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Ciara Hints That Relationship Critics Nearly Pushed Her To ‘Insanity’

August 27th, 2013 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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You’ve probably noticed that Ciara has become more open with fans regarding her personal life than she has been in the past. According to CiCi, this is no coincidence. The “Body Party” singer recently shared with Paper Magazine that trying to maintain such a private life and holding back on so much nearly drove her off of the deep end. Check out some highlights from her interview to see what she has to say about her relationship critics and why she no longer worries about what other people think.

On her relationship with Future:

“He’s very understanding. And he’s my best friend. It’s important to have a feeling that you can talk about anything and know a person’s going to be there and support you. When we’re together, it’s not about who we are. I feel very normal, very safe and loved.”

On relationship critics:

“Being able to speak about it is a whole different thing for me. I’m not thinking or caring too much about what anybody has to say anymore. Once you start over-thinking and worrying, you start getting close to insanity. I want my sanity and a life and happiness.”

On her latest musical project:

“The album is light and upbeat. There’s a lot of love in it — a lot of heart and passion. It reflects the spirit and energy that I’m feeling right now. What people are hearing is my true self-expression and the energy I’m living.”

On showing more of herself to fans:

“I thought it was better to be private. You need to live more. If you worry so much about things, your head is going to explode. Just live. Something has to give. I was holding back so much that I wasn’t letting myself explore and live.”

On where her career is headed:

“I’m making choices I feel good about. It definitely feels good to get love from my fans. I work so hard. I’m hoping to share with other young girls, and even men, to never give up. And I feel like my journey’s just beginning. On this journey, there’s much I haven’t done. I still feel like a little kid. I still have my youthful energy and spirit. I’m super excited by my future.”

Turn the page for more photos from her fab photo shoot. 

15 Ways Your Marriage Is At Risk In Your First Year Of Having A Baby

August 6th, 2013 - By Julia Austin
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In a relationship, anything that brings you two closer suddenly adds pressure that could drive you apart: it happens when you move in together, when you get engaged and when you get married. But when you have your first baby, the brings-you-closer effects can be far outweighed by the drives you apart. So you need to be twice as prepared to battle the distancing effects.

Work It, Girl! “American Idol” Candice Glover Loses 30 Pounds As She Preps To Hit The Road!

July 13th, 2013 - By MN Editor
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From Essence

American Idol winner Candice Glover is looking extra slim these days!

The vocal powerhouse tells People she’s dropped 30 lbs. “Over the course of the show, from January to May, I probably dropped 20 lbs. And I’ve lost about 10 more since the finale,” Glover opened up while rehearsing for her national American Idol tour. “It is always good to be healthy, so I am happy about it.”

Glover says she shed the pounds because of her busy schedule, not by hitting the gym. “I’ve always—well maybe I haven’t always—been comfortable with who I am. This weight is just dropping off because of my crazy schedule. I just walk a lot in the airports, and we are rehearsing the choreography. I call [rehearsal room] the gym, to be honest.”

You can read the rest over on, including which other “American Idol” is at the starting line to a healthier lifestyle!

Do you think that Candice would have started being pressured by her record label to lose weight if it hadn’t started happening on its own?

Young Women Are More Confident In Their Careers, But More Stressed

July 8th, 2013 - By Kimberly Gedeon
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More than ever, women are confident in their ability to compete against men in the workplace. Women between the ages of 21 and 34, also known as Generation Y, are experiencing more gender equality than older women. However, in trying to reach the perceived caliber of their male counterparts, women have become more stressed, according to a study led by FleishmanHillard and Hearst Magazines.

With a growing “anything boys can do, I can do better” attitude, 70 percent of Gen Y women described themselves as “smart” compared to 54 percent of Gen Y men. However, there is a drawback to the higher self-imposed expectations — the survey found that Gen Y women, compared to Gen X (ages 35 to 49) and baby boomers (50 to 60 years old), are pulling their hair out to reach a certain standard.

“They are describing themselves as smart and knowledgeable, but are also stressed and exhausted,” Stephen Kraus says, senior vice president of Audience Measurement Group. “Around the world young women have promise, potential and pressure, growing up with a cultural narrative that girls can do anything boys can do.”

Over the last five years, women have been ascending in workplace, but there is still a question as to why women are not paid equally as men for the same position. “Though women are more educated but paid less than their spouses, there are signs that a new global generation of Gen Y women are working hard to rectify that inequality,” said Lisa Dimino, senior vice president of FleishmanHillard.

In the study, about half believe that men disapprove of women advancing and possibly “catching up” with them. The female respondents perceived themselves as stronger than men in emotional strength, such as “having difficult conversations” and “rebounding from setbacks,” but they give credit to men in being more successful in negotiating.

The study also shows that women become less focused on personal finances and shift their attention to “longer-term concerns for self, family and business.” American women admitted their number one concern was the future of their children, which was once third on the list of priorities.

This study, titled “Woman, Power, & Money,” polled 1,008 American women between the ages of 25 and 69 with a yearly household income of $25,000 or higher.

Road To Recovery: Jackie Jackson Says Paris Jackson’s Health Is Improving Daily

June 30th, 2013 - By MN Editor
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From Essence

Following a suicide attempt earlier this month, Paris Jackson was admitted to a hospital where she has remained since the incident. According to her uncle Jackie Jackson, Paris’s condition has improved and she could be heading home any day now.

“She’s doing wonderful right now,” Jackie told E! Online Saturday. “She’s getting better. She should be out soon.”

According to reports, Paris was rushed to the hospital on June 5 following a possible overdose. A source claims there were multiple cuts on the star’s wrists as well.

Sources say the troubled teen may be spending the summer with her biological mother, Debbie Rowe, with whom she recently forged a relationship.

You can read the rest over on  Hopefully, Paris is getting all the support she needs from doctors and family.

I’m Tired Of Begging For It! My Husband And I Are Newlyweds But We Go Weeks And Months Without Sex

June 18th, 2013 - By Madame Noire
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From Essence

Dear Abiola,

I feel like my husband is not sexually attracted to me and I know it’s not because he’s cheating. I am a newlywed but it feel like we have been married for years, even though it’s only been seven months.

We have both been stressed about financial issues. It really bothers him that he can’t give me the world and that we didn’t get a honeymoon, but I have told him I’m okay as long as we work through this together.

As the financial issues bother him more and more, the sex fades. He can go weeks and sometimes months without touching me. I’m constantly asking for sex. I feel as if I’m putting too much pressure on him, so I have stopped asking, but I’m not happy.

I love my husband and I know he is stressed about not being able to provide for the family but how do I get him interested? I’m tired of feeling unwanted.


Lonely Wife

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1,2,3 Steps To De-Stress At Work

May 14th, 2013 - By Ann Brown
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Work is chaotic. There is one fire after another to put out. You find yourself getting more and more stressed. Well, de-stress—right now!

According to psychologists it is possible to wind down in three simple steps that were “developed by psychologists specifically for people with dementia,” reports Inc.

The three magical steps?

1)      Awareness. Keep a so-called “anxiety journal,” whether real or virtual. Take note and become aware of when you feel anxious and what are the physical signs of anxiety. This way you can prepare yourself for these situations — or avoid them, all together.

2)      Breathing. Take long, deep breaths to relax. “You can count slowly while breathing in and out and try putting your hand on your stomach and feeling the breath moving in and out,” explains the magazine. Those of you who take Pilates might recognize this move.

3)      Calming thoughts. Of course it is hard to think of calming thoughts in the midst of a disaster, so get your calming thoughts ready in advance. “They could be as simple as ‘Calm down!’ but they need to be things that you personally believe in for them to be most effective,” notes Inc.

If these three steps don’t work, try chewing gum, a self-massage (on your neck and shoulders), a cup of chamomile tea, or even close your office door and meditate for five minutes.

How do you de-stress at work?

Ten Important Ways Sleep Makes A Difference In Your Life

May 10th, 2013 - By Blair Bedford
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The weekend is here! So it’s time to catch up on some zzzs.

You might not realize it, but getting enough sleep can impact many areas in your life, from how you make every day decisions to your financial stability. If you are too tired to do even the tasks on a daily basis, or more high-level ones like completing a project, you are probably too tired to make wise decisions physically, mentally and financially. Ultimately, your sleep habits and practices could end up making you sluggish, burnt out… or even poor. Don’t believe it? Click through.

What We Can Learn From Willow Smith About Job Burnout

May 2nd, 2013 - By CAP
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Even a 12 year old knows when to take a step back from a job to just smell the roses and enjoy life. Willow Smith recently backed out of a big gig to star as Annie in a film produced by Marcy Media (Jay-Z’s company) and Overlook Entertainment. Overlook announced that Willow Smith would not be starring as Annie in the upcoming film because she was too old (she is now 12 and not the nine-year-old she was when it was first proposed). But her dad Will quickly set the record straight letting everyone know that no Smith ever gets canned and that there were other factors that lead to Willow’s departure from the film.

In an interview at Philadelphia’s Temple University, Mr. Smith stated:

“Willow was supposed to be doing ‘Annie.’ We got Jay-Z to do the movie, got the studio to come in, and Willow had such a difficult time on tour with ‘Whip My Hair’ and she said, ‘You know Daddy, I don’t think so,'” he recalled. “And I said, ‘Baby, hold up!’ I said, ‘No, no, no, listen, you’ll be in New York with all of your friends and Beyonce will be there. You will be singing and dancing.’ And she looked at me and said, ‘Daddy, I have a better idea. How about I just be 12?'”

Willow gets big props for being mature enough to know her limitations and to do something about it no matter what the pressures were from her parents, Jay-Z or anyone else. That’s more than I can say for many child actors or musicians that keep pushing themselves until they end up with a drug addiction or a deadbeat baby daddy and two kids.

Moreover, I think we can all learn something from little Willow. Many Americans spend so much time at work and thinking about work that even when they aren’t at work, their jobs can have a negative impact on their personal lives and lead to complete burnout.

The American Psychological Association’s Dr. David Ballard, described to Forbes magazine what job burnout is: “An extended period of time where someone experiences exhaustion and a lack of interest in things, resulting in a decline in their job performance… A lot of burnout really has to do with experiencing chronic stress.”

I can totally see where Dr. Ballard is coming from. Recently I allowed myself to be put under so much pressure at work that I became stressed and suffered from chronic tension headaches. At the time I wasn’t eating right, getting about four hours of sleep, and drinking boat loads of coffee. It all caught up to me.

Professionals at the Mayo Clinic say you should ask yourself the following questions to figure out if you are experiencing job burnout:

  • Have you become cynical or critical at work?
  • Do you drag yourself to work and have trouble getting started once you arrive?
  • Have you become irritable or impatient with co-workers, customers or clients?
  • Do you lack the energy to be consistently productive?
  • Do you lack satisfaction from your achievements?
  • Do you feel disillusioned about your job?
  • Are you using food, drugs or alcohol to feel better or to simply not feel?
  • Have your sleep habits or appetite changed?
  • Are you troubled by unexplained headaches, backaches or other physical complaints?

To combat burnout Dr. Ballard suggests that you take time to relax, cultivate a rich non-work life, and get plenty of sleep, among other things. I’d add that if these things fail due to the nature of the job or the company you work for, and it’s impacting your health, find a way to transition out of that job. Sometimes you have to know when you hold em’ and know when to fold em’, and your health is your number one priority. You might think you will lose money if you leave your job, but you will lose even more money if you are laid up in a hospital somewhere suffering from a medical condition as a result of stress.

Although we might not see much more of her until she concludes her hiatus, we should thank Willow Smith. Not only did she teach us how to whip our hair, she taught us how to put ourselves first and understand that sometimes you have to throw the deuces to a good opportunity to give yourself a chance to enjoy life.

10 Tips to Prevent Burnout at Work

April 16th, 2013 - By Tanvier Peart
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Do you feel the wheels are turning round and round in your head without any results? As far as work goes, it’s never a walk in the park (or at least all the time). There are things that make us feel overwhelmed, under-appreciated and like we rarely accomplish anything on that neverending list of to-dos. Things like this happen all the time and unfortunately, can be a part of life.

One thing however that shouldn’t be a part of your everyday routine is feeling burned out. If you find yourself constantly stressed and experiencing a feeling of suffocation on the job, it’s important to you, your health, and sanity that you take the necessary precautions to make sure this doesn’t happen. Though we are unable to control the cards we are dealt with, we can control our reaction.

Here are ways to help prevent on the job burnout.