Good women are all around us. Most of us wouldn’t be here today were it not for the love of mothers, aunties, grandmothers and homegirls who have held us down since before we could even consider doing it for ourselves. However, there are also plenty of toxic personalities out there who we’d do best to avoid. Peep our list of the most dangerous chicks around and do your best to keep them at a distance!
1) Ms. “I Don’t Have Female Friends”: You know the one- always talking about how she doesn’t “mess with chicks like that” or how she prefers to hang out with guys. More often than not, she herself is guilty of whatever “feminine” behavior she doesn’t like in other women! Take her at her word: if she doesn’t want women friends, she probably doesn’t know how to treat them. Her loss!
2) The Drama Queen: Creating and fueling trouble wasn’t cute in high school and it’s pathetic as an adult. Yet, there’s always that girl who loves mess. Whether she’s instigating conflict between friends or starting arguments with her boo just for arguments sake…you’d do best to let her keep her trouble to herself.
3) The Legend In Her Own Mind: Oftentimes a drama queen in her own right, we also have the girl who thinks that all the world is a stage- her stage. She needs to be the center of attention at all times and will work to stay there. She tells you your super flattering black dress is “too clingy” and shows up wearing something tight enough to show her soul. She’s annoyed when the cutie pie at the bar chats you up instead of her and decides it’s time to go home. Until she learns to share the spotlight, you’re better off letting her be a solo act.
4)The One With No Morals: She’s fun as hell and knows how to party…but she boosted a purse from Macy’s? She’s messing with a married man? Please delete her BBM pin. Do you want to get beat up or locked up when her chickens come home to roost? Didn’t think so.
5) Hateful Hangups Girl: Most people have some insecurities, but you have to know how to manage them. This sister hasn’t mastered that yet. She claims that “All light skinned women are stuck up” (but not you, you’re “different”) or that “skinny women are evil” or “thick chicks need to stop thinking they all that, ‘cause they get fat when they age anyway” or some other manifestation of her own unhappiness with herself. She projects her own dissatisfaction onto other folks, which isn’t healthy for her or for you.
6) The Zealot: Whether its her passion for her religion, her political beliefs or something as seemingly benign as natural hair, she just can’t live with the fact that there are other people in the world who don’t share her views. While there is nothing wrong with wanting your girls to consider your worldview, if you can’t let them live when they don’t, we’ll just let you stick to preaching to the choir.
7) Needy Nellie: Good friendships require a balance of give and take, but this chick specialized in the latter and flunked out at the former. She needs a favor, some money, a shoulder to cry on, someone to ride with her to get her brakes fixed, but she can’t be found when the tables are turned. She should find herself by herself until she gets the picture. Share your feelings and if she doesn’t change, chunk up the deuce.
8) Her Against The World: Woe is she, for she will never meet a man, never get a better job, never find a great hairstyle. Oh, and the entire world is out to get her. At all times. We all have days in which we don’t feel like anything is gonna go our way, but the constantly self-defeating chick who does little to improve her situation but complain about it? Don’t let her drag you over to her pity party.
9)The Rude Gyal: “I say what’s ever on my mind and I don’t give a Fawk!” Oh, okay. You’re the adult equivalent of those teens on Maury. Unfortunately, while honesty is the best policy, lacking in social grace and couth doesn’t curry favor when you’re trying to cultivate friendships. Even if she’s kind to her crew, if she’s known for treating outsiders, service providers and others like dirt, then you should think twice about having her around.
10) Lil’ Miss Scrappy: It is the year of our Lord, two thousand and eleven, for heaven’s sake. If you are old enough to be reading this site, you are TOO OLD TO BE FIGHTING. Don’t get me wrong: you have to be able to defend yourself and there are situations in which getting physical cannot be avoided. And kudos to your girls who will knuckle up to protect you when needed. But that girl over there? The one who’s known to throw the first punch and then needs you to back her up? She’s trouble.
