Full disclosure: I really love gospel singer Erica Campbell, 46, and music producer Warryn Campbell, 42.
The married couple has shared some relationship ups-and-downs on platforms like WE tv’s reality show Mary Mary and OWN’s Black Love docu-series, and considering what they have overcome, their advice on marriage, in my opinion, usually makes sense.
On With Warryn and Erica, an after-show of their own reality show on TV One called We’re the Campbells, they were asked if divorce is ever okay. And although they’re Christian, they are both in agreement that there is a certain point where people must break free, a sentiment that some Christians do not share.
“There’s a point where, you know…” Warryn said.
“I think when there’s no respect, when there’s no consideration, when there’s no remorse, there’s no answers, when you just have to deal with it – ” Erica said.
“Well, there’s no 180. The thing is, when you forgive me, and I accept that forgiveness, there has to be a 180. I gotta turn away from what I was doing and not do it anymore. If I just keep doing it and keep doing it, that means…One, I have not stopped and really taken into account the cost of what it’s going to do to my marriage, which means I don’t even care,” Warryn said.
“That’s not a mistake. That’s a habit,” Erica declared.
The two seemed to answer the question only in regards to cheating. They shared their own story of Warryn’s infidelity early on in their marriage in detail on Black Love. Warryn admitted that he was being selfish in having a full-on relationship with another woman because Erica was on the road a lot as a member of the popular gospel duo Mary Mary.
Instead of adapting to her busy schedule and going to wherever in the country she was, he decided to take his frustrations out in a passive aggressive way that even produced a pregnancy with the other woman.
“She ends up not having the baby. And then, I’m like, ‘Okay, this is crazy.’ And so, I want my wife, I don’t want, I don’t want none of this…I was being selfish because I wanted things to change, but I wanted her to do the changing,” he said in the docu-series.
So, not only are the Campbells dishing out advice about whether to stay in a marriage when someone cheats, they’ve taken their own advice. In Erica’s eyes, Warryn made the 180 he spoke about earlier, so for her, that was good enough to continue the marriage.
In your opinion, is divorce ever okay?
You can watch clips of their appearances on Black Love and With Warryn and Erica below.
Renese spends her early mornings writing, her days securing insurance for TV shows, and her in-betweens blogging about the silliness and seriousness of life on her blog. Follow Renese on Twitter: @reneseford