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Let me start by clearing some things up. There is nothing wrong with being unemployed these days. Things happen. Companies downsize and you get laid off, a work mistake leaves you at the unemployment office filing a claim–I get it. But it is another thing to be unemployed and broke, content with your situation, and pursuing a woman. This is where we have a problem.
Let me start from the beginning. I met this guy who I like to call Grown And Sexy. He was well-groomed, had a nice beard, was tall, and built immaculately. We would have some interesting conversations about everything under the sun, from culture to food and even religion. And he talked a lot about settling down and starting a family. We met through a mutual friend, so for a while our only interactions were at social gatherings. My friend would host things at his house, or invite a group of us out to eat, and I would see Mr. Grown And Sexy there. One night we took it a step further and exchanged numbers. We ended up swapping texts often. It was the first time in a while that I had received “Good morning” texts from someone nice.
He would ask me about my day, and I would ask him about his. His response would always be “Chilling.” I didn’t think anything of it. I too “chill” at work, at home or wherever I am. No big deal. But looking back, the fact that chilling was always what he was up to during standard work hours should have raised a red flag or some signal for me. When I asked what he did for a living, he said he was into real estate. Once again, didn’t mean he worked in real estate. Maybe he just liked looking at postings online or in the paper.
When it came time to plan dates, I had high expectations. We had such cultured conversations I believed that he would have creative date ideas too. He didn’t. I would suggest different restaurants, and he wouldn’t give me an answer. He would always suggest going to the liquor store, grabbing a bottle and going back to my place to talk and chill. There goes that word again.
I had to speak up and tell him I didn’t want to drink any hard liquor in my house and just “talk.” I suggested a restaurant, and we went. On the way, I asked him again what his job was, and he finally told me the truth. He was unemployed. All I could say was “Oh.” Then he went on a rant about how he hates sitting in the house all day because he also doesn’t have a vehicle. The car we were in for date night turned out to be a relative’s.
I tried to find ways to be okay with this. He was a great conversationalist. He was into adventure and outdoor activities. He was always down to do fun things, but how if he was unemployed? I decided that maybe he had savings or was collecting unemployment. But that was until we got to the restaurant, ate, ordered drinks, talked for hours, and I ended up paying the entire bill.
I do believe that having little money does force you to make dating ideas a bit more creative, but it can also be extremely limiting. And for a man in his 30s living in what resembled a trap house, conversations about settling down soon and starting a family should have been the least of his concerns. You need financial stability before you seek out anything else. It got me thinking about a lot of men I know, and I wonder, what were they doing in their 20s? I believe that your 20s are a time to find, build and establish a foundation for yourself. Of course, you don’t have to have life all figured out, but at least having a solid understanding makes for a promising 30s.
For me, I knew he wasn’t going to cut it. I caught glimpses into his lifestyle, and there was a reason Grown And Sexy was so different. He wasn’t a preference. Sure, he was nice to look at and talk to, but he lacked direction in his life, and I’m talking about more than money.
If a lack of employment and financial stability doesn’t bother you, there are ways to date on a budget that won’t break either of your pockets. There are free museums, free festivals in your city, as well as outdoor movie nights. But before you can do any of those things, he needs to be upfront about his financial situation. And in all honesty, if it’s a really tough situation, he probably doesn’t need to worry about dating in the first place.
Whether you’re in college, in between jobs or simply working a job that doesn’t pay enough, you know that being broke sucks. You’re forced to make some major compromises just to afford food and bills. Using your friend’s Netflix account, sneaking snacks into movies, and dodging bill collectors is a full-time job in itself. But no worries, we have 15 life hacks that will save you time and money. Let’s take a look!
I had a pretty heated conversation with my girlfriends the other day. I am sure you can guess what we were talking about. Guys! What else? We had gathered for our weekly banter that always includes Mexican food and glasses of margaritas.
Once we were all happily served, we got on the topic of what types of guys we would absolutely not consider dating. I have always been classified as the girl who expects “too much” from potential mates. I actually resent that label. All I have ever wanted was to meet someone who is respectful, resourceful, kind, considerate and college educated with a decent job. If that’s a tall order then I am guilty. To me, that’s not really asking much. It’s the basic framework and if I meet those requirements, I should demand the same from a guy who will eventually be the father of my children.
Some of my friends agree with my theory, but the rest are not convinced that I am on the right track. One of them in particular is consistently challenging me by asking tasking questions that she hopes would get me to jump off my “high horse.” She is determined to prove that I am quite possibly my own worst enemy and the reason why I have not been able to find a mate. Her main grief with me is that I am adamant about dating a guy with a college degree. I think it’s partly because she is not a college graduate, so she takes it personally that I am being somewhat snobbish.
The truth is that I have dated guys who didn’t have degrees, and even though the sex was mind-blowing, I couldn’t accept a future with them. Most of them held blue-collar jobs and as a result, they didn’t make much money. I made more than them, and that is a reality I don’t want to live with when I choose my future husband. I would prefer to be with a man who makes substantially more than me, because that will enable us to pool our resources in a progressive way.
But my friend is of the opinion that if you are truly looking for someone to share your life with, you need to be open to all the possibilities, even if they don’t all match up with your expectations. She asked me if I would consider dating a nice respectful gentleman, who loves me beyond measure but happens to be a garbage man or a postal worker. I told her there was no way I would date those guys seriously, because in the long run, we wouldn’t be compatible. I look at settling down as a way to make a home with a guy who can match me financially. Love is a great asset but that the end of the day, if you intend to have children, it is imperative that both of us are in a position to accommodate that. I would also hope that my kids would be college bound so for me that is a huge deal.
Whoever I end up with has to share my values and educational background. But for some of my friends, it’s not something they care that much about. They just want to fall in love, and they don’t care if they end up being the breadwinner. I definitely care. I want my man to make more than me.
How do you feel? Would you date a guy who is less accomplished than you?
As women we need to do everything we can to build each other up and make sure that we succeed in our personal endeavors as well as the business world. Considering that many things are still a “man’s game,” we must do what’s necessary to make sure we continue to break barriers in hopes of paying it forward for the next generation of fabulous women in training.
One area that needs to be on point is our finances and unfortunately there are quite a few things we continue to do wrong. Rather than beat ourselves up about it, let’s identify them, fix them and keep trucking with our hustle. Here are top financial mistakes women make. Are you guilty of any?
What has been your favorite aspect of the holiday season thus far? Some might say purchasing gifts while others enjoy decorating. Regardless of what tickles your fancy there are still financial lessons to be learned during this time of year with the most obvious one being to make it out as debt-free as possible. If you’re a little tired of reading the same old stuff (hopefully not ours!) you can turn to a few films that convey sentiments about money in their own way. Here are some holiday movies that taught us about finance.
Your 20s were the time to splurge on the latest handbags, mess up your credit, rebuild your credit and establish patterns of financial success for your future. Now in your 30’s with kids, a mortgage, a significant other and a better career (or just a little wisdom and a desire to get it together), it’s time to get secure and at-peace with your finances.
Here are a few ways to achieve financial peace of mind in your 30’s.
Remember that medical bill from two years ago you forgot to pay? Or that utility bill that still lingers in limbo? Well, with a few hundred calls from collection agencies on a weekly basis, your memory starts to quickly come back. Collection agencies start to become a tedious routine call in your phone log hen bills are too long overdue. We even label their phone numbers in our contact list as Unknown, ??? or the infamous DON’T ANSWER to duck and dodge their calls. Eventually, debt catches up with you in the form of these pesky employees. What do you do when one of those calls are answered? Here are a few tips on how to get debt collectors off your back and manage the frustration they inflict.
From Black Enterprise
Kanyessa McMahon recognized an opportunity and jumped on it. In 2008, after a frustrating four-month stint working at a video production company, she acted on her entrepreneurial aspirations.
“I was 25 at the time,” says McMahon. “My job wasn’t working out because I wasn’t getting paid on time. My paychecks were bouncing, and my skills weren’t being utilized.”
McMahon left the company and, through an industry connection, acquired her first client—Nike. The 31-year-old now calls the shots as head of her own production company.
“Most people who become wealthy do it through entrepreneurship,” says Lanta Evans-Motte, a financial adviser at Raymond James, a diversified financial services holding company.
A recent study by U.S. Trust, which surveys high-net-worth and ultra-high-net-worth Americans, revealed that 84% of the survey’s 450 wealthy respondents earned their wealth themselves.
Read more at BlackEnterprise.com
Marriage is more than a wedding. It’s the joining of two people physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially. While many people may enjoy their wedding planning experience (it is fun), there is much more to the concept of husband and wife past the “I do.”
Finances may not be a comfy topic to discuss, but is nonetheless one that deserves much attention. As money issues top the reasons why most marriages end in divorce, it is crucial to have a healthy dialogue about you and your boo’s current financial state, and how you both handle money. Rather than wait for surprises down the road, have the hard talk now. Here are some money questions you need to ask your love before you marry.
Your credit score is your lifeline when it comes to getting a great interest rate on a house and car. In fact, it’s used by so many lenders, it can make your days of acquiring the things you want easy or extremely hard. This begs the question: What’s a person to do when they have bad credit they are trying to rebuild?
Thankfully there are things you can do to improve your score. Here are ten ways to rebuild your credit.