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Earlier this week, we wrote about the comments Pastor John Gray made regarding his 8-year marriage to Aventer Gray and how his wife endured more pain raising him as a man than she did birthing their two children. He spoke about how Aventer was a coat that was two sizes too big for him. He said that to mean that not only was she a covering for him in their relationship, but he had to grow into her.

He said that because of what she’s done in helping him pursue his dream, he will always honor her.

I took issue with his comments because he wasn’t clear about what he’d done in the marriage to cover her. And his words read like every stereotypical sermon we’d heard about what Christian women should do in marriages without any responsibility or accountability being placed on Christian men in the context of marriage. His comments focused on and celebrated yet another Black woman had been long-suffering for the benefit of her man.

We weren’t the only ones who felt a way. While the hosts of “Sister Circle” clapped and shouted about Gray’s testimony, people on Twitter shared our concerns.

After all of it, Aventer posted the clip on Instagram, clarifying what her husband meant and sharing her two cents about what marriages require. See what she had to say below.

Later, she shared an additional revelation about the devil seeking to attack the institution and sacredness of marriage.

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