(As relayed by Lauren R.D. Fox based on a culmination of experiences)
My boyfriend of six months planned an amazing trip for us to Split, Croatia. Unfortunately, the day we arrived I got period. Although I was prepared with everything from tampons to Advil, I forgot my iron tablets and began to feel incredibly lethargic.
Aside from the fatigue, my cramps made it uncomfortable for me to walk or even sit. Although my boyfriend was very understanding, he wanted to venture out to the beaches and I had no desire to sit in the sun while my uterus waged war against me.
So I decided to stay in our hotel suite. Much to my boyfriend’s surprise, this is how most of our vacation went—me staying in our hotel room and him exploring the city of Split by himself.
Once my period became lighter, I felt more energetic and was able to go to the beach and explore historic landmarks like Dioletian Palace of Split. Despite my period holding me back a bit, I thought our vacation went well. That is, until I caught my boyfriend FaceTiming his best friend, complaining about how wack our trip turned out to be.
When I confronted him about his feelings, he said he wished he didn’t waste his money treating me to a vacation since I planned to stay in the hotel the majority of the time. And while I understood his frustrations, I had to be honest with him, if I don’t feel well I am not obligated to take part in anything he planned for me. It also concerned me that he cared more about his money than my well being.
Should I be alarmed by his behavior?