As the saying goes, “The bigger, the better.” But is that always the case?
When it comes to sex in relationships, not so much. Despite some women saying that they desire a man who is well-endowed, when put to the test of actually dealing with one is who is more blessed than most, they quickly realize that sometimes less is more. Hell, even singer K. Michelle knew her vaginal limits when Chad Johnson pursued her.
“I would not let him have sex with me,” she told Necole Kane (formerly known as Bitchie) back in 2014. “Because I did not want him to stretch my walls out because I need them. I need them. I looked at his penis and I said you know what? Uh Uh. I’m not–that thing is unreal. I can’t. I can’t take that.”
Plenty of women have shared such “less is more” sentiments online. The Thrillist did a story in 2016 called “When the Penis Is Waaaay Too Big, According to Women,” where real women shared what it’s really like to be with a man who is a little too well-endowed. One story, in particular, made us here in the office cringe:
One night I went home with this guy I’d met. We basically stumbled into his place, not even bothering to turn a light on anywhere. I get a glimpse of his c–k in the light of a lamppost outside and it’s huge… just long and thick and ridiculous. My drunk self decides I can take this and I’m so drunk and so horny that we get to it and he goes in dry. Hurts at first and then I’m getting wetter and wetter and it’s crazy. Anyways, everything reaches its conclusion and he gets up to go for the inevitable post-coital piss. On his way out he flicks on the light. There is blood everywhere. Between him splitting me open and the lack of foreplay, his bed has turned into that hallway from The Shining. And I’m so drunk and embarrassed I throw on my clothes and 30 seconds later I’m running out of his house barefoot with blood down my legs.
I think “yikes” is an understatement for that one.
In a tamer tale, a woman wrote into the popular “Go Ask Alice!” column seeking advice on how to deal with sex that just isn’t pleasurable for her or her partner because of his long and wide junk:
“I am unable to perform oral sex except for the first couple of inches due to the girth, and vaginal sex is not totally satisfying for him because he is too long and cannot fully penetrate without causing me significant pain,” she wrote. “I’ve seen my doctor, and am reassured that there is physically nothing wrong with me — no infections or scarring, but am finding it difficult to come up with a solution.”
In an everyday dating situation, I had a classmate in college who was with a guy who had a lot going on down there. The head of the penis was supposedly pretty large, and to get it in required some work — and some pain. It was something people assumed she would be happy about, but my classmate eventually couldn’t take his penis anymore. And similar to the Go Ask Alice! situation, her boyfriend couldn’t really go all the way in without causing her a lot of discomfort, making intercourse less enjoyable for him. That, coupled with other common relationship issues (they argued a lot — not about his penis, though), was enough to persuade her to call it quits with him. When one of our friends joked that she knew she was going to miss all that he was working with, said classmate could only laugh and say, “No, actually, I won’t.”
Can a large penis really be more of a curse than a blessing in a relationship? For quite a few women, it can be. However, there are methods to help you deal with the madness, from switching up positions to not allowing him to penetrate until you’re really, truly, absolutely ready and turned on. Patience on the part of both parties is necessary.
I don’t know about anyone else’s situation in full, but if the man my friend from college was with had been the right guy for her, she might have tried to experiment and make things work when it came to his penis. But add that big issue to their quarrels and the fact that she was the one always going out of her way to see him, and well, it just wasn’t worth it. But when it is worth it, you know what to do — stock up on lube, take it slow and breathe…
But as always, that’s just my opinion. What say you? Would you have to call it quits on dating a guy who is just a little too well-endowed, causing sex to be painful?
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