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Will, Jada, Sheree their story and a few other real-life examples have me contemplating the ways in which we could be doing this co-parenting, blended family thing differently.

So now when we see dysfunctional, drama-filled, petty or vindictive behavior from people who share children but no longer share a bed, we know that there is another way to do things.

We stumbled upon one of these incidents from a woman who took great issue with the fact that her child’s father had his fiancé comb and style her daughter’s hair. The confrontation went left very quickly, with the mother threatening to call the police by the end of it. See how it all went down below.

Now, her request that his fiancé not touch her baby’s hair is a valid one. It’s her child. Black folk are sensitive about our kids’ hair and if she doesn’t know how the woman combs her hair, I can see why she would be uncomfortable. The least the father could have done was respect that wish.

Still, this reaction is over the top. And it would have been nice if the father could have had this conversation without further provoking her by calling the cops. But her pretending like she didn’t know the man’s relationship status and threatening to call the police, all in the presence of her child is just the most of all.

There has to be a better way. One that perhaps involves her meeting her ex’s fiancé since she will be spending more time around her daughter. There she can not only get a sense of who this woman is and what she may be about, but also she can speak to her in person about her preferences, so she can ensure that the father is delivering the messages and that she has the right to go off—on the both of them, without the child present, should it happen again.

What do you think about this video? Was she wrong to confront him like this? Was the father out of order for letting another woman do his daughter’s hair? How would you have handled this situation?


Veronica Wells is the culture editor at She is also the author of “Bettah Days” and the creator of the website NoSugarNoCreamMag. You can follow her on Facebook and on Instagram and Twitter @VDubShrug.
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