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A controversial clip of a Black husband’s confrontation with his wife about their finances is stirring up heated online opinions.
A TikTok posted July 5 showed an argument between a husband and wife after he found out she stashed away $22,000 in a private account. The furious husband wanted to know why his partner hid the funds from him and how long her silent stacking went on.
The wife repeatedly stated that the money was a safety net in case the couple divorced.
She claimed the money in her secret account was funds her husband had given her directly. Contrastingly, Keith, as the woman called him, implied that the funds she took were sourced from the couple’s joint account.
The husband sharply emphasized that his wife’s actions were untrustworthy, especially considering that he financially covers her, their kids and their household.
She argued that she did a lot for him, too, within their marriage. She also noted that the couple had “an agreement.”
“Don’t argue with me about the money when that was our agreement,” she snapped. “Now you mad about me putting money to the side — I’m not giving it up. So I don’t care.”
The woman told Keith that the money in their joint account was equally theirs.
He went on a curse-filled rant, arguing that her argument would only be true if they had made the money in that account together. He gaslit her as if $22,000 was enough money to live off forever. The irate man also accused her of “stealing” money from their joint account. That’s not his this works.
The post has over 1.5 million views and over 25,800 comments.
TikTok users — mostly male — spammed the post with speculation that claimed the wife had a more conniving plan in the works.
“She went in planning to leave 😳.”
“She’s planning a divorce better be prepared for child support.”
“She can keep the money, divorce papers the next day.”
“She planning her exit. She’s gonna do that and still try take half.”
“This is a red flag bro.”
Others highlighted that there was nothing wrong with the stay-at-home mother’s desire for an emergency fund — although the way she went about it was wrong. One user importantly asked, “Why is she contemplating him leaving in the first place 🤔?”
“If she’s a stay at home mom and not working the only thing she did wrong was not tell him ðŸ’ðŸ¾â™€ï¸.”
“Everyone needs some type of savings for herself.”
“Seems like he wants all the control. And she is concerned about him leaving, I’m sure she has reason.”
“I agree with what she did, not how she did it.”
“Every woman needs to have a back up plan. Period.”
Additionally, @danielledesireexoxo and 69% of the Instagram user’s followers sided with the woman.
Danielle asserted that the wife wasn’t wrong regardless of whether the latter took money away from the couple’s joint account or stashed what her husband gave her as an allowance.
“I don’t think the wife feels financially secure in her relationship. And going by her husband’s response, it does seem that he is financially controlling and even financially abusive, which understandably would trigger his wife to go into a spirit of self preservation and self protection…”
There are many unknowns about this story regarding the couple’s financial dynamics and the motivations for the woman’s behavior.
Another critical factor is whether the $22,000 pulled from the joint account negatively impacted the couple’s children or household.
Moreover, could Keith have spent more time at home with his family and less at work if he hadn’t unknowingly been contributing to her personal safety net?
From the video, the only explanation the woman gave for the secret bank account was if the marriage ended… which looks bad. Did she have a plan for the money in case the two stayed together? Why wouldn’t she?
A small viral snippet doesn’t do the full story justice. It seems like the couple has deeper issues — and “money” is being harped on as the scapegoat.
Why doesn’t the woman feel confident and content enough in their marriage/household without a personal safety net?
Why didn’t she feel comfortable telling Keith she was opening up an account on the side?
Is it so wrong that a husband would financially contribute to the future of his kids’ mother — even if that future doesn’t include him?
Sound off with your opinions in the comments.
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