Over the weekend, I had the pleasure of witnessing love in true form as my good friend Alicia married her best friend. Over the last two years, I’ve watched her fall in love with Matt over and over again and I’ve listened intently as she told me how he was “different,” how she felt so lucky to have a man who loves her the way he does and how he makes her want to be a better woman because he deserves her at her best.
Single Girl Struggle: How to Let Go And Let Love Flow
We hear about relationships like this or see them in the movies, but to actually witness it and know it’s real is a completely different story. I am so inspired by these two and I wanted to share one lesson that I’ve learned from their love story. So here it goes:
If you’re waiting on love, make sure you’re waiting with an open mind, an open heart and open arms.
The thing that separates Alicia from a lot of the single ladies I know is that she found the faith to date Matt with an open heart, an open mind and the excitement of a high school girl. Remember when relationships were fun and refreshing? When boys gave you butterflies and you were able to let your hair down and enjoy the ride? Think back to the days when things were less complicated, your biological clock wasn’t tick tocking and you weren’t trying to turn every handsome guy into your husband. THAT is how Alicia approached her relationship with Matt. Instead of being stressed out about every detail of his life, examining every piece to see if it fit perfectly into hers- she let go, let love take it’s course and dated him like she’d never been hurt before.
She didn’t rush into a commitment with him, she didn’t twist his arm to make her his girlfriend and she didn’t overthink every move he made. Instead, she trusted the process and enjoyed the ride. She allowed herself time to develop a friendship with him, and whether it was leading to a relationship or not, she had fun.
When you can rewind the time and go back to the days when things weren’t so complicated, when you didn’t feel so rushed and you weren’t pressed to make everyone THE ONE. When you allow fun to lead to friendship and friendship to lead to a relationship, you know you have a love that’s going to last.
Stop stressing over every detail of his life, stop worrying about what your family will think of him and just HAVE FUN. A relationship that’s first established as a fun friendship will last so much longer than one that’s forced.
The great news is, all you have to do it sit back, relax and let love flow into your life. Loosen your grip, have fun and live a little!
Your future hubby is right on the other side of all that stress and worry…let your guard down long enough to let him in and your life will be forever changed.
Here are 5 ways to let go and let love flow:
- Don’t be afraid to go somewhere new to meet someone new
In order to meet new people, you have to actually leave your house. Mr. Right is NOT going to show up at your doorstep. Dating in the same pool over and over again is going to lead to destruction. Broaden your scope, step outside your comfort zone and meet some new men in new places. The change in scenery will be refreshing for you whether you leave with a new boo or not.
- Don’t judge a book by it’s cover
Stop getting so caught up in what he looks like. YES you do need to be attracted to him, but there may be something that catches your eye on date #3 that you didn’t even notice the day you met him. Don’t let his appearance be an automatic no, even if he isn’t your typical “type.” Besides, that type hasn’t been working out to well for you anyway, right?
- Don’t expect everyone to be the one
Don’t be so pressed to find the one that you expect every man you meet to be “him.” Relax a little, enjoy the new company and focus on learning something from the new Mr. That way, even if he isn’t the one, you didn’t waste your time. Besides, just because he isn’t your husband doesn’t mean he can’t be a great friend, potential business partner or just a great guy to know!
- Don’t compare your next to your ex
How can you possibly move on to the next chapter if you keep going back a few pages to compare notes?! Leave your past where it belongs and focus on your bright and exciting future! Besides, your new guy shouldn’t have to suffer the consequences from your ex’s mistakes. Wipe the slate clean and give your new guy have a fair chance.
5. Enjoy the process
Last but certainly not least, HAVE FUN. Dating isn’t meant to be stressful or boring. Enjoy going new places, meeting new people and trying new things. Plus, when you’re having a great time and enjoying life you are SO much for attractive to men! Men love seeing a woman who’s smiling, laughing and enjoying life– let that be YOU!
Wishing you a life full of love and laughter!
Written by Koereyelle, Founder of TheSingleWivesClub™