Singer Nivea Hamilton has one of the most interesting life stories, a lot of it not involving the music, but instead, her relationships.
Early on in her career, after the release of her video for “Don’t Mess With My Man,” she started dating rapper Lil Wayne. Though she says they got engaged, the couple would eventually break up, and she ended up falling in love with and marrying songwriter Terius “The-Dream” Nash in 2004. When their marriage came to an end in 2007, she reconnected with Wayne and their lives were pretty complicated at that point. She had three kids with her ex, and aside from daughter Reginae, Wayne was expecting a child with his ex, Sarah Vivian. Nivea wasn’t bothered by that though because his unborn son at the time was conceived when they weren’t together, so she felt she couldn’t judge.
“You accepted mine,” she said in an interview with VLADTV. “I took it for he accepted mine. If this occurred before and us and we’re just now getting back to it, why wouldn’t I accept that son if you’re telling me you want to marry me?”
So they made it work. As their relationship progressed and they even talked marriage again, she found out she was pregnant with her fourth child, and first with the rapper. However, she also found out the same day that actress Lauren London was pregnant at the same time.
“I found out the day I was confirmed pregnant with our son, he had another that should be expected three months ahead of ours,” she said. “I’m like ‘Wow.’ Then my mama died. So yeah, life!”
While she thought she could make it work, she had a change of heart and ended the relationship with Wayne while carrying their unborn son.
“I couldn’t take that. I thought I could,” she said. “I’m a different type of woman. I was like, ‘You know what? You love me? F–k it!’ But I realized that’s not what I wanted. So I let it go.”
But the loss of that romantic relationship helped to bring about the relationship she inevitably developed with Lauren, also expecting a son with Wayne. The uncomfortable situation, and loss of her mother, actually brought them together.
“It was very crushing, then she and I became very close ironically after he and I decided to let it go. She was a real good friend to me during my mother’s death,” she said. “I know that sounds weird but we were two people going through something that was along the lines of humiliating. It felt like, who else could you share this oddly unique situation with?”
“We called each other to get information because she and I were both previous relationships of his in our younger years as well. It was our first time ever talking. We talked about all kind of stuff from the past and in that we connected as friends,” she added. “It’s still a testament to the type of man he is because all of his baby mothers, we’re all cool with each other. We get now that the children are here, damn it! They’re here now [laughs]. You can’t take nothing back. So we are the best mothers that I’ve ever seen in a group with the same baby father. I think it’s amazing.”