Even if we are super intimate with our partners in real life, letting your significant other into your digital footprint can be intimidating. Our stored interactions with folks through text messages, DMs or Facebook messages are super personal, and the idea of giving your boo access to all of that through one little code is scary, to say the least.
Whether you are giving the password, or asking for the password, it’s important to do a thorough analysis of the health of the relationship before exchanging codes.
“When it comes to exchanging phone [passwords] with the person you’re dating, it’s often the last thing someone will let go of in a partnership,” Julie Spira, online dating expert and CEO at Cyber-Dating Expert, told Elite Daily.
“Trust is essential in building a relationship, and the thought of your partner snooping through your cell phone, or vice-versa, means the end of freedom for some. However, if you and your SO have become the emergency contact for each other, and you’re spending a lot of time together, or are living together, you should be at a point where you can trust them with your life, as well as the digits to your passwords.”
Now, be aware that if you ask for the password out of the blue, your significant other may think you don’t trust them. Make sure it’s a conversation versus a demand.
“This kind of conversation should be part of a larger conversation around transparency versus privacy in a relationship,” dating and relationships expert, Anita A. Chlipala, told Elite Daily. “Partners will not always see eye-to-eye but they need to express their expectations.”
If you’re having doubts about whether it’s the right thing to do, remember, take your time.
“There’s no real timetable for when you should have the conversation to swap passwords” Spira explains. “But doing so too soon can backfire, and there’s no such rule for doing it on the later side.”