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Would you date yourself? You might think it’s a silly question. In fact, you might instantly think why would I want to date myself that would be boring! And, for the record, you’d be right (it would also be a bit narcissistic to be attracted to someone just like you…) But, asking yourself this question and exploring the idea could give you some insight into why your dating life isn’t going quite as you’d like, if it isn’t going quite as you’d like. Around eight years ago, I kept attracting people who were very problematic. I was young and naïve, so I just blamed them and the world, and considered myself an unlucky victim. The reality is that something about me was attracting these people. The deeper reality is that, if I think back to that time, I hated to be alone because I didn’t like myself. So, naturally, I attracted people who I also wasn’t crazy about. If you wouldn’t want to date yourself, then the people who do might be, well, not so great. So it’s worth asking: would you date yourself?
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Would you turn to yourself for a pep talk?
If you needed someone to tell you that you’re good at what you do, that things will work out, and that you need to toughen up and get back out there…would you turn to yourself? Are you someone that can be relied on to help someone else stay positive?
