It’s that time of the year again: When the florists’ phones are ringing for deliveries of long stemmed red roses, Godiva chocolates are being picked up and passed around, and men are stressed to the nines about doing the right things and getting the right gifts. Yes, it’s time to celebrate the most romantic day on the calendar. Many people may argue that you don’t have to wait for Valentine’s Day to show your significant other how you feel about them, but the truth of the matter is that this is indeed a special day for couples.
While there are a number of people who anticipate giving and receiving gifts, and spending time with their significant other, there are those who won’t. Many single women will sit home watching Netflix movies while cuddled up with a nice chilled bottle of wine, and some will get together with a group of friends for a fun night out. But what do single men do on the holiday? One can’t help but think about how the single men of the world feel on this day, and if it holds any value to them at all.
My curiosity wouldn’t let this rest, so I asked a small group of attractive, intelligent, unmarried men if they get the Valentine’s Day blues like some women. I also asked them how they feel about the day, and what they do when they aren’t someone’s Valentine. Here’s what they said:
A few men I asked said that they don’t care when they don’t have a date on Valentine’s Day. Why? Because they save money, what with not having to spend money on flowers, candy and gifts.
Others told me that men aren’t as hung up on holidays and events like women, so when they’re not attached, they don’t give a second thought to Valentine’s Day.
While these were two of the most popular answers, there were a few others that were very interesting.
One guy stated that being single during this time offers the perfect opportunity to pounce on a woman they’ve been eyeing, because she’s looking to have a date for Valentine’s Day, or at least meet someone around that time. By swooping in at the right moment, the man also stated that they can easily “get some.”
Another intriguing response I received was that Valentine’s Day can make some men feel a little lonely if they don’t have anyone special in their life–or in their contact list. This man said that deep down, some men want a date, but refuse to admit it.
I was also told that men often feel relieved to be unattached on Valentine’s Day, because with the day comes pressure not just for gifts and affection, but expectations for a relationship after the fact if they’re in the courting phase with a woman. But most men won’t show that continuous affection and make a commitment unless what they have with someone is real.
Hearing these answers gave me better insight into how men feel about Valentine’s Day. It also helped me realize that the thoughts and emotions of the opposite sex aren’t so different when it comes to certain matters of the heart. So while most men won’t bat an eye about the holiday, just know that there are some who might feel some type of way. But considering that it’s one day out of 365, they, along with women who find themselves feeling a little lonely on Valentine’s Day, will be just fine.
Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For and an advocate for single women. Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin