scare the heck out of white people and how much that influences how a lot of white folks react towards them and act in dealing with them.

    One last point about having black friends: proximity and opportunity matters, but it must also be remembered that making friends is a two-way street. Growing up in a predominantly black neighborhood, most of my friends when I was younger were African-American. However, thanks to the help of a number of people, like most of those friends, I got a scholarship and went off to a predominantly white college. I still had a couple of very close friends who were African-American while I was there, but, after graduation, like my friends from the neighborhood, we ended up being scattered all over the country. I ended up having a series of debilitating health problems and ultimately lost touch with most of my friends of all races (nobody really wants to talk with someone who is just sick all of the time and I don’t really want to talk with anyone when I am really sick, either). And, before long, I no longer had any black friends–a few acquaintances, but no friends.

    Now, the neighborhood that I live in has always been mixed. But, over the years, as older white folks died or moved out, more people of color–black people from the West Indies and Africa as well as African-Americans, as well as Latinos–have moved in and the ethnic balance of my neighborhood has changed. I don’t speak Spanish, but I have actually been able to develop some friendships with my Latino neighbors; primarily some families from Mexico. But, even though I have tried, I have not been able to develop any real friendships with my black neighbors. Oh, we get along well enough to say, “Hi! How are you?”, but all of the African-Americans and West Indians that I have tried to become friends with have proven to be as uncomfortable and wary in dealing with me as I have seen many white people be in dealing with people of color. And, I have to tell you, it’s proven to be impossible for me to make friends with someone who is so uncomfortable, suspicious and wary that the person isn’t able to open up enough to begin a friendship. As a result, what could be or could have developed into friendships have remained just acquaintances. Which is just as frustrating for me as I am sure that it is for a person of color who is trying to make friends with white people who can’t get past their own discomfiture, suspicions and wariness.

    Do we live in a racist society? Yes, we do. Are there some white folks who are becoming more adamant in their efforts to cling to their notions of white supremacy and the benefits it has brought them? Yes, there are. Are there lots of white people who still think and act in ways that are anywhere from blatantly racist to just plain ignorantly oblivious? Absolutely. And, all of that is wrong and there really is no excuse for it.

    But, as someone of the “Caucasian persuasion” who has sat and listened to white people talk when there are no people of color around, I can say that things have changed and are continuing to change–even if the pace of that change is not nearly fast enough. I believe that there are a lot more white people today who are willing to accept people of color as their equals and that many of them just “need to be helped across the threshold” (they need that help because they either aren’t aware or don’t know how to cross it themselves). But, like anyone else, they are not going to be open or willing to accept the need to make the necessary changes to do that if they feel that they are being put on the defensive by charges of racism that they don’t comprehend, are unable to see the commonalities that they share with people who are different from themselves, have their fears and suspicions confirmed, or are not made to feel welcome when they do cross that threshold.

    That’s not to say that people of color have to bear all of the burden in getting them across that threshold and should not be hurt or offended when white folks do or say things that are blatantly racist–even if they are oblivious to the fact that it is racist. What it does mean is that people of color will find dealing with white folks a whole lot easier if they have a better understanding of what they are thinking (or not thinking), what they may be open to, and why they may be acting, reacting or thinking in a certain way. That understanding and knowledge can be used to shape interactions in ways that will make them a lot less tense and a lot more likely to be positive and have positive outcomes for everyone.

    Despite the loud tantrums being thrown by a substantial number of aging white men who are angry that their lives haven’t worked out the way they were promised that they would and are frightened by the fact that they feel they are losing their security blanket or favorite toy, I am optimistic that racial attitudes in the white community will continue to change for the better in terms of race. We had a revolution in race relations in the US in the 1950s, ’60s and ’70s, And, inevitably, as with all revolutions, that was followed by a counter-revolution in the ’80s, ’90s and the first half of the first decade of the 21st Century. But, if history is any guide, it tells us that counter-revolutions never succeed in fully turning back the clock and ultimately fail to stop the changes at the core of the revolution, which take root and continue to grow, more quietly perhaps, but inevitably. This counter-revolution was a powerful one, but those screams that you hear are it’s dying spasms. With the demographic changes that have taken place and that will continue over the next couple of decades, race relations in the US will continue to change and ultimately be transformed. It is impossible to transform a system of beliefs, prejudice and privilege that has been back up by the amount of power that was used to impose white supremacy in this country overnight, but it has changed, it is changing and it will continue to change until it has been transformed–and that transformation will take place in far less time than it took for that system to be built up. I believe that because history tells me that it will happen. And, you should believe it too…and do whatever you can to help it along.

  • Ethnic Food

    This article is nicely written and based on true racism. I appreciate.

  • TheOutSider

    So, if I am wearing a boardroom suit in the supermarket and some non-white person comes up talking about, “where’s the oatmeal,” would that be racist too?

  • LindsEy Barnes

    This is a joke list, and look how many people fell for it, lol.

    • TheOutSider

      …how to misconstrue things and take them out of context…

  • sssuperrr1

    Outstanding, well-written article! I like how you concluded it… with “token” (an ‘acquiantance-candidate’ nominated by skin-color [which is RACIST in-itself])… Lately it seems that the Mainstream-Media is causing young white-kids to objectify black-skin in a materialistic-manner so that they want to “show you off” to their friends like a new ‘handbag’ or something… silly white/oriental/brown-girls always trying to “one-up” each other… I am really offended when a random white girl talks to me all normal, but then tries to drop ‘her version’ of Ebonics on my black friend. Hell, if the tables were turned, and my black friend’s female-friend talked normal to him- yet only talked to me like a trailer-park redneck [specifically], then I wOULD BE OFFENDED TOO!!!
    …From the diaper-days before I knew any better, I had friends of all skin-colors; it was the paths we crossed and the coincidental-conversations we had along the way that connected me to the black friends I have. I don’t treat them like fashionable “pieces of meat” as our younger generation of spoiled-girls who live in predominately non-black neighborhoods seem to be doing. The 3 shadow-entities controlling global-information (the media-conglomerate) is playing us all for SUCKERS equally…
    …Sure, there is always that demographic of black-male enjoying the media-popularity saying “I’m just a squirrel tryin to get a nutt!” and I’m sure I will get some ‘haters’ over this comment, but those are the exact type of uneducated [yet qualified to vote] mass-breeders that you should avoid- because if you let them in, you will only spend years trying to track them down for the sake of grasping blindly into the air for some child-support with your eyes closed…

  • Thenji Maynard

    If those 3 girls on page 6 are not biological sisters, then yup, we do all look alike.

    • TheOutSider

      For the record, the three ladies in question are: Brittany, Ashley, and Courtney Henry (triplets).

  • E_Joyce

    This is clearly a cash for clicks piece, nothing more. Our perspective is the collateral damage. Black people have a PhD in the understanding of what racism is. It is the Anglo who doesn’t seem to understand the definition from my observation and experience.

  • Greg Thrasher

    Mickey Mouse hollow articles like this junk which seek to deflect and dismiss racism are racist..WTF

  • barkway

    If you are black, live in a black community, and have no white friends, are you a racist? Or Hispanic, live in a Hispanic community, go to a Hispanic church, only patronize Hispanic businesses & have no white or black friends, are you a racist?

  • blackie_chan

    First off, the author seems to be way off base on some of these claims. Black males in hoodies are looked at differently than white males in hoodies, based on the stereotype that blacks are thieves.
    The author seems to have adopted the reasonings of most in white American society.

    Some of these instances can be legitimatly called out as racist.
    And judging by many of the responses on here, seems like many whites dont know that they are racist because they themselves don’t know what racism means.

  • Angie

    I’m white as a sheet, and I get asked “Do you work here?” all the time, no matter where I’m shopping or what I’m wearing. Maybe it’s because stores are understaffed and shoppers are desperate to find a sales clerk?

  • MercedesBoy

    I will relent and acknowledge that 5-7 can be situational, BUT 1-4 is super racist af! Suggesting subjectivity is absurd. I experience at least 1 from 1-4 DAILY! I am college educated and i work with the Federal Government. Its so easy to be critical and discerning when these behaviors are not directed toward you from complete strangers on a virtually constant basis. I live in one of the 10 largest cities in the US on the Northeastern side of the country, and in the “central hub” of that city. The population is globally diverse, however almost everywhere I go, in MY neighborhood, ( I PAY to live here) I am met with either, fear, nervousness, disdain and in some cases unfettered contempt for my presence in most local shops, restaurants and even in my own building. It never matters how I am dressed, how I speak or how I present myself in anyway. Believe me I have tried it all, but no matter what i do I had to admit to myself that the color of my skin will always a social barrier in most american environments. I don’t care how strong willed you are as a person constantly being “singled out” and reacted to negatively based only on the color of your skin is frustrating and depressing. When people try to constantly tell Blacks that racism is in their heads I wish that they could experience the ubiquitous social marginalization I have experienced for most of my adult life for just 1 8hr workday, I guarantee those same people would consider moving out of the country all together. I know that not every black person experiences this but MANY do. The inconvenient truth is Racism is Real and attacking the victims of it in an effort to alleviate its social discomfort is only a temporary fix…for you, not that person.

  • mmmdot

    Who wrote this article, a self hating bootlicking Allen West/ Clarence Thomas Uncle Tom type of black person? Black people experience racism all of our lives. The first time I was called a n**ger was when I was too young to even understand that it was a racial slur. Racism isn’t often as blatant as that, racism is often displayed in microaggressions, dog whistle racism, and subtle/symbolic racism. A black person who has experienced racism all of their lives is an expert on what anti-black racism looks like and feels like and would know whether or not something is racist. They are generally not making racism up out of thin f**king air. This is a racist country that was built on racism towards black people and Native Americans, so LOT of things that happen in this society ARE racist. I am tired of people brushing racism under the rug. This article is ABSURD. Blackface is racist. Maybe the author should look up the practice complete with ridiculous painted on black skin that never looks like an accurate depiction of a black person or look up how blackface is often correlated with other racist stereotypes about black people, like entitled and racist white college kids going to “Pimps and Ho’s” Halloween parties stuffing their pants to have big butts, to understand how racist it is.

    • MercedesBoy

      Amen. Such a shame that some black people cosign opinions that undermine the existence of racism in America. The fact is that Anti Black racism is institutionalized in our country which means in most cases its invisible to everyone that is not being directly affected by it. Like I said in my earlier comment, a day in my shoes would irreversibly end the debate.

  • cstack

    I’m guilty of asking do you work here but it was purely because of the way the person was dressed and I was followed around a store by black store employees , I had to play the race card once when I was working for a company that didn’t have money in the bank the only way I could get the bank to admit it was by screaming you wont cash it because I’m black only then did they tell me there are no funds in the account . I said Oh and walked out laughing at myself .

  • Alacrity Fitzhugh

    People ask me if I work there all the time, and I don’t think they are racist, but looking for someone who works there.
    Maybe its because I’m white. Are the black people who ask me if I work there being subtle and tricky and dis-respecting me because of my skin color? No, but if I spend a lot of time wondering if they are maybe I would be a racist.
    Wow, I think that just went full circle, revelation.

  • Rob_Grant

    Using terms like “you people”, variations of “you all look alike” and being followed in the store may not be inherently racist but they are insults, and dig a little deeper you find those insults have at their root racist condescensions and prejudice. Minimize it if you want, but don’t try to get me to support it.

  • Rufus T. Firefly

    I am a white male and there are times I feel like I’m going to offend a black friend by trying to describe someone whose name I have forgotten and having to resort to “that black woman.” What’s funny is when I’m fumbling with adjectives and a black person pipes up with “you mean that black girl?” and I chuckle at myself. Thing is, if the majority of a group of people in a situation share the same characteristics (i.e. short hair), we can easily specify a person by saying “the guy with the long hair.” I’ve been in situations where the majority of folks are black and I will specify someone whose name I can’t remember as “that white guy.”

  • Man About It

    Indeed some things can get deconstructed wrongly… doesn’t mean nothing should be deconstructed. Also, while we must stand fast in the face of microaggression and other racial attack, the endgame of respect of our people shouldn’t be us becoming sacred cows that non-Blacks have to walk on eggshells around. The fulcrum of social life for all of humanity will be located someday.

  • susan

    I get asked all the time if I work at a store and I’m white. It happens in Walmart and higher-end clothiers as well. Weird.

  • June16

    My best friend is a black man and his parents and my parents consider us as kids.of their own. In My opinion i feel the onlu way to even start is to stop the segregation of themselves. What do i mean? Ex naacp, black only colleges, bet and many more the blacks want to be treated equal, but yet they are doi.g the.exact thing that is keeping them segregated. Now if a white person where to do any of these it would make world news.thats my opinion anyway and its not gonna change until we are all.treated as equals.

  • Pam_L

    I’m afraid I’m guilty of mistaking white customers for store employees on at least three occasions. I didn’t do it out of malice, I simply made an assumption because of the way they were dressed or the way they just seemed to ‘look’ like they worked there. My bad!

  • Show Me the Receipts

    I think it’s an unfortunate thing to say that we ‘confuse’ as racist. Racism is often situational just as sexual harassment can be. It’s a dynamic that can occur between particular participants and it can also be general. We are a country that strives to be pc because there is accountability for what comes from your mouth. Most people with half a brain knows when they are saying something offensive, but they’ll through what they’ve plainly stated our implied as the other person’s interpretation. That goes for any issue. It’s called game playing and some people like to throw rocks and hide their hands. My co worker is experiencing this same thing only the two parties involved are both white.

  • jussayin

    “The practice of blackface enjoyed a long and popular run in American entertainment and didn’t become taboo until late in the 20th century…”

    ummm… is she serious? or just stupid? black face wasnt taboo until late 20th century because black people by and large DIDNT HAVE A VOICE until late in the 20th century. how she misses or dismisses this glaring fact makes me question an otherwise interesting and salient article (except for the last line: what?). Even more frightening is her ignorance: white people were in blackface cuz film studios didnt want to hire black actors. black actors were thot to be too “lazy” and “stupid” to effectively contribute to a film. it was believed a studio was just throwing money away if it hired a black actor. AND in the 19th century, (white) people in blackface usually portrayed “black” people in stereotype: acting ignorant, lazy and helpless. ALL of this IS taboo by our standards now. So this “long and popular run in American entertainment” was ugly and in no way justifies blackface being used in film again. Her argument here for blackface makes no sense. THAT SAID, the way it was used in Tropic Thunder, while uncomfortable (at least for me), was freakin hysterical and it was more of a comment on how simple, untalented and ever so slightly racist Robert Downey Jr’s CHARACTER was (and it was a comment on modern day celebrity). so in this case, yeah the blackface was actually funny. but a resurgence of blackface wud be in incredibly poor, ignorant and insensitive taste.

    • mmmdot

      Thank you! The moron who wrote this is an idiot who doesn’t eve know what she’s talking about.

  • L

    I’m white, and I can’t tell you how many times I have been mistaken for a retail employee out on the floor. It’s not about race, but about lazy people who need help, and need help NOW.

  • HighInformationVoter

    This whole website is gutter crap. Ignorant sludge spewed from the strained pecking of a keyboard.

  • mopremtech

    sometimes people will jump to the wrong conclusions, I was accused of being racist because I was always arguing with one of my co-workers who was african-american and i am a white man with a shaved head. My friend had to come over and explain to the supervisor the fact that the reason we were always picking at each other was because he was a big KU fan and I was a Big Mizzou fan.

  • Anubii

    This article is TRASH.

    • brainwashed777

      how so? would you rather just assume all white people are racists? because that would be racist (but of course most people have been brainwashed into thinking only whites can be racist anyway)

    • TheOutSider

      …is that a self-projection?

  • Brambles

    Man, the more I read about black folk’s hypersensitivity to anything of race, I’m glad I’m a man of pallor. What a nightmare to even think you have to think that way!

  • Shade Palette

    So well said, dryly humorous, and mature! I get mistaken for “the help” every time I go to garden centers or hardware stores. I’ve always viewed that as a sign that other shoppers were looking for help and a clerk. It never once diminished, say, my Ivy League Ph.D or my “self esteem.”

    If I could contribute one thing to all this discussion about “racism,” it would be that most people mistake childish tantrums for actual grievances in all sorts of ways. Some play that card because nothing is more powerful than a screaming child, mugging everyone with hyper emotion. There are times I want to yell OH JUST GROW UP at people dragging out their practiced litanies of bodice-heaving emotion.

    Most “black” people I know are professionals, and whatever biases we have are not at issue. Cooperating to get work/projects done is at issue, and we focus on that. Same with most “white” people I know. My respect is earned, not granted without reason. I’m happy to have my biases and limits reflected to me, but I want it in calm, adult terms. Not shrieking and threats.

    There are few people in the US whose parents/ancestors DIDN’T come here out of slavery–from black Africans to Irish Christians to the slaves of corsair raiders to those owned by the lordly or priestly classes in the form of tenant farming or forced conscription or periodic genocide. America is a place of freedom, but for some reason the Baby Boomers hated that and hated admitting it. We have changed for the better as a nation. But to be free means to take responsibility and to stop acting like children competing for the attention of the powerful.

    And last I checked, my ancestors, white and black, fought to free black slaves in the US and make the institution illegal. When do we start celebrating that? It’s unprecedented in the history of the world. The value of a man or woman is the ability to ignore stupidity and get the job done anyway, and build a personhood out of even the most unpromising material. Of course in my view “white supremacy” and black hypersensitivity is just billionaires’ way of keeping the little people fighting with each other and disorganized.

    • brainwashed777

      best comment here 🙂

    • WhatUp

      No one cares about your Ph.D.

  • Mark

    Great. Every time I make a new friend who happens to be black, he’s going to wonder if he’s a “token”? Do I need to provide a portfolio to show he’s not the only one?

  • Frank Allen

    I am a white person who lived in an all black neighborhood and worked with many black people during my career. Now that I’m retired and living elsewhere, I miss my black friends and neighbors, and still call them my “brothers”. I always judged a man by his character, not his color, as Dr. King once said. I knew good black people, and I knew bad black people. The same can be said of the whites I have known. People are people. I very much appreciate your candid approach to the subject of “mistaken racism.” We all need to tone down the defensiveness and get on with life.

  • Kikou-shou

    I like this. Don’t know if I’ll ever be able to put it into practice, ireland has too few black folk at the moment, though in a generation or two there should be a sharp increase in population due to recent immagration. I imagine my only issue would be that I know alot about african american history, not so much about english black people, but knowledge of my people’s history wouldn’t be recipricated. Who ever remember’s the irish slaves carted to the plantations? Hell, I wouldnt have the rights i have now if it weren’t for american civil rights directly influencing the irish civil rights protests in the sixties.

  • This Article is very shortsighted and not very deep at all, first of all, its title is absolute, it doesn’t even say some black people, it says black people are confused, inferring we are not smart enough to discern what is racist. Our plight is not respected in this country, we KNOW people are racist, but yet NO one is racist as articles like this and everyone that carries the white man’s burden will have you believe. A lot of folks get impatient and intolerant of our plight. As a result we get lousy articles like this to satiate racists that don’t even realize they’re racist, NOT having a black friend may not not be entirely racist, but it very much leads to racism, the more you allow yourself to not know, in this case a black person for yourself, what are you left with? What your parents and other people have told you, and the media’s representation of us, which often teaches fear, so then not only are you ignorant about black people, you’re afraid of us and stuff like the way Trayvon martin died occurs. Because of what happened in the past a lot of us are traumatized, especially when we know we don’t get the same treatment as others in this country (Which is a reoccurring theme in the U.S.), we’re a target, especially young males, and sometimes yes, we do confuse what’s racist, but what one-sided article like this one intimates that we over-exaggerate, trust me we don’t. What everyone needs in situations like this simply is understanding, which is hard to come by, instead of being upset or frustrated to the point where you feel you can’t even talk to a black person, try to understand what they’re upset about, then do that for every other group that has a logical plight and strife

  • Lucy

    Was this written by a white woman? Or is it someone who’s just tired of standing outside of the club?

  • Katie Mae

    I’m a blonde, white, young-looking 30-year-old. I get asked inadvertently for help in stores (maybe because younger people tend to be store clerks) and I am followed/watched while in stores often (Maybe because younger people tend to cause trouble and they don’t always realize I’m a full-on adult). So it definitely isn’t always racism… usually it is just generic prejudice. Interesting, funny article nonetheless.

    Also, all blonde, white chicks look alike. Fact.

  • imperializm

    white ppl are just the same Dumb to the worlds true facts and sensitive when u speak highly of black people and black history.

  • Common Sense

    There is something I don’t understand… how come it is OK for black people to be ‘proud’ to be black, but if a white person is proud to be white, it’s racism? How come black people get to have their own TV stations (BET, etc) and groups, but whites and others cannot? If there was a ‘White Entertainment Channel’ you know there would be hell to pay.

    The truth is, most black people you see on TV can proclaim to the world that they are proud of their heritage and skin color, but white people of various nationalities cannot. Black people routinely segregate themselves with various clubs, groups, etc. It’s OK to be part of a Black group, but if you are part of a White group, it’s considered hatred.

    When will some of you guys realize that it’s YOU who are segregating yourselves and propagating the ridiculous stereotypes? Personally, I don’t pay attention to skin color. But it’s gotten to the point where people can’t say anything negative to certain races without it being considered racist. WAKE UP PEOPLE, THOSE WHO CRY ‘RACISM’ THE LOUDEST ARE USUALLY THE MOST RACIST THEMSELVES.

    • diracproject

      Your comment is not actually nuanced or bringing about any particular revelations, it’s just shouting, “Nuh-uh! You!” That’s not very helpful to the points you try to make, you would end up putting the recipient on the defensive. I’m dispassionate about this, so I’ll try to respond fairly.

      1) The reason there isn’t a “white entertainment channel” is because white is still the standard. Let’s try word association. All-American. Golden boy. Girl next door. There was probably not a single person of color whose imagery came to mind with those words. That doesn’t make you racist, but it does serve an example that these “pride” markets are not just about pride… they’re niche markets. Plenty of African-Americans don’t watch BET, you can evidence that just from the ratings numbers. A channel like that appeals to a specific subset of the “black community.” And whatever, they can have their channel if they want. And if you really want a white entertainment channel, you can lobby for that anyway, although you’d have a hard sell if solely from a statistical standpoint: by far, the vast majority of faces on TV are white. What market is there to appeal to, at that point? What viewership base are they going to peel off from existing networks?

      2) Be proud to be white if you want to be proud. Just be able to articulate what about being white makes you proud, and note that a number of people who are most vocal about being “proud to be white” are being proud as a way of voicing notions of racial superlatives. I reject any “pride” arguments, from any person no matter who they are, in which they voice pride in themselves because their racial identity in some way makes them better than someone else. As long as you’re not going that route, have all the pride parades you want.

      3) Since when can whites not be proud of their heritage? I’ve worked for people of Irish and Italian and German and Swedish and regular small-town North Carolinian heritage who were all proud of where they came from, and none of my coworkers of color gave them any flak for it. If the people near you are giving you problems about it, again, if you’re not saying that being white makes you better than them (ie, begging for an argument) then those people don’t speak for all people of color everywhere and are in fact simply jerks. If you were looking for some validation on that, there you go.

      4) Whites segregate themselves all the time. They just don’t think about it because, as I said, they’re the majority, so they don’t think about it. It’s just the way things are, for them. It doesn’t have to be intentional segregation to be segregation nonetheless, but then segregation always happens in a variety of contexts. When I market a product to women, I’m segregating them from the male purchasing population. It’s not that I hate men or am trying to make a statement about patriarchal attitudes over the years, that’s just the business that I run. But if men want to buy it, then I sell it to them to. Simple. Not malicious segregation. If I were to say, no, you can’t buy this because men are bad and unclean and I don’t want your hairy hands on my shelves then yes, that’s malicious segregation.

      5) And white segregation, when it happens, can be harmful. I’ve had to advise my managers about this when HR for my workplace, run by a white lady, said that they’d received complaints about not giving a fair shot to blacks to apply for jobs. I know, personally, that those managers aren’t racist, however I had to explain to them that they had to use the right processes because the way they were giving people jobs was that somebody came up to them on the street while they were just on their off-hours and recommended someone and they got the job that way. Nothing wrong with that, it’s not nepotism if you’re qualified for the job, but they inadvertently cut out people of color from their hiring simply because when they were at home in their neighborhoods, they only had white neighbors so only those whites were telling them about other whites they knew who needed jobs. So it was their own segregation that ended up disadvantaging people of color who would have applied for open positions if they had a fair shot at applying for a job, but they didn’t know the positions were open. That’s a far different case than a club mainly frequented by blacks or Latinos because they’re situated in neighborhoods with high proportional populations of those ethnicities, because even at those clubs if you’re a white guy but respectable and pay your door fee they don’t care who you are and will still let you in. They don’t advertise to you, but you have the same capacity to walk through the door as anybody else. If you choose not to go to those places (which aren’t hard to find) then you’re agreeing with and helping to enforce segregation and taking it beyond simple niche marketing.

      6) Those who cry racism may or may not be racists. It’s an issue of context. You look foolish making a blanket statement like that.

      You likely weren’t hoping for a conversation, though, and you wrote your thoughts nearly two weeks before I put down my reply so I don’t expect any conversation to come of this. Whatever you’re doing with your time, have a good day, and if you’re glad to be white then be happy with that. I mean, being white in America is still a pretty sweet deal, no matter what anyone says.

  • I think context is everything and it is shameful to give people a blanket pass for some of those behaviors.

  • the civil war was not a war for slavery, it was a war on retaining “the union”. Iincoln did not free the slaves til the war was in full swing. I dont believe we should get reparations, but i still believe racism goes on today i.e trayvon martin, ad rodney king. whens the last time u heard about a “white man” gettin beat half to death by police……………..

    • Travis M.

      when is the last time you heard about a white man attacking a cop, trying to take his weapon away or not doing what he was told to do? If blacks would stop fighting and running, be polite and do what you’re told when stopped by LE, then most of this crap wouldn’t even happen. It is your own actions that get you hurt or killed. It is no secret that blacks commit more crime in North America than any other race, the police know it. They also know that blacks have a habit of becoming violent. So put yourself in the officer’s shoes and quit defending a race that hasn’t done a damn thing to improve and constantly puts the blame on others for his/her actions.

  • Describing someone as “black”, I will say right now is a SERIOUS misunderstanding. I always wonder why when a white person is talking about a black person, they stop…stutter…and go, “you know…the…uh….african-american man”. OH GOD. I dont think white ppl know they make that weird. hahaha. I NEVER got offended when someone said “the black guy/girl”. What makes if offensive is when you are just being so obviously uncomfortable and scared that something craaaazy is going to happen once you utter the words. Almost the way someone sounds when they are talking about the “fat” person. You tiptoe around it because calling someone fat may sound offensive. And calling someone their race, its just not the same thing. THATS what that one is about.

    • susan

      It’s probably due to the sensitivity training that is beat into every white person. Seriously.

  • ok that face paint one was hilarious. Unfortunately, some of us are still fighting the wars of our fathers. But I dont get offended by face paint, are u kidding me? I wasnt even thought of when black face was…being done or whatever. I think for the older generation, this is a button.

  • Minpreet Singh

    Blackface is racist. And it was a racist form of entertainment lol…this whole article is like an intentional jab; not to mention, the other racist articles on here. Who wrote this?! Anyone can make a site these days.

  • This article isn’t funny to me. These girls are clearly related that’s why they look alike. Clearly someone who is beige wrote this!

  • Jeff

    I love how the examples the author uses at the end of the first couple instances are “like when a white person….” That is racist, everyone can be racist not just white people.

  • Being white with no black friends is not, in and of itself, racist. It does however contribute to a lack of cultural awareness and ignorance regarding race relations.

  • I really feel that these phrases have very potent racial messages, depending on who is saying them and in what tone of voice. White people will never get it.

  • university girl

    I dont agree with this article because some of the things on here Definitely describe people who are at least discriminative. “everyone looks the same?” That is a very vague statement which is not true at all.

  • MonsieurOberkampf

    Every single misfortune or shortcoming black people suffer, they blame it on white people. This is a global, or at least a western phenomena. And while they say the suffer under “white supremacy”, and state that white people are “devils”, “racists” and so on (the slavery argument is also frequent), they ignore the fact that they themselves are the biggest racists of them all by generalizing a hole race. I believe it to be for the best if all different races could live separated from each other, on friendly terms. And I also want to point out that the term human is not a “race”, but a species, with all the sub races.

  • fiz

    MAGNIFICENT…..I have observed and proclaiming these same kinds of things for a long time. Thanks for speaking up with sense and sensibility in this world of anger and finger-pointing!

  • thetruthisthetruth

    This has to be the most (In my humble yet very blunt opinion) retarded article I have ever read. If all your friends look like you, YOU ARE racist. Oh that’s the new girl Sharon she’s so great she should hang out with us! Oh that’s Kendra, she’s new too, but we won’t ask her to hang out cause she’s like, you know (black) and even though she’s smart and pretty you never know, her wild blackness might come raging through! Not having a wide circle of friends shows that you fear the unknown. POINT, BLANK.

    Black face has ties in racism! Because they would not hire blacks to play black people! How retarded of you. And this is a black person writing this?

    When all races are behind closed doors, they ALL say things. White people just get off by making ethnic jokes. Just look at the Hangover, American Pie. This is just how they are. It really gives them a doosy, lol. Most other nonblack races of color (light skin like puerto ricans or asians but not caucasian usually wish they were white (eyelid surgery much?) and will avoid other nonwhites to fit in more, I have seen this ssoooo many times. People have no ethnic pride.

    Black people want to get over race, really, but they make it soo impossible. When they give us dirty looks you can almost hear their thoughts out loud (oh is this one of the ghetto attitude ones?) Like WTF should blacks just walk on egg-shells everyday because of their fear and pretentiousness? It’s truly disgusting. Don’t get me started. Just go to the East Village or some similar place, their whole culture is one of “I’m better than you, like I have money, like I’m totally white and just like I’m the best, like totallly!!!!” They will NEVER change, I just don’t worry about it. Why try to force yourself on people who act so disgusting, why not just chill with people who are like yourself. Not to mention the way their men obsess over anal, they are just too damn much! And everything is “ethinic” to them. Your ethnic, you’re from Europe you don’t belong here, WTF!

    • radbn

      yes! you are on the mark completely.

      This part you wrote the most…..

      “They will NEVER change, I just don’t worry about it. Why try to force yourself on people who act so disgusting,……” Thank you!

      The author of this article must have gotten a raise, dating a Caucasian, kissing some Caucasian backside, or is just on something all together and not fully exposed with experience to everyday blacks. Perhaps they are phishing for info on how a blacks will react to such an untruthful article. I don’t know their true motive behind this article but it’s pretty crummy and poor.

      thanks again! good day.

  • Elle

    I live in San Jose, CA. I moved here from Ohio, Athens, Ohio. in San Jose or Santa Clara county, to see more than one African American on any day is rare. this area is similar to The Jim crow era accept The people are Indian, Mexican and Asian, oh I forgot that causasian/white people are The minority here. Just a week ago I went to look at a condo owned by an Indian family and in less than 24 hrs. I was told it was unavailable. Indians are stuck in The caste system and they tend to bring their racist ways to.The US when most of them are as dark as me or darker. I’m not saying all Indians but in this area they have power and they ar e racists even to The poingt where my daughter has been discriminated against at her school just because she’s “black”.

  • IanSane

    Thank you so much for that article it was very refreshing. Being a caucasion male I often find myself stuttering when someone asks me to describe someone I met without being able to use color…”You know, um that uh tall guy I met last night.” Its SO much easier to say “the black guy” or “asian guy” and if it there was a nice white young man you met in a group of your black friends it would just make sense to say “that white guy” because EVERYONE instantly knows who you mean. You don’t have to spend 5 minutes stuttering about their sideburns. I am no stranger to racism myself, being Native American AND Jewish its just a lot easier for me to sneak around without folks noticing 😉 As a lark my wife even bought me a yarmulke and put a feather in it for me:)

  • Sarah Leiderman

    This is the most load of bull ever. White guy wearing a hoodie, black guy wearing a hoodie big difference. And crime agains african americans pulling things out of pockets or wearing hoodies by police and “pseudo police” is exact representation of this.. To be honest you have to credentials after this article. Lost it all, completely insensitive and poorly informed.

  • Xmas

    “Doesn’t have not a single black friend” is not proper grammar. That’s a double negative.

  • Zabeus

    That was interesting. Funny to see so many oversensitive people attacking you for bringing these things up. To me that proves your point.
    I wanted to make one correction about the “you all look alike” point. Human facial recognition/discrimination is actually based around identifying key differences from a generic model, usually the type of people you’re around the most. Our brains store generic models for all the “other” races outside your group, and when we see someone that fits that image, we key it to the general model and remember that over the actual face. So actually, until you’ve been around people from one ethnic group for a while, they really do “all look alike.”

  • sbr

    Felt so bad for kid on tosh.0 assigned MLKjr and told to dress and act the part in school presentation who came to school in black face and got thrown out. That’s some B.S. that kid was proud to represent MLK and had no idea that facepaint was racist cuz children aren’t born that way! Racism exists but it doesn’t exist in the innocent not until the adults plant the seed.

  • Wow! Be suspicious if a white person doesn’t have any black friends but also be suspicious if a white person tries to befriend you? That doesn’t sound confusing, ignorant or racist or anything lol

  • I maybe reverse rascist because when I saw this movie and Downey was portraying what he thought a black man acted like, I laughed

  • You guys give me legitimate hope that this stupid racist stuff will end. I just came from a website where they said whites are demons, and we hate blacks because we’re genetically inferior. And that was somehow not racist people were applauding and agreeing… I was like dafuq?

  • MeanDarkPairOfShades

    I also feel the need to say stop insulting our African ancestors by playing the slave card. Just because a pig headed cop pulled you over because you were going one mile above the speed limit DOES NOT CANNOT compaire to our Ancestors being whipped and chained and sold like cargo. Just because the chinaman followed you around because you were picking up some cheese doodlez DOES NOT CANNOT compaire to the civil rights activists being hanged and burned and dehumanized. Blacks in the Americans in the 1800s would have LOVED to for their problems to be consisted of being described as Black and some arse insulting their hair and then that person getting fired. It beats being dragged and raped and impregnated against your will anyday. Count your blessings and move toward the change you would like to see.
    I also feel the need to mention: Whites weren’t the first and only to own slaves. Before bashing The Man crack open a history book and see that Africa, Asia, Europe etc has been plagued by this for thousands of years.

  • MeanDarkPairOfShades

    You know what sucks the most? When Black people allow gangbangers to be idolized and the intellgent, going-somewhere-type is ridculed for “acting white” or even worse killed (usually after graduating high school) When b ballers who have forgotten about “their people” get supported by “the people” When rappers like Lil Wayne takes a dump on Black women with his music, yet we go to his concerts. Dancing to music that calls us tricks and hos and YET if anyone else did this it would be racist and taboo. Don Imus said “…nappy headed hos” and everyone’s jaw dropped but its okay to bully and harass a little girl because her hair isn’T “permed”
    But worse is when we see other Black people we look each other up and down ready to make negative comments. We only band together when The Man does the same thing we’re doing. White ,Black, or Martian double standards are GROSS
    stop blaming The Men and start uplifting ourselves.

  • bob

    Black people are the biggest racist there are. Anyone who says thats racist to something that isn’t is a racist which is why they see racism everywhere.

  • McHale

    I like how it ends on a racist note and discounts the entire article….lol

    “But be on the lookout. The moment you discover an acquaintance doesn’t have any black friends may mean you’re being recruited as the “token.” ”

    I’m sure nobody else caught that. It is yo fault for being over-sensitive. You being sensitive is just nailing the coffin shut on you being an over-sensitive little kid mentality small minded b*&%$#@. Grow up and treat people the way you want to be treated and quit making up imagined offenses everytime a white person opens their mouth.

    It’s called being an adult. And what’s up with having to be taken care of? Doesn’t anyone understand the concept of hard work and a MILLIONAIRE MINDSET. You want to stop being stepped on, stop getting treated unfairly? ITS CALLED LIFE! IT’S A B***H FOR EVERYONE! NOT JUST BLACK PEOPLE HAVE TO DEAL WITH STUPID SH*T. Everyone is on the same rock called earth and the best way to make things better is to start with the “man in the mirror”!

    Somebody will complain about my post. I welcome it and it only proves my point.
    I’m gonna go cry in a corner now and take out my misguided anger on whoever gets in my way because I have no real direction and it’s all my family’s fault… oh, and everyone elses fault.
    “if they hadnt of done that to me…” Whine whine comlpain complain.

  • booyah!

    ok, so i may be digressing, but along with agreeing with gat turner, i HATE when people use the phrase “race card.” it’s as if it’s a game, not to be taken seriously when someone is actually being racist or racially prejudice. people try to take it lightly and even minorities call it the “race card, when the situation is actually or possibly racially motivated. how do you all feel?”

  • C_wade_2007

    I’m of irish decent. My ancestors enslaved no one, but because I am white, I have been attacked by black people and called racist simply because I am white. Does this not make those black people racist? Also, considering how the irish were treated when they first came to America, shouldn’t I be allowed to yell racism whenever someone talks about the irish? If I disagree with one of Obama’s policies, am I racist even though I voted for the man? Why are black people, who aren’t even related to an ancestor who was enslaved yelling racism? Why are black people yelling racism period? They weren’t enslaved. I’m not sorry for what happened because I didn’t do anything. My ancestors did nothing. I am empathetic, but not apologetic.

    If anyone has the right to call racism, it’s Indians and Jews. Jewish people spent not hundreds of years, but thousands of years being persecuted, killed, and exiled. Just look at WW2 (or whats going on now in the middle-east), which happened more recently than black slavery.

    Why are we even still taking about racism? We are trying so hard to integrate our society and to overcome such barbarism, yet some people can’t let it go. I don’t understand any of this hatred or where it comes from. My best friend, who is black, even asked me why black people continue to bring the subject up. And no we shouldn’t forget, but we should move forward. The jewish people have as have many other ethnicity’s. 

    Also, to the blacks and whites who call the Jewish people white, you are some of the most ignorant people I have ever had the displeasure of knowing.

    • susan

      You had me until you started talking about the Jews.

  • Pamelaowe

    This person who wrote this–how do you know what these particular white people are thinking in each scenario?

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  • White but not stupid

    Funny though how being seen as “dressed for the part” for shoplifting involves clothing that is generally associated with young black people. Sounds pretty racist to me. 

  • Glyde_iv

    I like the one where you mention its easy to shoplift in a business suit. It reminded me when I would shoplift as a teen. I was what you would call a ‘goth’ , & its true store clerks look at how you’re dressed to gauge whether you’re likely to steal or not. I’m white, but everytime I went in a store in my goth get-up, I’d get followed. So, anytime I planned on stealing, I would dress up in really conservative churchy clothes. Never got caught. And no, I don’t steal now. It took me awhile, but I eventually grew up.

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  • LetsBrealHereOk?

    Ok, I feel you, but you went way off course with the “followed in a convenience store” bit.  Just because you’ve tested how much a person can shoplift while wearing a business suit doesn’t mean that the security “covertly” following you through every aisle has seen a person in a business shoplifting enough to suspect folks wearing business suits must be going in there to steal.  So please, miss me wit dat! If the muthabutta is following you around, and you happen to be Black, then you being followed cause you Black foo!

    • Camohmila9

      Is there any room here for people to begin to trust each other? 

  • I think people continuously mistake being prejudice with being a racist. Most people prejudge others for MANY DIFFERENT REASONS. It’s the nature of man. But hating an entire race of people based on these pre judgements is the RACISM!! 

  • Breeeachbanks

    I’m guilty to thinking some of these

  • Hey &^%$#(, have you walked in my shoes?? I hate it when someone says what ia and isn’t racism! )*t%!

  • Downwit’theswirl

    um…. alot of you sound racist judge people for how they act there are too many black folks AND white folks in a rush to fit their stereotypes. As we all know stupidity comes in all shades 😉

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  • Hurt

    You are comparing apples to oranges on the last post. By the way they all scream racism are you really defending this action? smh 

  • I agree with you DANIELB113.

  • Danielb113

    Everyone has a right to express or speak up when they feel that they are being discriminated because of their race, creed, or sexuality or anything else that might make them stand out from the rest of the crowd.

  • Marineslj

    I’m happy about this article! 
    As a white person I always have to pay attention to what I’m saying around some black people, because they might get offended when actually don’t mean anything racist and it’s really tiring. 
    I just like it when i can be with a black friend and call him a “negro” or something like that and we’ll both laugh about it… Just as I wouldn’t be offended when he says white people can’t dance/rap etc, it’s just funny…

    • I don’t usually like making race jokes with friends because it can get a little scary. Granted 99.9% of my friends are African from America or African from the Caribbean. Again, I have had non black friends and I just didn’t like bringing up race. It felt weird. 

  • Karrols

    A little confused about why everyone is negative, and no one actually refers to anything about the article.  I’ve got to say that the slide “everyone looks alike” is true by culture.  I live in Asia (I’m white) and frankly, all the asian people looked alike when I got here.  After a while I started to see the different features.  Also, my friend here today (asian) said “all black people look alike” I wasn’t offended because in Asia, there aren’t a lot of black/ african american people, so it’s hard for her to differentiate.  Sometimes people don’t word things right.  I think there’s some kind of face/eye recognition to this race issue.  Also, the most racist people I’ve met in my life have been people of different races other than white (note, I said most racist, clearly I know some white people who are racist)

  • guest.123

    Your theory needs a little work. You clearly haven’t been on the receiving end, and the defense mechanism just doesn’t cut it

  • Mdw1

    What’s interesting here is that the assumption is that most, if not all, white people are inherently racist. Could this not also be said of black people? Many movies and TV shows routinely have black people joking about “white folks” as honkies, crackers, etc. without anyone batting an eye. The most virulent racism I’ve seen has been displayed between blacks and Hispanics.

    Only when racism is seen as a cruel human flaw, not the sole possession of any one particular race, will it ever be relegated to the ash heap of history.

  • Nomadinexile

    I can’t believe that a: there are still so many racists in the world. b. That black people are so sensitive too it. c. That “reverse racism” is so acceptable in so many black communities. d. That you all don’t see the new oppressed group in America, the homeless. I promise you all as a currently homeless man who travels the united states, no one group is as oppressed or harrassed as much as the homeless. I’m more of a traveller, not a bum, and often carry thousands and thousands of dollars in camping gear, clothes, and money. But I almost every ugly, old, poor, overweight black woman who passes me in her $40 dollar outfit glares at me, crosses the road, grabs her salvation army purse tight, and overall acts like i’ve escaped from death row. How’s that for some ism? Racism? Please! Today it beats the heck out of carrying a large (and expensive) camping backpack!

    • The reason why you are full of ISH ALSO, I’m am sure if you look as grungy as you say, people of other races are looking at you in the same light. YOU’RE JUST USING this as an excuse to disrespect black people. AND THAT’S ACTUALLY KIND OF SAD. A quick question, Mr. THOUSANDS & THOUSANDS, How much of it have you contributed to your ‘CAUSE’?? Just curious. Cause as I said before, I know that what you are saying is a lot of BS, & YOU KNOW IT. You don’t like blacks, hey who cares. BUT THEY AREN’T the only ones turning their noses up at homeless people, or those PRETENDING TO BE!! I’ve seen it in the streets of DC AND MORE!! And some of ‘YOUR PEOPLE’ that are clearly not living lavishly, still feel the need to look with disgust. STOP ACTING LIKE YOU DON’T KNOW IT, If you are truly traveling, as you call it….. BECAUSE YOU KNOW YOU AREN’T JUST GETTING shunned by BLACK FOLKS. YOU ARE FULL OF $%^T!!!

  • Pete

    When someone is use the phrase “You People” is racist because you generalizating that all black people are alike now thats not confusing

  • shamaymay

    Ive had a couple experiences where I was accused of being racist, one was; I got a job at a hotel restaurant in the kitchen and a black guy was training me to work room service. As the orders came in, I ran around trying to get all the orders done at once. The guy told me to relax and slow down. He said, ‘take your time, they get it when they get it’. I told him I was trying to be effecient and put out hot food and good service. He immedieatly went into a rant making comments like, ‘oh so Im lazy becasue Im black?’ Seriously, all I said was I was trying to be effecient. It basicly ended with him making awful, racist references about blacks, that he said I might be thinking. He had no idea who I was or where I came from. When I was a little kid, I wanted to BE black! I was raised in a very diverse neighborhood and I was envious of the black girls. They could do the most fun things with their hair; big poofy, twisted ponytails-at least 4 or 5 on their head with colorful barrets and beads. My hair was always so stringy and straight (Im white) and I love the fact that black people always have some color to their skin, I get very pale and sickly looking in the winter and as I am aging, I get wrinkles. My old neighborhood girlfriend’s skin looks so nice, they say ‘black dont crack’, I believe its true. I also believe some people look for something to argue about. If you have no cause to fight for, you might fight your friend, just to fight.

  • Danmeman

    talk about racist point of view ???BUT BE ON THE LOOKOUT, LOL ROF Doesnt that mean view everything through shaded eyes ya dont wanna be a TOKEN?  I think it would be more appropriate to say “be on the lookout for good people to spend time with.” The article left me thinking the author is RACIST –exactly the opposite of what the article was supposed to be about. ugly ugly words

    • Frommie3129

      That was a weird statement wasnt it.

      How about this. MOST people are good at heart and dont have a racist bone in their body.

      Maybe we should all try to understand each other. For me personally, I dont like people who are ridiculous or have zero character…regardless of race, creed or color.

      If they dont understand, I help them with a subject they dont know, but I give them the benefit of the doubt first.

      I have black friends, as I do asian, hispanic etc. A person is a person…its whats in their heart that makes them special.

  • Maxiem42

    All the disrespectful comments towards President Obama and family are sweet beautiful compliments…yeah right

    • Frommie

      Oh I forgot, he is the first pres to get insulted.

      Get over yourself

      Politics is politics.

      I bet you were in line calling other presidents and their families names….hypocrisy is one of the worst things Americans possess

  • chair keith a dewey

    I learned in Social-psych (a natural part of the species) that it is more difficult for one race (black and asian included) to distinguish individual features of another race. So, “they all look alike to me” more than likely is what is and not a slam.

  • Erayana

    As I see There is only one race the Human Race

  • WBC

    Just about everything a white person says or does will be taken as racist by some black people – including this post.  Most white people will not speak with a black person on the subject because it isn’t worth the effort.  And if he tries it once he won’t do it a second time.  As a result, the national conversation on race that the leftists are always demanding is merely a monologue conducted by the likes of Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton and studiously ignored by anyone with an ounce of intelligence.

  • Kmacnme

    Scanned some of the comments. It never fails. A discussion about race, even of a light-hearted nature, leads to an explosive argument. Especially online. The evil mark that slavery left on this country is heartbreaking.

  • Kmacnme

    I agree with this list 100%. Great post!

  • MissAnnThrope

    I’m a middle aged white woman, who happens to be just under 5′ tall.  So in the supermarket, if you happen to pass by and you’re at least 5’5″, I don’t care what color you are.  I am going to ask you to help me reach something on the top shelf, whether you work there or not.  The entire, “Excuse me, but do you work here?” has happened to me.  It happens to a lot of people.  If you’re a woman who isn’t carrying a purse, you’re dressed a certain way and say it’s winter and you’re not wearing a coat, yes, people are going to think you work there.  You aren’t wearing the uniform of the shopper.  That said, I used to work for a major department store in a mall.  While on lunch or after work, if I was in another store and I was still wearing my name tag, people would expect me to help them in those stores too.  Nothing racist about it, more like the stupidity of people who look down upon those who work in any form of the service industry.  Which is more class warfare than anything else.

    The “you people” thing.  I was raised in New Jersey.  I’m more likely to use the phrase, “you guys.”  I also lived in Oklahoma for a few years.  So the phrase, “what is wrong with you people?” came out of my mouth a LOT during those years.  Mostly directed at friends of my roommate. 

    Being followed by security?  Trust me, I look usually respectable, but it happens to me quite often.  Especially when finances force me to shop in the Beast of Bentonville, um, I mean Wal*Mart.  I don’t shoplift, I don’t think I’ve ever shop lifted.  But somehow, I give off a vibe that makes security guards suspicious.  To the point of not wanting even a brand new Carmex bought elsewhere in my purse, lest I end up being escorted to security and searched. 

    Describing people by their skin color?  It can be a way to cut down the list of candidates.  I currently live in Southern New Mexico, in a town where chances when trying to jog someone’s memory, you will describe a person as either Mexican or Anglo.  The Mexican and white population is about 55/45 here.  Black people are in the vast minority.  In a town of just under 90,000, there are about 2,000 black people.  After I was here a month, my roommate accused me of being racist, because I asked, “aren’t there any black people in this town?”  It wasn’t a question asked out of racism.  It was a question I asked because I considered it odd that I hadn’t seen anyone black at that point and this isn’t just a college town, it’s the town where the state university is located.  It’s also occurred to me that the only time I see Asians is if I go to an Asian restaurant.  To be honest, I find the lack of black and Asian people around here to be a bit creepy.  But getting back on point, to say to someone, “remember thus and so?  The black guy?” in a town like this, chances are that person is the only black person they’ve met in the last month or two.  Which of course, is why the vast majority in this town don’t have black friends either.  At least, not anyone who is local.

    All that said, I have to say, when I was in Tulsa, Oklahoma, I’ve never witnessed such blatant racism.  It was like stepping back into the 1950s.  When President Obama was elected, the gun owners of Oklahoma forced the price of ammunition through the roof.  They were all afraid that the blacks were going to get all “uppity” and not know their place now that there was a black president.  I spent a lot of time asking white people, “what is wrong with you people?” and also, “were you dropped on your head as a baby?”  It was like the wild west met Ozzie and Harriet.  It was surreal and if any white people had black friends, they were considered, “white trash.”  It didn’t matter if the black person was one of the leading business people in town and highly respected and up for election to a high post in the NRA.  The white people in Oklahoma are scary and they all pretend to be Christians.  Which made it great fun to point out to them that Jesus probably had swarthy skin.  I think I caused a few minor strokes in people pointing that out.

    These days, I get to listen to transplants who have decided to retire here for the cheap housing and the weather go on about “f’ing Mexicans.”  It’s fun to point out to them the last Anglo sheriff in this town was Pat Garrett and what part of New MEXICO don’t you get?  These oldsters need to turn off Faux News, er, I mean Fox News and learn a bit of history.  But sadly, as long as Faux News and Rush Limbaugh and Michael Savage and others like that are given a platform to appeal to the lowest common denominator, it won’t matter that some of the people they complain about have roots in this state that go back to before the pilgrims landed in New England.  They will be intruders who need to be sent back.  Chances are if you’re a black person around here, the white racists are going to see you as a “real American” and try to enlist your help to build a wall to keep the Mexicans out.  Lovely, isn’t it?

    • Frommie

      Well I agreed with everything you said and enjoyed it…until you pointed out ONE news station.

      The only one that has a conservative viewpoint.
      So what you are saying is the FOX incited racism? Really?

      Now I really wonder who has injustices built in to their personality??!?!?

      If you had been fair about it and named OTHER groups…oh say…The Jewish Defense League, Black Panthers, ACLU, etc…I would have thought you being FAIR.

      But in the end, you showed your skewed thoughts.


      • MissAnnThrope

        Frommie, what is the news station that started the furor over the Mosque in downtown NYC that is NOT at Ground Zero, but blocks away?  What is the news station that calls people building a wall patriots?  What is the news station that preaches zenophobia?

        Now, I know most of you Faux News viewers are out of touch by a few decades.  So I have to point out, the Black Panthers ceased to be in 1982.  The JDL is considered a right wing hate group by the FBI, it is NOT on the left.  The only places I can find anyone calling the ACLU a hate group are links to various Tea Party sites,  Ann Coulter quotes, including her saying it to Bilbo on Faux News, the Stormwatch message board and we know how tolerant they are of non-white people, Conservapedia, any number of neo-Nazi and skinhead message boards…  Well, you get the picture.  BTW, the ACLU will defend those on the right and the left.  They are there to protect civil liberties and I know people who are card carrying members of both the ACLU and the NRA.  But they’re moderates, so you have no use for them, I’m sure.

        BTW, the cold war is over too, the U.S.S.R. broke up and Russia is more capitalist than an Ayn Rand cultist. 

        Also, being further to the right than the John Birch Society is not being conservative.  It is being as extreme as the Muslim countries Faux News seeks to create hate for.

        •  I live in New York City. One day while on the train a woman sat in front of me and blatantly called me a “f****** black b***h.” That kind of tainted my view, but what was weirder was that the people on the train, black and white just stared. Before me, she had approached a (I think chinese woman and sd some really mean things to her. After that, I felt hurt, but I just felt like if one person can say that out loud, even here, then who knows what goes on everywhere else.

  • sallyjrw

    I have never known a black person to think saying the word black was racist or using the phrase “you people” in an innocent fashion to be racist.  That sounds like something out of a movie.  Me, myself, and Irene comes to mind.  If a white person doesn’t have any friends that aren’t white then it is highly possible that this person is racist.  The problem is that we live in a racist society so everyone absorbs racist messages on a constant basis.  You have to challenge those messages which white people are hessitant to do and will actually get angry when minorities try to do that.  Black people are a minority and so have to live with white people while white people do not have to live with black people.  They can be insulated and without anyone around them challenging racism then they are more likely to believe racist thoughts. 

  • there’s only one race and that is the Human Race and if you want to take offense at the smallest things… such as words than you will be in last place.  

  • The being mistaken as an employee somewhere and the not having black friends are REALLY the worst of these entries. I get SO upset with friends/family members that care about that all the time. I CAN’T BEGIN to count the number of times I have made a mistake and asked someone a question, THINKING they worked in the place. I have done it to black folks & white folks. It’s actually more embarrassing for the person that makes the mistake. AS FAR AS BLACK FRIENDS GO, black people try to act so offended when someone white says they don’t have black friends or they have 1 black friend. SO THE F%^K WHAT??!!! I am 37 yrs. old and have associated with white people all my life, BUT I ONLY HAVE 2 white ‘FRIENDS’. News flash black folks, JUST BECAUSE YOU KNOW who SOMEONE is or see them alot, that doesn’t make them your friend. I am WAY TOO FAR FROM RACIST, but I still don’t need to have a BUT LOAD of friends of other races. AND anyway most black people have white friends that think they are ‘MORE BLACK’ than they are. ITS SICKENING AND A TURN OFF. To me anyway. I can only agree with the ‘BLACK FACE’ thing when its done for a movie or a halloween costume. OTHER THAN THAT IT IS EXTREMELY RACIST!! AND I AM DEFINITELY am one that thinks all of everybody looks alike. SERIOUSLY. I get blacks, whites, asians, anyone mixed up sometimes. SERIOUSLY!! ESPECIALLY if I had only met them once or twice.

  • Dj Alex

    “Sure, it may be a little weird, but having no black friends doesn’t make said white person any more racist than does not owning a pet make someone prone to animal cruelty though the door is always open for that possibility, in both cases.”

    Wow about the owning a pet comment. The hypocrisy of people is astounding. You’re an animal lover if you have a pet? Sure. What about that Big Mac or your leather jacket?

  • Yayagal250

    Good article.  However, this isn’t a phenomenon restricted to black people.  Americans in general have become far touchier and more trigger-happy about taking offense in the last couple of decades.  It’s like societally it’s been decided that there’s something noble or correct about taking offense at every opportunity.  Notice I said “TAKING offense” not “being offended”.  You always have the choice of shrugging something off and deciding it’s not worth getting upset about, but the going trend is to jump to offense right off the bat.  “That’s racist!”  “That’s sexist!”  “That’s OMG OFFENSIVE!!!”  All these leap to people’s lips (and keyboards) at the slightest provocation, usually without any effort being expended to find out just what the other person actually meant.  It’s all part of the childish, tantrum-prone nature of discourse in this new century, sadly.

    • THAANK YOU!! That’s EXACTLY WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT. Black people aren’t the only ones touch these days. AND Everybody IS SO ‘in defense mode’ ALL the time now. YOU HIT THE NAIL DIRECTLY ON THE HEAD, and drove it in with this entry.

  • Rdp1021

    Here is the way I see it – it is not about color, it is about culture. Certain white people see aspects of black urban culture (i.e. baggy pants, sports jerseys, specific ways of speaking etc.) and they don’t like it. Urban black culture does not support any kind of schooling or education, and for a pretty good reason. When the schools were integrated, all the black teachers and principals were fired and the whites were left to run things, so a whole generation of role models basically just disappeared. That caused certain areas of black culture to have a reaction, in the sense that it saw education as ‘selling out to white society.’ And the baggy pants? That comes from prison culture. We put so many young black men in prison, for such minor things as pot posession etc, that prison culture has literally contaminated urban black culture. You know how most black men refer to women as ‘females?’ Well, that comes from prison and law enforcement too – and lots of other things. So in all honesty, some of this is the fault of white society. We, the whites, looked the other way while we allowed the crack epidemic to destroy the inner cities, and we closed our eyes when we put so many young black men in prison. So does that make us racist? Not all of us, but as a group, I think that we just don’t want to see the ugly truth of what we have allowed to happen to the black community.

  • andreina Ortega

    this list is hilarious!

  • FromUR2UB

    A few of the statements and actions, though not racist, are condescending.  But, since they were often used within the context of racism, they’ve come to be perceived as racist. 
    I’ve made the mistake of asking people (regardless of race) if they worked in stores, because I couldn’t find someone who did.  But the responses have been polite.  Now, I look for an ID badge before asking.
    The “You people” statement, especially when addressing an individual, suggests that person’s behavior or reaction is general to a group of people, whether justified or not. Although I’ve been guilty of making them – in the heat of anger – generalizations and all-inclusive statesments are rarely, completely accurate. Someone who is racist, sexist, or whatever the case may be, doesn’t recognize that.
    Blacks are followed in stores because of profiling. Security guards are taught during their training, that blacks are more likely to be thieves. It’s not overtly stated, but their training videos characterize the majority of blacks as thieves. My first job was in a department store. I used to observe security as they followed black patrons around the store or watched them through clothing racks. There was an elderly white woman who regularly came into the store and greeted everyone. She was a friendly old lady, but whenever she came into the store, she left with items she hadn’t paid for. I saw her one day, putting items into a tote she carried. I got distracted by another customer who needed help, but I tried to keep an eye on her. I saw her at a register paying for only one item, so I wasn’t sure if she still had the others. When I finished with the customer, I went to the area where I saw her loading her tote, and those items were gone, and so was she. So, I mentioned it to security, but they didn’t seem to believe me. The next time she came into the store, I alerted them, but they were so busy watching two black women who were trying on clothes, they didn’t pay the elderly woman any attention. Again, she paid for one item at the register, but not the items in her tote. After that, I didn’t bother to alert security anymore when she came into the store. I laughed as I watched her rip off the store.
    Blackface is still associated with minstrel shows, where black skin and everything associated with black people, were used as fodder for white people’s laughter. People say we take ourselves too seriously, but that’s something people say only when they’re not the butt of the jokes or the objects of discrimination. The minstrel acts were intended to humiliate and demean blacks, while entertaining whites at our expense. If someone thinks that’s funny, he/she might be a racist or an Uncle Tom.  

    I have noticed that some whites won’t use the word ‘black’ to describe a black person. They hem and haw around it. So, I usually have to let them off the hook and say it for them: “Oh, you mean the tall black guy?” Is “black” the new racial epithet?

    Many whites and people of other races often can’t make distinctions between black people, because it’s not important enough to them to notice differences.  They can confuse dark-skinned black people with light-skinned ones.  They usually don’t notice differences in weight or height.  They might confuse a person with a gold tooth with someone who doesn’t have one.  Yet, they do notice when two or more blacks are at a gathering.  Three’s a crowd.

    It doesn’t bother me if white people don’t have black friends, because personal friendships are about connecting with people whom you share values and other commonalities. My socializing with whites is limited to the workplace and work-related functions. It’s nothing personal.


    • That’s the thing that can bother you the most about the “They All Look ALIKE” crap.  Black get offended because take it for what you want but, we are ACTUALLY some of the most diverse looking people in the world. ESPECIALLY American & Island blacks!! So it IS offensive to not even take notice off the skin tone or hair difference. The style of dress or mannerisms. Half the time you are half @$$ looking at a Black man/woman so ‘they’ do all look alike to you. WHAT HAPPENED to the days when black people had to be afraid to look you in the face and worry about how they were going to be treated or accepted, if they “SAY THE WRONG THING”?? Hold your head up, AND LOOK us in the face. Talk to us like we are humans… I promise, we don’t bite. I LOVE THE WORLD, and that’s real. I just don’t like people to slight me. ESPECIALLY based on race & stereotypes. AS FAR AS BLACKFACE, it’s just TOO MUCH. That needs to stay in the HISTORY books & the ERA it died in. RIP!!

      • FromUR2UB

        Yeah, if people can’t relate to it racially, then they should think of how it feels personally, when they’ve been in an argument with someone who says, “You ALWAYS do…” or “You NEVER do…”  The first thought that has occurred to me when I’ve heard that is: No, I don’t ALWAYS do this…. or…Yes, I DO that sometimes.  It puts people on the defensive.  It feels unfair, and it is.   

  • Muti

    As a 50+ year old white woman who was brought up around people of all shades and cultures, and have a lovely Muslim son in law and grandbaby, and several neices and nephews of a beautiful shade of brown, I enjoy sitting back and watching folks go at each other over perceived racial issues.

    Slavery and Jim Crow have left a legacy in our country which will never be erased.  People on both sides of the color line need to ask each other why they feel the way they do instead of hurling accusations.
    We could all learn a lot from each other.

  • Lan

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  • Irishispanicdad

    I love this article, it lays out exactly what problems we create for ourselves by not being descriptive. There are words for every shade of White through every shade of every other color and every shade of gray. However, there is only one BLACK and that is the description of the lack of light (try a sensory deprivation tank if you don’t believe me).
    I have friends that may refer to each other as black, and I have a very few that I personally say “black ” to as a descriptive word for them or another person. But when there are so many beautiful words from Sienna, to Cinnamon, to Ebony, to Indigo (so dark as to infer the glories of starlit nights), why do people get so offended.
    There is one woman I go to church with that is large and beautiful and vivacious. She recently started losing weight and going back to school, both of which have heightened her self image and posture. I asked her what her preferred description was of herself during a discussion of color over lunch ,(she calls me her latte’ brother because I’m very light-skinned and Hispanic), she coyly revealed her favorite word was Ebony. I asked why and she said her favorite times with her ex were when he would equate her with the most beautiful stout wood of the African continent. She said it made her feel strong and polished, desirable. Would that we could all be that honest and open.
    I’m an artist by training, and the only black I’ve ever used was in a pen and ink drawing to depict a man or woman of African descent. I’d like to get to the point that our citizens looked at each other for the remarkable individuality of color, voice, hair, musculature etc. and likenesses of a great Creator that saw fit to make us that way so our individuality would promote our destiny to be free and unique; and, look less for the differences as a reason to objectify and separate and distinguish against one another.

  • Lauren

    I’ve never heard, ‘you people’ used in a non-racist way from a white person.  I was just talking to a guy the other day who said, your people.  Aren’t we all people?!

    And blackface is pretty racist, black people aren’t characters to dress up as.  And even if you do, is the paint (or whatever is used) necessary?  Blackface was used at a time when people WERE being racist and they thought it was funny. 

  • Calamity Jane

    The very fact that this article was written shows that there is a problem in our society with far too many racists calling non-racists racist.

  • Milesthe1

    OMG sorry but I have been in a mink coat and all the women saw was my black face.  Come on with a coat on and shopping bags this women comes over to me and asks me “Miss I saw a dress in the window do you know where it is in the store?” I’m standing there saying she is continuing to speak to my black face not even seeing my coat on and bags in my hand.  What freaking store gives employees Mink coats to wear?  HUH? YES SHE CONSIDERED THAT I WORK THERE BECAUSE OF MY BLACK FACE.  She did not consider anything else. 

    • Just Me


  • yankee1

    okay, here we go. the statement, “you people” who are you people. you are the crazy whites, you are the hillbillies, you are the rednecks, you are the hoodrats, you are the bruthers, you are all the hispanics being categorized as mexican. you people are the ones that don’t work, that are lazy, that are late, you people are all republicans, democrats, independents, liberals, conservatives, you people are all that refuse to learn English when living in a country for fifteen years, you people are the rich, the ones that spend thousands of dollars for a purse or hat. you people are the dog walkers, the cat lovers, the fishermen…..okay, did i get everyone under the you people category? Did I forget someone? Seriously, getting upset at you people, you people 😉 are to sensative for the world. You people is everyone and anyone, it means nothing. You people should not be taken as offensive, we are all under the category as you people. for the love of God everyone of every nationality and race and color and creed need to stop being so sensative.

  • NYPuertoRican

    Wow, I cannot believe people actually become offended by such things…damn, who really has the hangup on being racist. I dont’ care who you are, what color you are, I speak to you the way I speak to everyone else; I speak to you like a human. If I have to use colors or race to identify you, so be it, how else. If I ask if you work at a store, don’t get offended, it happens to me too. Just grow up people and stop being so politically correct, that is the real issue. I”m puerto rican, who is white, I grew up in queens bridge projects and I have friends of every nationality and color. If you are not hungup on race, than you can have all the friends you want and without the concerns of being offensive, just treat all the same.

  • Sunshine_diva4u

    We would all get along better if we would stop being so damn defensive. It’s showing alot of insecurity when we are too quick to jump to conclusions about other people and their intentions.

  • Yelkram

    I agree with most, but I’ve never heard anyone say “Those/you people” & not have a racist undertone. 

  • Perhaps respect and common courtesy are underrated. 

  • Tanman

    Come on people, white and black both have racist in the mix. One is no worse than the other or better than the other. Racism is wrong no matter who does it, it becomes worse when you allow it to happen. I have seen black people mistreat whites and whites mistreat blacks. Stop and think do you believe there is two heavens, one white and one black. All I know is you can’t get into heaven with hate in your heart, racism is hate in it’s pure form no matter the reason it is done.

  • Noway

    The bottom line is you can just look at a black person the wrong way and they scream racism and see dollar signs, that is not  the case with other races. The race baiters who profit from racism ( we all know who they are) profit from dividing whites and blacks in this country. I never heard of an Irish American, or Mexican American, or Spanish American, but blacks used the phrase Afro American for many many years. As long as blacks continue to follow people like Rev Sharpton, Rev Jackson, Rev Wright etc…we will continue to see ugly racism in this country. We are all Americans….it should not matter if we are black, white, green, pink or purple

  • Kneeg

    Black people always ask me if I know what they are saying! I love black people! Know what i’m saying? 

  • Nightfloweringjasmine

    “Do you work here?” implies that you dress well enough and have the style to work at that store. I don’t ask ugly, frumpy women, do you? Take it as a compliment, ladies.

  • Alisa14

    It sometimes doesn’t matter how you dress..I am an older black female…I wear new York looks style of clothing, jeans etc…I still occasionally have clerks(100% nonblack) usually people younger than myself “straightening” and “adjusting” merchandise near me no matter where I walk in the store…I test them by walking into different sections of the store…it’s humiliating and makes me very angry to be pegged a thief or a bad person by strangers.

  • Martiro77

    people on the receiving end are left with the impotence to say something” – I believe you meant impetus – the stimulation to do something, not impotence – the inability to do something

  • Tisha Necole

    I read this article and I found nothing funny about this mess….this is the type of ish that keeps progression from happening….And to say most black ppl are sensitive is just, well, dumb….Have you meet most black ppl? You speak of my race as if we are one in the same….would I be wrong to say white ppl arent sensitive enough or ignorant when it comes to dealing with cultures other than their own?  Yes I would….just take a person for who they are not by their skin color and if you find yourself saying something tacky just excuse yourself….If you have to watch what you say around different races maybe you do come off racist and that’s something you should try to work on or go live by yourself in the woods so you wont have to interact with no one 

  • Stanleycownes

    A decent article,but I do not agree with all the points in the article. Being followed by people in store because of what you are wearing because the media depicts it as thuggish is discrimination as far as I am concerned. I have worked in many stores and have mostly been told to follow blacks and Latinos around at a much higher rate than white customers. Also the article does not mention that many white customers wear the same thing and do not get followed around. Another question is why does the media depict certain clothing in a negative light? Who in the heck puts on a suit and tie to go grocery shopping or go to a large hardware store like Menards? Personally I I feel that black face is racist no matter how long the tradition goes back to. What is the point in black face any way? Why not just actually hire a black person at least? The article says things that black people think are racist,but are not. Who gets to decide what is racist or not. I have to say think this a poorly written article that tries very hard to defend things that most people would actually consider easily racist.

    • Hardy

      Dress like a thug, get treated like a thug.

  • Svihelkasona

    Unknown people looking similiarly (hairstyle, fashionstyle, weight, height OR even race) are ALWAYS hard to tell apart no matter what race you are.

  • Dhernandez040

    hey im black and gave white friends and ive always have, it doesnt matter were I move to, I just do, as well as black friends

    • THE POINT IS white people having black friends. OF course more blacks have friends of different races. We accept EVERYONE!! It’s our nurturing nature. That’s also our problem though.

  • Dhernandez040

    their is a theory that white people are bred racist, its on the global elite website, an states that aliens could have caused evolution to occur and placing racist genes in white people and asian people “look alike too”

    • Muti


  • Dhernandez040

    wearing a hoodie and being followed is not racist?

    • MissAnnThrope

      It isn’t racism, it’s the stereotype of the hoodie.  Remember that famous artist’s rendition of the Unibomber?  He was wearing a hoodie too.  In the U.K. there are lots of white boys in “hoodie gangs.”  It is the hoodie and what it has come to represent.

  • be careful with this, though. within the white community, pressure to hate non-whites is growing stronger again. now that the census is showing that whites will become a minority (in what, 2 or 3 more generations?), whites are panicking. behind your backs, in a lot of white america, everything is racial again these days. when they say they want to “take our country back,” it’s from you.

    • Dhernandez040

      ay? nnnnnnoooooo, NATIVE AMERICANS, need to take the land back, thats what should happen, all hail GERONIMO!!

    • Muti

      The whites are not supreme any more and they are having a hard time accepting it…

    • Hardy

      Oh please….you are very misinformed…or delusional. I do want to take my country back…from Socialists. I could care less about “their” color, but their policies are hopelessly Socialist.

    • Alisa14

      Omg what person of color does not know what they are refering to when they say we want to take back the country…lol…hilarious…sweetie we understand…thanks for the clarification lol!

  • Kl417g

    Great article and good points. I’ve been raised to know we are all God’s children made in His image. But, one night, while on patrol, I saw two black gentlemen exit a store through the rear door. It was after 11pm. Knowing the store was closed by then, I stopped and questioned the men. They were employees working inventory. Their accusation of racism bothers me to this day. I’m sure the color of their skin wouldn’t have made a difference in my decision to stop them.

    • Muti

      You have no reason to feel guilty.
      You would have questioned two white guys also at that hour,

  • Cocolicious

    nuh uh…

  • The Rain

    ..white folk are the most racist people on the planet because they are the most insecure people on the planet ,because they are outnumbererd 10 to 1 by people of color.They are always trying to project their fear,being insecure,and bigotry off on people of color .This is their way of coping with their own inhumanity towards people of color.No,you and you alone own the evil of racism.Most black people go out of their way to even pretend that you are not bigots,because they have convinced themselves that surely a member of the dominant culture with all the benefits that go with the complexion connection could surely not be so insecure,foul,stupid and void of humanity to practice bigotry based on another person’s skin color.My reality check response to that is if you have to lie cheat,kill and steal to get it,you have to continue that to keep it.You have been thought that you are better than black people by your inbred parents ,the media ,your church,the schools and society in general,otherwise you would not be having such a combative ,feral,homicidal response to a black man as President,because it flies in the face of what you have been conditioned to think about black people all your worthless lives.

    • Dhernandez040

      YES MAN, and also native americans went through the same thing their race is nearly wiped out due to the white man being insecure and afraid of being dominated PS they’re also afraid of Mandingo lol

    • Kneeg

      This makes no sense at all. Try not to rant so much and write more legibly please.

    • Just Me

      “No,you and you alone own the evil of racism.” So let me get this straight………Racism is only a white quality. There are no non-Caucasian racists? Please explain to me why this situation occurred then. I was at a bus stop with my wife. I’m Italian, and she is Irish. Why was I assaulted by 3 black men, who’s only reason for attacking me was the belief that I was a Mexican with a white woman? Screaming racist slurs against Hispanics, and at one point pulling a gun on me. That isn’t racist? (as well as ignorant to assume a brown person is Mexican, just because they are brown) Would black people like it if I assumed they were from Nigeria, just because of skin color? I would guess not. Whites are not the only ones that possess the attitude, and propensity toward racist behavior. Hatred is a HUMAN quality, and all are capable of it.

  • Thejokesonq

    This is the ignorance of white privilege. One black man in 400 yrs is president and one heads the DOJ and white folks say shut up, you’ve over come now quit your sqawking! Our issuse is that many angry racist, tea party drones like yourself cant see difference between a married, Harvard educated father of two with no crimmal record and Suge Knight just becuase they’re black.  You lump us all in one big group and that group is one you dislike. You also fail to see that our groups, clubs organizations and colleges were born out of neccessity not because we dont like white people or want them around it was because racist bigots like yourself want to exclude people of color. We as people we might still show residual effects of racism with our victimhood but that is only because you habitually show off your 400 yrs of being the oppressor. Now to equate all black people as irresponsible, selfish, race baiting, violent, immature neanderthals would be as ignorant as me saying all white men are secretly closet homosexuals, that like screwing young boys who they mentor as coaches, preists and pastors that why I’m never letting my kids sit on a white Santas lap at the mall on Christmas. 

  • Greenmamba1

    I love it when people get mad offended when they hear “those people”.  I am primarily Scandinavian in descent.  I lived in Sweden for a year and visited Denmark (my grandmother is full Dane) a few times.  When I talk about that experience, I frequently refer to the Danes and Swedes as “those people”.  I look like them, but that is about it.  I share none of their values and mannerisms.  I am an American in every sense of the word.  The Swedes and Danes will always be “those people” to me.  Just food for thought.

  • The Rain

    White folk,don’t try to convince me you are not a bigot,go look in the mirror and try convincing that passive aggressive bigot coward you see that you are one of the fair minded white folk.Thing is,we don’t have to go looking for bigots,they will find you.I actually want you to be able to express your stupid racism,it frees me up to show my disdain for you prosemiens.And for the record white f

    • Kneeg

      What? I couldn’t quite catch that last part.

  • voltron

    White people will never understand racism or what its like to be a victim of racism.  It’s impossible to try to explain it to them too.

    • Just Me

      Bullsh*t. Read my response to The Rain. Black people do practice racist behavior. Humanity IS racist, and evil.

  • Guest

    Good article. It’s funny, I’ve heard people say ‘you can’t call people black!” before. Which is stupid- it’s a physical description like blonde or red-headed. It’s just how someone looks. It’s only an insult to call someone black if you think being black is a bad thing. African american however is a stupid thing to say- there are many dark skinned people who are neither african nor american. 

  • ct525

    I bet Lee0521 would not say that publicly. It is easy to be disparaging when hiding.

  • Klf49

    a very wise man once said… “there is only one race… the human one…” if only we could get that straight….it would solve so many problems….my personal mantra? I remember what happened in Nazi Germany….that is what can happen if you don’t STOP racism ON A PERSONAL LEVEL, IGNORE IT and allow it to take it’s fatal course…..”those people…you people’s them…whoever they are..they are the reason the country’s f…d up.. I’m f…d up..etc. stop it..we’re all caught up in it and WE ALL  have to stop it..that person sitting across from you is just another human being just like you…with the same problems, needs, concerns as you…they’ve got problems with kids, family problems, money problems..problems with their girlfriend, their boyfriend, their husband, their wife….their boss….just think about that, put your fears aside about what everybody else is going to think about you and say… “hey.. how’s it go’in..”
    the things we have in common as human beings are more than than the things that divide us as
    white people, yellow people, black people, brown people.. whatever…

  • Alisa14

    Not being able to tell people apart is something I’ve experienced from white people a couple of times.  There was a woman much bigger than me but we both wore glasses and had similar complexions, the nurse thought I was her…but to be honest I’ve made the same mistake with whites and Mexicans and also Asians…it is hard to tell people apart that have similar features.

    • Yes, because those similar features will mess you up. And again the person who makes the mistake is often times just as embarrassed as the other. IF NOT MORE.

  • Msbrome

    Impetus, not impotence.

  • Alaiyonicole

    This entire article is ridiculous. These are all racist acts. Playing the fool, and putting on a minstrel show of pure ignorance does not excuse the fact that it’s racist.

  • It’s been a long time and I never saw Tropic Thunder in its entirety but I’m pretty sure those are Sergeant’s chevrons on that uniform Robert Downey Jr is wearing and not General’s stars!

  • Rouge

    This article is hella racist.

  • Royalseattlred

     You’re probably racist. Haha

  • Truly, I did not have that many black friends mainly because we did not have that much in common. 

    I do not talk that much. I like different things. Those are probably the main reasons why I do not click with some black people.

    • I feel the same way. I have 2 white friends, but I am friendly with everybody. MY FRIENDS THOUGH, are on two different ends of the pole. Both grew up totally differently, and that’s what I like about them. One grew up in neighborhoods with black people and has always dated black men. Hell she married 2. YES SHE HAS BEEN MARRIED TWICE! But her actions, she doesn’t walk around trying to be more black than the people she surrounds herself with. I respect that & that’s why we have been lifetime friends. My other friend grew up white, but not rich… She is definitely an all around white girl, but if she read some of these comments written by ‘YOU PEOPLE’, she would blank out. She is very proud to be white, BUT HATES RACISM. If people can figure out that its okay to be proud of your race without tearing another one down, WE’LL BE ALRIGHT.

  • Thank God that no one really looks or acts the same way I do. 

    I like being one of a kind. 

  • You just cannot get away from stereotyping. 

  • luv2smyle

    Are you having a bad day ?

  • D70429

    My g/f and I lived in an apartment in Jane/Finch Toronto for 3 years. She’s white i’m brown and we both had different experience. She was constantly the target of taunts from blacks. Why because she was white and a woman. There were other white girls/women who received the same treatment.

    So hey racism swings both ways.   


    At some points I agree, but still. Some dark skinned are a bit sensitive, and that’s understandable. But seriously if your family had a past with slavery, rapes, and if we’re talking about the present dark skinned people who people see as “criminals” because they’re dark isn’t that single out? I mean i’m black and white. My mother is white and my dad is black, but that doesn’t mean I don’t get offended if a person says “I cant tell the difference” even if they mean it. If you cant see the difference KEEP IT TO YOURSELF! Don’t go make blogs, and video’s where you say rude opinions, and that’s probably why some dark skinned people are a bit sensitive. You wrote this blog as if in all of these cases it has nothing to do with racism, but the truth is how do you know for sure? Have you actually asked a person about that? no? 

    But yeah some people do take the stuff to seriously, but there’s a difference of making fun of different races because yeah some of them are true, or saying that it’s the dark skinned people who ruins this country! No its not? Every race have a brain, and it works the same way? just saying. 

    • Very well put. Black is black right. A lot of people do assume that light skinned blacks don’t get offended when dark skinned blacks get disrespected. Its good that you spoke out this way.

  • Crash_dan1062

    I treat every one the same, AND expect the same treatment in return.  But what I also do is respect those who reciprocate, and who respect themselves by the behavior they exhibit.  If you wear your pj’s and bed slippers in public, dress like a gang-banger, or a freakin kracker – that’s exactly how I will treat you – so don’t expect me to “accept” your inappropriate appearence OR your behavior.  Language included.  If you look, act, walk, and talk like a piece of trash –  I’ll treat you as trash.  I do not believe in political correctness in any degree what-so-ever.  It is a term used by those who wish others to condone their inappropriate behavior.  I’d support (and use) the term “mutual respect.”  Treat me good, I’ll treat you better.  Treat me bad, I’ll treat you worse.  Quit making it all about race, because regardless of what you may hold as your personal beliefs or stereotypes, you’ll be pleasantly surprised when you drop all thoughts of “race” and start treating others as equals.  Just don’t forget that the white man who held the door for you, tipped his hat to you on the street, or answered you with “yes, ma’am” because you conducted yourself as a lady, dressed as a lady, and spoke as a lady didn’t care that you’re “black”, because he does that for all ladies, young, old, black, white, asian, crippled, fat, cute, or unattractive – you’re a lady in his eyes until you prove otherwise.  But……….come across like a hood-rat scumbag and I’ll let the door slam in your face.
    -an old “white” guy

    • Just Me

      Right on man.

  • Fever

    The term racism implies “POWER”, those in positions of power have the ability to adversely affect one’s life through subtle micro-aggressions or outright discrimination, denial of access, gentrification, limiting resources, etc…we can go on all day. So for these particular instances, racism definitely plays a major role. I found the notion that a young black male isn’t followed in the store because he’s black but because of what he is wearing to be quite ridiculous. It’s all about his skin color, it’s about stigmatization. A store is more likely to have items stolen from elderly to middle class white women than any other group, but yet they’re rarely caught because they’re not watched closely, nor are they followed. The attire doesn’t matter in their case, as a white person could wear a hoodie and its viewed as they must have went to that college, but a black person wearing the same hoodie is a “thug’ or is “gang related”.
    The comment “you people” is based out of racism, as it is only typically used for people of color. When something occurs black people are traditionally grouped together, while white people are individualized. For example, a person gets cheated on by their white partner, rarely do you hear them say I’m done dating white people because they are cheaters, but when we speak of people of color we say I’m done with that entire group because they are all the same. Just like the comment “they all look alike”, people of color particularly black people in this country are not seen as individuals. So the fact that they are black is typically all that is seen, and their actions represent the entire group.

  • Diana

    I get upset when any other reference to things that are the actual color black are regarding as having something to do with racism. For instance, cast iron cookware is black, and probably most people have seen an old frying pan and know this.

    So the very old saying “the pot calling the kettle black” comes from the time when all the cookware was iron, and it merely implies that the party of the first part is exactly the same as the party of the second part, yet points out the second one as though it was the only one having this trait.

    In other words hypocritical. Not African in origin.

    Sometimes there are things like that where the word black is only used as a description, but people think it is racism.  

  • Tradewinds1994

    Okay , I know we all expect to encounter racism from time to time but sometimes we gotta take a minute and call b.s. when the racist card is thrown around so easily. My skin is not black, it is however a deep mocha brown. I am not a fool so I understand the term “black person” is not used in a racial way any more than when I call someone white. Truthfully, I have never seen a “white person”. The people I refer to have beige, olive, or tan skin color, never WHITE. So saying, the term black is not in and of itself racist. And when it comes to being asked to help shoppers? Give it a rest already, even in todays hyper-sensitive , racially-paranoid America, strangers are allowed and should be encouraged to ask others for help with out having ignorant assumptions thrown in their faces. The image of all people of color could be improved if we stop looking for excuses to be insulted. There’s enough ignorance out there without us adding to it.

  • Your last statement is all anyone needs to be clear that you are indeed a bigot. Your post is a sad reflection of little has been done to change the hearts of humans as it relates to race.  Even still I wish you profound healing.

  • Guest

    Thanks article. Now you have made us all feel like we are idiots; not all of us look at  things in such  an overly sensitive way, but if you understood where we had to come from, you’d feel that way to ( don’t worry, not offended) 🙂 

  • Watchlizard

    After reading some of these posts made here, it seems as though I am doomed to be branded a racist because I am white (mostly), southern, and male. As an example I submit an story that happened years ago while I was at work. There was a young black woman complaining to her friend about “those d*** white-folk and their rascist ways..ect ect” and I came around the corner and accidentally got accused of eavedropping on their conversation. I apologized for what they thought I was doing, but I was just there to check the machine beside them, and then I would leave. I was then accused of being a racist by the young woman. I understand she had been having a bad day, and most of her ire was directed at whites, but I corrected her, and told her “I’m not white”. She said, “Well, you look white”. My reply was ” I am of Comanche and Cherokee blood, and the white man has taken our homes, our heritage and our very language away from us.” She seemed to calm down after that. later that day we talked alone and she felt bad about her accusation. We are all human, and we are all God’s children, but we need to work harder and have more understanding from everyone.

  • Guest

    I loved Robert Downy Junior in “Tropic Thunder”.  He played that part very well…it wasn’t offensive, just very funny and at the same time, self-mocking.

  • Guest

    I have to disagree with being followed around.  Sorry, but more blacks and other non-whites are followed around stores because we are suspected of being thieves.  

    Also, if a person doesn’t have any black or other non-white friends, I highly suspect that they don’t have much experience in diversity and are more apt to have tendencies that are….racist or exclusionary than those who do.  Although there are the black friends who are whiter than the whites….We call those Uncle Toms–or nowadays, Herman Cains.

  • Watchlizard

    As an overweight, middle aged white guy from Texas (of native American decent), I appreciate someone pointing out these things. I wished more people were color-blind in this country, but it looks like we still have alot of growing up to do. Thank you for your insight into what some might consider a touchy issue…

    • The goal should not to be color blind. I don’t want you to ignore my race. I am very proud to be black. I expect you to recognize my color and respect my roots. That’s all I ask. To ignore my people’s struggles and triumphs is worse to me than degrading them.

      • Just Me

        Thanks for your opinion. Sadly, holding society to your expectations will lead to disappointment.

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  • Beth

    Once a Chinese coworker said to me, “white women are soooo sensitive.” And I said, ‘yes, but the Chinese are terrible drivers,” and she nodded in agreement.  Another time a white guy was imitating a chinese guy on the phone and we (blended ethnic group) laughed our faces off it was so well done…even the chinese guy in the group laughed but we were hauled in and corrected because a white woman who was offended complained.  At 19 I was trained in a purchasing job by a Pilipino woman who was a teacher in the Philippines but her credentials were not recognised in our country.  Recently I started a new job and was trained by a 25 year old black guy from Jamaica.  Yesterday I thought I saw him at the mall and excitedly called to him.  It was his slightly taller clone.  Today I will go to work and decipher the accents of at least 5 different nations and share in stories with people who have come from all over this world to live in our country.  The whites are moving away from Toronto or the so called GTA.  Here you either embrace the multiculturalism whole heartedly and work within these blended cultures or you move away.  Generally, in our region a white person would work in a multicultural setting and hightail out of town to a white old fashioned kind of weekend where you understand what everyone is saying and you don’t have to worry about the cultural/religious sensitivities of the landed immigrant.

  • Yobhe

    Re: the face paint entry… if you look on Robert Downey Jr’s collar in that still from “Tropic Thunder,” he’s got Sergeant’s stripes… definitely wasn’t a “general.” Me and 5 other military guys are probably the only ones who would care or take notice, but still…

  • TruthinSF

    Thank you for pointing out that not everything is about race.  It’s unfortunate that the world is still filled with small-minded bigots.  But not everyone is.  We should not filter all social interaction through the lens of race.  And not everything bad that happens to someone who is black is because of their race.  If I see a black guy in a business suit, I expect he’s a serious professional.  If I see a guy wearing baggy pants and throwing gang signs (no matter what his skin color), I assume he’s low class and possibly dangerous.  That’s not racism, that’s street smarts … especially when blacks are far more often the victims of violent crime than whites.  Besides, many of us are mixed race anyway.  So let’s all find a way to look beyond skin color, and judge people only by the content of their character.  We are all one race – human.

  • Xerxie

    This article is highly inaccurate. I’m black and experienced many of things from white people in particular. Being followed in a store, seeing white ladies change their purse position to their other shoulder before I walk past them, getting hung up when I make rep calls at work. It’s pretty sad.

  • BlueEyes32

    ALL white people huh? You seem just as SICK as the white supremacist. Yes, keep the hate going… While its really disgusting, I am able to move on with my daily life. I do not spread hatred. Did we grow up together?? No? Then please dont pretend like you know how I was raised. And you certainly dont know about my day to day now, unless you are the (ohhhhhh, no, “black”) woman I am married to. And You arent 🙂 MAY GOD BLESS YOU <3 

    • BlueEyes32

      In reply to B-Rock 🙂

  • SomePerson

    #1 is especially true. Plus, shouldn’t it be a complement to assume that you have a job? Obviously grocery store clerk isn’t a great job, but hey, atleast it isn’t the racist stereotype, “Black people don’t have jobs”. 

    Regardless, I’m white and I’ve had it happen to me plenty of times… I don’t get all offended about it, if I know the answer to the question I’ll answer and add “but I don’t work here”. If I don’t, I’ll simply say, “I don’t work here”. 

  • Gmarie

    The only one I don’t agree with is following in the store. there is no reason you are following me instead of anyone else in the store other than having some ingrained stereotypical notion that I LOOK like a thief and it pisses me off. everything else? yeah I agree, it isnt a battle we should waste time on

  • Downey was playing a sergeant, not a general.  He played the role well, too, the “dude playin’ the dude who’s playin’ the dude.”  Great delivery.

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  • Godfreewoman

    Not to be dreadful to my own kind, but most Whites are racist AND prejudiced. And it seems the author of this and the other dreadful articles on this lame website doesn’t know the difference.  So as a public service, I will explain the difference. Now listen carefully boys and girls.

    Racism (primary definition) – a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human races  determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one’s own race is superior and has the right to rule others.

    Racist – a person who believes in racism,  the doctrine that a certain human race  is superior to any or all others.Prejudice – an unfavorable opinion or feeling formed beforehand or without knowledge, thought, or reason.So you Yanks have a definite problem because many of you are not smart enough to recognize the distinction.MOST White people in MOST places are racist. I have rarely met White people who don’t think they are inherently superior based on race. And there are a lot of dumb White people who just should NOT think that, but they do. How droll is that?And I think most people harbor prejudice based on their experiences with individuals of various races. This “informs” their opinions. In America, you have a prejudice problem.  When people say “playing the race card”, it shows a lack of understanding of what racism really is.  In fact, it is ironic that Whites in America say non-Whites play the race card. It would be more likely that Whites play the race card assuming they are superior. Get it? But there are a lot of dumb, White people in your great country, so that irony/paradox isn’t going anywhere any time soon.And to be brutally honest, race is a bum topic. ALL humans share a common ancestry. Everyone comes from one small grouping in Southern Africa that somehow survived and migrated all over the Earth. We are all connected, genetically and otherwise. So maybe it is time for people, especially White people, to give the race thing a rest. It’s boring, not based on reason or science, and is divisive and unproductive. So can someone please explain to me how this propels humanity forward? I’ll be waiting for your nonsensical answer with bated breath. LOL!Back to your regularly scheduled program.

    • SirWinstonChurchill

      People of all colors do not go to the dictionary for their definitions. Common usage of “racist” is someone who, with little or no justification, hates people of another race, because they are of another race. That is what people mean when they use the term.
      You and your dictionary have no justification using the descriptions “dumb”, “many of you are not smart enough”, “stupid”, etc. Very elitist of you!
      “MOST White people in MOST places are racist.” Racism will never disappear if such false statements continue..

  • African-American Person

    FACE PAINT: I didn’t fully understand the author’s position. Are they saying that because someone has on “brown” face paint instead of “black” face paint its NOT racist? haha Blackface wasn’t just racist for the inaccurate depiction of African-American people. It was also racist because of its inaccurate (and negative) depiction of African-American behavior. The stereotypical behavior of the face-painted actor is also racist because it is assuming to be representational of ALL African-American people. 

    When dude is wearing brown face, he is still contributing to racism through BEHAVING in a manner that he believes represents a (diverse) community. It is still racist. Brown or not. 

    • FannyPack

      But no one says anything when a black man wears white face???? Double standard much?? A joke is a joke. What makes a joke and is why these kinds of jokes funny is the fact that they portray one extreme or the other and are rarely a true portrayal of what is the “average” for that particular culture but rather what stands out the most. For the good of the country please grow a sense of humor.

    • YEAH UHH, The color or shade doesn’t matter. ITS the point of why you are doing it, that makes it racist.

  • mikey66

      I like the one about shoplifting in “corporate” dress.  Author does not make clear how she/he knows it’s okay to shoplift in corporate dress.  Did she/he actually shoplift to test this observation?  Or just scoping it out.  Either way probably only reinforces any racist notion that the author is trying to dispel.  Funny.
    I reckon to sum up the article it would be ‘”Racism is not around every corner, only 99.9% of the corners.”

  • B-Rock

    The Author is Tommin and Coonin right now…I don’t know if they are serious, but obviously their need for White Approval and Acceptance is making them deaf, dumb, and blind to serious Racial issues and programs in this country..I say SERIOUS because BLACK PEOPLE TALK–Whites DO!. .ALL White people and “so called” White people are considered Racist by default as long as the system of White Supremacy exist…Under this system, they will Always bear the burden of proof…Too many Negroes put themselves in harms way because they think Whites are like them..BUT there’s cultural, genetic, and HISTORICAL differences these Negroes need to become conscious with because they will NEVER shake Blackness….

    White People are in no position to tell a Black person how they should  feel…For one Whites have never been victims of in being denied something because of their race; and also Most don’t know or care to acknowledge that their system of White Supremacy uses their willful ignorance and cooperation for and Against them …They’ve been lied to and told that they are Innately superior to people of color and other Myths….This is the indoctrination of ALL White Children in some form. So White people deep down feel whenever Bad things happen to Black people that its deserved and Just…But now that they are experiencing some “Bad things” AND a Black Man is running the country..they are Fearful and Anxious….Understandably.

    They need Black Scapegoats to Primarily make themselves feel better and to Secure their own Myths in their minds….Keep in mind MOST White People grew up and live in ALL White Communities  with nothing but other Whites to hash over Crazy racial stereotypes and propaganda..There’s no balance or real reference..Some may have a “so called” Black friend or two who goes along with everything and make them feel comfortable in their unadmitted guilt. White people we see walking around today are confused, angry, bitter, Ignorant and Arrogant…that’s an accident waiting to happen.

    • Nicoletta

      “confused, angry, bitter, Ignorant and Arrogant” …sounds a little like you!

    • BlueEyes32

      ALL white people huh? You seem just as SICK as the white supremacist. Yes, keep the hate going… While its really disgusting, I am able to move on with my daily life. I do not spread hatred. Did we grow up together?? No? Then please dont pretend like you know how I was raised. And you certainly dont know about my day to day now, unless you are the (ohhhhhh, no, “black”) woman I am married to. And You arent 🙂 MAY GOD BLESS YOU <3

  • D.K.I.R.B

    u blind as a bat even when a black man drives a nice car & doesnt sell drugs or do something illegal racism is shown cause cops pull them over & they do follow blacks around stores purposely & still want ur money bt will be scared 2 touch u & throw change in ur hand

  • Mel92

    Why are white people making such a big fuss over what we feel regarding this article??? If you´re white you´re not black (obviously) so you´re not able to connect with what we feel because you never experienced it. So why are we all always try to make people feel the way that makes us more comfortable and less responsable for our actions?! Everyone at some point have been racist if you accept that than you are problably able to better yourself. Just be humble about it, learn from your mistakes, accept that nobody is perfect and FORGIVE.

  • sofie212

    Is it just me… or do all of these seem true? Being referred to as “you people”, being followed around in stores, being mistaken for a clerk or customer service person….these are all subtle acts of racism!

    It feels as if in today’s society black people have to keep their mouths shut when facing these issues because it’s become taboo to feel as if we’re being discriminated against. Racism/discrimination/prejudice cant always be proven. However, from a simple “you dont belong here” -glance, to a dry “hello”…each can be felt.

  • Chuck

    I’m a middle aged white male…and in my experience…trash and treasure are found in all colors.  If you want a friend…look for your similarities…if not…look for your differences…


      If I want a friend, I shoud look for my similarities… If not (assuming you mean some variation of the word enemy) I should look for my differences? PLEASE TELL ME IM WRONG AND THIS IS NOT WHAT YOU’RE TEACHING YOUR CHILDREN.

      • I think he’s just saying that you are only gonna try to find something wrong with someone, when you’ve already decided you don’t want to like them based on what you think. If you try to find something good in someone instead of only seeing what makes them different you might find you have common ground between you. But if you want to be that way, the continue to only look for the differences.

  • LOVEconquersHATE


  • I am a 50 year old white woman. I was raised in Arkansas during the beginning of integration. My experience was severe REVERSE discrimination! I was bused 23 miles across town to a school that was in the middle of the govt housing projects. I was beaten, bullied and abused regularly by several black girls. I was fondled and molested by the black boys.  I was the only white girl in my 5th grade class. My teacher was black, the principal was black. I wasn’t raised to be a raciest by my parents. I was taught by these experiences that black people were mean and bad. This continued until I graduated. As a young married woman I moved to Texas and after years of working to reprogram my mind…I can happily say I am a recovered racist. I still don’t understand the term “African American” or why the ‘African Americans” need their own holiday..i.e. Kwanza. Or why they need their own Miss America Pagent. Arent we all Americans if we were born and raised here? Even people in Africa don’t celebrate this ‘Kwanza” it is a purely African American holiday. Hispanics don’t have their own pagents and holidays..nor do Asians or Indians. Why must black people separate themselves from the American culture? Of course there are still racist people here in America. But I personally know and love many black people…and I have found that I don’t struggle with these racist issues anymore because I have stepped up and taken responsiblilty for my own life.  Once I quit looking for something to be mad at ALL blacks about I realized the problems I had were with specific people. It really didnt’ matter if they were black or white or purple. They were plain old mean people and I don’t have to be around them any more. I have had more time to focus on making myself  a better person. And now I have found that I am surrounded with good people of all colors.  I truly believe the if “African Americans” would stop pushing their agenda and just live their lives working hard to be better plain old Americans like the rest of us,racism would be a thing of the past just as it is for me.   

    • blackman

      I love your story… the problem with just ignoring everything is that racial profiling is still very well ALIVE.I’m in the same boat as you… We must continue to love our neighbor and that’s the only way to drive out hate.

    • Great story, but unfortunately your solution is not realistic. The problem is not strictly black people, all races can currently be blamed for the sorry state of race relations in America and abroad.

    • We are not attempting to separate ourselves. We weren’t allowed in traditional American institutions or were treated unfairly in them and therefore made our own. Everything that Black Americans have done in this country has been a reaction to what has been done to us. We are incredibly resilient people. Every time a door has been closed we open a window. That’s not separatist, it’s good, old fashioned resilience. 

      • Muti

        Good points, Ash Iman.
        Most folks don’t realize this. They think everything occurred in a vacuum, apparently.

    • `_(o.O)_/`

      I’m not being rude, but I AM going to be honest and the truth is that your comment was so disrespectful and ignorant that I thought it was a joke at first, but now I feel that you are actually serious. Arrogance is but an elevated form of ignorance, and you exude that very arrogance in almost every sentence in this comment. That is part of the problem. Race relations are not going to improve until ya’ll understand that your Eurocentric definition of American culture DOES NOT define Americanism. I was born here. I live here. I pay taxes. That makes me an American. Anything I do after that does not make me less of an American. African-Americans can have our own distinct characteristics and still be Americans. Each of you needs to understand this and the fact that you don’t is…..well…..extremely pathetic. 
      “I can happily say I am a recovered racist.”<–No you can't. All you can say is that you are now comfortable with black people with a mindset parallel to your own. Obviously, you feel you have the authority to interrogate our cultural characteristics. Why do we need our own holiday? Referring to Kwanzaa. So what are we supposed to celebrate? Let me guess, Christmas. A celebration derived from Christianity? Ok, so what about African-Americans who aren't Christians? And I won't even go into a full blown history lesson to inform you just how African-Americans became so obsessed with that religion in the first place. I assume you don't have a problem with Jews celebrating Hanukkah? Go figure. Then you proceed to ask why we have a Miss Black America Pageant. The answer is because we can. White people don't even recognize the beauty of African features anyway. Very seldom will you find a black woman (who actually looks like one. i.e., dark skin, natural hair, etc.) being uplifted on a white platform. If she's not light skinned with a perm, white people aren't inclined to call her pretty and you know that. Not that you all have to. (I could care less what whites consider beautiful.) I'm just saying that you need not question why we emphasize our own beauty when the (European standards) of mainstream American society do not consider us to be beautiful. Also, I don't care if Asians, Hispanics, and Indians don't have their own holidays. Even though they do. That was the most fallacious statement in your entire comment, but even if they didn't, what does that have to do with us? As far as the term "African-American," the terms means "Americans of African descent" (-_-) What is so difficult about that? Our ethnic origins are not in this country. "African" refers to the origin and American refers to the nationality. Just like people of Italian, German, Irish, etc. will call themselves Italians, Germans, and Irish even though they were born in America. Never have I heard a Caucasian bicker about this. One final thing, it doesn't matter that people in Africa don't celebrate Kwanzaa. It is an AFRICAN-AMERICAN tradition. Native Africans don't have the same customs as we do. Nigerians don't have the same customs as Kenyans. Ugandans don't have the same customs as Rwandans. Doesn't make any of their traditions "less black", "less African" or "less legit." It just makes them different<—something you still have a problem with obviously.
      Anyway, I hope this helps. We always talk about what systematic racism has done to the psyche of black people, but it is really past due time for the pathology of whites to be investigated as well. Not being mean; just saying. You've GOT to learn to get over yourself, along with all these other white Americans who think like you. It's just not healthy. Either accept our differences or just leave us alone all together.

      Good day.

  • Decorsica

    Everyone always talk about racism coming from a white person toward another race.  But what about other races, including blacks being racists too?   There are a good number, believe me, and more than many may think.

  • Dave

    Gregory A Butler – So you consider yourself a mind reader?  Just because you think something doesn’t necessarily mean it is so!  Try your mind reading skills on me right now…try to see what I am thinking about you?

  • angela

    and who, exactly, was your intended target for this woefully ridiculous article?

  • I’m mixed, I had a White father and I’ve worked around White folks for 20 years. Sometimes, they forget I’m not one of them, believe it or not.

    Trust me, when you think a White person is being racist – THEY PROBABLY ARE.

    If you only knew what they say about us when they don’t think any of us are in the room!

  • JustaDude

    Listen, author, I just want to thank you so much for broaching this subject.  As someone who both acknowledges his own white guilt and prejudice yet also who tries to judge all as individuals as others have suggested here, I appreciate that you tried to start a conversation about this.  I wonder if some of this vitriol wouldn’t be so pure if more frank conversations could occur and folks felt heard.  Of any color.  Keep telling the truth as you see it, and I’ll try to listen.

  • Shawna102577

    Every Black Person Does not think that way. You sound like you have some hate in your heart also. You grow up!!!!

  • reese

    So do white people.  Don’t even try to act like black people are the racist ones because the race problem started with white people thinking nonwhite people were not equal to them.  And look at your tea party before you talk about race baiting. There is still racism that exist today, but you want to act like black people are the blame for it.  Are there some problems that have nothing to do with race in our community yes.  But don’t act like race doesn’t play a factor.  Most black people are not victems, in jail or violent.  And we know that we are sentaged harder doing the same crime.  Look at Casey Anthony and talk to me about responsiblitlity

  • Mikerrr

    Dude, if you’re wearing a “boardroom suit” in the grocery store, people are going to assume you’re the freaking store manager. And, rightly, they would assume you’d know where stuff is located in that store. Is this really something that happens to you?

    But, holy crap! Thanks for posting this! You have nailed several very irritating “mistakes” which, I’ll hasten to add, seem to be made just as often by stupid white people trying too hard to be “progressive” (or at least to be perceived as progressive).

    I’ve had this very discussion with some (black) guys that I worked with for a while. “But simply mentioning someone is black isn’t the hallmark of a racist. Sometimes, it’s an effective way to remember someone.” Exactly! Black, white, asian, Mexican, whatever – those are probably the most obvious and easiest means of identifying someone you don’t know by name. What’s the problem? This was particularly true in the military where we were ALL basically bald and wore green shirts.

    And, here’s another one that you didn’t cover (sort of goes along with the above): Calling someone “black” instead of “African-American” is NOT racist. Nor is it insensitive. I had this conversation with a black buddy of mine, too. A black buddy who claims no ties whatsoever to Africa. He’s from Trinidad. And, while his ancestors may well have gotten to Trinidad from Africa, he’s not interested in connecting the dots that far back. No more so than most white people are to consider themselves “European-Americans” simply because at some point someone in their family tree was from Europe.

    If I’m standing in a roomful of people of mixed races, I fully expect to be referred to as “the white guy with the glasses.” That’s not racist. That’s just practical.

  • reese

    We don’t have our own channel.  BET is owned by Japaneze.  We are ecluded from all of your channels and programs.  White people exclude races more than anyone.  The black colleges were the only ones that allowed everyone in.  By the way there are Asian channels and Latino channels.  Look at how few black people are on the regular channels, black families or how often we are excluded.  That is why we do have black magazines so we can have some representation.

  • AWebster

    If Robert Downey Junior in Tropic Thunder is wrong, I don’t want to be right.

  • Me

    The guy who wrote this can’t be black.  he must be an idiot.

  • guest

    We, our work group, got a tin of cookies, chocolate. I jokingly said oh african animal crackers to which others present said african because of brown while I intended african as in exotic animals. I did’nt reply, left the room – – another lesson learned

  • Lets be careful not to confuse racism with racial criticism.  There is a difference.  I am a black person, and I criticize black people (and other races) all the time.  However, I don’t apply blanket judgemetns on all people, nor do I harbor hatred towards entire groups.  An example for are my feelings towards Mexicans.  I’m one of those people who go on immigration blogs and rail against Mexican people messing up communities, but I also have a Latina wife and have several Mexican friends. 

    I also don’t trust large groups of young (teenage) blacks, and in the back of my mind I think there will be trouble when I encounter them.  I don’t like seeing lazy black people hanging in front of liquor stores and I don’t like loud mouth blacks.  But, I’m black, and I’m not being racist against my own people.

    I suspect there are many whites who are racially critical, but not racist.  I actually think the number of pure racist are quite low in America.

    • Doug

      I agree 100%.  It’s not the race that I am reacting to.  It occurs in all races.  I believe that the youth are more inclined to acting badly, not based on race.  Seems that noone was raised with any morals or ethics anymore.  Bad behavior is tolerated.


      I actually agree with this post…

  • FX

    I was in a store recently and needed some help. I caught a side view of a very attractive Black woman in her fifties(?) dressed in the colors of the staff with sweater and slacks. As I approached her I thought, she is so much more attractive than the other staff. Just as I was about to ask her for help she turned and I saw she was simply wearing similar colors to the staff. I’m not sure if I had a blink moment but honest mistakes happen. It is so important to look for the log in my own eyes before I tell my neighbor about the splinter in their eye.

  • Nobody

    He played a Sergeant not a General…

  • Runningwhilethesandrunsout

    The “everyone looks alike” can be true in two situations.  One, it is hard to categorize facial features of groups not similar to one’s own, such as the ability of a North American to differentiate nationalities between Slavs, Asians, South Americans, Europeans, or South Americans.  Two, once you get past age 60 (I’m 65), the ability to remember faces just plummets, and this applies equally to one’s own race.  For example, I play social bridge sometimes at Senior Rec Centers, and frankly everyone there looks the same to me.

  • ratdeb

    …which postdates the racism that has existed in these countries for centuries

  • ratdeb

    I am unaware black men are being gunned down by public entities.  Where is that occurring and why hasn’t it hit the news?

  • ratdeb

    Racism is a self-reinforcing phenomenon.  I think this is called “attribution error.”  If someone is mean to you and is of the same race, you probably conclude that he is a jerk.  If that someone is of a different race, you might conclude his actions were due to his racism.

  • ratdeb

    I don’t agree with your example.  Most white people do in fact look at the white “Occupy” protesters and consider them out of touch, even “cry babies.”  And I certainly don’t agree that “no questions” are asked.  I think you are finding an example of racism, where none exists.

  • ratdeb

    This seems like very angry, reactive language, not logical at all.  Every Tea Party member is a scumbag and knows absolutely squat diddly about history or our government?  Really?  What evidence do you have to back up this claim?  Or are you perhaps just motivated by anger yourself, and blinded by your ignorance?

  • You Mom

    Maybe if you people would stop smoking crack, we wouldn’t have an issue.

  • Bigheadjeff50

    i”m from the the south and if you look at the news look in the prisons look at the bars on the windows of homes and tell me it”s white mans fault your just looking to put the blame on someone else

  • IamhumanunderGOD

    Let’s just put this out there…..I am a white woman raised in the south, but not deep south. I have seen MANY racist people flip their noses up in the air. I DO NOT agree one bit! I did find this article hilarious of course, especially the part of hoodies and followed around the store. I actually am leary of people wearing hoodies with their hoods up, but I have come across MANY well dressed creepy white guys too! I feel most comfortable around regularly dressed people period….regardless of race. I have of course seen here in the south racism all over….white people still wishing the war on slavery never happened and black people who were just born yesterday with all the same rights hating white people for what happened 100 years ago. Regardless, it’s giving any attention to ALL racists of ALL colors that makes this age old problem stick around. And as long as institutions favor a race for ANY reason, i.e. minority this and that(and yes minority has applied to all races at one time or another), we will NEVER and I mean NEVER see full equality. To stereotype is what most of you are doing on this thread so don’t even try to say “if the shoe fits”…not buying it! How about lets stop pointing fingers and just focus on bending that finger back at yourself. You can only be accountable for you in this life and if everyone did this, our world as a whole would be better for it.

  • Don Sinclair

    White people get asked if they work in stores, I’ve been asked a few times if I worked in retail stores and I’ve asked people if they worked in stores when they didn’t.  I’ve asked mainly based on appearance, usually I’ve asked people that are clean cut and reasonably well dressed and I suppose that is why I’ve been asked.

  • Greatwhitenorth

    As a white person, I can tell you that even more white people are racist than you might suspect. Moreover, the chances of a white person making stupid comments, then saying they’re not racist and not ACTUALLY being racist, is pretty slim…chances are they know what they said so don’t believe when they feign ignorance.

    • ConradDobler

      Thank you for your honesty…..if whites are “generally” racist then so bid…HOWEVER let it be known that it won’t be a “one way street” like the good ole days…

    • spazamataz

      We can agree to disagree on that.  I find that most people try to be fair and racist comments are ignorance based, not done out of malice or intent.  Maybe we just hang with different people.  The great white north may lives in the great white north.  I live in the city, where people are a little more open minded and progressive.  

  • Guest

    Nobody should be judged for the color of their skin or anything else.  America has made great strides in becoming less racist over time but racism can still be a REAL problem. Just because there are things that people might wrongly take as being racist doesn’t mean that sometimes those same things could be of racist intent, or that people aren’t still discriminated against. We have to move beyond that. America is a diverse country of diverse people. Black, white, Latino, Asian, Native American, we belong to the same human race.

  • Nancy

    Oh here’s one of those I want my country back yeehaws!

  • spazamataz

    Dear Lee0521,

    Black people have their own organizations because white dominant society has rejected them at every turn.  Black organizations give support to people who need a safe place to commune and identify with others who struggle in a society that oppresses them.  If you read a couple of books about subtle, overt, and institutional racism you will better understand why your comments are “garage logic,” which translates directly to “not enough education to really understand the complexities of life.”  As a white person, it is hard to read the comments you make out of ignorance.  I am particularly disgusted that 100 people have “liked” your comments.  Go to college and take a class on race and ethnicity.  As a white person, it is a very painful course to sit through, but your eyes will be opened to the reality of racism and you will be a better person for understanding this complex societal problem.  

  • Spazamataz

    Thoughts about the comments to this article from a political centrist:  

    First, whenever there is an article about race, several of the most ignorant white people make obnoxious racist comments. I hope that everyone will attribute those foolish comments only to the writers of those comments and not all white people.  I often think these dummies are just trying to annoy people.  Maybe I give them too much credit.   I also hope that my foolish comments below are only attributed to me.  


    We are all so angry.  When will it stop?  We need to show each other compassion and understanding and less judgment.  
    For white people, we will never know what it’s like to live in a white dominant society without white skin.  We will never know what it’s like to be seen first as black (or nonwhite) and then as the person we are based on our unique personality or character. Many of us don’t see racism everywhere because our skin color grants us the privilege to not have to think about race.  Racism hurts.  As white people, we cannot sit idly by when we see racism and we must ALWAYS check our own subtle racist thoughts and beliefs.  
    For black and other nonwhite people, it hurts very much to be called racist for actions that truly aren’t racist.  It also hurts the credibility of those who identify true racism if people too frequently label things as racism that are not.  (As this article identifies.)

    For everyone, we all need to work together to make this world a better place.  That means we need to LISTEN to each other.  White people, we need to listen more carefully than others because we are often blind to or dismiss racism because we are rarely the victims of racism.  When we hear overt or subtle racism, sexism, and ageism, we all need to act to stop it in public and in private. We also need to be forgiving when we say stupid things to each other that are hurtful out of ignorance.  Most of all, we need to lighten up and be kind to each other.  

  • Klpzdm

    You deleted all my comments but you left the racist comments in?

  • Wemrs2011

    I work in an office with people of several races. There are those whose company and conversation I enjoy and there are those I try to avoid; the color of the skin has absolutely nothing to do with it. During a conversation with a young black female, another co-worker’s name came up and the young lady mentioned this co-worker was a racist and she did not like working with her. Because I knew the white co-worker was married to a black man, I asked why she thought she was racist. The answer? “Because she doesn’t like me!” WHAT?????? Naturally the conversation took a different turn as I attempted to explain to the young lady that people can just not like you without any thought to race. After further discussion, I concluded that this young lady felt it was racist if someone did not like a black person but not necessarily racist if they did not like people of other races. A couple of other black people in the conversation felt the same way. Clearly they have no idea what racist is. I was astounded that they felt so strongly that simply disliking them made a person racist. When asked if they thought I was racist, they said no and I of course let them know there were some blacks I did not care to be around but I would feel the same way whether they were white, brown or poka dotted – it was their personality I did not care for – unbelievable what some parents, the media, politicians, etc have led them to believe.Does racism exist? Absolutely and all races of people are affected by it, some more than others. It is time to move on and stop reading racism into everything a white person may say that you don’t like.

    • Grapples

      The funniest people are the ones that say. “I’m black I can’t be raciest” The most raciest thing I have ever herd.

      • Misty Jean Moore

        You can’t be black and racist. Prejudice, yes, racist, no. Racism requires institutional powers. Blacks don’t have any power in America. 

        • Actually, yes you can be black and racist. Racism is the belief that inherent different traits in human racial groups justify discrimination.

          • Grapples

            Misty jean Moore. Raciest is Hatred or intolerance for another race or other races. I don’t see anything there that says “except black people”. Your statement is inherently raciest ie.. What applies to whites, Asians, Mexicans doesn’t apply to blacks, that is retarded. Your ignorance makes me sad. Quinton Barnes and TimC thank you.

          • Black people CAN’T be racist as MISTY JEAN MOORE says. We as a people are STILL INSTITUTIONALIZED, so there you go. Plus, racism is what it is. A racist is someone that uses stereotypes & culture to guide the way they treat people of certain races. LET’S GET AWAY from the dictionary version & all that jazz. CALL IT like you see it and not what you want others to believe YOU BELIEVE. And I am talking about everyone that is posting that as how they define racism. SOME PLAIN SIMPLE FACTS that don’t have to be documented are these; Black people cannot be racist because PER HISTORY, Just about every race that makes up this wonderful ‘MELTING POT’ we share took Africans as slaves & mistreated/oppressed them. Yet unless you have wronged us, WE are the only race of people that will accept any and all races into our circle. Then everyone EXPECTS black people not to hate people, that hat them?? How does that make sense? ANOTHER FACT; White people have had SLAVES OF D@$N NEAR EVERY RACE!! Look these things up, they are true!! GOOGLE TELLS YOU EVERYTHING. And I don’t want to hear Africans had slaves TOO!! Every race of people enslaved their own people initially, DUH!! Its called survival of the fittest. Of course the richest of each nation were in control. I’M TALKING ABOUT AFTER THAT!

        • TimC

          So you are saying that the President, a Supreme Court Judge, several Senators, and many Representatives are just tokens with no power?

  • anaximander3

    This was a good article, except the last line: “But be on the look out .. [perhaps] you’re being recruited as the `token’.”  The whole point of this article is to not always be suspicious or on the look out for anything.  When you are always suspicious or on the look out, I’m sorry, but you will see what you are looking for far more often than it is actually there.  That is: lighten up.   That was the excellent point of this whole article until the last line.

  • ConradDobler

    Violence was started by- uh oh- “You people”…”You people” are the proverbial ‘professional whiners’ spewing such insidious nonsensical terms like “Reverse Discrimination” and when it comes to “VIOLENCE” well this corrupt country was founded on violence by “you people”….not to mention “you people” first started all of the exclusions of schools, clubs, political organizations, etc. Look in the mirror at your own crybaby VIOLENT SAVAGE PAST before judging anybody else…

  • HunnyBadgr

    You are espousing racist opinions while complaining about blacks “crying racist”. There fore you are validating the existence of racism and nullifying your point.

  • GlobalWarner1

    For the record, the peculiar institute of Chattel Slavery existed in America for more than 230 years.
    This social malaise became insidiously interwoven into every aspect of American Society, including Religion!
    Sadly, ‘Africans-lost-in-America’ have yet to decipher the riddle of the ‘Whitened Sphinx;’ instead, most have chosen to assimulate into the parts of Society that will tolerate them; though, over-all, as a particular people, they have no real or ratifiable plan.
    At last check, Dr. MLK was murdered while still protesting that ‘We had yet to overcome!’
    Today, so-called Black people behave as if they have actually overcome, yet, the false veneer of wearing their wealth for all to see, whether it’s cars, bling or a white girl, exposes the fact that nothing could be further from the truth!

    America was founded as a Business Venture, and in some respects, remains a Colony of the British Crown.
    If Caucasians are under an otherwise illusion, it counts double for ‘Blackened People.’
    After-all, to the Victors goes the spoils of War! This include Economic, Politics, Religion, Education and the predominate Society.
    It’s quite evident by the constant rehashing of the same topics that Africans-lost-in-America have yet to overcome beyond designation chosen for them by their ‘Whitened conquerors.’
    To embrace the Religion of their conquerors, when the interpretation of that same Religion has failed to inspire any semblamce of brotherhood towards the oppressed, is a cruel joke under the guise of Religion.

    Those are just a few opening observations contained in ‘Message To A Dead/Man’ by turner page.
    Hopefully this challenging book will be released by: ‘Third World Press’ in 2012.  

    • Grapples

      Congrats!!!!! You take top raciest award!! How does it feel to be a bigot? Whats worse is you are discriminating against your own just like Jessie Jackson. I think you even have him beat. Still a British Colony??? Where have you been? Your Really dumb…

  • Klpzdm

    Your post sounds like it was written by a violent neanderthal

  • rcmay

    Although, I can appreciate your comments I do look forward to the day when the lead can read ‘Things a XX% of Americans confuse as racist’ and still have the same degree of interest to read on.  Of course, though we are not there yet.

  • I’m sure 99.9% of the people here don’t regularly interact with blacks; I do. They refer to Caucasians as “white” when describing people also. How come 93% of blacks say obama’s doing a great job, while only 38% of whites. Blacks vote based on skin color only, not on achievements or platform. 

    • An ignorant thing to assume. Maybe they just have a different perspective then white people do? And if you’re going to post statistics, provide a link.

  • Minority

    What happens when a white guy walks through the hood? Argument over!!!!! I’m Mixed but am viewed as white because of my complexion.

    • What time of day is it? DAYTIME MEANS looking for drugs-Nightime-stepping out on his wife
      No jobs in the Hood so his prescence is suspect .

  • Lyle

    The author writes “As someone that has tested this theory out on multiple occasions I can tell you its exceedingly easy to shoplift when you’re dressed for a corporate office.”

    So, are you telling us you are a successful shoplifter?

  • Puriel25

    This is the most ignorant story I have ever read. I do not look at the color of ones skin I look at the way that person carries his or her self and acts. If white or black and they act like a thug then a thug is the label they get from me. My own grand son acts like a thug and he is white as snow!!! He’s only 13 and shows signs of jail in his future. Wears his pants down so every one can see his UNDERwear. Pull your pants up MEN act like you care about yourself!!! The rebel flag is NOT racist it was history. NO I do not fly it because those days are over and our flag does not look like that any more. I am southern and darn proud of that fact. The same is for the people born up north, west, or east I am sure! Get over the color thing!!!! We are just plain ole Americans. Nothing makes me mader than having to say AfrianAmerican.
    AMERICAN! that’s it.

    • Mr.Brody

      You sound ignorant yourself. “Get over the color thing”
      I assume you are not a member of a minority group so I don’t expect  you to understand. Racism is not going anywhere anytime soon contrary to what you believe. Racism is a system that was design by white men.(Not a racist or anything just telling it like it is) Unlike other ethnic groups, we didn’t come here voluntarily.We came from slavery,We are the only group of people who had their entire culture stripped away from. We helped build  this country and were treated like sub-humans.We wouldn’t have basic human rights if our people didn’t fight for it.      You telling people to get over that is the most racist thing anybody can say.

      • Urabutt

        Mr. Brody your the one that needs to get over the color thing. You have a bad case of tunnel vision. You are the reason that Racism isn’t going anywhere. You hate white people so much you are blind to your own faults and fail to see that white people freed the slaves not black people. If all white people wanted blacks to be slaves they would still be, but whites saw that it was wrong and led the way to your freedom. The civil war was started over that battle. For you to say blacks freed themselves is extremely disrespectful to all of those who fought and died for your freedom. The great majority of white people want racism to go away just as much as blacks if not more. It is a stigma we carry with us, even though my parents were not born in this county black people still feel my ancestors enslaved yours and hold me as responsible as the ancestors that did (that is racism). Good day sir.

    • Wemrs2011

      AfrianAmerican? Who are they?

  • Johncarlos48

    Who writes this stuff? I’m black – been black my entire life. I don’t  – nor have I ever thought any of this was racist???? Without question, most of it is completely ignorant however – There is a difference you know! Who writes this stuff?????

  • Guest

    With regard to people all looking alike: Any person is more sensitive to differences among the group of people he grew up with because a child needs to be able to differentiate between the people in his immediate surroundings, and that type of learning seems to take place early. And it’s very family-specific and group-specific. My in-laws have no difficulty in distinguishing between the pair of identical twins in their family. If you look at pictures of them when they looked alike (before they grew different facial hair, etc.) you couldn’t tell them apart. So people learn the cues for their family, then the people who interact with them outside their family, then their schoolmates, etc., and become more sensitive to those differences. In a sense, all not-my-family’s-ethnic-group really DO look alike, no matter what that group happens to be.

    I have an extreme version of this problem: I have prosopagnosia. Face-blindness. I live in a world of strangers. As a child, I was terrified of being separated from my parents in public because I wasn’t sure I could recognize them again. As an adult, I can’t recognize people I’m doing business with, friends out of their usual context, or even most relatives. It’s crippling. I’ve always been fond of conventions because nametags are de rigeur; once I read someone’s name, I have no difficulty recalling everything I know about them. But without that name, I’m at sea. I’ve long wanted the equivalent of the ancient Roman “nomenclator”, someone who stood behind an important person and whispered the names of everyone he was about to meet (making me wonder if there were a lot of prosopagnosiac ancient Romans, or if all Italians in togas look alike to everyone else, not just me). When I’m trying hard to remember how to recognize a person, I key on things like age, height, build, and, yes, race. People can change their clothes, change their hairstyles (or just throw me off by putting on a hat), etc., but the tall Asian guy is likely to remain tall and Asian. Get TWO tall Asian guys in the same room, though, and I’m lost; I don’t have the wiring, somehow, to tell one from the other. They look totally different to someone sensitized to the features that tell them apart, but I am not that person — not for anyone, even my own relatives (I can now reliably recognize my parents and spouse, but that’s about it). Likewise for short white gals, fat black guys, or any other age/build/sex/race combination. And it’s very situational: I can find ways to identify all the people in a meeting, for instance, but if I were to encounter one of them at the mall, I wouldn’t know them at all. Somehow, the cue-learning that most people do never happened with me.

    It’s been a nightmare in a lot of ways (imagine not being able to recognize your own boss when you meet him outside the office!), but it does give me some insight on why people think “all X look alike”. If you didn’t spend the first few years of your life around people who look like X, you’re going to key on the ways in which a certain member of group X is different from the “familiar” (family/friends) group rather then the ways in which he or she is different from other Xs. And the color of someone’s skin is a very clear, very visual marker in that way, often one that overwhelms more subtle distinctions. You see the color of someone’s skin long before you consider the bushiness of their eyebrows or the shape of their chin, and if they’re one of the few people you interact with who look like that, you’ll often stop there. Meet someone else who displays the same visual cues you’ve already identified with the first person, and you’re stuck; you’re like most people with my identical twin in-laws.

    I suspect that members of any minority group are better able to distinguish between members of the majority simply because they’re surrounded by images of them constantly, even if their family is different. For example, while most anglos think all Asians look alike, an anglo kid who grew up in China would probably have little difficulty distinguishing between different Chinese people because he learned the cues early enough from the community around him. It’s an argument in favor of diversity, I suppose.

    • spazamataz

      I read about prosopagnosia in my psychology class and thought about how scary the world would be not being able to recognize faces.  Thank you for sharing your unique perspective.

  • Shortsircut

    Dear WGIBC, you are about as ignorant as they come. It is you that does not know diddly squat about our history and our government, or any other government for that matter. Try reading history books, actually, try reading older history books and you will get a much more accurate picture of our history, and government than any news station will give you. You will find that the larger the government, the more opressive it is, and that is what we are experiencing in America today is extreme government growth, a government that cannot stop spending, and a government that wants ALL of its people to be dependant on the government. This is NOT tolerable in ANY free society, especially America!!!
    As for racism, actually I think America is doing very well in dealing with racism. I doubt racism will ever completely go away, and it really has nothing to do with color, it’s an attitude thing.  While in China this year, I saw more racism there in 3 weeks than many years worth here in America.  Makes you wonder that even though the Chinese people are all kinda yellow colored, and to many people around the world “they all look alike”, there is rampant racism going on there.  I saw Chinese people treating other Chinese people like total dirt for no other reason other than they come from a different part of China.  To me I could not tell them apart, they all appear and sound like any other typical Chinese person, but the Chinese know, and make no bones about treating them like crap.  Considering the Chinese culture has been around for thousands of years and they still cannot get a handle on their own racism. America on the other hand has only had a couple hundred years and we have come a VERY long way from legal slavery to having a black President! 

    Maybe a good start would be for us all to be just Americans!  Not African Americans, or Irish Americans, or German Americans, that is what makes us ALL Americans, we are from all over the planet. Don’t any of you get it, there would be no America if it were not for the diversity of our people!!!

    I think what would help is for all people to stop looking for things to be offended over.  It seems that todays people are just waiting to ambush another person for the lamest of excuses.  It ranks right up there with men living in fear of a woman to start screaming “sexual harassment”.  Yes sexual harassment is real, just like racism is real, but lets not forget that  even though they may be real, they are also misused beyond all possible belief!!! 

  • Piper

    You think there’s nothing wrong with blackface? Your magazine is so desensitised(sp?) to racism that you wouldn’t know it, if it slapped you in the face. Your magazine lost all credibility.

  • hellohello

    Some of the comments here are seriously embarassing. I’m white and I don’t want these people representing me. Anyway, to comment on some of the comments and topics in the article: I think Obama is doing a fantastic job, and he always handles himself with grace. I get followed in stores all the time because I carry a big purse, and I don’t have any black friends because I live in a predominantly white and hispanic area. I think this was a good article – and if someone’s acting weird around you, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re racist either. They could just be nervous about saying something wrong that can be misinterpreted.

  • Anonymous Coward

    People don’t just ask me if I work somewhere; they just treat me as though I DO work there, without even asking. I’ve had people yell at me for not being able to tell them where something is (and slink away in shame when I politely suggest that they ask an employee, not a fellow customer). And these are people who are the exact same race and sex I am.

  • Emm

    I can tell that a white person or a person of color, who was not raised within a black community, wrote this.

    • Guest

      so what are you trying to say?  People raised in the black community are ignorant?

  • PaxAmericana

    It is a problem which shall never go away so long as people buy into the false paradigm that we call “Race”.  The very concept was invented just a few hundred years ago by those who wished to demean a portion of humanity in order to justify subjegation and enslavement of those people.  Race has no more REAL bearing upon the world than a person’s eye or hair color.  It is impossible to draw definitive lines marking the boundaries between one “race” and another, and often those of different “races” have more in common genetically than some of the same “race” do.  As soon as people are pigeonholed into one “race”, or category, or other, an Us versus Them mentality is generated.  Ya wanna get rid of racism?  The only way is to get rid of racial classification entirely.

    • Guest

      if only Americans realized enslavement wasn’t color specific….

  • livelaughlove

    Sometimes you meet people and you might think they are racist based on how they behave.  Let me tell you, there are a LOT of really unhappy, miserable individuals out there who don’t like anyone, anytime even in their own familes and they are happy to bring you down.  I think that these people are misleading to other races because they might come off as racist.  They just don’t like anyone, don’t take offense to these people!  If you think about it, I’m sure you can come up with atleast 1 person you know who is like that!  Take responsibility for your own actions, feelings and destiny and nobody can repress you.  Anybody who has found success or bliss will tell you the same.  Don’t let anybody hold you down, if you do, it’s just an excuse for failure.

  • The article missed the biggest “thing black people think is racist but is not”.

    Hey black guys, it is not racist if a white woman grabs her purse around you.

    • Bob

      No, it’s smart.

    • ConradDobler

      Hey white guy, it’s not racist if black parents keep a very close eye on their young kids when “one of you” are around….

      • Remember444

        LOL White boy got owned!

  • guest

    Thank you! I make that mistake in Walmart all the time with anybody wearing a blue shirt which has made for some awkward moments.

    • Guest

      People used to ask me all the time if I “worked there”. I don’t care what store I was in, someone at one point or another would ask me something about where to find something or something about the store. One day I FINALLY stopped a person after they apologized when I said I didn’t work there and said, “I get that a lot. Why do people think I always work for the store?” She replied…and I’m not joking…”Your keychain!” My keychain…that’s it. It had a swipe ID card on t for work.People mistook it for an ID tag for the store.  I get followed around in a store too. If you wear something baggy with no make up..I dont care what race you are…you’re getting followed.

    • Anonymous Coward

      It was so much easier when Wal-Mart had store-issued employee uniforms, not just this “wear a blue shirt and tan pants” thing. Checking for name tags helps, though, if you can get a look at the front of them.

  • Gazelle99

    just food for thought- I’m a white girl and lived in the DR congo for a couple of years- people there were constantly swearing that they had seen me here or there, even when it was impossible. It was generally felt within the expat population- from Indians to Scandanavians that the locals had trouble telling us apart. And so goes the joke about Asians… I think if we are honest with ourselves, we might not have honed the visual cues that differentiate individuials within races that we are not in frequent contact with.  Maybe it’s a matter of practice, or maybe it’s survavilastic genetic coding (to let us know who might be the most important/closest to us), but I think we are overall somewhat challenged in this regard- and it will likely be felt most by any person living as a minority in mostly homogeneous communities… 

  • Trughbull

    Sorry boys and girls … there is now, there has always been, and there will forever always be, … only one race, … the human race. Anybody saying otherwise should have their ideals valued at the same exchange rate we apply to The Flat Earth Society, The Earth is the Center of the Universe Symposium, The Bible Says EVERYTHING is 9,872 Years Old League, and The Holocaust Never Happened Union. CHOOSING to be ignorant … is NOT a religious freedom nor does it require, or warrant, protection under freedom of speech.   DNA studies and The Human Genome Project have destroyed any footing upon which any arguement any racist could attempt.  We ARE all the same.  

  • bea

    This doesn’t happen only with black people. Once I was called a racist by another white girl (I’m Spanish, living in Spain, and white), because I “described someone as black”, what made perfectly sense to me since I am surrounded by white people and that was the easiest way to indicate who I was talking about. If I had said “the blond one” nothing would’ve happened. But, why? What’s the difference, really?

    Nowadays there are so many things that are politicaly incorrect that we have to think twice before speaking, and I think that’s the wrong attitude in many situations: if I had avoid the use of the word “black” intentionally, THAT would be being racist (or more probably in this country, being afraid of being called racist). But that’s just my opinion.

    I wanted to write this because I am sick and tired of people who try to find faults in everybody else so that they show how superior their moral standards are.

  • Candi

    Interesting. I was thinking about the “being followed in a store thing.” I’m a white woman ,and I went into a health food store the other night with my two daughters. The clerk was eyeing us nervously the entire time , even though I asked several questions in a friendly way and it was obvious we were there to purchase things, not shoplift. I’m your typical  suburban, middle class mom, so it’s definitely not a race thing or even a class thing.

    • Guest

      A technique I’ve seen used (they tried on me when I ran a store, in fact) is to have two people working together, one who is intended to look “risky” (say, a sloppily-dressed hispanic man) and one who is intended to look “safe” (perhaps a nicely-dressed anglo woman). The “risky” one acts suspiciously, such as handling multiple items, looking anxiously around him, etc., while the “safe” one behaves, well, safely. Then while all staff eyes are on the “risky” one, the “safe” one steals anything that isn’t nailed down. Store personnel who are wise to that will keep an eye on people who look like they’re NOT likely to shoplift if there’s someone around who seems to be ostentatiously acting as though they are because they know about teams like that.

      • Candi

        Well, maybe that’s the reason. I do seem to remember a tall, light skinned black man walking in around the same time we did. I wasn’t watching him, but I don’t think he was acting suspiciously at all, and he was dressed very neatly. I thought for sure he left before we did, and the clerk was still eyeing us. Maybe she thought he was coming back? If that was the case, then she must think black people and white people work together real well.

  • Guest

    This article isn’t that bad, but I think it is ridiculous to suggest that everyone walk around in business suits, in a grocery store or convenience store no less. What’s wrong with wearing casual clothing like jeans and t-shirt?

  • Aoiewr

    Not happy getting what was finally coming to you? 

  • Tremas727

    i cant speak for anyone else, but when I have heard the phrase, “you people”, it has typically been directed at an individual as opposed to a group of people, and that is wrong!


    Nice article , obvious stuff quite a soft ” i don`t wan to offend anyone approach ”  but not convincing to me i`d say people need to play situations by ear and not make unqualified judgements but yeah!!  and never take written rules for a real life situation , the real world is more complex than this.

  • really

    HA!  Its funny this article even needs to be written, black people have been GIVEN every advantage these days, and still cant seem to get a grip.

    • Actually they haven’t. You are wrong. Racism is still big in this country.

  • guest

    I get asked if I ‘work here’ when I’m not carrying a hand bag and not wearing a coat. But I’m white, I do however know when some one is subtly passing judgment upon me for being a single parent, even in the professional world. You just know it. I’ve learned to believe my black friends. It’s a shame.

  • Siggy86

    I agree that a lot of Black people tend to jump to the conclusion that some one is racist a little too quickly at times. However, the last example that you used about the White person not having any Black friends can be the most damaging to minority races. Most of the businesses and corporations are headed by White people. If I am going into an interview for a new job, I have to consider the fact that one of the interviewers does not have any close relationships with any Black people. Therefore any opinions that they’ve formed about Black folks has been derived mostly from television, music, and newspapers (and we know those images of us are not always that great and they certainly do not represent me). We have to go into the interview attempting to strike down any preconceived notions that they may have regarding us by being exceptionally better than and brighter than the other candidates. I know everyone claims that they select the “best one for the job”, but what happens when two candidate, say Black and White are equally qualified? The White person who does not have any Black friends may select the White person because he might remind him of one of his most loyal friends, or they might feel as if he or she blends in with the overall work environment more than the Black candidate (keep in mind that not all employers acknowledge AA laws to help combat this). This is the type of racial divide that can hurt Blacks the most. We are historically divided so embracing others can be an odd or even uncomfortable experience. If management doesn’t make an effort or even care to go outside of their comfort zones at times, this is what contributes to Black’s mentality of feeling “held back”. There needs to be greater efforts to where we can eliminate “mostly White or mostly Black” neighborhoods so that children are rooted with the fact that, we are pretty much all the same.

    • CraigT

      Very good points!  

      I would add the reverse about how many Black business owners hire a White over a Black?  I haven’t experienced that first hand but have heard Black charity bosses talk about why help a downtrodden White when they can find a corresponding Black. 

      I’m sure there is racism on both sides, I’m White and have experienced both sides of the responses often listed as “subtle racism” so one does have to be careful about attributing racism as the author suggests.

    • Guest

      You are educated and shouldn’t have any problem with walking in and dispelling any stereotypes  that anyone may have or hold. Ie: if I get a call “Is ya’ll hirin?” I know they are not educated enough to speak. so why would they be qualified for any job working with people? But you are obviously more educated then I, and have much better grammar.  My point is you would not be lumped in with the uneducated pile. It is then based on your experience, education, and personality. This is not  judgement on race this is judgement on education, personality and the ability to be RESPECTED.

      A side note for those looking for work.
      I WILL NOT RESPECT ANYONE THAT DOES NOT ATTEMPT TO SPEAK CORRECTLY. This does not pertain to just one race, I have had many white people come in and expect to get a job asking “dude your hirin right? Sweet.” They get nothing either… I am more likely to hire a foreigner trying to learn the language than an American that cant speak English.

  • Charlesnspirit

    You white people are still racially prejudice/bias.  I experience it all the time.  Stop lying to the world.

  • the_guise_of_reason

    there is scientific fact behind why people of one ethnic background can believe that everyone from another ethnic background looks alike…

    to white people, all black and asian people can look alike because white people are used to identifying things like hair colour, eye colour, height, weight etc as identifying features, whilst black and Asian people notoriously have the same eye/hair colour.. black and asian people look at other distinguishing features such as the shape of someones nose, eyes, position of cheek bones etc…

    so when a white person says “all black people look alike” or when a black person says “all asian people look alike” its not that they are racist, or even that they are wrong. they are simply used to looking at certain identifying features within their own race which do not necessarily identify someone of another race. example; if a white person was to move to china, after spending a bit of time their they would naturally learn to distinguish people via different features and suddenly, would never think all asians look alike again.

    I am white, i have blonde hair and blue eyes, i have a fairly prominent suntan,  I am taller than the average white male, and i weigh more than the average white male, yet i have had many asian people tell me all white people look alike, and that i look the same as a 5’4 brown haired man with brown eyes, pasty white skin and freckles. this isnt racist, its just ones perception of others.

    I have lived in Asia for 9 years, i previously lived in the caribbean for 5 years and before that i lived in Africa for 3 years. never would i say two black people or two asian people, or two white people look alike… unless they truely do. 

    • LeganDairy

      spot on. you sir, are a genius.

  • Lawhite3

    I often can’t tell if the “racism” experienced at stores is because of my shade, my gender or my weight. However, I do find it hilarious when a Caucasian man is near me in line & the store clerk thinks we’re together. I always say, “we are if he’s paying!” LOL!!!!

  • Betteeitel

    I admit that I despise most of the blacks I know.  I was bullied in college by blacks.  I have been the victim of a crime where the perpetrators were black,  I work with lazy people who happen to be black.  They show up late, sleep at work and  get away with it BECAUSE THEY ARE BLACK and pull out that tired old race card any time anyone attempts to call them on it. 

    I am sick to death of blacks.  Bring on the Mexicans, they work.

  • Craigmar

    There’s still an undercurrent of paranoia here, as if the author doesn’t quite believe what he wrote.

  • Ghoodfellah

    WTF! YOU(racist ) PEOPLE have a 400 year head start! That’s not enough! I can’t blame you though, America has shown time and again that it’s OK to cheat and steal and go against the word of God in order to win. Don’t you think that’s why SOME black ppl try that strategy? It worked for all the white conquerors. Hell, find a native American and ask him if he’s happy with his reservation! That’s like stealing a trillion dollars, giving back a thousand and expecting the victims to feel justice was served. How come when white America wants justice, it’s OK to picket and protest. Look at “occupy wall street movement ” ! You would call them greedy cry babies if they were ethnic looking for equality. But no…… It’s OK,…… There white……so…..there right. No questions asked.

  • I propose a thought experiment regarding the Harvard professor and police officer who came to his house upon suspicion of a burglary.  We all remember what race each of them were.  We all remember the great row it created and the nice little beer sit down afterward with the pres.  Clearly it was a case of the white officer who was racist in assuming that the black man, trying to gain access to his house without keys, was potentially a burglar.  It was profiling by any stretch of the imagination. 

    Now the thought experiment.  What if everthing which occured up to the point where the officer asked for identification were exactly the same with one exception?  What if the officer was black? 

    Take a moment to think about that. 

    Everything, in this experiment is the same.  The tone of voice, the suspicion, the body language, the clothing, the time of day, everything.     

    • Guest

      OH PLEASE!  Cops do this to ANYONE after a call of something suspicious. He could have been a white guy and the cop would have done the same thing.  I personally had a guy ID himself in front of his own house at 3am because I didnt recognize his car. (a white guy) He thanked me for being so alert because his wife was home alone while he worked. (and it was a borrowed car because his broke down) When I hear that BULL about the white cop being racist (no mention of the black cop that was with him) I roll my eyes at such ignorance.

      • Exactly my point.  You assumed that I was trying to say that if it was a black cop all would have all been perfectly worked out.   My point however was that the professor was the person doing the profiling here.  The prof profiled the white police officer as being a racist and escalated the situation way beyond the possibility of resolution.  Had he simply complied with the officer all would have been resolved quickly.  Remember, in the experiment all was exactly the same.  The tone, the inflection, the body lanquage of the officer.  All except a change of color.   How would the black professor have react to this simple change in color?   My thought is that he would have cooperated.  Just who was the racist here?  Who was profiling who?  And if he would not have cooperated with the black officer?   Well,  we’d have never heard of the incident.  The news media would have never brought this to our attention because it was not a conflict between a black professor and a white policeman.  
        Now let’s stretch the thought experiment further.   Make the professor white and the officer black.   What are the chances that the white professor would have cooperated? And if he did not cooperate?  What are the chances that the news media would have made you aware of it?  

  • Handkphil

    God loves all of us, and commands us to love each other. Please, try to see beyond skin color. Measure the people you meet by their heart, not by their phtsical characteristics.

  • Bandit32539

    Racism is natural for people of all recesses, but treating
    people because of their race is Just Plain Wrong.

    I grew up out in the country and one of my best friends was
    not a Negro, never met one until I was a teen agree.  At the age of eighteen I joined the Air Force
    (1953) went straight into a barracks full of White and Black people, and right
    away I met this (being politically correct) black person and instantly we
    become I thought good friends. 

    Well, one day he and I went to the Cafeteria and when we got
    back to the barracks there had been a fight between a white and a black, and
    just like that one blink of an eye my black friend acted like I had done
    something to him, and our friendship ended right there.  That was my first experience with racism.  Now I am 77 years old, throughout my life I
    have seen a lot of racism, and I can tell you it is mostly black against white.

    Therefore, the answer to this is separation of the races;
    the melting is not working, never has, and never will, think I am wrong?  Name a place where it is working.

    • Guest

      Right here. Right where I live.

      I have friends of various different races, and we’re friends because we like each other as PEOPLE. Also, it’s not 1953 anymore.

  • Douglas J. Bender

    “The practice of blackface enjoyed a long and popular run in American
    entertainment and didn’t become taboo until late in the 20th century.”

    “Didn’t become taboo until LATE in the 20th century”????  Oh, I forgot — blackface was quite popular during the 70s and 80s.  Or doesn’t the rock group, KISS, count as being “blackfaced”?

    • Anonymous Coward

      I believe they count as being demon-faced.

    (end racism)

    • Guest

      a lot of people dont like rap because of the violence and cursing.  

  • WaterDog

    Hey, here’s a few facts…

    Slavery was ended in the US more than
    150 years ago.

    That’s more than six generations ago.

    Not one person living today remembers
    slavery in the US.

    The “Great Society” policies of the
    Democrat Party have done more harm to more Blacks than Slavery.
    (Encouraging Single Parent Households, rewarding people who won’t
    work with housing, food and medical care, hiring quotas, etc.)

    Blacks have the highest Unemployment
    Rate of any group in the US, not because they are Black, but because
    they won’t learn a Trade and they won’t show up for work. People
    hire illegal Mexican’s not because they do a great job, which they
    don’t in most cases, but because they will show up and work. Even
    now, when we know the damage done to our country because of the flood
    of illegals from all countries, the illegal segment of the US
    population has a lower unemployment rate then the Black population.

    Respect is EARNED! If You People want
    anyone else to take you seriously and show you some respect, pull up
    your pants (literally), learn a real trade (Basketball does not
    count), get a job, show up for work, do a good job and stop demanding
    the whites in America make up for something that ended before your
    great-grandmother was born.

    Whites in America are not Racist. Like
    others who have posted here have pointed out, we have a non-white
    President. The whites in this country have gone so far to prove they
    are not racist, we have even put our country at risk by electing
    someone who was not qualified to be our President, but at least he
    looked the part.

    • Anonymous Coward

      You justify having no respect for a black professional because some black teenager has baggy pants and no work ethic. Congratulations on demonstrating your racism.

  • Omaha Doc

    I am a vanilla-white obstetrician in a midwestern town.  I work at a hospital that tries to meet the needs of the under-served.  As a result I have lots of patients who are poor, many of them black.  I’ve gotten to know a lot of them as I take care of their pregnancies.  I have to say that some of my patients and I  have become great friends and we look forward to our visits.  Many of them are absolutely wonderful people.  It was an eye-opening experince when I took this job.

  • Angelina

    AH! I enjoyed your humorous take but as the only white person working at black place of business I was constantly being accused of being racist for some turn of phrase that I used. My boss told me not to worry about it, that some black people just assume all white people are racist and when you are looking so hard for something you can usually find it. I eventually quit because I knew I was not racist but got tired of defending myself all the time

  • Lucykip

    If I don’t get hired, it is my failure.  If someone looks at me in a store, then they are just looking at me.  If someone asks me for help in a store (it happens a lot), then they are just asking for help.  If someone is rude or disrespects me, then they are just rude.   But if I were black, it is RACISM  !!!!

  • Lucykip

    I would say that the biggest “worry” that white folks have with black folks is that they will be accused of being racist.   American blacks have such a fetish for “it is racism!!!” that it is a frig’n minefield of potential triggers just to have a normal conversation with them.   This fetish makes it uncomfortable.  It isn’t anyone’s color that is the concern, but rather, the worry of being accused of some sort of subtle racism.  Who wants that?  I often wonder if employers have the same worry.

  • Lucykip

    We’ve created a culture (here in the US) where we’ve installed a fetish for “racism” in our black american citizens.   It is truly bizarre.  I have African (actual african) friends and they are baffled by this weird hunt for “subtle racism” by American blacks.   It truly is a kind of fetish.  We pound the carpet for morsels of racism… and when we find one… we celebrate it with documentaries, endless news stories, etc…. it is as though we are wanting to cultivate a “its a racist nation!!!”.  This “concern” is a money making industry.

  • Lee0521, your words are hurtful! I am taking the bus and you will not see me at the pancake social tomorrow!

  • People who say, “at the end of the day,” are not all black or racist.  However, it is grammatically better to say, “in the end.”  I will not say they are ignorant!  No, not me.  You people!!

    • Anonymous Coward

      Why would saying “at the end of the day” mean anyone was black or racist? Seriously, I’m baffled here.

  • Jjjtad

    Madame Noire is a sophisticated lifestyle publication


  • “irresponsible, selfish, race-baiting, violent, immature neanderthals!! “…That would be like me saying, “Grow up you white people and act like adults, instead of being child/anyone’s  rapists, corporate thieves, MURDERERS, and all around flakes…” Not ALL Black people are alike, so before you try to lump us ALL in the same category, get a clue LEE05221!!!! 

  • Tad

    My bl… pardon! Afro-american friend from work WAS OFFENDED when “White Christmas” song was played in our shop…

    • Guest


  • Mitch

    Great article.  I’m a 48-year-old white guy, and people (white and black) have been asking me for years if I “work here,” everywhere from Target to the grocery store.  It’s happened to me in shirt and tie, and in khakis and polo shirts, when I’m clean-shaven or have a three-day shadow.  I chalk it up to clueless people seeing someone who looks like he knows where he’s going, and figuring that’s the person to ask for help.  

  • OftenLate

    Enh. My ancestors lived up north back then where most blacks were free after the US REVOLUTION. I’m weary of it being taught as is all America were racist and divisive about skin color and slavery. Get off it and move on up a few centuries with the rest of us. Evolve.

  • Lisat214

    Racism is alive and well.  Let’s not fool ourselves.

  • savagenation

    The French are apparently not too tolerant. On a tour to Paris, two African American women went into a store to use the restroom. Two clerks followed them INTO the bathroom, stood there then followed them until they left. Maybe it’s frowned on if people use stores’ toilets over there, but seemed fishy to me.

  • Me

    as a white men I never had a racist thought until Obamas came along. Sad because I know some blacks and new though anything about the color but now I tend to think differently.

  • Amwmd

    Thank you for explaining to me how confused I can be with regard to my perception of being discriminated against.

  • I live in a predominately white suburb in NW Canada where I practiced as a psychologist for 30 years in a mental health clinic. I saw about a half dozen black people during that time. I asked a fellow once if he noticed white people staring at him and he agreed. I informed him that for the most part that was because he was interesting to look at. For example, the top of his hands were a different colour than his palms. Some of “us” are just curious onlookers. 

    As I read through the comments on this thread I feel badly for how the legacy of slavery continues to manifest itself in the U.S.A. The only true way to conquer this social evil is to judge people on their character, not their skin colour. Perhaps this is a tall order, but I believe it can be done. 

  • troyb

    yeah, i make 100k as a cop and still get followed. one of my co-workers (black) was said to be stealing in uniform with her crusier parked outside after paying with her credit card.

  • Galwairt

    Folks, I believe racism is a misnomer today. Time has driven it deep down into the subconscious when you are expressing it (subconsciously) you deny it openly. I advise you to read Freud!
    Some of the lame excuses people are quick to blurt out “I have black friends”, My wife/husband is black/white”, “I go to church with Blacks/Whites”, etc… smacks of being even paradoxical to me.
    Racism is a psychological syndrome and has become a mental residue in many persons. The cultural atmosphere is making it more and more difficult for people to want to be identified with it. But it is a fact that cannot be whisked away! Even during the Reformation and John Crow era there were blacks who tried to excuse Whites’ attitude in one way or the other.
    Bottom line? Even Blacks can be racists. I am an African and I have experienced the worst attitudinal snobs from blacks in this country than from whites.  

  • Michael

    You people… you internet thread posting people…

  • kadidid

    This article is racist because it never points out that black people do and say things that suggest they are racist. I wonder if any of you reading this think a black person with no white friends could be considered racist? But you are right, white people feel they can’t say anything to black people for fear they will take it wrong. And on racism…this is the most racist society ever…black on white racism and it is given  a free pass.

  • Contract06iraq

    Just for the record, Robert Downey’s character was a Sergeant, not a General. 

  • Bootney

    Well those things aren’t necessarily racist but that doesn’t mean that at times they aren’t. If you’re White you can rest assure that most aren’t, if you’re Black you’re not sure. What gets me is that those who like to lecture others about their response to perceive racism, have a vehement, knew-jerk reaction to perceived reverse discrimination. LOL.  I always ask Whites: how many Black bosses have you had, how many times have you submitted a loan application to bank with 90% Black employees? Or rental application to a Black landlord? Pulled over by 2 black cops, worked for a company that’s 90% Black, live in community 80% Black? Get on an airplane, go to a restaurant, etc., with 80% Black?  Most of you go through your day to day live without any contact where the decision about you’re life has to go through a Black person. Not talking about the anecdotal, I’m talking day in and day out.
      And I’m not buying the hyper-sentitive narrative because I’ve seen how uncomfortable Whites get when they aren’t in the majority. In fact there was a study that showed when the % gets about 5-7% Whites begin to get uncomfortable.  Easy to lecture people on something you only have to deal with on rare occasion. And when foreigners based on their experience with American travelers complain about “ugly-American” behavior, well we know who they’re talking about.  So spare me the high-brow indignation. 

    • Guest

      Lemme see … what have I done recently that was significant? I live a kind of boring life. Well, I had to wire money overseas for a purchase for my business. The bank teller, and then the bank vice-president, who handled the wire transfer were both black. Restaurants … well, the hostess that seated us in a restaurant last Thursday was black, as was the waiter who served our dinner, and the couple at the next table; I couldn’t tell you about the rest (except for the family of the screaming, running, obnoxious kid, which was white; I studied them rather closely while I tried to decide if it was worth the bother complaining about their ill-behaved brat). Speaking of complaints, I made one in a store last week, and the store manager on duty I spoke to was black; the target of the complaint (a very rude employee) was white. I’m a freelancer so I don’t have a boss as such, but I’ve certainly pitched my services with equal vigor to both white and black potential clients, so they have equal ability to “hire” me or not. Out of the last five jobs I had before I went freelance, three of my six immediate bosses were black. I lived for several years in the outskirts of Los Angeles where the only white face I saw most days was in the mirror. I’m sure if I paid more attention to the people I interacted with I’d be able to come up with more examples; I just remember those because either I paid particular attention to them (it’s helpful to know which waiter you want!) or because there was something at least temporarily significant about our interaction, such the bank personnel and the store manager. And, of course, it’s hard to forget your own boss.

      You were saying…?

  • Is this serious?? I’ve never read something so wrong. I can’t believe it was written by a black women. She must have some serioussss issues! 

    • “by a black women”? Nice English retard…

  • Sueglen

    What about black people using white face paint?

  • Zb

    “doesn’t have not”?

    Might want to have a proofreader look these things over first.

  • Donkeystud33

    Wow the grammar in this article is atrocious.   “don’t erase easy”,  “Impotence” I believe you meant impetus   “Doesn’t not”??  

  • Birdshit

    I like the “slavery is dead, get over it” comments…I bet the Jews don’t ever take time to remember the Holocaust…Whites should’ve finished us 3/5 human monkeys a long time ago…Never has racism been so prevalent until Barack Obama became President…

  • Angelito879

    I’m black and I say hell, if you don’t like black people just say it! Don’t sugar coat it saying that you avoid them b/c of our sensitivity to racism! That is a bunch of BS and you know it!  I have to say though how I love how white people try to victimize themselves when being accused of being racist, as if it was something that black people imagined.

  • Anonymous

    You can add another; Getting ignored at a restaurant or slow service (a.k.a. the Denny’s debacle).  It could just be that the restaurant has crappy service.  No one goes to Denny’s for the service and they may be short handed the day you go there.

  • rvbuilder

    It would be helpful if black people would stop falling back on their racial identity.  Lose the “African-American” thing.  Most blacks have never even BEEN to Africa, let alone come from there.  The only African-American guy I know is from Algeria.  Slavery was abolished 150 years ago.  Stop whining, get an education and a good job and make something of yourself.  That’s how other ethnic groups rose above racism and prejudice.  The best friend I ever had was black.  He died more than 10 years ago and I still miss him every day. 

    • Kascha K.

      Amazing that your best friend was Black and yet you still walk around thinking “African American” is a construct of Blacks.

      That sort of says everything there is to say about ya. If you really did have any close Black friends you’d have realized what a dim view many take of Africans in the first place because of the Arican tendency to come over here thinking they are superior to Blacks in America just like many Whites do.

      Perhaps instead of telling Blacks about the educations they don’t aspire towards and what they need to stop doing, you should be concentrating on not getting your insight into their race from movies like Belly. The name of the song was “I’m Black and I’m Proud”. Where do you see “African American” in there? Blame White busybodies in politics representing districts with more just like them and their overblown senses of entitlement and victim complexes who are forcing PC speech on everybody for “African American”.

  • SelinaaWozz

    Another restaurant cliaimed to use fresh mozz arella
    cheese,where it’s dishes were actually made with economy cheddar.the
    “fresh pasta”advertieshed on another meau tumed out to be
    frozen.–Agedate. c0m –a nice and free place
    for younger women and older men,or older women and younger men,to interact with
    each other

  • SelinaaWozz

    Another restaurant cliaimed to use fresh mozz arella
    cheese,where it’s dishes were actually made with economy cheddar.the
    “fresh pasta”advertieshed on another meau tumed out to be
    frozen.–Agedate. c0m –a nice and free place
    for younger women and older men,or older women and younger men,to interact with
    each other

  • I wonder if I am a racist.  When I was at a gambling casino recently I had lost quite a bit of money.  On my way out I encountered a security guard and advised him that I had been robbed.  I went on to say, “Don’t ask me to describe the perpetrator; they all look alike in here!”  Of course, I got a laugh out of that remark.

    • SelinaaWozz

      Another restaurant cliaimed to use fresh mozz arella
      cheese,where it’s dishes were actually made with economy cheddar.the
      “fresh pasta”advertieshed on another meau tumed out to be
      frozen.–Agedate. c0m –a nice and free place
      for younger women and older men,or older women and younger men,to interact with
      each other

  • just wanna say this article is BS. 

    • SelinaaWozz

      Another restaurant cliaimed to use fresh mozz arella
      cheese,where it’s dishes were actually made with economy cheddar.the
      “fresh pasta”advertieshed on another meau tumed out to be
      frozen.–Agedate. c0m –a nice and free place
      for younger women and older men,or older women and younger men,to interact with
      each other

  • IJS

    Ok, I agree with all but the being followed in the store. I am a professioanl woman and when I am dressed in my “weekday” clothing, I can walk in a store and people rush to help me, but as soon as I put on some leggings and Uggs I’m a thief? No honey, there are plenty of other little “non black” girls walking around in the same thing and they are not being tagged teamed by sales clerks. I shouldn’t have to walk around in a business suit to shop at 7/11. It’s RACIST.  
    Also, I’m not sure if you’re aware but it is a fact that “others” shop lift more than we do, so maybe they should focus more on the stats than the media. Oh did I mention that it is RACIST?!?!

  • You are so dumb.  So really, really dumb, fo reaaaaal.

  • Guest

    You only make your world scarier than it should be when you isolate yourself from a group or groups of people. We are all people. I don’t think the ‘race’ issue will get any better in this country any time soon. We have generations of people after us who will do the job of healing this country in that respect. It is up to those of us who are around now to equip them with the proper tools to meet that demand. Racism and hatred are learned. Don’t spread that type of knowledge.

  • this can’t be life!

  • Diamonds_06

    Aren’t you the same person that wrote the white men are better article? yeah…bye.

  • Bellarose6060


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  • Phillppe

    Every white person is going to make their first black friend at some point in their life. Casting doubt on that first relationship (“…may mean you’re being recruited as the “token”. “) not only destroys the premise of the article, but shows a certain amount of reverse racism on the author’s part.

  • Rado Rafiringa

    Way I see it, racism and hatred is someone else’s problem. I’m not PC to start with and can very easily take being called names. As far as I’m concerned they are labels that don’t change who you are. Still I recognize that it’s hard to keep your cool when someone tries to abuse you and you really haven’t done anything to ask for it. What really ticks me off in situations like that is the injustice more than the other guy’s hatred. It’s hard not to feel compelled to correct that, swiftly.

    One thing I noticed though is that a lot of folks are overly concerned with racism. For a country that embraces capitalism, it is rather contrarian. Racism does not make economic sense at all. If anything it closes business opportunities and markets. But I guess the dark past and unresolved beef has a way of popping its ugly head every now and then.
    Recognizing racism really does not take a lot of effort, because it simply does not compute. If you hear someone making a remark such as “Obama was not born here” without any shred of solid proof to back that up. Yep, that’s racism, disguised as staunch nationalism. Either that or plain stupidity. Those however who contend that Obama’s policies are destroying America, well, I can’t say they are racist, I would think they simply have a different perception of reality. And they damn well have the right to have that perception.

    • Anonymous Coward

      If Al Gore or Hillary Clinton were president, the same people would say their policies were destroying America. It’s about party, not race.

  • lolwut

    Please tell me this article is a spoof or a parody.

  • Asjdbfasd

    The very title of this article seems pretty racist to me. Why would someone who is black find something racist that I do not?  Do frontal cortexes come in different colors?

  • guest

    so, you still shoplifted in the business suit?

  • Sarah

    Re: #1. If I see someone wearing a “boardroom suit” in a grocery store, I assume it’s the store manager. 😛 


    As Rev Bond pointed out Black-American are some of the most racist people around.  Most racism is a reflection of the person screaming racism.  Some of the biggest racist I am aware of of are Jessie Jackson and Al Sharpton.  Anytime something happens to a Black-American they are out there screaming racism.  Think about all of the times they are out there screaming about something that happened to a Black-American.  Change the “skin-color” and ask the question is it racist now?  I have found that when one takes the “skin-color” out of the equation it always comes down to a question of BEHAVIOR.

    The Progressive-Marxist have been prompting racism for years as a means of control.  I believe MLKJr and other true civil rights leaders would be appalled at what has happened to Black-Americans over the last 40 years. People like Jessie Jackson and Al Sharpton would not have a job if people were not being worked up over made-up and perceived racial events.  Their incomes are dependent on racism being kept alive.  Every ethnic group has suffered racism – the Irish, English, Scotts, Welsh, French, Chinese – and we see it going on in Africa and the Middle East today with one tribe attacking another.  Sometimes it is rooted in “skin-color” other times religious based racism (look at Somalia).

    So before screaming racism the first thing to look at is your and the “victim’s” behavior.  Most cases the “skin-color” is not the issue but the behavior and attitude one presents.

  • JohnRalph

    Why can’t white American hillbilly gutter trash and black American hillbilly gutter trash just learn to get along? Especially since they’re the only two races in America’s Hollywood world. The answer is simple…more cross-breeding

  • Guest

     I was following behind a black truck driver. The man hit a bump and lost a load of wood. I pulled over and helped him put it back on his truck.  A policeman opened his car window and hollered at me to hurry and get the wood off the road before I got a ticket.  He assumed I was the driver since I’m 1) white 2) I was 18 and the driver was 30-40 so I must have been the boss  3) Policeman was assuming.
     I handled it by yelling back at him that we could get this done faster if he’d get his fat butt over here and help us… and he sped off.

    • MNbobster

      Maybe he assumed you were the driver because you were picking up the wood. You assumed what he was assuming. You see the problem here?

    • DRLJR

      I agree with part of your comment.   The Police Officer figured you were driving the truck and screwed up – like teenagers often do.  The officer probably thought the actual truck driver stopped to help you.  And the truck driver being an older man was just being courteous and trying to help you clear the road.

      You are forgetting that there was the truck and your car. 

  • RealAfrican

    whites, come, logon to the guilt reduction blog for therapy and feel better.   blacks, learn how to get whites to like and accept you.    this site was either created by whites with an agenda or rootless pigmented vessels (so called ‘blacks’) whose knowledge of the world is primarily what they observe from birth onwards.   if an ignorant person (white or otherwise) make rude  statements towards me who cares.    he or she can say whatever they want.   if they cross the line and violate Human Rights Code or engage in hate crime, then i will decide if it is worthwhile to hold them accountable (99% of time i make it slide cuz i have more worthwhile things to do- you don’t have to take on every offender…too consuming.   engage only worthwhile battles).   

    Better areas to focus on is getting high marks in school, practicing spiritual awareness, set aside time weekly to tutor your kids in their history and help them forge a self-confident identity so they have the strength of character to face some of the certain hostilities in society.    Teach your kids how to defend themselves, how to advance themselves, how to excel, and above all be an example of what you would like them to become.    Do all of this and let racist experience the ultimate misery of their decline, as your kids experience the benefit of prominence.   Do all this and your kids will not become unrooted  Madame Noirs grappling to be liked.    Instead they will rule or inspire the lives of the in-flux masses, and be architects that determine what conversations, debates or conflicts these masses experience.

    ps:  Choosing to a domain name called “Madame Noir” discloses and unrooted fool who believes the french words projects prestige – why not Nana Zulu?  Or Mrs Black, or why market pigment at all.   I am willing to bet a fortune that the fool cannot speak french. 

  • Jj

    This article was funny in a lot of ways.  However, I believe a lot of racism would heal if we all would let it.  Also, what about when black people are racist?  Where is that article?  Be original and write an article that talks about that….because it is there!

  • Zazie_Blusummers

    You should also take your on advice and grow up. No one educated speaks like you do only negative, angry, blame layers do. I do not whine. I have no reason to at all. All the people who have helped me become successful  have been all races of people. Whites, Blacks, Asians, etc. took the time and the effort to help me grow and achieve my dreams. Why? Because I actually acted like a human being and showed true interest in my field and wanted to get to know them as people, not a skin tone or race. Imagine that treating someone like a human, how unorthodox huh?  

  • Thora

    I once asked a black man in a shop if he worked there and I could tell he was offended (and I felt awful). But all the store clerks were wearing a red jumper, and so was he, which was the only reason why I asked him.

    Thank you for the article 🙂

  • Almiva

    you get asked for help when you wear a suit in a store – they think you are a store manager. Used to happen to me all the time (I am white).

    • MNbobster

      I am white and people ask me questions in stores all the time. It means that they need help and anyone might know the answer. Oftentimes they do. I don’t get offended that someone thinks I have a job (working in a store). I would get offended if they thought I was loitering.



  • eagle1

    you people are sick, just because we have a black president now everything is suppose to be ok? That doesn’t undo 400 years of oppression, racism and discrimination that still continues today. And contrary to popular propaganda, black people DON’T claim racism as often as it occurs. If you’re black there’s a good chance you’ll run in to some degree of racism daily or weekly. It’s pervasive in our society. And the only way to know this is to be black, or have black friends who will share this information with you. Blacks should be commended for their strength and fortitude to still hold their heads high and go about their lives despite the centuries of terrorism against them. They continued to serve their country in every war since the revolution, right along side george washington, disregarding the onslaught of hatred and denial, never once attacking the government or planning to get back at white people. All they ever asked was to be treated equally and fairly as the founding documents of this country professed. Things have improved for sure, but our country is nowhere near a totally free and just society. 

    • Bellarose6060

      WE will never reach your utopia, because you’ve stopped progress before it ever gets started . DUH….A black president COULDN’T HAVE BEEN ELECTED – without the white vote ! 

      • Ghoodfellah

        So simple minded. You’d think a statement that smart couldn’t have come from a race of ppl who got the skin beat off of there back if they got caught reading! Lmao!.. like…Duh! So racism is gone because there’s only half of a white man in the White House? If a serial killer decides to let 1 victim go, does that make him a hero! A few incidents aren’t what defined racism in America. A few incidents, like half a black president, won’t fix it either.

        • Morrighan

          It is a start…

          • Shade Palette

            No it’s not. Because Barack Obama is as big a Corporate Product as breakfast cereal.

            Massaged, trained, honed, polished, practiced, surrounded by teleprompters, shaped by polls, sold by advertising, even a backstory constructed for him as his handlers told him what parts of him would sell better at the polls…he was the most brilliant creation of the political elites in the 20th century. A sort of laundry soap for racial guilt and anger.

            All presidential candidates have been this, since Reagan. They are products put forward to the people so that the truly powerful can pull the levers of government power.

            The Big Data Democrats–and their megabillionaire funders–were utter diabolical geniuses in how they constructed this man and got him elected. They played on the American psyche in ways unprecedented in my experience (I am a Ph.D. communications policy analyst, so I think about it and have seen a lot). I don’t think he’s Satan, or Jesus either. Just a guy who has way more ambition and narcissistic drive than I, for sure. POTUS is the last job in the world I’d want, and I don’t vote for anyone who wants it. (I always write in people who feel the same way.)

            By the way, I supported him when he ran for Senate in Illinois. But I figured out early that his being pushed forward politically was all a setup to get my money to sell out rank and file people to billionaires who were trashing our communities and nation. Real progress comes from the rank and file having our own experiences, and translating those into limited government of mature, responsible people. I don’t expect to see much of that in my lifetime, as “progress” is now redefined as immaturity, emotion, hysteria, savage social behavior….


      Your country never will be a free and just society. It is not set up to function that way. I understand your frustration but many other people went through the same hardships.You don’t just have to be black to understand; Spanish, Brown, Asian, Europeans, Women, almost everyone deals with racism or some form of “ism” on a daily, weekly or monthly basis. Horrible things have been done to every society, race, and religion on the planet for thousands of years, not just hundreds. I am not saying this is ok, it definitely needs to be changed. I am also not sure of the correct answer but I don’t think the solution is setting up separate entities for each race either, that encourages racism, separates people. Eventually it will progress into separate washrooms, cinemas, stores, etc. and we will be back at square one. How can we change things for the future when we are so focused on what happened in the past? I think we should remember what happened but not let it define us. It shouldn’t have to be “A black man in America”  school of thought. No one can choose what they are confronted with each day but they can choose how they react. Disappoint them, don’t react.

    • “That doesn’t undo 400 years of oppression, racism and discrimination that still continues today”

      yeah but it seems that you are putting everybody in that boat as if everyone of that ethnicity is guilty for the acts of a few. It’s time we stop putting people in groups and recognize individuals.

      I’m also tired of hearing how hard “blacks” are trying to escape racism and have come so far but today use one of the most hateful words to ever be used, the N word. It’s not ok, not for anyone to call another this.

      I wonder how racist it would seem if I started a few programs and entertainment companies that put people in groups? NAACP, is white not a color? What about NAAWP? BET? How about WET? We need to recognize and protect individual rights and freedoms.

    • Redmatter

      those 400 years of ‘oppression’ weren’t really our choice, it was more of the British government’s at the time as they were the ones carting you guys across the world. Those people back then didn’t act like they were owed everything, as some do today. If people want society to improve, people need to want it for it to happen.

    • Shade Palette

      You are commended to be replying with such pitch-perfect and condescending Baby Boomer orthodoxy about race when so far this has been an amazingly open discussion of people’s ACTUAL LIVED EXPERIENCE.

      Guess what, your teachers weren’t always right about everything, and every word of your comment strikes me as having been plucked from the syllabi of an incredibly racist institution. Your generalizations about race, and about blacks, strike me as naive and one of the most racist comments here.

      No country is anywhere near “a totally free and just society”–or didn’t your undergrad syllabus include Plato and Thomas More. Hell-LO, utopias are for literature. The rest of us have to just muddle along together, imperfect and striving, in an imperfect world. Progress is lived in the day to day. Not inflicted by governments, preachers, media moguls, and people who never got past their college indoctrination whereby they get high salaries and social power for dealing with abstractions rather than lived experience.

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    “But if you’re wearing a boardroom suit in the supermarket and some white person comes up talking about, “where’s the oatmeal,” that’s some racist s#!@”

    Not necessarily, I work in a supermarket and all the managers were fancy suits. So they might think your the boss:)

    Also I get mistaken for working in a store all the time. I’m a neat shopper who likes to put things back as I find them. Easy mistake.

    Although “You People” sounds quite racist to me, and I’m a white boy from a country where almost everyone is white (only 1.1% of Irelands population is black). It depends on the context I suppose but if I were black that would offend me.

    • MNbobster

      Absolutely, it’s “context”. I often describe myself as a middle-aged (58) white guy with silver highlights.

    • DRLJR

      What you will find is that most racism is internal to the person perceiving it today.  But as you are in Ireland you have seen it.  The Scotts, Welsh, English, Irish and others groups have all held racist attitudes about each others.   We see it regularly but most people treat it as bad behavior now.  Unless one is vested in promoting it as Jessie Jackson and Al Sharpton are.  And it is rampant in the Middle East due to Islam.

  • manet

    The article was amusing and had some valid points. However, most everyone is racist to a degree. We even have racist tendencies with our own groups- darker or lighter, shorter or taller, if eyes have more epicanthic fold or not. We should live in the present and not bring in history i.e. “this land was giving to me by my ..” ; “my people were ..” or “my people were here first” or any such nonsense. But, minorities still have a long way to go before been a par with the ruling group. But the best way is to shine as individuals and not to think of ourselves as part of any group and to right wrongs as we see them and speak out to injustices.

  • Guest

    What doesn’t seem apparent to the black community is that all of this crap is internal to your own cultural system of self-validated victimhood. As a community “you people” are constantly on the lookout for any excuse to say “see! I told you! It’s racism!” and my question is this… do you really think anyone other than you gives a crap? Do you know how lame it is to constantly complain about how bad you have it? How it’s not fair and we still have a long way to go in this country bla bla bla. Black people keep the whole “race card” situation alive as a permanent excuse for everything from unemployment to straight hair. Get over yourselves.

    • Jackflash123

       See, I would agree that there are some Black people who have internalized victimhood, and it’s almost always a good idea for people (ALL people) to check themselves before going on the attack w/ accusations, etc, but when you then resort back to stuff like “[ who ] gives a crap?” and “get over yourselves,” you basically expose yourself as someone who takes shortcuts in his thinking, too, and whatever recommendations you are typing here are undermined by how obvious it is that you don’t really care. You aren’t convincing as someone who has anyone else’s best interest or self-improvement in mind.

      • Xfactor1

        The GUEST does not give a crap. He/she really wants us to know this.  He/she thinks that people who have been truly victimized should just keep their mouth shut and except whatever happens to them. In his world black people mean nothing. He/She has told us that.  

        • DRLJR

          I think you missed his/her point.  Too many Black-Americans scream racism when the real issue is behavior or attitude.  Look at all of the so-called racial events in New York City over the last 20 to 30 years.  When you ignore the skin-color of the people involved what you find is an issue of behavior and attitude.  The problems are not related to race but to what the person’s attitude and behavior.

  • Cc 2001

    As a person who works in social justice issues pertain to
    anti-racism discourse. I see that the points in this article identify stereotypes, which are stemmed
    from racism. Culturally we are a society the does enforce such stereotypes like
    black people working as front line workers (in the service industry, i.e Grocery store) and  are followed in stores if we look like we
    could not afford to buy from there. These are some people’s reality and I will
    not put them down because this is their reality as a black person and other
    minorities in America may experience. At the individual level racism is covert,
    its subjective and open for interpretation.  However at the systemic level racism is more overt
    and blatant… look how may black people hold positions of power ( and president Obama
    is one person and does not reflect the reality of a number of black people in America),
    how many are making decisions at different levels of governance? Not as many as
    other races. That why they think black people work in service industries and
    are followed around in stores… these stereotypes are reinforced by the systems
    of racism

    • DRLJR

      Mr Obama is not a Black-American.  His ethnicity is “Kenyan-White-American”.  Nor was he raised here.  And my Kenyan college professor was once called a Black-American and pick any and all negative/derogatory terms you can think of and he applied them to Black-Americans.

      The problem is that the instead of encouraging Black-Americans to learn they were encouraged to reject the “White-Man’s education” in many areas by so-called Black Leaders and as a result can only do the menial jobs.  Add in the destruction of the Black family by Progressive-Marxists via the “Welfare” system and what used to be a cohesive and strong ethical family support system was destroyed.  Just look at the number of children born to unwed mothers and where the father is no where to be found.   The first step to enslaving a population is to not educate them but to dumb them down and destroy the family.  Black-Americans need to re-learn history  as do many White-Americans.

  • As a person who works in social justice issues pertain to
    anti-racism discourse. I see that the points in this article identify stereotypes, which are stemmed
    from racism. Culturally we are a society the does enforce such stereotypes like
    black people working as front line workers (in the service industry, i.e Grocery store) and  are followed in stores if we look like we
    could not afford to buy from there. These are some people’s reality and I will
    not put them down because this is their reality as a black person and other
    minorities in America may experience. At the individual level racism is covert,
    its subjective and open for interpretation.  However at the systemic level racism is more overt
    and blatant… look how may black people hold positions of power ( and president Obama
    is one person and does not reflect the reality of a number of black people in America),
    how many are making decisions at different levels of governance? Not as many as
    other races. That why they think black people work in service industries and
    are followed around in stores… these stereotypes are reinforced by the systems
    of racism

    • 1206simi

      Is that a good paying job…..just wondering….exactly what degree do you need…is it a liberal arts degree…planning my future

  • SAL

    I am white and american indian and irish.  My son is the same except even more american indian.  He has a son with a very sweet black woman and I have a very precious beautiful grandson.  My older family members can be a bit racist so and I correct them whenever needed.  I have lot’s and lot’s of black friends as well as white friends.  Just be a human…I don’t think we were born to be racist in any way. 

  • gunnut1970

    I’m glad the author is calling a spade a spade.

  • ms_svelte

    why are yall debating? 

    you know that none of these ‘good white folk’ are racist.

    when they walk into work and their are 3 blacks to every 100 whites (and 2 in menial positions) its not because of racism. its just because the ‘blacks’ arent smart, educated,or decent enough people to get hired – because we KNOW that none of the ‘good white folks’ at that company are racist. nope. not one.


    • AJ

      Obviously, you are racist. I work with plenty of black people that excel at their job.  It is not a 3 to 100 thing.  Go get educated so you can stop b*tching. 

      • What does educated have to do with anything, idiot! Did you NOT hear about the Black college students that beat the hell out of a White student for his shoes?

  • Houmid

    I don’t have any black friends any more.  I moved to New Hampshire, one of the most vanilla of all the states.

  • Jai

    I’m pretty sure on page 1 you mean “impetus’ instead of “impotence”…it kind of went downhill from there

  • Soildify

    I really hate that this article was linked to an article in the Atlanta-Journal Constitution that dealt with a racist incident that happened here. I’m so sure that was a coincedence, though :-/

  • Spankola

    YOU PEOPLE???  it is “WE THE PEOPLE”.  WTF, yourself.  I am white.  If want to join any of the above organizations I will not be excluded.

    You are spouting Phony tea party rhetoric.  The all white Tea Puppets are the irresponsible, selfish, race-baiting, violent, immature neanderthals!!

    • Bagui

      Please stop generalizing about any group of people. When I do that, my
      conscience fires off on me! Now, If I indoctrinate myself enough, feelings will only come from raw emotion, not logic! Prejudice is most common among all humans, because it can range from taste of toothpaste, to a poor understanding of individual circumstances amidst life in general.
      Hate is hate, whether we make excuses, or justify our attitudes.

    • Bellarose6060

      OOPS, you are doing the same thing  . ALL tea partiers are those things ????

    • Flintdog

      Leftist sheeple love to characterize tea party supporters as racist, rich, and violent, yet neither you or the leftist media has one shred of evidence to back up these claims. Stop drinking the socialist kool-aid and educate yourself, do some research, and form an honest opinion. Tea partiers want to limit the size and scope of the federal government, as outlined in the constitution. That is all. They don’t care who or what segment of society is sucking the lifeblood out of the country, black, white ,green, purple, or orange. They just want the federal government to stop taking their hard earned money at the point of a gun and giving it to people who contribute NOTHING to society. BTW whites don’t dislike black people in general, and never have. They simply abhor the thuggish, entitled culture that a large portion of black society has adopted. As with muslims, it only takes a few scumbags to make the whole group look bad. As with muslims, only black society can change or marginalize those scumbags.

      • White Guy in Black Clothing

        Dear FlintDog, or with you, it only takes an ignorant scumbag like yourself to make all the Tea Party look like Scum. Unfortunately every Tea Party member is a scumbag and knows absolutely squat diddly about history or our government, other than what their education source– Fox Newz tells them. White and black republicans are as a whole the most ignorant humans on the planet.

      • Ghoodfellah

        Lol! Let’s have Tea! Can’t you take off the blinders long enough to see that all these government entity’s keep popping up because when givin the chance to self regulate, corporate America schemes and plots robbing the ppl blind! This you know to be completely true! It’s like the Tea Party is saying sink or swim while making sure there particular group is the lead swimmer! Black ppl just want a fair shot through out the whole journey of life. Not just when it looks politically correct for the camera.

    • Smap99712

      You are spouting Phony tea party rhetoric”. 
      You are spouting Phony anti-tea party rhetoric.
      You are the irresponsible, selfish, race-baiting, violent, immature neanderthal!!

  • seamard

    I disagree with parts of this list.  A lot of what this author is describing is covert and subconscious racism, but it is racism nonetheless.  To wear black face, whether it is done in a joking or satirical manner, does not negate the long attached racial history and undertones associated with the practice.  And to not “have any black friends” whether it is done through conscious or subconscious segregation is still a racially motivated action.  Perhaps if we stop sweeping things under the rug and attack the deeply racist aspects of our society we can start to undo some of the very things that cause race to be such an important identifier.  

    • AJ

      Seamard, grow up.  Some people grow up in areas that are predominantly white.  My high school had one black student and he was my friend.  Other than him, I didn’t know any black kids.  That definitely doesn’t make me racist.  Once I went to college, I had the opportunity to meet more black friends.  What you are saying is completely ignorant!

    • cubanrose

      Why doesn’t anyone ask Black people why they haven’t any White friends?  There are 224 million whites and 37 million blacks.  We outnumber blacks over 6 times.  So every white person has to have a black friend?  How is that possible?   They are not enough black people to go around.   It is certainly possible for every black person to have just one white friend, but millions do not.  So its ok for blacks not to have  any white friends but it’s not ok for whites not to have any black friends.  Black people:  I will be your friend  not because I happen to like black people, but because most of you are really cool.  For the black people that are not cool…then  I gotta go Soup Nazi and say “No friendship for you”  !

  • Kengray40

    this alone is racist and sucks!!!!!!

  • David

    Try saying that about a Jew about antisemitism!

  • David

    How about “things that Jews think are anti-Semitic, but are not.” Or, “things that Jews confuse as anti-Semitic. Would not get published, right? It would be considered anti-Semitic!

  • AJ

    This is the dumbest article ever written.  If you really think that every white person you come in contact with is racist, then you need to grow up.  Some people just haven’t been exposed to the black culture because of where they live.  Speaking of culture, if blacks would change their culture and not glorify crime and other negative acts towards society, whites wouldn’t worry so much about a black man in a hoodie at the convenience store. 

    • Xfactor1

      “If black would change their culture”?  Really? You should stop lumping every black person into the same culture.  Black people are diverse and come from many different backgrounds that have influenced the American experience. Ever heard of Jazz? Blues? Tuskeegee Airmen? Dr. Charles Drew, to name a few.   You need to grow up AJ and quit being so condescending, which, BTW,  is a true ingredient of a racist. 

  • Ummm do you ever look for a name tag on the gentleman first?

  • bgolfguy

    I understand all of them except for number 7.  Warning someone to be careful about being the “token” if that person does not currently have any black friends.  With that approach, a person could never gain a new friend who happens to be black.  I think just being suspicious of someone because he or she is a different race and he or she wants to be your friend is going in with a potentially racist attitude.

  • Spankola

    “Tar Baby” is not racist.  In the fable it was an anthropomorphism of people who are difficult to deal with and present problems that end up being transferred to those trying to solve the problem.FYI

  • Guest

    I got called out for using “you people” once.  ( The guy wasn’t black, just a different nationality…. to this day, I still don’t know if he was joking or not.  O.o  )

    • sarabee1321

      I was called out for saying “you people”.  I was making a remark about the people I was talking to.  The remark was directed at the people I was talking to at that moment and had nothing to do with anyone not in the room at the time.  I’m white.  I was talking to a group of white friends.  What made them “you people” in my mind was they were fans of a sports team I didn’t support.  Now what is racist about that?

  • Kascha K.

    You can’t just drop in a bunch of pristine freshly scrubbed hypothetical scenarios and drop the entire argument into the trash bin like this. It comes off extremely naive at best and deliberately disingenuous at worst.

    Whether or not a black man will attract more suspicion in a hoodie than he would in a 15K Armani suit is irrelevant – if it’s even true in all or even most cases. There is no requirement on anyone else to walk into a 7-11 in a formal business suit to maximize the odds of being innocent until proven guilty, so if you want to use such things in comparison you need to be focusing on whether or not anyone in a hoodie has to rethink what they wear at a convenience store. And I promise you they don’t.

    Speaking of Armani I’ve walked into the one in Vegas on consecutive days once alone and once with several friends one of whom was black and the only one who was followed and constantly asked what she was looking for was my black friend. The rest of us browsed the store with impunity and ironically the only one who was seriously planning to buy was the one followed as if she were out of place there. It does in fact happen, and it happens a lot.

    As with most of these scenarios. The fact that it does not guarantee racism does not guarantee it is not racism either. And as for people with the tired reverse racism dead horses to drag out like W.E.T.? Before you start up again, stop. No majority ever needs special interest for inclusion. The concepts are inversely proportional, hence the “special” part of special interest. When you can come up with historical precedent showing that the only way a white person in the US at any time in history, could legally attend college was to have started their own, and then had to deal with their degrees not being recognized due to refused accreditation, then talk about UNCF like it’s reverse racism. When you can find a black film or TV production that has opted to paint black people white rather than hire a white actor, you can talk about B.E.T. While you’re at it, kindly remind us how many years we went without a white female Best Actress winner before one of them decided to appear in a graphic sex scene with a black guy, so I can understand just how biased Hollywood still is against whites. Extra credit if you can find one that ended up winning when that wasn’t even her best film performance. Double extra credit if you can find a white guy who won the same year the first time he played complete scum completely opposite of who he’s been portraying with mastery up until then for no recognition.

    Or else simply cork it – because this sort of whining comes off stupid, self serving, and completely out of touch. Usually pops up from the same people complaining about why they can’t use the N word like blacks do as if it’s awesome like the front seat of a roller coaster.

    • Guest

      These aren’t suppose to be proofs. The only point to the article is… stop assuming the worst.

      If you’re always expecting it, then you’ll be seeing racism twice as often as warranted, and you’ll have half as many friends.

    • Typical guilt rant post.

      As far as what happened back in the 50’s, 60’s, and 70’s don’t bring that garbage argument in here.  If you want to place the blame of ill deeds done then make sure you place it on the right generation.  The more black people look in the past and blame current generations for the wrongdoings of older ones……………..the more resentment there will be.  No one likes listening to a young black person spout off about slavery, segregation, or anything else from an era you had nothing to do with………and more importantly something they themselves DIDN’T experience. 

      If you don’t want to be stereotyped…………..then don’t fit into it!  “It’s because I’m black that you think I’m in a gang or a criminal.”  No, it’s because your jeans are halfway off your a**, you have your hat cocked to the side, you have chains everywhere, and you’re acting like an a**hole.  You want to dress “thuggish” then don’t be surprised when you’re treated like one. 

      Would you go to an interview for a company dressed like that?  No, because you’re giving off the WRONG impression.  So what is the difference if you’re walking the street like that?  This goes for every race and for black people to think they’re the ONLY ones (again!) that get stereotyped for their clothing is not only laughable………’s racist.

      • XFactor1

        Dans,  learn the definition of racist before you go on your condescending, “typical guilt”  rant. Because  a black person speaks out about being stereotyped that does not make them racist at all. 
        While you do make some good points about saggin jeans, racism still exists despite the clothes that you are wearing.  Kascha presented a story about her black friend in an Armani store, but you chose to overlook that fact in your rant. Until you’ve walked in the shoes of someone who has been victimized by true racism. Or called “Ni66er ”  and have had beer cans thrown at you- while wearing sensible clothes. You should really open your mind to other perspectives.    

      • Kascha K.

        I’m a German-Ukrainian woman dumdum. I don’t get stereotyped as a Black thug, or as a thug at all. So no, being upset because people don’t like the way I sag my jeans off my a** has nothing to do with why I’m writing this. Oops.

        As for the friend who got treated like crap in Vegas with us, most of what she was wearing was DKNY. As in a $350 plus dollar one piece wool pullover type dress and knee-high boots which would be more than suitable as business casual in almost any company in America. I’m sure Donna would love to know how thuggish her designs really are, since I own her stuff too and I’m positively thrilled.

        As far as the rest of your babble, which makes so many ridiculous assumptions and resorts to so many stereotypes I don’t even know when or how to moderate the laughter,  all I can tell you is that those who don’t study history and don’t accept and apply its lessons will repeat its errors. Also that yesterday’s problems, when denied, ignored, and left unsolved, become TODAY’S problems, my naive friend.

        And trust me, I say that with a grain of salt, because most with your view are well aware of the path of indifference that led us here and the only reason for resentment is because nobody before you figured out a way to make the problem actually vanish when one closes their eyes to it.

  • guest reader

    I got a smile from “do you work here?”. I’ve been asked this a number of times, not because of my pigmentation (or lack of same), but because I’ve seemed to be the only person in the store who looked like they had any idea at all what was going on and wasn’t dressed in flip-flops and shorts. I guess then, that it is a compliment – lets ask this guy, he looks like he’s gainfully employed or something. (I’m a short, bald, 65 year old white (OK, pink) guy, and I do enjoy visiting Madame Noire’s website.)

  • Monsieur Blanc

    Lee has made some good points.  What do you think would happen if there was WET (White Entertainment Television) ?  Also, I kid you not, in at least one of our South Georgia schools black-eyed peas are called pink-eyed peas!  Where’s C. Lo?  Ain’t that some sh*t?

    • AJ

      I’d love to see White History month.  Hell, White History day would be enough for me.  That wouldn’t be politically correct though and we don’t want to offend anyone in this country. 

      • Aivory

        Is there any reason why you feel like a White History Month is necessary? Because you know, we just don’t have enough lessons about white people already! It’s not like most of the information in my history classes were about white people! Literature as well! I tell you, the only piece of literature I read in high school that was by someone of African descent was A Raisin in the Sun. TWICE. Like, they didn’t even TRY to find another piece of literature written by a black person.
        But no. Overwhelming white education isn’t enough. You have to have your own damn month, too.

        • canary

          At this point, quite possibly.

          How things have changed. There is no such thing as “overwhelming white education.”  Not anymore.

          For my middle-school children, every day at school so far has been Black History, with overemphasis on Rosa Parks, MLK, and any- and everything to do with perceived African American culture. The tragedies of slavery and racism notwithstanding, this is simply wrong. And I know it’s not an isolated case. Other “minorities,” including Hispanics, Asians etc. are all but invisible in this curriculum.

          – And my Hispanic kids attend a Spanish-language school in one of the wealthiest and lauded public school districts in the nation.

          Virtually all authors taught in literature classes are African American and/or female, and all U.S. history is taught as if these groups were the only contributors. Not only is this wildly inaccurate and biased, it ignores most of the significant events and many of the greatest works of literature our nation and culture have produced.

          If a part of history doesn’t involve these groups as actors in some way, it usually is simply ignored; this leaves *huge* gaps in the knowledge of the students that I’m left to fill in the case of my own children whenever I discover it.

          While it’s fine to learn about the contributions of blacks (and women, and whomever), it is important to keep them in context historically–the most important, significant historical events in our country, affecting the largest number of us, did not necessarily involve blacks as prime movers. Their proportion of the population is low, but also their influence has historically been even lower due to slavery and racism, particularly the further back in time one studies (a tragic but undeniable fact). However, to respond to this fact by slanting the school curriculum to somehow make up for this (guilt, stupidity, sinister agenda, etc.) is to deprive our children of an honest, accurate, and thorough education. It is politically-correct lunacy.

          It is my hope that this will be less of an issue as the future unfolds, and more people from more backgrounds naturally (organically) continue to contribute to the nation while racism completely disappears, but that’s doubtless a mere dream. But honest history would be a start…

  • Robert Pratt

    I don’t currently have any black friends or acquaintances.  In years past I did, and as things go, friends of all stripes drift apart, move apart, and so on.  I’m a little offended that if you happen to be the first, or the only black person I know that you are the ‘token’.

    It demeans both of us that you would have to ‘beware’ the possibility, given that you admit that people tend to stick to each other in groups defined by easily noticeable similarities such as style of dress, color of skin, language, and so on.

    That you throw in the comment at the end of an otherwise thoughtful and humorous piece should remind you how hard to overcome the habit of thinking the world that surrounds you is racist.

  • Victoria Chandler

    Black people are the most racist people I know. If I had a dollar for every time I heard one of my ex-black neighbors make a racist remark about another race… 

    While researching a film, I recently lived among a community of poor black people in North Long Beach, CA which is a suburb of Los Angeles comprised of mostly blacks and Hispanics. My neighbors were predominantly black. I don’t know if they are representative of the general black population in the United States, but here’s what I saw while living among them for 6 months this past year. All the black women that I met with the exception of two fine, lovely women (who happened to be mother and daughter), had multiple children by multiple baby daddies. My next door neighbor, Jessica was just 17 and had a 14-month-old daughter by one man and was pregnant with a second child by another man. She and her younger 14-yr-old sister, Tati had the same mother but also different fathers. Their mother lives in Colorado since she’d abandoned her daughters to basically become a full-time crack addict. Their grandmother Yolanda took care of them but up until 6 months before I met them, they’d been homeless. But here’s what I don’t get, how could they be homeless when there is plenty of cheap Section 8 housing in the area and Yolanda gets a $1400 monthly welfare check for being Tati’s legal guardian and Jessica also received a check (not sure how much) for her daughter each month. They also get food stamps and don’t have to pay a dime for groceries (again, not sure how much). Maybe it’s because Yolanda liked to drink 3-4 bottles of Boone’s and smoke a pack of Newport Menthols a day. No joke.

    Anyway, Jessica and her sister, Tati and her grandmother, Yolanda were a typical family in this neighborhood – all living off of welfare with not a single person holding down a job. Where are the men in the picture? Going in and out of prison of course. And no, this is no joke either. Every single black man that I met during my 6 months in that neighborhood had been to prison multiple times. No exceptions. Every one of them had been to prison for one or more of the following crimes: robbery, grand theft auto, child molestation, murder, drug dealing, drug possession, illegal possession of a firearm, etc. Of course, none of them were working either. The black community needs more responsible fathers. All the black fathers I saw in North Long Beach (every single one of them) were either absentee dads, drunks, drug addicts, drug dealers, gambling junkies, and all ex-cons. Something needs to be done about the lack of good male role models in poor black communities.

    Ladies and gentleman, no this is not some dream I had last night. This is reality. This is how poor black people live day in and day out. I know that there are more whites on welfare than blacks but the perecentage of blacks on welfare relative to the black population in this country is greater. So get your facts straight. What I saw was not just one poor black family living off of welfare but literally every black family in that neighborhood was living off of welfare. And it was generations of welfare recipients – grandmothers, granddaughters and great granddaughters all on welfare!

    I digress…back to racism. I absolutely believe that racism still exists in America. My own parents are very racist. My father, in particular, dislikes black people. Maybe because he was held up at gun point by a black man when he first immigrated here and opened up a business in Compton, CA back in the 70s when Compton was a hotbed of crime. I’m not saying that my dad should be lauded for his racist stance, but at the same time, I get it. Funny though, he loves President Obama as much as I do.  

    I also believe that the effects of years of slavery and segregation took a toll on black Americans and that they cannot (and may not ever) rebound so quickly. I understand why there are so many poor blacks living on welfare and I also understand how the system has kept them oppressed. Imagine being told that because of the color of your skin, you were less than human. Imagine being punished for trying to get an education. I can’t imagine it since I’m not black and this is not my history. But you know what? While living among these people in North Long Beach, I looked for some glimmer of hope, even a hint of change. I looked for some sign that these people were not ignorant and that they realized their predicament and were willing to take a stand to somehow better their lives. And sadly, there was none. NO ONE had a college degree. NO ONE even wanted to attempt going to college. Not surprising since Education was not prized or valued or encouraged in that community. No, women were literally encouraged to start popping out babies around 16 or 17. No birth control. Jessica, the 17-yr-old who was pregnant with her second child – she smoked marijuana and drank alcohol during the entire time I was her neighbor. She was 2 months pregnant when I met her. I was sickenened just at the sight of her. And what did her grandmother do? NOTHING. She claimed Jessica had to smoke pot because of her morning sickness! Incredible! Meanwhile, Jessica’s 14-month-old daughter, Tashay was basically left to her own devices…left to crawl around on a carpet floor that hadn’t been vacuumed in months, crawling with roaches and littered with cigarette butts and bottles full of stale milk. Absolutely disgusting, I tell you. What chance does Tashay have of leaving that horrid life?

    Does anyone remember the 1992 Rodney King riots? I lived through that nightmare and stood near the TV with my jaw agape at the senseless violence. The looting and rioting WAS NOT AN ANGRY RESPONSE TO THE VERDICT ANYMORE. Maybe it was in the beginning but it became very evident to the Americans glued to the TV that these people (of all races, but mostly blacks) were like animals out of control. Who behaves like that?! People who are ignorant, uneducated and use violence as an excuse to try to justify their perceived anger at the oppression of the black people by the white man. But you know what? I’m not buying it anymore. During the entire 6 months that I lived among those blacks, there was not one white man who came along and oppressed them. No, the black people in that community were their own worst enemies. Fighting and killing each other! Stealing from and ripping off each other! Take some responsibility for your own actions! But when push came to shove, who’d they blame for their problems? The white man, of course. They also blamed Hispanics for taking their jobs (eye roll here)  – do you think Yolanda or Jessica would have jumped at the opportunity to take a job cleaning hotel rooms or scrubbing toilets? Of course not. But what other job can they expect to get when they are uneducated, ignorant and crude?

    Let’s look at some cold hard facts here. Why are there so many poor black families that have 3 generations who have lived/are living off of welfare? I witnessed an entire community in North Long Beach, CA doing this and taking advantage of the system. I spoke to blacks who knew how to manipulate the system to make sure that they got their welfare checks each month. Did they have a desire to get educated? No. Did they have a desire to work? No. It’s a sad, vicious cycle.

    And by the way, it’s a cycle that is evident in also poor white and poor Hispanic communities in the US. It may sound like I have a hard on for just poor blacks, but this is not the case. Poverty afflicts people of all colors. It’s just that the community I happened to live among for 6 months was a black community so I can only recount what I saw in this particular community. But it’s probably not a stretch to say that there are many poor black communities just like this one all over the United States.

    And if you think I’m a liar, head over to 2921 E. Artesia Blvd. in North Long Beach, CA and say hello to my old neighbors for me, will you? Ask Jessica and Tatiana if their grandmother still beats them when she gets drunk off her Boone’s every day. Ask Jonathan if his dad, Kenny has stopped gambling his welfare checks away and has finally bought his 14-yr-old son a backpack, notebook and pencils for school. Ask Shonda if her husband Terell is still on parole after molesting a little girl? By the way, every person mentioned above is living on welfare and they are families with generations of welfare recipients. And every male mentioned above has been in and out of prison multiple times. Don’t forget to say hello for me!

    • cubanrose

      So what’s the solution? 

      • DRLJR

        You stop the welfare checks and insist they start taking responsibility for themselves.  You basically you stop treating them as children and stop coddling them. 

    • DRLJR

      What you are describing is the effect of Progressive/Marxism.  When the Civil Rights movement started the Progressive/Marxists (who are racist) realized they had to subvert the movement and they have.  They put the Black-Americans back on the slave-plantation by destroying the Black family.  That is history.  And once they did it to the Blacks they moved on to the Whites and other minorities.  Why do you think education is more indoctrination and not education. 

      And the media which is controlled by Progressive/Marxist distorted the whole Rodney King episode with dishonest editing.  The police were found not guilty because the jury saw the WHOLE video.  The other people in the car were handcuffed and sitting quietly on the side of the road.  Mr King was drunk, high or both, fighting and attacking the police.  But instead of looking for the truth the Blacks reacted as they had been programmed by the Progressive-Marxist and proceed to riot.

      You can see the difference between people programmed by Progressive/Marxist and people who are responsible by comparing the protests of the Left and TEA Party Movement and how the left the protest areas.  The Left trashes and destroys the place while the TEA Party Movement leaves the place cleaner then when they arrived.  And the Left has people arrested in droves and the TEA Party does not.  Think about it folks and ask which group you would rather belong to or be associated with?

  • TimMcDonald

    Pretty sad that a white hand extended in friendship makes you think you’re a “token”.


  • “But be on the lookout.”

    Lol. Gotta love that level of racial paranoia!

  • Tyhouston

    As someone who worked as store security, people with a hoodie are not followed and watched. People in a suit, middle of summer 101 degree weather? Your trying to pull something. Better dressed, in hot weather? Your under the eye. Sorry most these are those wonderful excuses to hate whites than real racism. It’s the I’m black I wanna special treatment excuse.

    Face paint? Ever see the movie white chicks? Yeah…. if it’s racist we sure do ALL THAT and more every day.

    Saddens me my community cries like it’s in 1899 Mississippi when they are the once being racist to everyone not black.

    So much for equality.

  • Amethystmenace

    I was once trying to arrange a meeting at a conference. My colleague and I each sent emails to the women at the other institution describing ourselves and each other. When we read over our own descriptions of each other, we had to laugh. I had avoided mentioning her race, and she had avoided mentioning my wheelchair. In that crowded conference, we carefully left out one the other woman’s most distinctive features. 

  • Rob Weaver

    Madame Noir, you mostly got this one right, and thanks for bringing the issue up.  The one exception I might take is that when I ask a black person wearing a suit in a grocery store where the oatmeal is, I presume that I’m talking to the store manager.

    That’s not racist.

    • Victoria Chandler

      I’ve never seen a store manager wearing a suit in a grocery store.

  • guest

    these black themed blogs is stupid and dumb, just another example of how the media relegates people of color, blacks have bigger fish to fry and other important things to do.

  • Plantsmantx

    This is a pretty stupid article. Several of the things listed hare are very situation. For instance, I “get” Robert Downey in that movie, but I certainly wouldn’t say that it’s never racist.

    Considering that this post is on a black blog, and presumably written by a black person, it’s ironic that overall, it fits one of the rhetorical behaviors that the blogger who calls himself the Unapologetic Mexican calls “Wite Magik Attax”.:

     A predictable series of non-arguments that attempt to denigrate, negate, appropriate, or invalidate ideas, feelings, or experience as related by a brown person. These attacks take many forms, and while each person making the attack thinks their (dys)logic to be unerring, they echo timeless and faulty cognitive patterns. These Wite-Magik Attax invariably escalate in intensity, however, the longer the brown person attempts to assert their reality.

    The specific Wite Magik Attack being used against  black people in this post is “The Oversensitive”:

    A low level Wite-Magik Attak. This is the “Oversensitive” attack, wherein the brown person’s logic, no matter how sound, will be sidestepped; their point, no matter how relevant, will be overlooked; their feelings, no matter how understandable, will be misinterpreted as nothing more than a burp in the mental functionality of an “oversensitive” person. As you’ve guessed, this is a spin off of, and further fueled by, the widely-held unspoken and racist assumption that those with darker skin tone comes unstable emotional functionality.

  • Sinsweetee

    Good article! However this issue can go both ways.  I am white, and was out with several friends of mine (and their daughters who are in their early 20’s) who are black.  We were all waiting for one person’s boyfriend to arrive, and my friend was on the phone with her guy, coordinating where, exactly, in the establishment we were sitting.  While she is talking, in the door comes a black man on the phone, obviously looking for somoene.  Our group was right by the door and I made the mistake of saying out loud, “Oh look–there he is now” when it wasn’t him at all.  Immideately, my friend’s daughter leaned over to her sister and loudly whispered “See–all white people DO think that black people look the same”.  Things that make ya go HMMMMMMM……

  • Iamlyricallycorrect

    So… We act like irresponsible, selfish, race-baiting, violent, immature neanderthals? Last time I checked, I was very responsible. I could care less about race, never had to fight, and I am highly sophisticated.  I agree that as a people, African Americans have come a long way and some of us are just excusing INDIVIDUAL laziness but you did not have to go there. Some Caucasian people can be irresponsible, selfish, race-baiting, violent, immature neanderthals as well. I describe people individually because that is what socially sophisticated people do.. You might try that.. Just a suggestion.

    • ratdeb

      Agreed.  The difference however is that in general, lazy people who are white cannot hide behind the race card and brush off criticisms of others as being race-motivated.  If a lazy person happens to be black, then he/she has that option, and unfortunately, many exploit it.

  • guest

    Yeah. I’m afraid it’s hopeless. I just avoid/don’t talk to black people unless I absolutely have to. And even then I keep the discussion as minimal as possible…never know what completely innocent thing I might say that sets them off and then hopelessly trying to fend off “you a racist” charges.

    • Iamlyricallycorrect

      You can’t be serious… That’s what we’re talking about.  Just because some black people are way too sensitive, you decide to cut us all out? Point to the sense in that because I don’t see it.  

      • guest

        Some black people? Try most, at least in my experience. The sense in it is that I do not subject myself to charges of being racist. We all know the accuser always wins that argument.

        • Iamlyricallycorrect

          In my experience, a lot of southern white people are racist. I still have white friends because it is silly to decide that all white people are racist.. As a matter of fact, the church I attend has predominantly white members.  I don’t pass judgement on an entire people and neither should you. You are debating with a black woman who likes all people and who doesn’t falsely accuse people of racism.  I agree with 99% of the article.  Your theory needs a little work.

          • guest

            What I am describing is not theory, it’s experience. Look, I’m sure you and many other blacks don’t analyze every statement to decide whether there is a racist element to it. However, many blacks do. And many blacks thrive on racism/victimhood (see Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson, or read John McWhorter). And then there are things like the nonsense as to whether the term “black hole” is racist (google black hole racist term). My God, if we have to have a debate as to whether “black hole” is racist, then what hope is there? I prefer not to have to walk on eggshells when dealing with other people and to have every statement parsed to see if it passes the racist test is ridiculous.

            • POD

              Yes, let’s defend ourselves against being racist by typecasting black people from the few experiences that you’ve had in your life. If I said, “I stay away from all white people because most of them are prejudiced against me,” I would sound pretty prejudiced myself, wouldn’t I? I think it’s best to avoid racial typecasting because it closes you off. I have many white friends and engage in many activities that some may think should only be done by white people, but limiting your viewpoints only limit your own experiences in life.

               It’s exceedingly difficult for me to believe that all or even most of the black people that you’ve encountered have called you racist. I think that if you expect the black people you encounter to be angry and judgmental, then those will be the experiences most salient to you instead of the many experiences that you’ve had with black people who have treated you like any other person. View people as individuals, and I am sure that you will discover that you actually interact with quite a large number of black people who treat you fairly (or even kindly) every day. That is all.

              • White Man

                “Guest” sounded pretty f!*#ing racist to me. Using Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson as examples of ‘typical’ black Americans is like using Rush Limbaugh and Michele Bachmann as examples of ‘typical’ white Americans. 

                • STRONGLY AGREE!!!

                • Brambles

                  The writer never said these clowns are typical black guys…. you read it into his words. More proof that this racialist thinking, that everything is about race, colors even the things you see or read.

            • NONYA

              okok goodbye thank you for your opinion next

            • rainbow

              there is something going on. I think what is going on is everyone, including blacks are becoming less greatful but becoming more demanding.  There is something wrong and we are looking for someone to blame but I think we need to attack a certain way of thinking rather than a person or people.  We have to transcend skin color, we are bigger than our race. 

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              • Shake48

                its grateful…that is all

                • Smurfakler

                  It’s “it’s”. That is all. You condescending b@st@rd. 

              • J-Smoov

                “becoming less grateful” ???? (btw, I fixed your spelling). To whom do we our our gratitude but ourselves??? that’s exactly the problem, when someone can say something like that. Our people are suffering still from institutionalized racism meant to keep us in the lower class. THIS. IS. REAL. But nah…it’s just like the oppressor to demean the victim’s claim.

                • Travis M.

                  Oh god…here we go with the oppressed cop out again and people keeping you in the lower class again. For gods sake, j smoov wake up, seriously. It’s a damn cop out!! Quit putting the blame on everyone else, the black race needs to take some responsibility for your actions. Nobody is holding you down, if anything the whites have done everything they could do to help the black race. Look at all the programs specifically geared towards HELPING blacks!!! When I was in college, I can’t tell you how many times I heard the phrase, ” I’m only going for the free money”. Pathetic!!! As soon as the tuition assistance checks were in the hands of black students, they disappeared and never came back to class. There was a nice neighborhood built in 2003, a beautiful place, all of a sudden the townhomes were turned into section 8 and the blacks invaded like a damn roach infestation and tore that place all to hell. Now there are prostitutes and drug dealers in the neighborhood, burglaries, shootings. The white race and no other race made them do that, they did it on their own. So cut the bullcrap about being held down because it’s nothing but propaganda spewed by the likes of al sharpton and Jesse Jackson to get the blacks stirred up. If anything they are the ones holding the black race back because they make excuses and put the blame on everyone and anyone that isn’t black, in turn keeping you blinded to the truth. Take responsibility for your actions, man up and quit copping out.

                  • HeyYouKidsGetOffMyLawn

                    meow meow meow, blah blah blah

              • J-Smoov

                “becoming less grateful” ???? (btw, I fixed your spelling). To whom do we our our gratitude but ourselves??? that’s exactly the problem, when someone can say something like that. Our people are suffering still from institutionalized racism meant to keep us in the lower class. THIS. IS. REAL. But nah…it’s just like the oppressor to demean the victim’s claim.

            • See the problem is you actually are racist. It only makes sense that when you talk to black people they accuse you of being racist. YOU ARE! 

              • Travis M.

                hahaha Everybody is talking like being racist is a bad thing. There is no reason for anyone to hide racism. If the man says he isn’t racist, then he probably isn’t. I am racist, I do not like blacks, I avoid them like the plague; everyone that knows me knows that I am disgusted by the black race and I am sure there are people that don’t know me are aware that I’m racist. I do not hide it and every racist I know doesn’t hide it. If a black sits beside me, I will get up and move to a different seat. I won’t get in a black cashier’s line and if all the cashiers are black, I will buy what I need from somewhere else. I said all that to say this; RACISTS WILL NOT HIDE THE FACT THAT THEY ARE RACIST!!

                • HeyYouKidsGetOffMyLawn

                  You must have eaten a LOT of lead paint chips as a child.

                • Kasai Waller

                  You are living proof that racism is still alive and well in America. I can’t believe you had the audacity to call us race baiters.

                  • Travis M.

                    Nobody is denying the fact that racism is alive in America and I’m not denying the fact that I hate niggers. There are racist people of all races.

                • Ebla Ali

                  Your comment is very interesting. Very refreshing to see a man speak so honestly. I am a black women and I am far to conceited and proud to be offended by your comments. I would be amused before I was offended. I find the majority of white people to be inherently racist …. well done for admitting what we already know. However I was born and raised in a white country and I still love white people cause guess what… we r both human. I love all races with a passion. Difference in my view is a wonderful thing and I purposely choose to have friends of different races. I like to discover different cultures . People make the world after all. You don’t have to like a group of people nor do you have to mix with them. But tell me when you look into the eyes of a black person whoever they may be… do you see not see their humanity, their hurts their pains, their hopes or dreams. For your information no matter how difficult we may appear or how poor we are. We are vibrant, bold,, strong and proud we don’t need you to like us. Unlike other groups we have real self respect. We don’t need to validate ourselves based on material goods or occupations. We were born confident and fiercely proud. This is our greatest asset and our greatest flaw. Furthermore no human society is free of flaws. Happy and emotionally sound people don’t hate others. I pray that you seek the light cause behind the surface your are a frightened and cold individual who hates others to feel better about yourself. Have a nice day …. me and my loved ones are now going to have a great laugh at your silly but honest statement!

                  • Pelle

                    MOST white people are inherently racist????? That is the biggest load of bullshit!

            • jason

              If every black person has accused you of being a racist, it’s not them, it’s you. if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, then it’s a duck!

            • Supertechni

              Experience is theory, it’s a statistic you have based things that happened in your life in the area around YOU.  So what you are saying is also a Theory based on your experiences in life. If you go to Manhattan for instance people are a lot more diversified(mixed) and more educated so they don’t base people on skin.I, for instance base a person after a conversation I have with them.

              • Guest

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                I quite agree with you. I’m an
                ex-pat Aussie who’s lived in Orlando for 11 years, and the sense of
                separation is ever-present down here. I’ve come across older white
                folk who come out with the most matter-of-racist commentary that you
                could imagine, yet I’ve also been subjected to some fearful racist
                abuse from black people on occasion as well – my car once broke down
                in a nearby black neighbourhood, and while waiting for AAA I was
                given an absolute earful of racist and insulting behaviour for no
                other reason than I happened to be a white person in ‘their’
                neighbourhood. I’ve also had objects thrown at my vehicle while
                driving through the same area. The sins of the past don’t mitigate
                such behavior, and I’m always left thinking that if white people
                acted in such an overtly hateful manner publicly towards non-whites
                in ‘their’ areas of town there’d be hell to pay.Yet all this
                seems to be an inherently southern thing, even though Florida is not
                really southern in the traditional sense of the word. I was up in New
                York a year or so ago and couldn’t get over how much it had changed
                for the better since the first time I’d been through the city in the
                80’s. What really stood out though was that the racial divide seemed
                non-existent compared to Florida, with everyone going about their
                business with no thought to race or something as mundane as
                pigmentation. As one small example, at one point I got lost on the
                subway while trying to find my way to Yankee stadium, and while
                trying to make sense of the overhead map a couple of women who
                happened to be black leaned over in friendly fashion and offered
                their assistance – turned out I was on the wrong branch, and they
                gave detailed instructions on how to correct the problem. We ended up
                having a friendly exchange, the inevitable questions ands enthusiasm
                for Australia sprang up, and I got off the train wandering why a bit
                of New York couldn’t rub off on Orlando – it was simply refreshing
                and nice being able to talk to people without the race element
                hanging over the conversation. Racial intolerance is an ugly
                and destructive thing, and while white society in the USA (and my
                home country of Australia for that matter) has a great deal to answer
                for historically, the reality is that the blowback from past
                behaviour has made some black people just as bad, and in some cases
                worse because they either feel entitled to such behaviour or because
                they don’t have to answer for it in quite the same fashion. Life
                would be so much simpler if the whole thing could be shoved where it
                belongs, because there’s a whole raft of other matters that require
                much more serious attention than the happenstance of what
                pigmentation we’re born with. Ironically enough, we’re all of black
                origin if the anthropological/genetic map is to be believed, so
                what’s the big deal anyway?

                • marshall

                  I liked what you had to say, thanks for the thoughts. we are really one race, the human race. thanks again.

                  • Info

                    It is kind of like we are all Americans if we live in the Great USA. The first step to stomping out racism is to eliminate all references to (Insert other country)- American. By putting another culture/country before the name just adds to the fact that you do not feel you are an equal human living in America. I am not an African- American… I am an American.

                    • shamaymay

                      I also dont understand the ____-American. Why am I not called “Irish/Scottish-American”? My mother’s family is from Ireland and Scotland 8 generations ago…But, Im still of Irish and Scottish decent. 

                    • Joe


                    • bg

                      OMG THANK YOU! yes i’m black but my family has been here for quite a few generations! neither my parents or grandparent came directly from africa. nor did my great grandparents. why can’t I be called American!?!?

                    • R. Carter PN

                      I feel the same way. I am NOT racially sensitive at all, everyone is entitled to their own personal prejudices. As long as those prejudices do not hinder myself or my family from getting ahead in life, I could care less. The one thing that does irk me though is the use of the term “African-American”. It marginalizes us as if we are first generation immigrants. My ancestry can be traced back to @ least the early 18th century, much longer than many other “regular” americans. I am the embodiment of America and the only label I respond to is AMERICAN.

                    • Bronwen Dyll

                      I’ve always found the -American labels to be funny and ridiculous. My grandparents were born and raised in Ireland, so I’m 2nd generation. Most of my black friends’ families have been here for much longer. I also have many friends who were born in African countries. Guess what? We’re all American. Skin color is totally superficial and shouldn’t matter at all, however, stupidity is everywhere. We all bleed red.

                    • J-Smoov

                      NOPE. that is the ideal goal, isn’t it? and we aren’t there yet so please don’t dismiss any claim of oppression the OPPRESSED is vocalizing. The term was coined during a time where we had to fight for our identity. We were/are still not treated equally as “Americans”. So we’ll qualify our struggle..shouldn’t bother you ONE BIT

                    • Pamela Kennedy

                      It’s white people trying to patronize anyone with dark skin. I don’t understand it either. They also use it to refer to Native Americans and South Pacific Islanders. Also dark skinned Latinos or Central or South Americans. Trying to MAKE you be of a nationality you’re NOT.

                    • Leeada Johnson

                      Every one is a little bit racist. Some people understand that of themselves and some people deny it.

                    • J-Smoov

                      LMAO Then call yourself American man! get out of here with that. the term African-American became important for a displaced people to find a sense of identity in a country that doesn’t want them here. Call yourself whatever you want…but walk down the street…and a lot of other races will just see a black person, barely American. that’s the truth. please digest it.

                    • Pamela Kennedy

                      You could be a dark-skinned Philipino or Indonesian or Hawaiian Islander and if you’re in the Mainland USA or Canada you still get treated like “African” American. It’s a constant daily fight just to be treated like the right race.

                    • kenny white

                      Your are oppressed by your own mind smoov. Blacks come here from africa, the islands, central and south america and they leap frog over black americans as if they are driving a porsche in the fast lane and you’re riding a bike. If america didn’t like or accept black skinned people, nigerians, jamaicans, costa ricans, and other dark skin black immigrants would not do well here, but they do. Of my last two doctors, one was a somali, and the other was a nigerian. Both Ph.d. Another nigerian immigrant i know owns two pharmacies. They don’t have the black american baggage when they come here. You’re carrying too much baggage, dump it and free yourself from your own oppression. Change your mind and belief and your world will follow.

                    • incognito

                      Wise words Kenny. I think you speak the truth. However, the way other blacks or mixed ethnicity from other countries jump over Black Americans is because of upbringing and the fact that their own governments pushed for the same rights to education and housing for they own people. White people from the islands act waaaaay differently than American white people.
                      Giving the window seat to a blind man is useless. Its a nice self loathing gesture but its pointless. You want black people to do better in America? Show them how to learn, show them that after they have an education, they are given the same equal opportunity. Throwing money and free stuff at the problem doesnt fix it. Stop targeting black people and making them already feel like criminals in their own community.
                      White America has cause this on themselves. They ‘gave freedom’ with strings attached. Call a spade a spade man. Black people in general have no problem working hard. The American society was built by them for FREE. Show them how to utilize the tools that the white man say they have given them and then give them the same opportunity for employment and owning a home legally. You would be surprised the difference it would make Teach and show the older folks who have been burnt by white supremacists that things are actually changing. Just like how white people carry on generations of knowledge, so does black people. You can not expect black people to have a white last name, still have grand parents who remember segregation, the killing of black public figures not to be upset at what white people have done to the the black society. the list goes on… you and many people say they need to forget, yet things have changed very little, they only look to be better but they are not. Just saying

                    • kenny white

                      Mr. Incognito. I don’t disagree with much of what you post. One thing that has to stop being done is for politicians to stop dividing us and stop destroying black’s positive belief system by continuing trying to make them believe they are the downtrodden and need the white politicians help. The white man/women is the source of the problems, the white power-mongering politicians that is.

                    • Izaiah Thomas

                      Wow, that is very stupid thinking. Smh, I am Haitian American, yeah the same kind of american that comes from a country in paradise destroyed by racism and in a eternal debt to the US that nearly makes our economy impossible to prosper. Wall street (the single biggest factor for America’s economic superiority) was jump started by stealing almost all of Haiti’s economy (continually) in exchange for protection from France and the US. This comes after 13 years of fighting off Napoleon and french forces after the Haitian revolution (inspired by the American revolution but not acknowledged by President Thomas Jefferson, who felt self-freed slaves shouldn’t have their own republic). The story goes that the Haitian economy sends 80% of their economic profit to the US still today because the debt has never been settled and has annual interest every year its not paid off. Now Haitians face some of the cruelest forms of starvation and poverty, along with many eras of corrupt government placed in power by the US to make imports from Haiti cheaper for the US.Time and time again the Haitian people are punished because of their choice to follow in white america’s footsteps. My family came from Haiti to America for a better life, and we have done substantially better than African Americans. My family is full of health professionals with M.ds or PhD. I have a point to all of what I said so far, that ties in with why immigrants do better than blacks. We have our own baggage, the baggage of being haitian, but we do not have their baggage which has its own physical component DEBT. When we came to this country my family didn’t speak english and had to get their GED since haitian education wasn’t recognized by the US, they didn’t have any community of Haitians to be around, and blacks/ whites didn’t accept them, but they came without debt. After raising four kids and going thru college and med school my grandparents were able to become medical professionals and bring their own family here who also gained professional degrees in the same manner. You just can’t do that as a black person. They can’t afford to just move to Europe and start over like immigrants do. They also just can’t get large sums of loans to go to college and med school along with getting a better hs education (haitian high school education is better than black education in America) all without it causing them more trouble. Debt in America has been generational, usually with the children being drawn in at an early age. I find it incrediably stupid to take the side of the white man and say its all in their mind. In order for black americans to gain some ground it will take better education and a better sense of community for them to rise above the crap whites have put them thru. Mind over matter isn’t even in this discussion, and I’m disgusted that you (probaly a immagrant/child of an immagrant) would try to act all high and mighty like your family didn’t have to leave its own country to escape the effects of euopean conquest. You can call it baggage when you go back to your own country and do what you’ve done here, then you can talk.

                    • kenny white

                      Dude, I don’t give a frigg about your native country. The context of the post you’re replying to; context that apparently went over your head like a 36″ table, is about american baggage in america, not your frigging Haiti baggage. You’re disgusted? I’m disgusted that you wasted all that post of yours not having a clue what you’re replying about.

                    • If You Didn’t Know

                      Lol I’m Caribbean, born and raised. I’m very much elevated in the way you think you’ve somehow schooled me. That “Black American Garbage” you speak of is everything from psychological to physical and genetic remnants of a very long and very vicious past. Don’t dilute it. Oh and trust and believe non-American black folks assimilate the best they know how…oftentimes with the same disdain and discrimination as whites. This is fact, this is history.

                    • kenny white

                      look at it this way info. All those hyphenated names have one thing in common… the last name – Americans.

                  • Leeada Johnson

                    We are all one species. We are of multiple races.

                • Rainbows

                  There is no big deal, or there shouldn’t be. I don’t care if you’re black, white or blue (Sudan actually has a wide colour range of descriptors for people from white, yellow, red, brown, green and blue depending on your skin colour and heritage).  Treat people as you would hope to be treated in return.

                • Izaiah Thomas

                  I find several issues with your statements. Mostly with you saying that blacks are worse than whites about race, denying the fact that their race doesn’t hinder them in any way and hasn’t EVER. In fact is has only granted them power and favor. The whole black struggle has been trying to get to the status of equality with whites, which has been met with very detrimental effects on the black populous. It doesn’t make logical sense for hundreds of years of oppression to go away just because their kids decide to stop making NEW ways to oppress blacks. By White America refusing to remove its social racial barriers on economic wealth and education, they are just as bad as their parents and ancestors. White america still lets the bank and loans spots jointly run the black community in more debt while trying to get out, education has also gone beyond the reach black america without substantial help from the government and is continually increasing until even with government help blacks won’t be able to afford secondary education. Blacks have to face all of this while being told that we don’t have a real issue, really and you don’t expect this to make people really bitter toward white people. Blacks are suppose to not be so sensitive” and hold the same white peoples hand as white people find more people to piss off and then fight like ISIS while we have been dealing with this crap for centuries. I feel white people should get a grip and get over being called racist when they asked to be informed of racist material in the first place. Black people shouldn’t have to continually teach white people about their own crimes, if white parents were more honest with their white kids we would stil be dealing with this crap and other crap like white kids saying affirmative action is reverse racist. (reverse racism doesn’t even involve white people, its racism from with the oppressed group toward the same group. The reverse coming from the fact that its racism from within instead of outer racism from another group) Blacks also have alot to work on like getting whats already out there, rebuilding the black community and killing off Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson (jk). We also really have to learn how to use our rights against white oppression just like we did in the civil rights era. But white people can’t just wait for blacks to create another civil rights movement to become involved, white people know that school won’t teach them about white oppression and conquest so white parents should teach their kids how white people have messed the world up: killed off, oppressed, enslaved, and destroyed the land of other indigenous people out of greed. There will have to be significant change for white people to even admit to their ancestral crimes and current privilege.
                  ps. I know some white person will reply with the typical denial about all of this , so don’t bother. I am just a realist who really really wants world peace, and no I do not hate white people that would just continue the cycle they started. White people like any other phenotype people didn’t choose what phenotype to be born with so self hate is neither the answer, how we deal wit what color we were born with tells what side we are on.

                • Geo

                  As a new comer to this country you probably don’t know the history. But as a white person ,I would hate for my car to break down in the North end of Hartford. Whites are at risk in black neighborhoods.

              • Pamela Kennedy

                Are you kidding me? In New York City almost EVERYBODY describes people by the color of their skin and thus, perceived race. I can almost not talk to anyone in New York without winding up getting into a knock-down drag-out argument about that one!! It’s racial PROFILING headquarters, people!

              • leeada Johnson

                NYC is full of White Liberals who have no black friends, full of Black people walking around angry at Whites and Hispanics and Asians, full of Hispanics who hate Black people and Jews, and full of Asians who look down on everyone else for their sloth. Signed, born at 17 West 106th St 1947.

                • kenny white

                  come to cali and hollywood, that is as long as you aren’t against race mixing.

            • giggitty

              the black hole is my favorite hole 😉 

            • Kate

              People who have to “walk on eggshells” in order to avoid saying anything racist are usually racist.

              • ratdeb

                On what do you base that assertion?

                • tina

                  because I talk to everyone of every race and don’t have the problem

              • nate the great

                maybe he is just a jerk to everyone. If you happen to be a jerk to everyone, then being a jerk to someone of another race is NOT racist, but people will automatically call them racist anyway.

              • J-Smoov

                THIS. THIS. THIS!!!! Kate is preaching y’all

                • Travis M.

                  Coming from someone that can’t spell the word, “smooth” and uses words like, “ya’ll”. I’m sure you’d be singing a different tune if Kate said, “All black people stink like poop.”

                  • If You Didn’t Know

                    Lol your aversion of one of my many dialects really amplifies your ignorance. Don’t be fooled, code switching in speech is a skill. African American vernacular is a real thing, imbecile.

              • Travis M.

                Wrong. Wrong. Wrong.

            • Hihater

              You are just a waste of time with this bs. I dnt have black friends because they will think i’m racist. Really? Here is  a thought maybe you are! If you are that afraid of coming off as a horrible person to everyone of a certain race than maybe you are. I am a black woman at a 80% white school in the south (MS). I know a good bit of them have their thoughts about black and I have my thoughts about whites that is just the world I live in. However, I genuinely adore ppl of any race as long as they are genuine as well. I dont avoid the white ppl because I am scared they think bad of me, or that I would come off as racist because that is not in me. Having friends of a different race, or of the same race and a different up-bringing, will always have some misunderstanding. You take those times as means to learn and to teach! You are a just a jerk my dear. Check yourself, seriously. 

            • So you won’t bother to be considerate to your fellow humans because it’s too much trouble, so you just avoid them. Awesome.

              And “experience” is also known as anecdotal evidence which ironically enough is evidence of nothing *except* your particular experience, which is not statistically relevant. This is also known as UPG or Unverified Personal Gnosis. We have no way of knowing if you’ve actually had these experiences with which you are justifying your xenophobia, or whether you have made them up out of whole cloth just to be contrary and defend your position; petitio principii as it were.

              I’m kind of curious though: If you are so leery of black people and go to such pains to avoid them, what on Earth are you doing on *this* website?

              • Travis M.

                You literally make me f’n sick to the point that I could vomit. You and people like you are the problem with the white race. The white guilt got to you, didn’t it? Coalburner!

                • Flame Bridesdottir

                  How could I have white guilt? I think you should make an appointment with an optometrist. Oh, and way to avoid answering my question. Let’s try again: what are you doing on this website if you generally take pains to avoid black people?
                  See, I don’t think you avoid black people at all. I think you like to troll in hopes that someone will behave badly toward you, thereby justifying your irrational hatred. Racism is a mental illness.

                • Kasai Waller

                  People like YOU are what’s wrong with white people.

            • Liquid_fuse

              The black hole is a defense mechanism. It’s what’s left over for a time when black students in nice schools were a minority and afraid of abuse. Now it’s a defense mechanism, and the reality of it is that anyone can go in the black hole these days. All you need is  to have a friend in there. The only reason it still exists is that racial issues will always be slightly tense because people are afraid of crossing lines and black people are still being persecuted in many real ways. While the things mentioned in this article aren’t racist, just ask a black person you  know if there were moments in their life where they were fearful or forced to feel ashamed because of their color. Some might say no, but I’m sure a lot will say yes and will have stories to tell. I can tell you that there were moments in my very sheltered life that I felt burnt and I’m a very young woman. Someone asked me if my dad who is 50 was my husband then when I said that I was his daughter (I was 18), he asked me if we shared the same last name and so on. Maybe I took these questions out of context but there are few times I’ve ever felt more hurt by what someone else said.

              • cocoasmommy

                I don’t know about the father/daughter thing, but asking if you have the same last name is just being a racist jerk.

              • Pamela Kennedy

                Why on earth would you NOT have the same last name as your FATHER as long as you weren’t married yet? (Meaning your Maiden name…)….unless it’s ASSUMING your parents couldn’t possibly have been legally married because “blacks” don’t have enough MORALS to believe in legal marriage before childbearing…..OK I see that one now. Racist as hell.

            • DonB

              Obviously, from the fact you admittedly avoid talking to black people, your experience is limited!

            • LUV2SMYLE

              wow, I hadn’t heard that one..

              • Pamela Kennedy

                I do, come to think of it: I get the jaw-drop, “um, er, uh” treatment when I say that Kennedy is my “maiden” name.

            • Nastasyana

              Think of the traditional terms for negativity.
              ‘a black day, a blackguard, forces of darkness, etc”. as opposed to whiteness as pure, clean,etc
              has it ever occurred to you to say to the person, ‘help me to understand how you have interpreted what i said’. listen,and don’t defend. just say, “oh i see..that is not the meaning i intended. i am sorry you took it the way you did”. hopefully you WILL have learned something, you have listened to the person and validated their right to feel that way.without admitting to being a racist or perhaps after listening, you might understand why what you said was interpreted that way. i am often offended by white friends who think are paying me a compliment by telling me that they do not notice that i am black.
              that is ridiculous. i am beautiful, articulate, intelligent have brown eyes and brown hair and dark brown flawless skin. if you don’t notice these, then you are not looking at ME or acknowledging ME

            • Chevonne22

              The one thing about experiences is that you have the power to alter them. For instance, let’s say a woman marries a man who works long hours. She finds out that her husband beats her when they argue. Her second husband, who doesn’t work long hours, beats her when they argue. Is it fair for her to say all men beat their wives? No? That is her experience. But she has the power to change her future experiences. She can screen men better. She can change herself into handling difficult situations better. Shoot, she can get a gun and learn kickboxing. Or she can improperly deduce that all men beat women, go gay, and become a male-bashing super feminist.

            • SRS

              I’m still guesting. Why you are a “guest” on this site. I guest just curious..

          • Bellarose6060

            I’m SOUTHERN- WHITE and have magnificent mixed race family members . YOU do to others , what you DON’T want done to you !!!

          • Anony Mous

            I’m almost certain the church you attend also has some all white members, too, not just predominantly white ones.

            • Douglas J. Bender

              I am tan, and proud.

              • Butifully Human

                I love it.

          • The country you attend is predominantly white. You are debating with a white man married to a black woman who celebrates diversity and knows racists of every color.  I believe the author’s message is valid.  They are words and situations steeped in ignorance.  We should not be offended.  Some people do not know you are black; especially, black people from another country.

          • guest

            In my experience a lot of black people are racist, and becoming more so since Obama took office.  I blame him, in part, for continuing to divide the country when he had such a great opportunity to use his heritage to bring everyone together. 

            • reese

              Obama cannot change people’s attitude.  The reason why racism is getting worst with white people and black is because of the economy.  When people don’t have jobs they look for someone to blame.

              • Pamela Kennedy

                And in this case they’re blaming highly educated blacks or half-blacks or part-blacks or “looks blacks” like Obama, for it.

              • tim simms

                That is exactly how Hitler and the Nazis came to power.

            • Jostepher Putainsky

               You’re an idiot.

              • Jostepher Putainsky

                I mean you’re a very smart individual.

            • Stanleycowens

              So one man is responsible for an entire nation’s racial problems? That is a big statement to make. I am not happy with everything the man had done,but do not try and lay all the nation’s problems at his feet. Racism was around a long time before he took office and will be around a long time after he is gone. Why don’t we take some personal responsibility for how we treat people rather than blame public officials all the time?

            • Kath

              You ‘Conservative’ fool.

            • Lisa

              Why didn’t you respond to POD’s comment? Maybe because it actually made sense to you?

          • proudtobewhite

            Being a proud SOUTHERN WHITE, I feel the same thing about “you people”. You put one black in a group of white people and they become more tame. Stick that same person in a group of blacks and the ghetto comes out! How do they say, “you can take the boy out of the ghetto, but you can’t take the ghetto out of the boy”!!!! I am sick and damn tired of all the double standards. You want to be equal, then lets be equal!! Why is it you go to a predominately white area and a pretty black woman will not be bothered, yet a white person WILL be bothered in a predominately black area, I have seen it more often than I care to. Why, if we are the racists, is the news covered up with all the black crime. The last few weeks I have payed attention. It’s approaching 90%!!!!  

            • ConradDobler

              You’re from the “south” and talking about “violence?” Talk about somebody with their head tucked in the cotton basket. “You people” literally invented RACIAL VIOLENCE as a means to thwart progression. Through all of “your” violent nightime forays into black neighborhoods searching for a black man to beat up or a black woman to rape “you people” are HARDLY the standard bearers for acting civilized…just look up ‘Fire in a Canebrake’ to see just how “civilized you people” really are….you can take the inbred out of the south but –  well you know the rest…. 

              • adbj102

                Reguardless of the racial propaganda,  I am not ashamed of being “white”  (Irish ancestory)  Most of my “Black” friends are islanders!  They have a history of “Black government”   no whites to blame for everything!  They don’t have a chip on their shoulder. Also most are elder adults like myself.  Not the “street thug generation”  They have the same problems as I,  Helping their children and trying to survive!

                • ConradDobler

                  Good! stay white and proud and whatever- I could care less…and if you saw the movie ‘The Help’ you could see who the “REAL THUGS” and lowlife scum with chips on their shoulders are and they were not black…

                  • adbj102

                    First, I’m not sure how I got onto this site?   And for your information…I never said I was “proud to be white”  YOU said that!  I said I was not ashamed of being born white!  No one can control the race they were born into.  I would have prefered to have been born rich!  And at least I have the intelligence not to believe HOLLYWOOD! 

                • Pamela Kennedy

                  Well, I’m in my 40’s, and I get mistaken for this “street thug” generation all the time and I’m getting tired of it. I’m wishing I could pack my car up and drive to Hawaii or the Philippines and get away from all of this.

              • Bryan Thompson

                You just proved every half-assed racist commenting on this boards point.  As long as you continue to use examples that are 50-100 years old to justify black ignorance and unwillingness to let the color of their skin go, racism will never go away.

                • Pamela Kennedy

                  Dark skinned people ARE perfectly willing to let the color of our skin go. Some of us HAVE. It’s people who SEE us who are NOT. I’M not the one treating ME “like Black” (or “Mexican” as the case may be). It’s OTHER PEOPLE.

              • IanSane

                Sigh, first off I am VERY fond of my white daughters black boyfriend. He is polite, treats her well and cares for her so color be damned I care for him too…that being said QUIT LUMPING US WHITES TOGETHER, black people don’t like it so why should we? You are describing acts that neither you OR I were around for. Slavery was abolished 150 years ago and I seriously doubt you remember it. I doubt you are old enough to have had to drink out of blacks only fountains or ride black only buses. Yes, MANY maybe even most whites were jerks many moons ago but we have tried VERY hard to make up for what our ANCESTORS did. I REFUSE to feel guilty about the actions of people 60 and more years ago. All I can do is make sure that I don’t follow their example. I look at people for their actions NOW and don’t blame them for things they had zero part of. I do not agree with everything proudtobewhite said but some of what he said about double standard DID hit home and while I am not “proud” to be white quit trying to make me feel “guilty” for being white. If you want to succeed then succeed and if you don’t, this is 2012, there isn’t a single law saying you can’t.

              • Shade Palette

                My goodness, you do get emotional on this topic.

                Yeah, there was no racial violence before the 19th century in the American South. Keep believing that, but don’t be surprised that intelligent people cease to take you seriously…because such a comment suggests that your education in world and human history was a) pathetic and b) biased.

                Has it occurred to you that proudtobewhite is not who they claim to be? Like, maybe, they work for some PR firm or policy agency, and their job is to go around the Internet and stir up muck to make white Americans look more racist than they are?

                Why are people so gullible about what they read on the Internet?

            • John

              You are “proud to be white”? Pride is something we take from endeavors and accomplishment. Apparently, you take pride in the pigment levels of your skin. You are a sub-human hater who does not belong in civilized society. I wish you and your ancestors lived in black skin in this country over the centuries so you could feel the angst, so you can know the hurt, so you can appreciate what happens when people are hated and oppressed because of the color of their skin. You are proof that racism is alive and well. I’d like to see you take a stroll through the ghetto talking like that. Only then will you get what you deserve. By the way, I suppose I am white, but not really. I have mediterranean ancestry with olive colored skin. Should I be “proud to be olive”? I am proud that I am not like you. I am proud that I see people as people and myself as one of them. May God have mercy on your soul because you belong in hell.

              • Jennifer

                thank you for proving this double standard. isn’t this website dedicated to “being proud of being black”?

                • juicifruit89

                  Proud of the African/African-American heritage. Not necessarily skin tone.

              • Shade Palette

                Those who condemn others to hell will be sent there themselves to carry water for the thirsty.

                “You are a sub-human hater who…”???? How do you know? How do you know that these comments are real and true, or aren’t written by people trying to stir up bad feelings between regular people to keep the powerful in charge?

                You read 200 words on the Internet and suddenly you’re totally unable to reply with reason AND you condemn the other person to hell?

              • tim simms

                Dang! That is one hateful comment.

              • Travis M.

                So basically it’s totally fine for blacks to be proud of their skin pigmentation, but whites can’t. Yet another example of the infamous double standard. Thanks John. By the way, I have my “White Pride” Tshirt and I wear it religiously, so I guess I’m sub human!!! Hahaha

            • reese

              Not true.  The majority of hate crime has been committed by white people.  I have seen alot of white crime here.  In nonblack areas do you think no crime exist.  Oh and Latinos have passed black with crime and are also poorer now.  So I am not sure what you are watching that 90% of crime is black.  You do know that the news shows less than 1% of all crime committed.

              • Mindsweeper

                You need to do some research. The vast majority of hate crimes in America today are committed by blacks against whites and also other races as well. You are in denial, which doesn’t help anyone

                • ConradDobler

                  Blah blah- more “white lies”…pretty soon “you all” will try to convince the world that Penn St football coach/child anal rapist Jerry Sandusky is really a “light skin colored fella”..”you” can’t handle the truth- but oh pleese doant bern down my houze cas I sad da truf…

                  • Shade Palette

                    Conrad, are you a summer intern at SPLC by any chance?

                • Kath

                  If that’s the case, it’s about time!



            • wamaur789

              Ignorance, hate and prejudice comes in all races of people and your blatant racist remarks about one black person in a group of other blacks, the “ghetto” comes out! So foolish and ignorant of you to even say because my assessment of human behavior is that all members of any race black, white, red or brown do not exhibit the “same behavior” because people are “individuals” and are a product of their environment as far as a learned behavior and often times have the lack of courage to be different from the negative pack
              Also, most criminal acts as far as socially speaking are committed by and on those of the same race.
              This is not limited to just black people!! Correctional facilities are filled to capacity with all races, not just black people!!!!
              Intelligence, common sense and civility and a christ like love for our fellow man of any race should be how one conducts themselves at all times!!!!

              • Pamela Kennedy

                Really. In New Mexico it’s the Latinos and the Whites. Not so much Native Americans as New Mexico would, apparently, have the world think. The one time I got pulled over for no reason and told I was “going too slow” and bullshit ticketed I have “Proud to be Choctaw” all over my car and the moron newbie officer was Latino. I told him I have a law degree and he STILL wasted half an hour of my time trying to bullshit me into thinking that “going too slow” is a REAL crime even though they don’t post MINIMUM speeds in New Mexico like they do in states which DO want to enforce them like Texas and Oklahoma. Idiot didn’t show up in court so I won by default. My point is, no it’s not always blacks, not everywhere.

            • Kadokid619

              not worth the response but any hoo white people r in the news more regarding white collar crime and you people kill me thinking that obama the reasons for the ecomony when these white collar crimes are the reason’s look at BofA stocks are under 5 dolllars look at all these business going broke because the leaders of these company (1%) refuse to pay people like you and me (99%)decents wages to help built the ecomony because we will spend the money back and there sales would go up. they are tricking people to fights each others when it us not fighting for more rights but more of the real pie and yes we are more the same then not and i pretty sure you not a (1%) ohh and white people are doing more crimes that hurting america and i am not trying to sound racist fight the banks and the republicans that cutting taxes for the 1% so they can buy another yacth then hire me you and dupree and every time you point the finger know there 3 pointing back at you my white southern brothers love peace and soullll

              • Mindsweeper

                Your ignorance is simply amazing. The Obama adminestration has caused the deficit to rise faster in his first 3 years in office than than any other president in history has in 8 years. This president is on the verge of destroying the economy as we speak That is directly from the phony stimulus package and also the government-controlled health care.  White collar crime has very little to do with the economy or unemployment. Try learning some facts.

                • Kath

                  You really need to remain mute, you’re beyond stupid. No one has and can ever wreck your economy more than George Racist Bush snr. and jnr.

            • Rainbows

              Is it black crime? Or is it a financial, unemployment and social issue? I know we have black (Aboriginal) ghettos here in Australia too but visit any area with poverty and high unemployment and you’ll see white ghettos too that are just as feral.

              • Pamela Kennedy

                England, too.

            • OneCreatorOneRace

               “You can take the boy out of the ghetto, but you can’t take the ghetto out of the boy”? No, you’re not racist at all. 

              • Shade Palette

                Actually, in the extremely diverse Rust Belt port town ghetto where I grew up, we ALL said this of anybody who couldn’t refrain themselves from acting like a self-entitled low-IQ thug. Since about 30% of us were not black, it strikes me as less an observation on race than on social deportment.

                • Pamela Kennedy

                  Exactly why it’s insulting to be perceived as such almost immediately upon arrival someplace. It’s as if I grew up in the suburbs, went to MIT, Yale, Johns Hopkins and law school, for absolutely NOTHING if I’m going to be automatically perceived to be something I’m NOT and never was, the minute people lay eyes on me.

              • Pamela Kennedy

                Oh, tell me about it. The assumption of “ghetto” mentality and behavior has invaded my life everywhere I go. Some of us out here were raised middle class suburban in spite of having dark skin, but when we go to places looking for a job it’s automatically assumed we must be of the “ghetto” mentality evidenced by the initial “what’d YOU come HERE for” line when I tell people I have a Math teaching license and a law degree, and yada yada yada. They see brown skin and not only automatically assume “black” “African American (no matter what country I’m in)” culture but the worst possible Ghetto version of that. Life is too short to spend so many years in each place just trying to convince people that I’m NOT from the damn Ghetto.

              • Pamela Kennedy

                Actually there’s a trend these days that says “ghetto” is a GOOD thing (I know, yuck!) so by that token, then someone who says a thing like this doesn’t consider themselves racist. I’ve been hit with that one before. Usually by black people who question why I’m saying “ghetto” like it’s a BAD thing. Well, in my generation, my upbringing: low-class, uneducated, thug culture WAS a bad thing! Again with the, I’m being presumed to be “from” the ghetto because of the color of my skin and nothing else; not the way I dress, act, talk, walk, carry myself, etc. Nothing else.

            • Jostepher Putainsky

              Why, if we are the racists, is the news covered up with all the black
              crime. The last few weeks I have payed attention. It’s approaching
              Answer: is be cause the media is racist.
              White people are racist.
              Black people are racist
              Yellow people are racist
              Brown people are racist
              We’re all equal

            • Muti

              I like how you talk of “double standards”.
              Ironic, isn’t it?

            • Kim

              I’m white and live in a poor, predominantly black community. No one EVER bothers me or my husband. The people on our street never fail to smile and wave to our 1 1/2 year old son. You don’t really read the news if you think “black crime” (I just prefer to call it crime) is 90% of it. You’re just a dumb hick.

              • Shade Palette

                Please enlighten us. What does “dumb hick” mean? I guess that I am supposed to react with immediate emotion of some sort, but the phrase is meaningless to me. Do you mean a “rural white person,” and if so, why not just say that?

                Is there a space in your heart that just has to find SOMEBODY to be racist (and classist) against? In my experience, white people will try to show their Non Racist Street Cred by indulging in this sort of comment, but I find it tacky and hateful.

                Also, if you are “white and live in a poor, predominantly black community,” what is that supposed to mean? Am I supposed to draw some set of racial conclusions by the fact that “no on EVER bothers” you? Are you suggesting that someone “bothering” you would change your mind in some way? What would “bothering” involve, in your mind?

                Have you ever stopped to reflect on just where your own biases and boundaries lie, and what could happen in your or your family’s life that could lead you to think differently? Or are you one of those blissful people who lives so far inside an echo chamber that you cannot hear others with different experiences?

            • Golden

              Dude did you hear of the white man who robbed the bank using a black man identity? Check on you tube. You come on here and you say things you
              really don’t know the facts to.This nonsense that if you are black u
              got to be the criminal needs to stop like right now! And now you wonder
              why we defend ourselves so much, this is one of the reasons why! TROLLS!
              If you want to become a millionaire by stealing money from the bank, you might as well use your true identity….$$****//%

            • juicifruit89

              Actually, a well-dressed black woman can go into a so-called “white” neighborhood and be stared at, given dirty glances and having people clutch their purses while staring at them. Bizarre.

              • Pamela Kennedy

                Story of my life. I’m Native American but treated “like” Black so much that I have to go onto Black social media sometimes to find out, figure out, WHY society is treating me like such dirt under their feet when I’m not even a member of THAT race in the first place. And get this one, if you’re with a white-looking (Jewish or Italian) guy, it gets even worse. I’ve had people in Brooklyn walk right in between us as if we weren’t even “together”! And I’d get stared at and glared at and even pulled over by the police for no reason, too much trying to even BE in the same neighborhood with him, let alone live together.

                • juicifruit89

                  Interesting viewpoint. Curious, do your looks resemble typical ‘Black” features? If not, then I think your comment is odd, and a bit racist against Blacks, or those that you feel are ‘not on your level’.

                  Another issue that Blacks deal with is with other non-White minorities (Native Americans, Indians, Asians, Hispanics) who accept their MID-level position on the White supremacy ‘totem pole’ of what’s acceptable in a White-centric society. They hate that Whites do not treat them with the respect that they want (which is what you want, when walking with your White boyfriends you want to be ‘accepted’ and validated by society), BUT they are glad that they are not as ‘low’ as Blacks (since they SLIGHTLY physically resemble Whites more closely than Blacks do), and treat them accordingly which is how I read your comment (especially when you say ‘society is treating me like such dirt under their feet when I’m not even a member of THAT race in the first place’… as if it’s OK for Blacks to be treated that way in the first place and you just don’t want Whites to get you confused with those ‘bad Black people’).

                  Your experience is NOT identical to the Black experience, it is a experience of a non-White/non-Black person trying to assimilate in a White world. There are similar themes, but you have your own biases, insecurities and need for White validation that you have to contend with. I’m sorry you have such a low opinion of Black people, but many of us definitely have high self-esteem , will continue to achieve great things without needing White validation and will not allow anyone to make us FEEL like ‘dirt’.

                  • Pamela Kennedy

                    I actually “look Spanish” and people tell me “…and mixed with White…” but with darker skin. This is usually from people who are hell-bent on “Native Americans don’t exist anymore” lines of thought. When/if I go to Mexico or Guatemala I blend in. AmeriKKKa is just hell-bent on this outdated (and illegal since the 1967 Supreme Court decision, Loving v. Virginia) notion that anything “darker than a paper bag” in terms of skin pigmentation, is “black” or “African American” or “at least part black,” etc. It’s probably part of the root reason why I get asked “where you from, originally” whenever I start speaking proper English, proper French, or decent Spanish. People here see skin the same colour as half the other Plains Indians, half of MEXICO, and for some reason want to think “black…thug, trash, uneducated, illiterate…”etc. What else is all the “where you from?!” the minute I start speaking proper English, supposed to make me think?! I am told by British “brown” people of all ethnicities that they get that too, at least if they’re HERE.

                    • grgreene

                      You really need to get THE HELL over that, girl. I don’t know where or when you were born but “The One-Drop Rule”, even if you think it IS EVIL is still a factual REALITY. That’s THE WAY the class/caste/race WAS DEFINED for 200 years IN AMERICA — If you had ANY visually discernible African ancestry then YOU WERE *BLACK*. You factually are in that group. That doesn’t mean any of your other ancestry should be minimized or neglected but it’s just a fact that that’s what millions of people GOT subjected to, and YOU HAVE IN COMMON WITH THEM that YOU get subjected to it to. It’s wrong of them to think that black is BAD but it’s not wrong of ANYone to notice that you are (in addition to everything else you are, ALSO…) BLACK.

                      Black is beautiful.

                      Thurgood Marshall was lighter than you are and HE WAS BLACK.
                      I live in North Carolina and the congressman from here who recently chaired the CBC is lighter than you are, but HE IS BLACK. President Obama had a white mother but HE IS BLACK.

                      This is just NOT something FOR ANYbody to be concerned about.
                      The crime is treating blackness like it isomething bad — it is NOT a crime just to HAVE some, or even for people to NOTICE that you have some. They have the option of thinking of THAT as A PLUS RATHER THAN A MINUS. And we can’t talk about anyone MAKING AMENDS if nobody IS black anymore.

            • jc


            • Pamela Kennedy

              Depends on the “predominantly white” neighborhood. Now, try putting that highly educated black woman in a, say, “white trash” neighborhood and she WILL be as much in danger as her white counterpart would be in a black ghetto.

            • Travis M.

              Nailed it. I’m glad you are paying attention to it. I hope you continue to do so. I’m hoping that other races will pull their heads out of their butts and see exactly how the black race is.

          • noshit

            to say that, “a lot of southern white people are racist” is the equivalent of saying “a lot of black people are dumb”. do you see how stupid you sound?

            • tim simms

              But a lot of Southern white people are racist. I used to live in New Orleans and Orlando, now I live in Los Angeles, the difference is night and day.

          • Oh no you didn’t

            You just used the “white friends” argument. RACIST!

          • crazybutnotwrong

            I’m confused about the actual definition of racist and racism

        • Bootney

          To Guest. As a Black American, thank you and please continue avoiding (me at least). If you see me on the elevator, wait for the next one.  Walking down the street, please cross. Stay as for away as possible and you’ll be doing me a favor. 

          • John


            What’s “Bootney” talking about?

            Sure we tend to associate with those like us and shy away from those that are different.

            But what’s new about this? Blacks have shunned me all my life.

            So, why the hatred from Bootney about the inevitable?

            Sakes alive!


          • Shade Palette

            My six-foot-six, 260-pound Scandinavian-German-American husband (who favors wearing black because “it’s the easiest wardrobe color”) says the exact same thing of people who avoid or suspect him on the conclusion that he is OBVIOUSLY a rapist or imperialist or oppressor or whatever. You KNOW how big white men are!

            Haters gonna hate. Getting all self righteous about one’s own petty biases is the stuff of religion and the pulpit–a cesspool of emotion and manipulation. We have to be better people than this.

        • Kevin

          “Never know what thing” will set “them” off + your experience is different from most other white folks, who find large variation in how the black community behaves = you are the problem, buddy. 

          • Kevin

            You obvioiusly say racist things all the time, everyone gets mad, but you don’t see them as racist things to say.  But that doesn’t mean they are not, thus your confusion.

        • 22834

          In my experience, you are a douchebag. 

          • Shade Palette

            Well, that was enlightening. And original.

        • reese

          Odd you say that because I never discuss anything pertaining race with white people because I think they won’t understand always being the majority.  But most of the time I don’t get offended or anything by what white people say are think because I know they are coming from their prospective.  But I know alot of white people who are never accused of being racist. 

          • Shade Palette

            “Always being the majority”? Excuse me? A lot of white people I’ve known grew up as the minority in their communities, not only “racially,” but also in the dimensions more important to them and their families, such as cultural alliances.

            But it’s easier to erase those differences and experiences for the sake of a tired old bunch of emotion from the 1960s…that is holding our nation back terribly. Will Baby Boomers and their toxic social orthodoxy EVER die out, and we can be truly free at last?

        • luv2smyle

          You must travel around the country a lot because to make a statement using the word ‘most’ covers a very large group of people… just saying… I am curious to know what type of conversation you are having with a person of color to have them react to you as being racist… like ‘good morning’????

        • Jostepher Putainsky

          You must live in a very small world.

        • Most? I hardly think you know most black people. It seems to me like youre the one whose overly sensitive. to even care or notice such things

        • Chevonne22

          By your words, I’m accusing you of being racist. I win!

        • Pamela Kennedy

          Until you take it into a court of law, then it gets hella hard to prove.

        • Mae Chandler

          Okay that explains it. You’ve met most black people in the world so you know exactly what you’re talking about.

      • Tony S.

        Where there’s smoke there’s often fire. If someone is constantly being called out for being racist they indeed might actually be racist but not realise it. We often don’t see ourselves as others perceive us. Either they can try to figure out and recognise what they say that keeps pissing people off and change, or simply blame everyone else and “quarantine” themselves to their own kind (which may not be white). Either way, we all win! That said, being accused of racism when (for the accused) it’s accidental, unthinking or (on the part of the accuser) mistaken or wrong is understandably very unpleasant. Depending on the accused, it can be a deeply confusing, embarrassing and even frustrating experience and it’s no wonder someone might want to avoid the possibility altogether.

        • Jackflash123

           I think I get what you’re saying, Tony, but I am hesitant to call someone racist who doesn’t realize it. I’d say they were racially insensitive, or callous, but to be a genuine racIST, I think there has to be a little malice involved, not just bumbling and oblivious inappropriateness.

        • ratdeb

          Very good points, Tony.  To be logically consistent one would have to apply these same points in evaluating other social situations as well.  The “white racist” is not the only hurtful stereotype that nevertheless is true for some individuals.  Are you willing to acknowledge that some blacks who complain of whites who say they are “loud and obnxious” may indeed be loud and obnoxious?  Pulling out the race card and hiding one’s bad behavior behind it is disingenuous behavior that works against the cause of racial equality.

          • Shade Palette

            Comments like this are why I read Madame Noire. Thank you, ratdeb. And also Jackflash. This is the ENTIRE POINT to be made: the need to reconstruct social civility and trust.

            So many people have no one to talk to about these issues. They go to the Internet and find mostly hysteria–some of it fuelled by people who work at think tanks, lobbying groups, foundations, and other “activist” groups. (I know this because I was hired several times to go on Internet forums and seed intelligent discussion and, let’s be honest, biased facts about several political policy issues.)

            But even if the poster/commenter is honest, rather than a troll, look at how people pile on, rather than trying to listen or respond with mature thought.

            There are a lot of people who get well paid to keep others mad and silly. Learning to interact with each other means accepting that there are limits on behavior, not just Eternal Woodstock, following its bliss (or whatever) no matter how much it hurts others. It’s time we grow up again as a nation.

      • Bellarose6060

        Well if you wore a sign saying ” I’m not overly sensitive ”  WE will LOVE talking to you !!!

      • SHOPATLUXE on Etsy

        I agree. I have to wonder, as one of many bi and multi-racial/mixed people in America, do I fall into that chasm of Black people who “…I just avoid/don’t talk to black people unless I absolutely have to…”
        Goodness! If I’m “light” enough, perhaps I’ll be a lucky one who this guest will actually talk to! Oh boy!

      • Nastasyana

        this is an example of racism. he does not have to interact with blacks in order to live his llfe or do well at his job or have a social life. he can take advantage of a system which would allow this.

      • Hunter

        Because we don’t need you. Why waste are time with someone who has a quite high chance of blowing up in our faces when we can, you know, NOT have to walk on eggshells and go talk to one of the countless white people.

    • Plantsmantx

      Good deal. As a black person, I would say that you and others like you…you know…you people…should keep on avoiding black people.

    • Tmsilk2003

      IT’S NOT HOPELESS!!!  I grew up in an insulated suburb of Chicago, all black.  I went to integrated schools, had some white friends. When I got to be an adult I had no white friends, despite working with them daily.  Therefore my perception of white people( I don’t like that word) was profoundly flawed.  I now work an live in a predominately white and Hispanic area of Texas.  I have grown tremendously in my perception of people.  I no longer view white people as prejudice or racist until they prove otherwise. We really don’t know each other very well, therefore we easily come to erroneous conclusions about each other.  We need to change our perception, and we can only do that by becoming friends.

      • guest

        Of course, you are correct. But getting there is the problem. How many times should someone have the race card played on them before they give up? And I don’t see the “black community” (at least in the media) policing itself against unfair claims of racism. And things like blacks calling Herman Cain an Uncle Tom and an oreo don’t exactly encourage anyone to engage in an open dialog. Nonetheless, your words do offer a glimmer of hope…although I have to admit I doubt that I’m up to the challenge.

        • Gothyam21

          I think You need to turn off your computer, Take a few breaths and make yourself some tea… because you have an angry heart about this subject and it’s quite cruel of you to JUDGE & act COMBATIVE on the fine people on this site who are trying to offer you some insight and  education as they are being very nice to you.  We all go through raciest moments  vice/ versa you have to realize you have a problem and nip that in the bud! are the world we will a closed minded place for the nxt generation! (Btw… I am married to a white man and I only see him as a man).

          • ratdeb

            Gothyam21, that’s some pretty judgmental language you’re using here.  I think “Guest’s” concerns are logically explained and are certainly not combative.  Do you disagree with his assertions that Herman Cain was treated unfairly by prominent blacks?  If so what is your counterargument?  Engaging in ad hominem, belittling insults does not advance any good cause, certainly not the search for truth.

        • bigdawgman

          If you’re really interested in talking to black people, just do it. If you go into the conversation worrying about everything you say, you’ll come off as fake. If you do say something insensitive and it’s pointed out, just apologize for it and keep it moving. Sometimes we do get a little sensitive, but all the racist incidents that we’ve personally suffered tend to make us a little wary sometimes. If you’re a woman it might help to think about the sexist things that men do/say and don’t even realize it. I realized I had some homophobic feelings I still have to work on.

          • tim simms

            Homophobic, huh? Well, you don’t have to be racist to be a bigot.

    • autumnbreeze

      You are making all of these comments, yet you are on a (supposedly) predominantly Black website….hmmmm ok. I have had MANY white people do me wrong, from calling me n*gger, spitting in my face, and comparing my skin color to poop. Do I avoid all white people???? NO. Not all are racist just like not all Blacks are defensive. God bless you o/

      • Guesttoo

        you should never have to endure that; no one should – it’s sheer ignorance for a person to abuse another person that way and unfortunately it is only getting worse because people are afraid of this subject.

    • WSSNW

      Hmm. Good point. Might it be because……I don’t know……because you’re a racist?

    • Lazersoia

      Yes, the best way to avoid looking like a racist is to go out of your way to avoid black people because you don’t like them or what they have to say. You, sir/ma’am, are a brilliant specimen. I hope you breed extensively. 

    • ConradDobler

      Good- most blacks don’t care too be around “you people” too much…but for some ‘strange reason’ you people can’t keep “BLACK” off the mind long enough to totally segregate yourselves. Contrary to your own inflated egos the universe doesn’t revolve around “you people”…thankfully…

    • YUMAD?

      Why you mad, bro? It’s not like the term “racist” carries a prison sentence. You worry too much about what other people think of you.

      • ratdeb

        So you don’t think someone should be mad just because another person called them an epithet like “racist”?  Are you being logically consistent?  Are you saying there is no epithet that someone can use against you that won’t make you mad?

    • BeInformedNotFooled

      Please.. do black people a favor and never talk to us.  Racist whites  such as yourself and others like you are a waste of planetary space and consumme oxygen and other resources that would be better used on a more worthy being.  The Third Reich sounds like it would be more much more suitable for you

    • luv2smyle

      That’s so sad when we could have a lot to talk about…someday, we in this country will not confuse sociology with biology…

    • Neutral Observer

      You’re obviously racist.

    • seriously.

      that’s not an excuse. when you say something and they get pissy about it, you don’t apologize, you don’t flutter, you tell them flat out that they better not use the race card with you since you are merely speaking in general terms about something else. But no, white folks don’t do that, they get all fluttered and nervous and start apologizing and look more guilty and ignorant than the one yelling at you and getting offended.

    • YEAH SEE, Your comment could easily be considered racist. I would just say you don’t know any better than to JAM YOUR FOOT IN YOUR MOUTH. The whole thing is this, WHITE people ya’ll do know when you are saying something out of line. You just try to act all ‘WHAT, DID I OFFEND YOU’ knowing full well you did. I personally don’t care what someone of any race says out the way to me, BECAUSE I AM GOING TO RESPOND ACCORDINGLY. I understand where you are coming from, but you are obviously talking to the wrong Black folks. BECAUSE CONTRARY TO POPULAR BELIEF, we don’t all go off about every little thing. JUST LIKE ya’ll don’t ALL HAVE drunken pill parties and get pulled over by the police and manage to ‘MOM & POP’ your way out of a ticket. SEE its all stereotypes, not racism. WE JUST HAVE TO TAKE TIME to get to know more about one another and our cultures.

    • Flint4076

      Your quotation shows that you have racist tendencies. Quoting “you a racist” as an example suggests that all black people speak improper english.

    • Dcjourney10

      Hopefully, black void “people like you”. 

    • Rgm-35

      That comment tells everything I need to know about you.

    • Spicy_thecat

      I’ve seen several instances where a group of blacks say blatantly racist statements in public settings!
      Example.. ” man , f that white mother f”! Or ” ooh that white hoe is fly”
      Nobody says anything, in fear of physical altercation, so they walk by and say nothing!
      Noting they have the upper hand , the group leader gloats’ ” that’s right, nobody ain’t gonna say shhhtttt! They scared”
      We’ve all witnessed this behavior, and it is widely ignored!
      Obviously race is the underlying process and first response in anger to many blacks!
      I am not whiter nor black, I am Asian .

      • LET ME JUST PUT THIS OUT THERE. Because I am so tired of people (white folks) going out their way to try and prove, BLACK PEOPLE ARE RACIST TOO. Once again I need to point out the CLEAR DIFFERENCE in racist & prejudice. BECAUSE THE DICTIONARY evidently isn’t a good enough source. RACISTS are people that hate people of another race & feel as though their race is superior to other races!! Prejudice (which everyone is at some point or another) is when you judge a person based on things you have heard of their opinion. WHICH HAS NOT ONE THING TO DO WITH COLOR!! I’m BLACK, CLEARLY and I judge groups of teenagers in the mall, based on how they are dressed. I shouldn’t & I know that. That’s why I try not to. I see some Asians and assume they all are wealthy, intelligent & have their stuff together. Then I saw          
        a woman (Asian- not sure which kind) in the store with a child stealing. I was so shocked I couldn’t even alert the associate. Seriously, I was more embarrassed that she saw me see her. I JUST LEFT THE STORE!! Everyone JUDGES PEOPLE BASED ON THEIR APPEARANCE!! It’s wrong but it’s real. THAT DOESN’T mean everyone is racists. Because no matter how much I judge unfairly, I DON’t LOOK DOWN ON ANYONE, ESPECIALLY BASED ON RACE/CREED/COLOR/RELIGION. It’s Wrong!   

      • BLACK PEOPLE, & White people that are from around my way, ALWAYS SAY a persons color before expressing what they have to say about the person. IE– “She’s a dumb black b#$%h”, or ‘HIS ugly white @$$”, OR EVEN BETTER “GET YOU WHITE @$$ DOWN FROM THERE!” White people say it to white people & their black friends & vice versa. It’s racist when you add something to the BLACK OR WHITE!! SO if you are saying, you don’t EVER HEAR WHITE PEOPLE do the same thing, THEN UMMM……. You might be the one that’s racist. Or MAYBE YOU ARE JUST PREJUDGING!!

    • S

      If you weren’t a racist it wouldn’t be so easy for racist things to slip out of your mouth. Good, keep avoiding black people, they can do without your racism.

    • SaveThe Republic

      Being accused of being a racist these days doesn’t have the same sting it did a few years ago. Blacks have worn it out so much that most whites frankly don’t give a damn any more of being labeled a racist.

    • deesibecool

      I’m pretty sure comments like THIS are the problem. This article was doing exactly that… saying “Hey this stuff isn’t racist!” But your comment WAS. Move along please.

    • jc

      maybe you should reach out, and try harder. It might be just a confidence thing. In which case, the more you’re around different people, the less “different” they become. I know what you’re talking about, but I find that it’s a small percentage and the more you expose yourself to in social situations. the smaller the percentage gets. It’s a great world out there and to limit yourself and your experiences is such a waste. If you embrace things like different cultures, ideas and change, then you will become a more balanced person. thanx, jc

    • chuck

      What are you people doing on this site? Your arguments are whiny and poorly thought out. Go do something else.

    • Chevonne22

      My guess is you posted this particular comment to see if you would be called out for racism. I’ll feed you. By avoiding Black people to avoid being labeled a racist, makes you seem like a racist. Avoiding a group or class of people for something they were born with and generally cannot change isn’t fair, but maybe that’s alright with you. Maybe people should avoid you until you get your nose fixed or until you change your eye color or until you stop having the parents you have. See?

    • realist

      This is correct, I’ve intentionally stayed away from black people as much as I can because they have created an aura of hate around them when it comes to the fact that I am white. I don’t them to think I offended them when I didn’t. The fact is, white people are better off not getting involved, why would anyone choose to associate themselves with someone, regardless of race, that looks for a reason to hate. It’s like an imaginary filter that they are sifting every word a white person says through and if anything doesn’t quite fit through they assume things.

    • Mae Chandler

      Wow I wonder why anyone would think that you’re racist.

    • Person

      Agreed. I find this whole racism thing has gone too far. For example, a black kid gets shot by a white cop and everybody is on a rampage. A white kid gets shot by a black cop and the only response is, “He/she disserved it!” So god damn annoying.

  • Too True

    “I’m not a “man in America” but rather a “black man in America,” and the difference is anything but subtle.” — Maybe because there is the Black Caucus, Black History Month, BET and a host of other specific activites and groups whom are identified as “Black _______” Can’t have your cake and eat it too!

  • Jabari

    Ummmmmm…….these are all racist things. White people just don’t to have to alter the status quo to accommodate any other races. Whites are raised to believe that everything white is normal so by the time they grow up they don’t understand anything else. It’s the same way kids get brainwashed into phony religions. They don’t even have a chance to think any differerent. Of course by the time they grow up they believe they are thinking for themselves but they aren’t. Your childhood shaped all of your core beliefs and very few can change them because they are just too dumb.

    • Slyeli3

      Our experiences and the choices we’ve made define who we are.  People understand the difference between “right” and “wrong” once they’ve reached a point of physical, emotional, and psychological maturity.  Racism, in my opinion, begins with a fear of the unknown.  When someone has an “experience” that is unfamiliar they may make a “choice” based on fear of the unfamiliarity of the experience.  People are not naturally racist.  Place an ethncially diverse group of 2 year olds in an area to play.  I can assure you that racism will not occur.  There may be a fight, but it will be over sharing the same toy. 

      • Guest

        Actually, it’s been proven that babies-infants- prefer to look at and be around their own race. Black babies get happier when they see a black face, white babies get happier when they see a white face, and asian babies find asian faces more pleasing to look at.

        It’s true that there is no inherent hatred for another race, but there is an inherent proclivity to prefer your own race.  

    • Gandalf

      The problem with your argument is that the “nature vs. nurture” argument was won by the “nurture” side which completely destroys your premise. There is no “everything white” because there’s no behavior exhibited by a white person that is connected to his DNA the same as there’s no behavior exhibited by a black person connected to his DNA. Pull your head out, Jabari – everyone is an individual – there are no groups. You’ve been lied to. Start thinking for yourself. Analyze and dissect. Seek the truth, not supporting columns to a pre-defined world view

  • Abdukaddu

    I am African and I live in Africa.  I find it funny and disgusting that both white and black Americans are so hung up on this petty issue of racism.  I have lived in other parts of the world where there were people of different races and whenever racism was exhibited, (very rarely) it was always ignored and brushed aside and life went on.  
    My advice to black Americans is that, the more you fight it, the more it will grow.  Just ignore it and go on with your life.  To white Americans who have hatred for blacks, you have a social problem, and someday that hatred will come back to bite you somewhere.  

  • TonyT

    Being pegged as a store clerk is often racial in nature.

    • Rob Weaver

      I would think that in today’s economy, being pegged as a store clerk is nothing more innocuous than being pegged as having a job.

  • Ferah11

    I think is interesting until the writer compares not having black friends as normal as not having a pet!!!!

  • kool129

    i disagree with everything said in this article it just sounds like a bunch of excuses. being followed in a store often times is racial profiling. Being mistaken for someone who works in a store represents the historical trend for people of color to work service jobs. Saying all people in an ethnic group look alike is an over generalization. 

    • CuriousBede

      I get asked all the time for help in stores.  I’m usually not dressed as a store associate, and I’m as white as can be.  It doesn’t offend me at all.  I think its a sign that I appear approachable – since I surely do not look like a store employee!
      But while working at a college with a large black population, I was asked by several black people about the dining services – I was dressed in all black.  Did I get offended?  Afterall, I’m a professor, not a waiter.  No, I just answered their questions as best I could because its nice to be helpful to people!

    • Youdontsay

      lol, you just validated everything that section of the article was saying. Often doesn’t mean every.

  • Jbimb

    given our history, we have earned the right 2 be oversensitive.  but i personally judge comments from others on a case by case basis – the context in which they are used, the age of the person, the person’s relationship 2 me, blah, blah, blah.  but that following around in the store is unacceptable at all times! 

    true story:  a former co-worker of mine & her sister went into a store & both had enough money on them 2 purchase a good amount of stuff.  now 2 make things crystal clear, while j & her sister looked african american, they were also part cuban (courtesy of their dad) & spoke fluent english & spanish.  well, while shopping they overhead the owners of the store talking.  the wife tells the husband (in spanish), “why do u let these n*ggas in here?  u know they steal!”  the husband in turn did nothing 2 defend the patrons, but instead kept a watchful eye on the 2 young ladies. j & her sister continued shopping & when they approached the counter the woman behind it smiled sweetly & asked if they had found everything they were looking 4.  they smiled back & said “yes”.  well after the order was totalled, they looked at each other & told the woman just as sweetly, “we’ve decided we don’t want any of this.”.  as the woman & her husbad (who slithered over ready 2 call the cops in the event of a “problem”) looked at each other in disbelief & opened their mouths 2 complain, j said (in the woman’s language), “the next time u want 2 call someone out of their name, you better make sure they don’t understand what you’re saying!  u can keep your stuff.  we’ll shop elsewhere.”  they added a few more colorful comments, but the look on the owners’ faces was priceless. 

    • Gandalf

      What about the history of a white male republican named Abe Lincoln (and thousands of the same archetype as soldiers) dying for black freedom in the early 1860s? Why does that history never seem to count in any significance beyond a mere footnote (if at all)? Try some full-spectrum history if you want a balanced view.

  • Most of what gets billed as racist/racism today is nothing more than simple bigotry. The bigotry may be racial, but that doesn’t make it racist. I greatly lament the death of nuance in our culture today. Everything is knee jerk reactionism and extreme emotional outrage. People don’t just disagree with you politically, they’re socialists and fascists. People aren’t just ignorant bigots, they’re racists. People don’t just have differing opinions, they’re waging war on yours. These extremists need to be called out for their extremism, but sadly, we’re rewarding them instead, both politically and commercially.

  • EducBlkMan

    Robert Downey Jr. played a Black Sergeant not General. You can see the stripes on the lapel of his shirt. Sheesh, try not to wait an hour before deadline and do some research.

    • AJ

      So, are you saying that blacks can’t be generals???

      • Guest

        No he is not saying that a black man cannot be a General, but if the man clearly has Sergeant stripes on he should be described as one. 

  • Guest

    Interesting read. I’m a Caucasian businesswoman who often shops wearing a suit. I have never been followed by store security. I have been confused as a salesperson several times. I’m not really sure why. However, when I was in college, I worked as a server. The uniform was black pants, white oxford shirt, necktie and maroon apron. When I would wear my work clothes to shop at Walmart, someone would always ask me where something was. Kind of funny, since Walmart employees wear blue. People would see a uniform and without thinking they just automatically assumed “worker.” I would usually point them in the right direction before telling them I didn’t work there. Most people just don’t pay attention to details. Perhaps if they did, they wouldn’t think “all black people look alike.” Sometimes people are just unobservant, ignorant or stupid rather than racist. That being said, even my nephew who is mentally retarded and has an IQ of 70, knows it is racist to say “you people.”

    • So if “you people” is racist, how do you define, “most people”? “Most people just don’t pay attention to details” is what you said. It rolls off the tongue as easily as “You people all look alike”, huh? But it’s no less “offensive” in it’s content or implications. You might want to take note that sometimes lower management in Walmart is out there stocking shelves and they are NOT wearing blue. Didn’t notice? I have and for quite some time. I’m a white guy, 55, my face fairly well butchered by cancer surgery a decade ago. I get profiled in Walmart all the time, yet I spend a lot of money there. Spotting store security has become almost a hobby and a few times I’ve just meandered long after my cart already had what I came for in it, and I simply wandered and fingered a few juicy items. May as well make them earn their pay, right? Point is, if you go through life taking any of this stuff seriously, then you’re missing out on the other, better stuff. “You people” can go around looking for racism, or believing that “most people” don’t notice the details, but in fact you’re snoozing through life. People are people. In my case, some people, clerks most notably since we’re standing face to face interacting, seem frightened by me and can’t even manage to say hello. I can be offended or not. I choose not. Others go the opposite way and seem to fall over themselves trying to be kind. I have the same choice either way. “Most” seem to just be happy to see me again, we have our little chat while we do business, and life goes on. This article exists for historical reasons as well as for fairly paranoid ones. People need to choose not to be defined by other people’s actions and responses to them.

  • who wrote this dub article. can we get some real journalist over at bossip (yes this is basically bossip)

  • white guy

    the comments are WAY more intriguing than the actual article was.
    full disclosure, i’m a white male in my late 20’s from boston, now living in san diego.
    seeing the differences in the ways that races interact with each other from city to city has been a trip!
    anyway, my point is this: every race is racist towards some other race at some point in time. you think i’ve never had people from another race say some racist sh*t to me? ha! but i don’t walk around with some huge chip on my shoulder about it for all eternity! the people that broadcast those ideas for all to see and hear are just small-minded, nothing more. they don’t represent the entirety of their race any more than i do mine.
    if you want racial harmony, it’s a two-way street and it takes a LONG time to get to the end of that street. we’re talking a few generations of people being consistently good to each other. stop indoctrinating your kids with this garbage that white people hate you or are keeping you down, regardless of whether or not there are some white people that hate you or want to keep you down. i don’t know any white parents that would explicitly (or implicitly, for that matter) teach their kids such hateful things at such a young age. it’s also a self-fulfilling prophecy that sets up the next generation for failure. spend your whole life thinking you’re second-class and you’ll end up BEING second-class.
    i get that feelings run deep on this topic, but we’ve all got to move on.
    i’m as sick of being the oppressor as you are of being the boogeyman.
    bash away, haters!

  • Minneafrica

    The author was dead wrong on a couple of points here and that took away from the otherwise good intention of the article. “You people” and “You all look alike” are definitely stereotypical  if not racist. And that goes for anyone. Period.

    • Slyeli3

      What about, “you all” (i.e. “what are you all doing?”)?   Or, “y’all”?  Alot of these terms are slang and are spoken dependent on where one was raised (i.e. South, North, East, West, etc.).  Jumping to conclusions based on one’s own experiences is very narrowminded.

      • Minneafrica

        C’mon now! You understand the context within which I am referring to – if not read the article again .

      • Aivory

        Wow, that is OBVIOUSLY not what she is talking about. Sheesh.

  • Ok while I thought it was a good read and kind of funny I definitely do not agree with most of the points made.  

  • Feliz4life

    I completely disagree

  • BlackHeywood

    Who is the idiot who wrote this article. They have been brainwashed to believe that there is no racism and when Black people believe it is, we’re being overly sensitive. What a sad,person.

  • 1234disappointed

    You are an idiot. How much did they pay you to write this? Try reading Uncle Tom’s Cabin.

    • CuriousBede

      You do realize Uncle Tom’s Cabin was written by a woman who had never been in the South, never been on a plantation, had no personal first-hand experience of anything in the book?

      • sugaree

        And you do realize that Stowe got her background from the stories told by the fugitive slaves she and her husband sheltered in her home, right?

      • DRLJR

        And Uncle Tom tolerated no back-talk from Whites or anyone else from what I have been told about the book.  The movie that was made was not the book.

  • The Rain

    Seem to me that the author is more concern with a likely passive  aggressive bigot offender than she is the target of the the passive aggressive bigot offender.I am a 51 year old black man from Mississippi,I don’t walk around with a chip on my shoulder looking for racism under every rock,but I will not ignore my time honed keen perception either.Don’t try to convince me that bigots are not bigots,convince them they are not and the world will be a better place.My friends and I laugh at how we will be standing around enjoying the company of each other,discussing something other than women,sports or entertainment,and how 9 times out of 10 a white male will have a problem with this.White females,9 time out of 10,seem intrigued and show outward signs of approval.We laugh at how we may be reading a book on history,zoology,the business section of a news paper,sociology or anything other than sports,entertainment,etc,and how mostly white males show subtle or outward signs of hostility at our not living down to their perception of us.One or more well dressed Brothers at a comic book store or convention,gun show ,boat show,etc,and it becomes a scientific study of white bigotry that you just can’t ignore.Hey!Don’t tell me that a bigot is not a bigot,tell that bigot.Good luck with that.

    • Gandalf

      Abe Lincoln. White Male Republican. Ender of Slavery. Get over your stereotypes and look at the individual – did you ever think those 9 of 10 white guys you’re looking at with a pre-disposed suspicion picked that vibe up first from you?Try this – next time you’re getting ready to suspect one of these 9 has it out for you, think about white male Republican Honest Abe and the thousands of fellow “white dudes” he commanded to win the end of slavery and what heroes they were and maybe you’ll put off a better vibe – then that 9/10 will become 8/10, then 5/10, then 2/10…

      Oh, and MLK as well as MLK Jr. were Republicans too – but have fun on the Democrat plantation – “Yessa Massa, I vote for yo’ handouts cuz we ain’t smart enough to earn our own way…” Seriously dude, redeem the voucher old Abe bought with American blood – walk off the plantation and don’t look back…

  • Prinann

    Prinann again.   I meant to say I do understand why Black people do NOT like white people.  Ooops.

    • JewelThompson

      That’s an enormous generalization. Many White people don’t even want to get know us as we are still considered inferior to many of them. 

  • Prinann

    I am a blonde white woman.  I was brought up to respect every one.  I have never used the N word.  My Mother made sure of that.   I have never told a racist joke.   With all of that, I have no black friends.  I have Native American friends, etc.   Please remember: some of us people were never exposed to the derogitory meaning of spook, coon,boy………..& I really don’t know what else.  With all that said, I still manage to offend.   For example: I got out of my car at a shopping mall.  Stopped to grab my purse and get it under my arm.  A black man Yelled at me, ” Oh shure get that up under yo arm so’s I can’t grab it!) I had not even seen him.  What to do?  Was I supposed to appologize?   A lot of things just happen.   Also I fully understand why black people do like whites.   But, really arn’t you ready to admit black people are also racist?  

    • Shawandabrown

      just like some white people think all black people steal there are some black people who think all white people are racist ..when i was about 4 or 5 my dad was beat up and robbed by a group of white men ..i still remeber the blood on his buick…so for a long time belived that all white people were  racist and will kill you if they can get you alone but you have to learn to forgive people not for there sake but for your own …anyway what im trying to say we all can be prejudice at times

    • JewelThompson

      Can Black people be prejudiced? Absolutely. However, I must tell you that there is a laundry list of reasons of why – and that dates back for centuries. Take for instance how our current President is being treated. Never before has a sitting president been treated with such disrespect as Mr. Obama has. Even to the point of being called a liar – by a congressman while on live TV. Unheard of…. yet it happened. Why? Because the President is Black – plain and simple. I’ll go a step further to say I was shocked beyond belief when a co-worker (a Caucasian woman) who I am still friendly with to this day, said she hope the inauguration festivities for Barack Obama didn’t feature just Black people because she thought – i.e.- that having Mr. Obama in office meant four years of “all things Black”. I reassured her that she would see a diverseness of performers and within the administration and that she had nothing to worry about. Besides, even if there were an overwhelming majority of Black people within the administration, so what? For years it’s always been the other way around and no one really complained about that.

      However, her comment revealed what I and many others (perhaps including yourself) found to be deep seated, disturbing psychological feelings about how whites fear Blacks being in a position of power or influence that is greater than or equal to theirs. Why am I still this woman’s friend? Although I was stunned by what she said, she prefaced her comment by saying she felt she could say it to me because we have known each other for a long time and she thinks I’m a reasonable person. I quickly realized she really meant no harm as this was her truth and she needed to express it. (Now, do we talk politics? NO). But since that time, I have noticed a change in the attitudes of other White people I knew since the day Mr. Obama won the election. It is what it is.

      Last, to answer your question and to put the meaning of racism squarely back where it belongs – Black people are not racist. This is because racism is a systematic oppression of a people based on their race. Here in America it’s still called “White supremacy”.

      • Sarah

        Yeah… Because absolutely no one was disrespectful to Bush. Lets forget the shoe being thrown at him too…

  • TimSD

    I don’t know that i’ve ever been the target of racism, so I can’t speak from there, but as a white person I can tell you a lot of these things happen both ways.  In stores I’m asked all the time if I work there.  I don’t know why.  And my wife and I are followed all the time by store detectives.  I laugh about it and try to act shifty.  I’m just  saying I think it’s easy to confuse unintentional, everyday actions and reactions, with racism.

    • Charzae

      Me too. I do that exaggerated sneaking walk you see on cartoons and pop up from behind shelves and then just laugh. Got to have fun with it.

  • wheelnut53

    I can agree with this anyone wearing a blue shirt in walmart can work there . I’m secure within myself and is willing to give anyone the benefit of a doubt . How many times even with another black person have we said the light skin guy or the dark skin girl .  And why do I have to be a compromising negro why cant I just be a sane intelligent human being with an insight to human nature

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  • ronjayaz

    “But be on the lookout. The moment you discover an acquaintance doesn’t have any black friends may mean you’re being recruited as the “token.” That quote violates the whole point of the article. It’s “racist” paranoia.

  • ronjayaz

    Actually, if U dont mix with certain people when they come into contact with them for the first time we dont know how to distinguish them. It’s the old joke of the “Chinaman” saying to a Britisher I cant tell U guys apart, U all look the same. This hasnt been discussed enuff in psychology esp. “white” people IDing the black criminal from the lineup!

  • legit

    why did the author use a picture from tropic thunder while defending black face?  is this article supposed to be ironic, seeing as how i cant take it seriously?  the articles on MN are becomming progressively more and more ignorant and misinformed.  please stop while you are behind MN.

  • Gwen

    At the risk of stereotyping (which I am not trying to do)…y’all know we as black people sometimes jump to conclusions without stopping to assess the situation, the person, and ourselve in the situation.  Sometimes one just has to ‘suspend’ an opinion for a moment. 

    • Slyeli3

      Amen sister.  Most everyone at point or another has stereotyped, and not necessarily consciously or out of malice.  We all (I mean all people black, white, red, yellow, etc.) as human beings can have the tendency to jump to the worst conclusion…unfortunately.

  • AK

    I am a Caucasian professional, who occasionally does some shopping at an electronics store or the supermarket. While I am dressed in my necktie and dress shirt and pants, I am regularly asked where the video games are, or on which aisle the dairy products are. People are taking cues from my clothes, and assume that I work there (really, who wears a tie in a consumer electronics store, except someone working there?) 

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  • Seanybills

    I enjoyed this article. Two comments:

    On #1: I think this is just people being werid/assuming everyone who’s in a store alone works there.  Every time I have gone to Best Buy in the last 6 months or so, at least one person has asked me if I work there.  I wasn’t even wearing the blue polo khakis combo!

    On #6:  People seem to group people together based on skin and hair color.  I always get mistaken for a coworker because we have the same color hair and skin.  I’m 6 inches taller than him, but that doesn’t seem to matter.  White people have a larger range of hair color, so I assume that’s why people think it’s harder to tell apart East Asian/Indian/Black etc. people.  That being said, I did have a couple East Asian friends in college who told me that all white people looked alike.

    • Charzae

      I kept getting asked at Wal-Mart if I worked there and where certain stuff was because I had my house keys on a lanyard around my neck since I had no pockets. Wasn’t wearing wal-mart blue or any blue for that matter, just the keys.

  • I really enjoyed this article. It was right on target. I can admit going to a predominately white elite university I am always checking for racist undertones but often times it’s innocent. The one thing I do disagree with is the blackface comment. Blackface is always racist, period.

  • Beallcj

    I am white and work as a limousine driver.  Many customers assume, wrongly, that I am from a foreign country because many limo drivers are (my European roots go back many generations in America).  People have also made assumptions about my ethnicity and religious back ground based on the music I was listening to.

    The bottom line is is that  people  make assumptions about many things; it is a way to make sense of a complicated world.  We all make wrong assumptions sometimes, and racism is just another form of ignorance.

  • This article has some good points. Some people do overreact. A lot. Not that there’s no such thing as racism, but sometimes it’s nothing. I’ve been told i’m ‘not welcome’ in a bar before, hazard of living in the south sometimes. But something like someone asking if i work in a store doesn’t piss me off, it happened once in Target, then i realised i was wearing the same red shirt and khakis as the workers. Black ace can still get me mad though. You have to have a damn good reason for that.

  • Vic

    EVERYBODY knows that Madamenoire is just another whitewashing/brainwashing website directed towards black females. Nothing more , nothing less. 

  • DocWllk

    I have noticed other races in hoodies rarely get the same amount of scrutiny. And we shouldn’t have to dress in a three piece suit to shop or be out and about in piece. 

    • DRLJR

      When you understand the history of the hoodies you understand why Blacks in hoodies will get more attention.  Most of the rappers who helped popularized hoodies have some sort of criminal background and promote criminal type behaviors or present a stereotypical criminal attitude.  And when someone is going to commit a crime they work to hide who they are so as to avoid getting caught.

      And people do tend to fall into groups with like personalities and behaviors so there is an assumption (right or wrong) that a Black-American wearing a hoodie may need to be watched closer.  It goes with the point of the article – stereotypes.


    Black people just need to put potentially racist things into context….think it through before jumping to the conclusion that something or someone is racist. Yes racism still exists and yes we went through a lot of crap in the past but we gotta realize its the year 2011 not 1911….not everyone you meet is a flaming racist….so black people shouldnt always approach a situation with the belief that others constantly have racial motives…cause then black people are the ones who might come off looking like the ignorant.  I’ve seen that happen on a few occasions.

    • Gabrielle

      You need to consider things from the vantage point of a minority. From a young age kids pick up on the message that white is the norm
      and standard that everyone else will be judged against. It is necessary to tell your kids for many reasons.
       1. Refusing to acknowledge racial differences breeds ignorance, you need to tell your child that people are different otherwise they will grow up and judge everyone elses culture based on their own, particularly white kids, it is very easy to be white a go your whole life never learning anything but the bare minimum about minorities, but as a minority it is impossible to go your whole life and learn nothing about white culture. One of the many aspects of white privilege.

      2. Regardless of what your may believe young kids are often put in situations where race becomes a factor. Many of the things kids see get internalized, kids pick up on things early. It is very easy for minority kids to feel out of place in society because of the lack or representation and too often this leads very young kids to have self esteem issues (see clark doll experiment).

      3. Many parents begin teaching their kids about race related issues when it is age appropriate, so I don’t see a problem with it. It is unfortunate that it is necessary in 2011 to teach to your kids about racism. Plus we all know that the public school system is not going to teach minority kids about their culture. You learn the same stuff every year so you don’t have any other option, plus the little that kids do learn about minorities is always separated. Ex: Feb it is Black history month so now lets learn about African Americans, Thanksgiving so now we will learn to about Native American history meanwhile at all other times of the year kids are taught about “history” which just so happens to include whites only. Things like that send a message to kids. Rather than teaching history and including everyone all the time kids are taught that during certain times of the year, on special occasions we learn about and respect the cultures of minorities. White privilege. It gives the false idea that minorities have contributed very little to the country and a lot of the time makes African American kids feel like all their ancestors did was follow orders as slaves which is not true but it does have a negative effect on them. If learning about history was insignificant then why even bother teaching kids about it at all? Since their is an effort made to educate kids about history it must be important and if its so important why are minorities left out most of the time? and why wouldn’t that have an affect on someone?

      4.  Please recognize and understand that until 1965 segregation was legal. I
      am 21 which means around the time that my parents were 5 segregation
      ended legally. That doesnt mean that magically since its illegal no one
      held racist beliefs. With that in mind my parents experienced a lot of
      racism growing up. Why does anyone think that 245 years of slavery
      and an additional 100 years of legal racism is going to be reversed in a
      mere 46 years. Just because you may be uncomfortable talking or hearing
      about racism acting like its insane to feel that racism exists in 2011
      is absurd and counter productive. Consider the
      generational damage, the fellings of inadequacy that have been internalized, and unintentionally (or intentionally) passed down from generation to
      generation. Even if you dont inherit the full burden you will get a peice
      of it. My father would tell me how when he was younger if he was on the
      wrong side of town white people would throw rocks at him, obviously
      they dont do it anymore and he doesnt let that experience deter him from
      all interaction with white people but it would be stupid to say it doesn’t have an effect on him. Consequenlty hearing about something like
      that happening to my father has an effect on me and I am sure my grandparents told my dad about
      things they expereicened. So we all inherit a little piece of that,
      because no one wants their kids to be disrespected or hurt. My grandparents told my
      father as warning, because racism still exists so its not a question of if  it happens but when it happens. I have never heard of anyone saying “white people hate you” to their kids, people educate their kids on the truth. It would be stupid to tell your kids that now everyone is post racial and doesn’t see color but educating them on the realities of racism doesn’t make them color conscious because kids are always pointing out differences between themselves and others out of curiosity.  If you teach your kids about safe sex is that encouraging them engage in sexual activity or giving them the knowledge needed to properly approach sex? Failing to teach kids about safe sex is always more harmful than teaching them about safe sex practices as long as its age appropriate. This same sort of thing applies to racism.

  • SethW

    I also have one other problem  with race sensitivity:
    When black parents tell their children that white people hate them because of their color and will be racist against them, and then they say they are preparing their child for the world.

    Yes you are preparing your child for the world: To be color conscious, to be doubting their place in the world, to be always looking for racial slights and to be angry.
    So, when a white child says something they don’t understand, the reaction is not to ask “what are you saying/what did you mean”, it to become angry and race sensitive, an that is why black kids and adults don’t feel the same ownership of the USA as whites do.

    Also, that is why black kids have such an high failure rate in school, they have been taught from young not to trust whites and whites stuff, so they refuse to learn “white English”, which is really just English, they refuse to trust “white books”, which is really just books.
    It’s not genetics nor the Bell Curve, it’s just parents racially sabotaging their kids by making race consciousness a  too early part of their kids worry.


      Wow, ive thought that way for awhile…hardly ever hear anyone talk about it.

    • guestblkperson

      NO it’s the system that has done that…given us that mindset. For 235 years and you people have done nothing to fix this issue that you have caused.  How dare you?

  • Guest

    I think this article was about picking and choosing when it okay to go ham about racism. Although we live in a modern world, the seed of racism is still alive on a sub conscience level. I have many friends from different cultural and ethnic backgrounds. What I have noticed is that my white friends will always take the time to delineate someone who is Asian or other ethnic group. “Kim is Korean, not Chinese. They are not the same”. When describing a black person it’s usually just that. “Tim the back guy”. There is usually no distinction between is he African, West Indian or from Europe. Believe me, most white American people are not that sensitive to this detail. European whites always ask me where I am from.

    Education is key guys. The less educated the more sensitive you are. Some, not all white americans are not sensitive because this is not a country where they have to be. So if they are sensitive to it, it usually means they are a studious person really wanting to know about other cultures or have become sensitive to it because they have ingratiated themselves in said culture.  

    Do not throw the baby out with the bath water. We should always recognize racism and call it how we see it. Do you think the Jewish community will ever stop talking about the Holocaust…NO!!!! Would you ever tell someone Asian that “you all look the same.”…I would hope not. Being lazy with regards to respect and consideration for someones ethnic background and culture is not a free pass to remain ignorant and insensitive. Like the Jewish community has stated. “We can forgive but we will never forget!!”.

    • Iamcocoasmom

      If someone said to me, “Adah is Kenyan”, I would say, ‘No, she is not.  She is Nigerian”.

  • Njadell

    The article was funny but true.  Sometimes we are overly sensitive.  Two in particular, 1.  We all look alike?  Sometimes non-blacks all look alike to us too.  2.  “The moment you discover an acquaintance doesn’t have any black friends may mean you’re being recruited as the “token.”  That gives us the opportunity to show that all of us are not like the negative stereotypes on TV and in the news.


      I agree.

    • Girliusmaximus

      Yup I work in a hospital with mostly white nurses and well, asking me to tell them apart sometimes is a difficult task. Just being honest.

    • Chazaq

      You shouldn’t have to prove that you aren’t like the negative stereotype on TV. People should be able to rely on their own intellect to determine whether a person is negative or positive, not TV. How childish is that.

  • Girliusmaximus

    1. Robert Downey Jr. wishes he was black. 2. I found his portrayal of that character in Tropic Thunder funny. 3. If we don’t like black face then people should have got upset and Shawn and Marlon Wayans for White Chicks…

    As far as racism goes, a lot of it is based on negative stereotypes. The problem with stereotypes? Not everyone falls into them. I can’t be held accountable or responsible for what an entire race of people did. I can’t tell you why that black guy broke into your home and stole your tv. I can’t explainblack rappers and their behavior. I don’t know why that black woman chooses to wear extensions. I’m one person and I have nothing to do with what other people do in that type of context.

    Some white people get upset when a black person blames them for all of black people’s problems. Isn’t that a stereotype right there? If you don’t like when that happens, why turn around and stereotype us? I know that white people aren’t the cause of all our problems and I don’t lump all of them into one category. That’s all I’m asking people of ALL RACES to stop doing. Stop with the stereotypes.

    Another thing to think about… That mess about acting black/acting white…. That needs to stop too. Especially when things that constitute acting black are 99% negative. Why is “acting white” to pay bills on time, get an education, speak proper english, etc.? But acting “black” means selling drugs, having several kids with several different people, going to jail, etc… People of all races do all things good and bad. The sooner we realize it the better. And the sooner the news story reflect that the better.

    That’s my 2 cents.

    • Swanhilde

      Well said, well said.

    • DRLJR

      Agreed with as well.

    • Guestblkperson

      You know, people are blind to their invisible privilege.  It’s alive and well, institutional systemic racism (any ism) is perpetuated by one class of people who feel they are of a higher class than the people they are oppessing.  America’s 235 years, not much progress has been made, considering that blacks are only considered 3/5ths of a man under OUR constitution…history has done this to US, all of US.  While I believe that people are people (we all bleed red), there is a instituationlized systematic ism’s currently going on.  Most white people don’t feel they are a part of it…because your invisible privilege won’t allow you to see it.  Research history, everything that was legal say drugs for instance ONLY became a problem and had to be outlawed when whites became afraid that black people using the drugs would rise up against them.  (The History of Drugs, History Channel). Their fear has been the basis of many a new laws.  Keeping us uneducated, kept us in chains and to a certain extent our people still have invisible chains on them BUT the key to breaking those chains is EDUCATION.  Until we as a people can come to grips with that, we as black people will ALWAYS fall into their sterotypes for us.  We have to make our own sterotypes for us.  There is nothing wrong with being black and proud, we don’t have to be ghetto and ignorant with it, because once you ‘show’ that, you’ve given them the power to say ‘YOU PEOPLE’, and excuse me, help me to understand exactly what that is suppose to mean. 

  • Ms_Sunshine9898

    I agree with the article. I swear sometimes in the black community we get offended by the slightest little thing, and I agree with every single one of her points.

  • Kayla

    Asians can tell each other apart. For people who aren’t it’s particulary hard. Same thing with other races. As a black woman you I recognize the difference but to a person outside the race they probably can’t. The black face thing is tough. With the Robert Downey Jr. that’s what the part called for. There is a difference between putting on black face to poke fun at blacks and putting it on for costume( like that guy who dressed like jay-z) And as for the following in the store is just not true. Remember all the occurrence of blacks being followed in stores, and managers telling employees to follow around a group of black people. etc. I’ve worked in retail. Depending on how the person dresses you keep an eye out. There have been and still are plenty of people who follow around blacks in stores.

    • dddooonnnttt

      No, I’m calling BS on this. You can tell Asian people apart, you just don’t want to. And that’s exactly what they are doing to us.

      • Kayla

        i can’t and I know alot of people who can’t

        • African

          I agree with the response to Kayla – it’s not that you can’t, you just won’t. I think most Americans, regardless of race are lazy (dare I say arrogant) about learning about other people’s cultures. 

          • AJ

            The problem is that people who don’t have many ethnic friends have a hard time telling people of ethnic backgrounds apart because they haven’t been exposed to that background.  It isn’t because they are racist.  Once you get exposed to the people/culture, it becomes much easier. 

    • DRLJR

      People will obvious object to your statement but studies show people have many of the same facial characteristics and unless you are exposed to the differences people will have problems recognizing individuals – especially from different ethnic groups.  

      And for those who object to her statement, how many times have you thought you knew someone and it turned out to be some you didn’t know after all.

  • I get what the author was going for, I guess. But only about half of these were actually legit examples. There is no excuse for Blackface…ever. There is no excuse for anyone to try and say Black people look alike. Since I’m someone that does not take offense to using skin color as a description, I can’t understand how to accept any person saying all Black people look alike. We are every single color of the rainbow. On that premise alone, we don’t look alike. And if someone says they “can’t see color”,there are only three possibilities…you are completely color blind (and even that is very shaky), you’re lying, or you’re racist. I don’t know, maybe its just me. Anyway, side note: seriously whats the issue with using skin color is a description?? That is a physical description! Especially since a majority of you guys have most likely used it when trying to describe someone white, or asian, or racially ambiguous. So cool.

    • and being followed is crap a majority of the time. I’ve been followed wearing very little clothing with almost no leeway in them (it was summer, in DC, and 95 degrees…don’t judge), and no purse. Where in lord’s name would i be hiding ANYTHING? 

      • Girliusmaximus

        Lol you replied to yourself. I’ve been followed in a store before plenty of times. I turn around and tell them to stop before I call the cops for stalking. Immediate response and priceless expression ensues.

        • Mandl

          Well I’m white and I’ve been followed around a store by security many times, especially when I was a teenager. I’ve also been mistaken for a store clerk many times.

          • Girliusmaximus

            I don’t make it an issue of race when I’m followed in a store. I just make them go away. I understand that most things aren’t a racial issue that’s the point of my reaction to people who follow me. I’ve never been mistaken for a store clerk though. I don’t feel that’s a racial issue either I believe it’s an hones mistake.

          • Want to have some fun? Wear tan slacks with a blue polo and wander around Wal Mart. When someone asks where something is, tell them aisle 6. Red shirt and black pants gets the questions in a supermarket. Same fun, everything is in aisle 6. Makes my day. And the questioners get exercise, a health benefit. See, I’m helping people.

    • Ms_Sunshine9898

      I think we as black people need to get over black face and stop being so sensitive. Yes it has a history of racist undertones, but this a new day. Just because someone attempts to emulate does not mean they are making fun of us, they admire us which is why they do it. We’re quick to call racism to the simplest of stuff as noted in the article. . .

      • Sugar_Spice

        So if i tape my eyes back trying to emulate an Oriental person you don’t think most Asians would find that offensive?  You said it yourself it has a racist undertone.  Even if people aren’t intending for it to be racist it is often done in poor taste where it comes across that way.

        • Ms_Sunshine9898

          emulation is a form of copying through admiration which is why i used that word. what makes it racist is if it wasn’t done in with that intention and isn’t presented that way?


        I agree with you. Ive seen it done out of admiration but also to make fun in…they do this sometimes in Asia….its all about the context in which its done.

      • preman

        I think blackface and other forms of racial stereotyping can only be done by certain comedians, if they are clearly not racist themselves, but are using irony to expose racism.  Very few people can pull it off, and most should not try!

        Richard Pryor did hilarious impressions of white people.  But he was a genius, and also had a very generous heart.

    • Peachygirl31

      I agree. I am white and have never thought anyone of any ethnicity looked alike.  I was also taken aback when Robert Downey Jr basically had blackface on for that movie.

      • Shawandabrown

        at first i did not want to see tropic thunder because of the robert downey charater i thought it was going to be racist and stupid but when i looked at it and understood that the character was not actully in black faced he just was so into his craft that he got a race change which i think is so funny

        • AJ

          It was a movie, a comedy, who cares.  Don’t be offended for no reason.  If you don’t know someone, their opinion shouldn’t affect you.  I’m sure you watch Chapelle’s show and think it is ok for Dave to do his “white” character.  I’m white and I love the show.  He makes fun of all kinds/races of people.  Society needs to change so that people aren’t so sensitive.  Have a laugh, have fun.  Be an adult.  Don’t blow up over little things that really don’t matter.

    • Every color of the rainbow? haven’t run into any green people so far. Were you talking about the aliens who abducted you, and took you to their planet for experements?
      Asians are not yeallow. Negroes are not black, though some are so dark brown it might appear that way. Whites are not white – they are pink. Indians ( wrongly called native Americans ) are not red. They are pinkish brown.

      • DRLJR

        Actually, in India there are Caucasians whose skin color is black.  As you pointed out skin color is not the issue.

  • bobster

    whoever wrote this is obviously stupid

    • d1ckdame

      The author may not be stupid, but slightly ignorant to the current situation. Things described in this article should not happen, but they do. 

    • SethW

      I would say stupid is dismissing the author’s attempt to delve into a complicated problem and try to make sense of it.

  • Sweetlove

    I’m a young black woman living in Brooklyn, NY and I remember one time I was followed in a store. There was a group of white high school boys by the chips and I walked in to get a drink and I was followed. REALLY?


    • Your specific incident maybe racist but as a former retail manager   – everybody, every type of person steals.  So everyone, every type SHOULD get a second look including black folks.  Shoplifters don’t have a “look”.  They can be rich, poor, black, asian, etc.  I’ve been followed and I knew it was because I was black because I know want to look for in a shoplifter.  I had no bags, no purse, no coat.  So I think there are times when its racism and times when its not.

  • Bunni

    MadameNoire, ya KILLING’ me w/all the graphics and pop-ups as I try to read your articles. That said, you might want to remember that Black folks’ only react to the racism heaped upon us, not only by whites, but other races as well. My six year-old niece was riding the school bus home one afternoon. Little white girl asked ny niece her name. When my niece said ‘Chelsea’, little white girl said ‘nice name for a Black girl”. And so the racism continues from one generation to another, as I explained that there will be people who  will hate/judge her based on her skin color. We have enough problem to deal with on a day-to-day basis. I don’t have time to decipher what white folks say out their often-racist mouths. Post Script: MN, if you wanna write an insighful article, I suggest one where we examine the Black-on-Black crime that is killing our race and landing our Black brothas’ in jail by the hundred of thousand.

    • Isherman2000

      “Nice name for a Black girl”. What does that have to do with racism? Do the majority of folks on here or throughout the US even know what racism is because there always seems to be a lot of people calling things/people racist that have nothing to do with racism.

      Just because you take offense to something doesn’t mean that it is rooted in racism.

  • quitab

    As a racially ambiguous person who used to work in retail I experienced a lot of BS just because I was a good salesperson. You should be greeted in a store, asked if you need any help finding anything, and offered great customer service. I’m am constantly offended when I walk into an establishment nowadays and no one even greets me. Madame Noir is right about constantly looking for racism. There’s still enough of it to know when it’s real.

  • Natalie

    This article was pure rubbish most of these “sensitive” words are indeed hurtful and racist. “You People” and “All of you look alike” if that isn’t racist then I don’t know what is, and how on the last piece you were contradicting yourself by saying don’t think a white person is racist if he or she has all white friends, but to be on the look out if he or she tries to befriend you as a “token’.

    • Kayla

      But alot of people including blacks think asians look alike. Does that make blacks racist too? Oh I forgot blacks can’t be racist

      • Yes, it is racist. I hate when people use that ‘all asians look alike’ thing.

        • Iamlyricallycorrect

          I’ll admit, I have said that a time or two.. I said it out of sheer confusion.  I didn’t know who the heck I was talking to.. 12 Asian girls, all of them are the same age and they truly did look alike to me.. It’s not an ‘I have a problem with Asians’ thing.. It’s an “I’m not visually mature enough to know the difference when they all have similar features’ thing… After a while the names came easier but it took some work.. Races tend to look alike.. There are definitely a few exceptions but I think it is dishonest to say I don’t notice the similarities between myself and other black people that I don’t even know.. It’s just a fact, not an insult.

      • Preman

        I think it’s human nature to think these sorts of things – almost everyone has a slightly harder time distinguishing facial differences in people of a different race to themselves.

        But it is extremely uncool and insulting to actually say the phrase “All you people look alike.”  Unless it’s a really good friend, and you are having a laugh together about human frailties.

        • J Bianca Jackson

           I agree that it is insulting, particularly if you say it to someone, but it really is human and real. I work in the sciences and I’ve had my share of moments when white or Asian man has come up to me, knowing exactly who I am because we’ve meet before (plus, as a black female, I stand out like a sore thumb), and I’ve drawn a total blank because his look was so generic to me. It’s even worse when they are important people who are used to being recognized. I end up seeming rude or aloof, when all I’m thinking is “God, you people all look alike. Why don’t you wear nametags?”

    • jonny b

      God you are stupid. The token thing was a joke. I’m black and yeah you can never tell but the difference is you still let what others may or may not think about you dictate your feelings.

    • jseski

      “This article was pure rubbish most of these “sensitive” words are indeed hurtful and racist.”
       No, Natalie, they are not.  They are words that can be used to be insensitive, hurtful, and racist; however, they are also words/phrases that can be used in normal life situations by non-racist individuals to conduct normal conversation, too.
      I don’t agree whole-heartedly with everything in the article, but I do believe it does an excellent job of pointing out the realism that certain phrases can be said/meant in a very innocent (read as: non racist) way.

    • Um.. I’m Caucasian and have been referred to as “you people” by a lot of people and I don’t like it, either. Biggest offenders are New Yorkers.


    99.9% of the time blackface is racist. There is no excuse for it. 

    • Sugar_Spice

      The exception of Robert Downey Jr.s role in Tropic Thunder I agree with you

    • If black people don’t like blackface then black people should not do whiteface- the Waynas brothers made the movie Whitechicks and white people said nothing. I, as a black woman, was very offended.

      • Alice

        Whiteface does not have the historical implications of blackface. Your point is moot.

        • ladeedadee

          double standard

          • If this a double standard, describe the historical context of “whiteface” and its impact on White people.  

            The Robert Downey Jr situation, completely NOT in context of historical “blackface” situations.  I thought what he did was really brilliant.

            • Pivyque

              Me too! He is one of my favorite actors!

        • sdguy55

          Sorry, but many Caucs feel that white face is simply a reversal of roles, and is as racist as its opposite. If you are not white, your opinion has no merit, as you cannot feel what Caucs feel.  If you are Black, your opinion is not only insensitive but self serving as well.  Even if you are White, your opinion, despite your obvious arrogance, does NOT represent that of ALL Caucs!  Get a grip, and consider who you are, and who you are NOT!
          We (all of us!) need to be sensitive to the needs of others; we also need to be a little less sensitive about things that MIGHT be racist.
          I have found that with the decrease in many of the more OVERT expressions of racial bigotry, that there are some who delight in finding the LEAST possible excuse for pointing out that, yes, racism (as well as sexism, and homophobia, to name a few) still exists!  This is counter productive.  Some nutcase professor in California, while screeching a diatribe about white racism, declaims “Black people are not racist!” never stopping to think, or able to understand, that THAT statement, on its face, is racist!
          Not all white people were raised in homes filled with hate and bigotry; many of those who were recognized it for what it was, and have done their best to steer away from attitudes that demean entire groups of people based on the actions of a few.  That goes for racial, gender, religious, and sexual orientation stereotyping. 
          To quote Rodney King, “Can’t we all just… get along?”

        • dee

          But it is ok to dress up as and make fun of women?

      • Preman

        As a white person, I would not find whiteface offensive unless it is especially mean-spirited.  Blackface would be offensive unless it is clearly making a satirical point against racism, or has some other valid rationale.  The history of oppression does make a difference in these things, at least to me.

      • WENTISKY

        Generally black people don’t do whiteface and White Chicks is the only full feature film whose plot revolved around black people trying to be white. However, there are tons of movies that involve black face and it seems like every Halloween, some white person is wearing blackface.

        I’m not a racist person. All people are equal in my eyes but I need to make a valid argument when you’re talking to me.

        • Prinann

          You must be too young to remember Watermelon Man.   Check it out.

          • sdguy55

            Great film for many reasons; humorous, touching, moving, and thought provoking!
            Having been raised in Detroit, I knew that I lived a different life experience than that of a number of my friends and acquaintances. Cambridge’s role as the Watermelon Man truly brought home, as much as it could be, how different that life was!

        • Wait, why is the person wearing blackface? is it a kid whose hero is M. Jordan, and wants to be him for halloween? ( Would have to be a really tall kid to do it well.) Or a kid who wants to be Tiger Woods?
          here’s one for you: Is B. Obama black or white, or mulato? Well , biologically, he is more white than black ( caucasian genes are dominant.). The black community accepts hi as a black man. Whe white community accepts him as a …. black man. Seems there is a lot more racism going on than we would like to admit.

          • guest

            actually African genes are predominant which is why obama has dark lips, wide nose, and ears. He sounds Afro-American rather than Euro-American, i am surprised that whites point out his mixed race, because white Americans never accepted mulattoes even doctors like charles drew who looked white was disliked by whites because of his black ancestors, so blacks are less racists and more tolerant because blacks have accepted mulattoes  whereas whites applied the one drop rule, and despised mulattoes. And besides isn’t racism and race a European idea

            • guest_again

              “isn’t racism and race a European idea”
              You’ve obviously never been to Nigeria, Kenya or Chad.

              • Chenelle

                And those places have all had a history of colonialism or other processes of the likes…

          • Swanhilde

            Actually Cauacasian genes are RECESSIVE…all other genes are dominant – ask any geneticist.

            • Morrighan

              No I do not think that is quite correct. After reading your post I did a little research and there is to date no conclusive validation to your above claim. Physically from my own personal observation I would have to say that Asian is the predominant attribute that shows itself when people of differing ethnicity procreate. Asian genes seem to even outweigh that of an African American. As far as mentally there is no sustenance to hold up your claim.

      • 1234disappointed

        The Wayan’s Brothers do not represent all black people.

        • neither do racists represent all white, or Hispanic, or…..

      • Gabrielle

        You sound really dumb. What is the historical significance behind white face??? Were white people degraded and objectified, viewed as nothing more than entertainment and less than human?? Please let me know when that happened and why you were offended.

      • JewelThompson

        The Wayans? Nobody said anything about them because they didn’t even look like white girls. They looked like transgendered albinos. I don’t see their talent anyway.


    This si a Compromising N*gro article if I ever read one. 400+ years of racism and now we are Overly-sensitive. Go a lil deeper………..If we see negative conotations in these phrases, its probably because those Phrases were used in a racist manner……………..Cause & Affect two laws of the Universe madame’.

    • d1ckdame

      I soo agree with you. She writes this article as if it’s our own fault for being made to feel a certain way after being treated poorly for soo many years. Yes, some things should stop, and yes, some of these topics are sensitive issues. But to say that we are being overly sensitive for feeling hyper sensitive about black face, and describing someone as black is ridiculous. Why describe someone and the first thing mentioned is their race!? Newsflash: we are all way more than the color of our skin. People can describe me without saying my race by saying how funny I am, or how I stay laughing. Why do I have to be described as the black guy, as if that is all there is to me!?

      • sweettea

        Your skin is your largest organ and therefore the very first thing people see. Of course it’s noticed first it covers your whole body. Logically next would be hair since it’s at the very top of your body. It’s called a physical description because it describes your body

        • d1ckdame

          Uhh great, but when you’re attempting to describe someone, the color of their skin does not make them who they are. I am more than just an American male of African descent. Color is not always needed to describe a person.

          • Kayla

            If you’re trying to describe something then you mention the color. you describe apples as red, carrots as orange, grapes as green. etc.. When you filling out a police report, do you tell the officer the personality of the person who robbed you? NO you tell them the race, what he was wearing etc. 

            • hahahahaha! Do you tell the officer the personality of the  person who robbed you? That was perfect. In this case “D1CKDAME” was being too sensitive. Way to set him straight Kayla.

            • BlueCanuck

              When describing a white criminal, one would have to state the hair and eye color, straight or curly hair, blond, brunette, redhead, etc. Blacks/Asians have no such diverse description, so they need to be described in more detail.

          • Preman

            Yes, it could be racist sometimes – not trying to contradict your experience.  But it is the inevitable fate of being a minority.  In a majority Black country, the token White person will no doubt often be described as “that White guy over there.”  People will always tend to do that – it’s just too easy and convenient – even if it makes the person feel a bit diminished as a human being.  Probably very difficult to change human nature on this one…

          • justreplying

            are you ashamed of being black?

          • NonPrejudice

            My ancestors came from England. I do not describe myself as an English American, I am an American or white American depending on the scenario. Why do most Black Americans describe themselves as Afro- Americans. Why did our President automatically degrade the Police Sergeant (who taught classes on race relations) and the Boston police department for arresting the Harvard professor who was acting suspicious while trying to break into his home and then became belligerent & abusive. The Pres did not even inform himself on the circumstances. Knee jerk reactions do not cut it. Prejudice is Prejudice no matter where it comes from.         

            • Human

              (In America) I supervise 4 people from England (born and raised and ancestrally) who are black. I’d love to know how many times someone has called them African-American. Ironically, I also supervised a white woman from South Africa and black gentleman who actually is from Africa, and he is not American.

          • Morrighan

            I think you are wrong there my friend. Color, height, and weight. Those to me are great ways to describe something or someone. Honestly who cares,
            Conversation: ” Hey did you meet that new guy down the hall?”
              “Which one there are about 4 of them?.”
            “The tall, thin, black guy.”  ……….
            When you are white and your talking to someone and they say the new guy you assume they are white because you are.
            When you are black and you say the new guy you assume they are black. Be honest with yourself and the rest of the worlds population, you know exactly what I am talking about and you also know there is no “racist” connatation associated with it.  If I told someone I wanted a Popsicle there first question would be which color. People are too up tight about everything.

          • Bellarose6060

            And YOU never say ” the white-guy at work ” to describe someone ?? It is not a put-down…..unless you want to make it so . I wonder if BLACK people feel better calling themseves AFRICAN-AMERICANS , because THEY don’t like their own blackness. You don’t see people from Japan calling themselves ASIAN-AMERICANS . And I am from Portugese descent .

        • J Bianca Jackson

           ITA! And think about this way, I grew in a 98% black community, when we would describe someone physically we would say so and so was light-skinned, dark-skinned, mocha, whatever as the first part of the description. It wasn’t a judgment, it was a description. It wasn’t offensive or racist to describe someone by their color, race or ethnicity…unless you got it wrong! Don’t call the dark-skinned Dominican a Haitian, or the light-skinned Dominican a Puerto Rican! I’m noting this because sometimes I think some black people don’t recognize their own lack of political correctness.

          If I had to describe myself to someone I’ve never met before who will have to find me in a public place, I would simply say that I’m short and black with a curly ‘fro and glasses. Usually it helps, sometimes it doesn’t. But none of those descriptors fully embodies who I am, so should I be offended if someone who was white and tall with straight hair and perfect vision described me the same way?

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              • Morrighan

                You are an ignorant little girl that perpetrates the ignorance in our country. You say white people are racist but your comments make you equally so.

          • Jahalexander

            Most white people are full of the devil! Racism is evil and a sin on the white race!

            • 2012Apocalypse

              Everyone has racism in their culture. Stop being racist yourself and classifying one group as it. Prejudice and Racism are abound in your comment and you come off as uninformed & unintelligent in it.

            • Morrighan

              Your a jackass

            • BlueEyes32

              Honey, Im white and most certainly not full of the devil. Racism is evil….but its supporters are of EVERY race. You seem racist yourself:(

      • Shawandabrown

        you sound like somebody who have a problem with being black ….of course if sombody is trying to describe you they are going to mention your race first..hell its too damn hard to try and describe someone without mentioning race

        • alpha06

          On a number of occassions I’ve written the news stations to raise the issue that whenever a black or hispanic person commits a crime, they mention his race.  However, if the person is white they do not.  Because white people are the majority, they don’t see it as neccessary to state their race … it’s “understood”, at least to white people.  But I pointed out that not everyone is white. I’d like to know if the rapist or robber on the loose is white, black, hispanic, etc.  To consistently have the words “black” or “hispanic” mentioned to describe a criminal and NOT “white” is racist and subconsiously links these minority groups to negative behaviors.  What makes a behaviour racist is when it is not applied equally to everyone.  Many of the situations mentioned in this artical are racist because they are not applied unequally to whites.

          • Donmatta

            I live in a place where whites are a minority (Hawaii), and the news reports always mention “Caucasian”. So it might be simple majority/minority.

            • J Bianca Jackson

               Ageed. I’m from the metro NY area and they usually mention if the assailant was white, and for non-whites, if they were light- or dark-skinned.

          • Emc_c

            Actually, just the opposite is often the case. A black or other minority is a suspect, whom the police seek, but the news people bend over backwards not to state the race or ethnicity, even though that would greatly aid in identification. You can sometimes puzzle it out on those occasions where they have a name, and it is obviously hispanic or ebonic.

            • huh?

              Names can be ebonic? I’m seriously asking.

          • LeeC

            But keep in mind that the article doesn’t say these situations are never racist, just that they’re not always. I agree with you completely regarding reporting of crime etc (and it’s not just race, women are too often described as “mother of two…” or “grandmother” when this is irrelevent). 
            I mistook a random black guy in the street last week for a good friend of mine – we were both very uncomfortable. But I’m shortsighted and do that all the time, whatever color you are. I can’t count the number of times I’ve found myself strolling along chatting to a stranger wearing the same color sweater as my husband.

          • Human

            I have never seen that issue where I live, and I live in the upper south. They never mention race unless they are looking for a suspect that is on the loose and in that case they always mention skin color.

          • cubanrose

            White people make up 72% of the USA population, roughly 224 million white people.  Black people make up 12% of the USA population, roughly 37 million.  We are the majority so it’s assumed the criminal is white unless otherwise specified.    Black people ALWAYS mention other black peoples shades.  “Oh the light skinned brother with the green eyes” “Oh the Somalian looking sister” code for (dark skin)…give me a break.   Please…black people….you do it and we do it as well…so lets stop pointing the fingers at each other and just get along…

    • Kayla

      I think it’s because for some of those the racist undertone doesn’t apply anymore. and some still do

    • J Christ

      Exactly!!! the OP is obviously traveling through a time warp in a hot tub…she/he suffers from stockhlom syndrome and is simply trying to appease the mindsets of the gatekeepers…in the meantime, unarmed Black men are being gunned down, shot in the back, by public entities that are supposed to protect and serve us…repbublicans are trying to shut down gov’t agencies…knowing that 90% of the Black population works for the gov’t…i stopped reading this absurdity first sentence second paragraph…it’s okay to mind-phuck yourself, but i’m noy going to let you mind-phuck me…

    • Cjenkins1967

      Uhhhh the last time I checked the United States is 335 years old… who cares that you throw out mis information like 400 plus years….it sounds better who gives a sh*t if it is correct

      • Emc_c

        235 if you use the Declaration of Independence as a starting point, or 224 if you count from the adoption of the Constitution.

        • oops my bad you are correct, that is what I get for doing the math in my head(LOL)

          • S

            You guys are both idiots. It wasn’t always called the US. Slavery began long before the constitution was written.

    • AJ

      You lived through all 400+ years of racism (not sure where you got that number from) didn’t you?  You should definitely fall back on your racist years and bring up all those years of experience where you were fighting for rights for black people.  It isn’t 400 years ago. It isn’t 100 years ago.  It is now. 

      • Isitreallynow

        Your response has to be one of the most relevant responses here and as such, with one like, it always means people were missing the real point. I’m African-American and my biggest issue dealing with discrimination and how AA’s respond to it in the US is that for one, I did not have to sit at the back of a bus, did not have to wake up in the morning to pick cotton, etc. My struggle is different from my ancestors so I have so many more privileges than they did. As the article stated racism today is “subtle” and many of the issues that have sprung up since the Civil Rights community are between Black people and how we treat one another. The way the race-card is thrown around today makes me so upset and frustrated. 

    • Jackflash123

       Most of the entries on this list did specify that the phrase MIGHT be racist, but that they weren’t always, inherently racist. I think it’s pretty reasonable to consider it first, rather than making a knee-jerk conclusion about it. By taking a little more time instead of rushing to defend yourself against racism where none exists, you’re going to have more credibility when you do identify something correctly as racist.

    • Bellarose6060

      LEARN something from the JEWISH people. If they stayed in a victim roll , they would not grow into such a magnificent people !!

      • What?

        Except we aren’t white like Jews, so we don’t have the privileges they have. Please. As if 400 years of systematic oppression and having a parallel, inferior universe (i.e. “the ‘hood”) build for us can be undone by simply putting a smile on your face, ignoring daily racist actions, and thus, leaving the “victim roll.” You’ve got to be kidding me.

      • What?

        Except we aren’t white like Jews, so we don’t have the privileges they have. Please. As if 400 years of systematic oppression and having a parallel, inferior universe (i.e. “the ‘hood”) build for us can be undone by simply putting a smile on your face, ignoring daily racist actions, and thus, leaving the “victim roll.” You’ve got to be kidding me.

    • Btplug

      Easy to holler “RACISM”. Much more difficult to accept the blame and say “Hey, I am being a stereotypical ____.”

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  • Bhfkjhfjhwjhsa

    This article was hilarious! We can all get overly-sensitive sometimes, but we can’t go LOOKING for racism, folks.

    • Vic

      We live in a system of white supremacy. We are currently in the refinement stage. 

      • Guest

        Ohh… you people.

      • If that is what you think, Vic. . .  you are racist.  By the way, that lady sitting next to me is my wife, and black.  How do you like me now?  You people!!

      • AlSharptonRacebaits4yourCASH

        Whites LEFT Detroit as the JOBS left…look at it now. NOW “You people” cry for MORE entitlements as you stop paying the bills those SAME WHITES paid for you while they were there. WE LEFT because we raised YOU AND YOUR KIDS…but while we went to work, you then ROBBED OUR HOUSES. Good job. You will keep things the way they’ve always been, because we tried to be nice, but you people just TAKE TAKE TAKE. Now, we move to HIDE from you people…and you’re just getting mad you can’t find us to leech some more. Our President is BLACK, yet white supremacy? Because a CRIMINAL THUG GETS Killed… you burn your town down. Good for you. I’m glad your race has advanced like those who were left in your motherland have. Pfft. Without our empire, you would be a statistic in AFRICA. STARTS WITH YOU! If you’re going to have kids…try RAISING THEM…instead of relying on those white supremacists % of pay. Entitlements in a NORMAL sense suggest the person receiving contributed SOMETHING to be entitled to them….Figure out that 99% of you people are ghetto queens, without daddies….14%population85%responsibleforcrimerate. Good job contributing.

      • Jon Johnson

        Only, if only if you want, or choose to be. Flip the script for a minuet, do you also feel a need to be more black when you’re in a black neighborhood, or just who you want to be…yourself? Embracing, racism is far more socialization oriented than it is really a formal system. Open your mind.

    • Kevin

      This is a great article.  I particularly like the focus on clothing.  People judge you by your clothing.  Walking in a city at night, I would equally avoid black and white youths dressed in hoodies with their heads covered, but I wouldn’t think to avoid a black or white businessman dressed in a suit and tie.  A lot more goes into our daily thinking than race, as it should.  I work in the Pharma industry and when I encounter African-American VPs, I can assure you that nobody in the room with them gives race even a first thought.  These successful men and women own the room and that is never questioned.

    • Everyday citizen

      I worked with a young lady who came in to work, slept on her desk before the boss arrived, monopolized the printer to do her homework and personal business, was usually texting or on personal calls and did nothing to contribute to the team. She was Black and our boss was White and he held her to almost zero standard compared to the rest the team (which was a mixed group of races and backgrounds). Finally when I called her on using the printer for homework (I was waiting over an hour to print my work). She called me a racist (because I am White). I was so pissed off I went to admin and asked for a meeting. I told them she wasn’t doing her job and was pulling the race card to cover it up. But the sad thing is that the reponse from managment WAS entirely racist, they were holding her to a lower standard because they obviously believed she was not as capable (because she was Black), and they were so afraid of being called a racist and being sued that they wanted to put the whole thing to bed immediately. They were upset at me for even bringing it (race issues) up! 
      There was nothing wrong with the young woman’s capacity to learn or do the work but she became so focused on making everything racist that she fed the racism that DID exist. Yes people are racist and sexist, and many are just plain ignorant and believe themselves to be superior of others. But to set oneself up to do less and then try to profit off others ignorance is to only feed into what they already believe, like a self-fulfilling prophecy. 
      The young lady was eventually let go (apparently enough people complained about her lack of working and doing personal business that they finally had to let her go). But she won nothing, no extra skills, no references for her resume and she confirmed what they believed.  She called the race card but only helped them with their game. Racism is a double edged sword, it always cuts and never is meant to empower, only disempower. When people (of any race) walk around holding onto beliefs about another group of people and LOOK for ways to confirm their beliefs they will ALWAYS find them because that is what racism is, it doesn’t allow for a new thought, a new experience or to treat an individual based on who they are (not what they look like).

    • shamaymay

      I totally agree, if you look for something, you’ll find it. But how about we just walk along and wave at each other and say ‘hi’, rather than looking someone over and wondering if they have a gun. 

    • guest

      Agreed! I dated a girl who said she was scared of black women (she was bullied by a black girl when she was in elementary for three years by 3 black girls and then moved cities shortly after.) She`s very polite and sweet to everyone and has tons of black male friends, would you consider her racist for this? I thought it was a little strange