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When you enroll in an online dating site and fill out your profile, you have two main objectives: (1) tell people about yourself, and (2) tell people what you’re looking for. And although there are exceptions, most people are general when describing who they are and what they want, but very specific when it comes to making choices from all those drop-down menus.

People advertise broadly (e.g. “I’m looking for a nice guy.”) and search narrowly (e.g. straight,single men only, 5’10 or taller, college educated, with no kids, earning a minimum of $120K annually). And while this isn’t the best strategy for your online dating profile, it makes sense, right? It’s much easier to choose from a menu than to craft an essay that succinctly sums up the unique person you are and the unique person you want.

Of all the criteria on any online dating site, some are helpful, while others are less so. However, when it comes to filling out your own preferences, there are three criteria that are utterly useless

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From Your Tango

Hi ladies! If you’ve been on an online dating site for a while and have yet to find that special someone or you’ve just joined then this is for you. We’re going to give you the scoop on what works and what doesn’t. We want to show you how to make your profile as attractive as you can to the widest selection of men possible.  That way it’s within your power to choose who you want to date.

Let’s start with your images. Think of your photos as the cover of your autobiography. If a picture is worth a 1000 words then a well-chosen image can open an abundance  of conversation with that special someone. We recommend taking your images outdoors. Morning or evening light makes for some great shots. Regardless of where you take your images make sure you have a friend take them for you.

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From YourTango

Recently I was coaching a woman on how to write her online profile. Before we wrote the profile, I asked her to send me her four best pictures. I asked her to do this because men are as visual as Scooby Doo on steroids.

The first thing they do when they see your profile online is NOT read about your trip to Italy last summer . . . they want to see how hot you are. Keep in mind that every man has different taste in women, so what is “hot” to one man will be totally different than what is “hot” to another.

So I explained this to my client, and I asked her to send me her four best photos — pictures that represent who she is in her life. What she sent me is mistake #1 of the biggest mistakes women (including you nurses!) make online.

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