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While checking out the Circle of Sisters event in NYC this past weekend, I had the chance to see the ladies of Mary Mary do their thing on stage (and boy did they take me to church!). While there, Tina Campbell spoke honestly on-stage and off about dealing with a lot of pain when she found out about her husband Teddy’s infidelity, which was featured on “Mary Mary.” But she says that they have pinpointed and continue to work on their issues.
“My husband had issues, but I had those same issues. You want to focus on your strengths and mask all of your weaknesses. And then you think your weaknesses are not creating a fire in your life that is going to brew and build one day. I was broken, I was insecure, I didn’t know how to communicate…the same thing I was, I attracted.”
In a recent chat with EnStars, Campbell also spoke in-depth about moving forward and fixing her marriage to Teddy. She says that the steps they took to resolve major issues will be shared on the newest season of the WEtv hit, “Mary Mary.”
“I prayed and I asked God, ‘God, don’t let this be my life. Does this really have to be my story? Is this how I’m going out? This is terrible. Why do I have to be the gospel chick who goes out with the horrible life and it just stays devastated?’ And I was praying like, ‘God, if you get me out of this rut that I’m in, I’ll tell the world.’ So of course I’m going to show the world how we are now. And no we don’t have a perfect relationship, but we work hard every day. We work hard to enjoy each other. All of the stuff you do while you’re dating, we just do that now. Because what happens is you practice being in love. You practice being s*xy. You practice understanding–‘oh baby, that’s okay.’ You do all of that stuff and then you stop practicing that. He practiced opening the door–‘Whatever you want, babe. I got you boo.’ And then he just stopped practicing that. And that’s how your relationship goes crazy, because everyone stops practicing being in love. We just practice being in love every day. We practice being better to each other, being friends, being understanding and being considerate. Are we perfect at it all the time? No. But we’re much better at it than we used to be because it’s our practice now. And the fool I used to be and that he used to be? We don’t practice that no more. So we’re going to show the world.”
Campbell said that during the time that she started working through her pain and on her relationship, she finished a book and completed a solo album that was completely unexpected. The feelings just came out on wax. It seems that the pain helped her in the creative process.
“If we had not have separated…I did have to through this devastation, but all this beautiful stuff was birthed out of it…I want them [the world] to see how I got through it because there are so many people who deal with what I deal with and don’t know, ‘How do I get from here to there?’ I didn’t know how to get from here to there until I started praying and trying and working. When I was so desperate to figure it out, I figured it out. So all the stuff before of ‘I just can’t figure it out, I’m trying but I never get there.’ Well, if you get broke down and devastated enough, you’ll find your way to a solution. Now that I’ve found it, I really want to share that with the world.”
