Although they broke up and moved on with other people, we just can’t seem to get over these high-profile celebrity relationships that we thought were a match made in heaven. Here are 15 celebrity couples that we wish could have stood the test of time.

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Kanye and Alexis

Before there was Kanye West and Kim Kardashian or even Kanye and Amber Rose, there was Kanye and Alexis. The Chicago rapper/producer met Alexis Phifer back in 2002 and the cute couple dated on and off for four years before West finally popped the question. After an 18-month whirlwind engagement the two went their separate ways citing his hectic touring schedule as the cause. West dated then-unknown model Amber Rose before settling down with the reality show superstar who is now pregnant with their first child.

It seems like every celebrity has been called gay at some point or another. But for these celebrities, the gay accusations have been a bit more intense and a lot more permanent. True or not, I’ve refrained from making a case for gay or straight in regard to any of these celebrities, because a) my gaydar has never been exact and b) I’m just not touching that! Flip to see fifteen celebrities who’ve had to endure those pesky gay rumors. What’s your verdict?

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Oprah Winfrey

Oprah Winfrey has been laughing off rumors of her being romantically involved with Gayle King for years.  The origin of such rumors, I wouldn’t know – though I assume they probably have something to do with Oprah’s long-term relationship with Stedman, which has always been discreet, in stark contrast to her friendship with Gayle, which has always been highly publicized. Nevertheless, those irksome gay rumors persist.

“I’m not a lesbian” Oprah once told Barbara Walters in an interview, “I’m not even kind of a lesbian.”

Fairy tales serve as a great means to teach us lessons when we’re children, but when we’re still expecting stories Disney brought to life when we were 4 to come into fruition when we’re 40, it might be time to ditch the make-believe, or at least readjust our expectations.

Today Jennifer Lopez and Casper Smart sat down with “Good Morning America” to discuss J Lo’s upcoming world tour with Enrique Iglesias (and their relationship) and the actress/singer/dancer said something that was very interesting to me.

Amy Robach asked J Lo if she would ever get married again and she said yes.

“For me, the biggest dream is the fairy tale and I will never give up on that,” she added.

On one hand it was refreshing in the time of people throwing out the 50 percent divorce rate as evidence no one should ever get hitched to hear someone who has been down the aisle three times say they still believe in marriage. On the other hand, I thought maybe the reason you’re other situations, i.e. marriages, didn’t work out is because you expected them to be fairy tales.

I’ve never been one for the whole idea of fairy tale romance, much like I never dreamed of being a princess on my wedding day. Those just weren’t ideas that were ingrained in my head as a child and I’m not sure whether that’s a bad or a good thing. I used to get teased by a friend in college every time I’d say something about the type of man I wanted to marry though. I can’t even recall what that description was at the time but she’d always blow it off and tell me I was holding on to some fantasy of a white picket fence alluding to the American dream of year’s past. Unfortunately, seeing that a man who embodied those characteristics wasn’t coming to me I abandoned a lot of those expectations and standards and admittedly went off the no-good-for-me  deep-end, which certainly wasn’t a good thing, but holding on to fairytale-like visions of a matrimonial agreement is equally dangerous.

The only times I ever hear marriage referred to as a fairy tale is when I’m watching Lifetime or WE TV and listening to a woman who is longing to walk down the aisle—not someone who has already done it. No one I know personally has every described their marriage as a fairy tale. That isn’t to say that it’s not a happy union or that they’re not in love, fairy tale just isn’t a description of what it is and anyone going into what’s expected to be a lifetime commitment thinking that’s what it will be will likely be disappointed and find themselves changing husbands multiple times (J Lo) rather than changing their expectations.

What I have heard of marriage is that it’s work. Rather than having someone sweep you off your feet every day, you might have to hold the family down while your husband struggles to get back on his own two feet. In contrast to being wined and dined you may now find yourself making dinner for two every night after a long day of work when all you want to do is collapse. Instead of holding standard Saturday night dates, you may go weeks without any real quality time. Things that were so simple when you were dating become complicated by work schedules, shared  bills, house issues, and children, and if you assumed these things would just fall into place without tough decisions and difficult discussions being had, then yes, by all means you did not attain the fairy tale. The thing is, no one does.

Fairy tales are just that, tales. Has anyone ever noticed how Disney movies and rom coms always end on the good note? It’s usually right when a couple gets together, is reunited, or jumps the broom. Of course everything is lovely then. It’s like celebrating graduation unemployed. After the festivities comes the real work of finding a job. Anyone can fall in love, anyone can get married, and anyone who has gotten to the age where they are legally allowed to be married should know no season lasts forever. The fairy tale part of your relationship and possibly subsequent marriage is temporary and will ebb and flow like anything else. If you’re expecting things to always be up, it’s not surprising that you’ll run when they’re down.

Fairy tales have a place in fantasies but when it comes to crossing the marriage threshold, expectations need to be based more on the reality of you and your soon-to-be spouse’s current situation, not some antiquated idea of what it means to be husband and wife that you’ve been holding on to ever since you saw Snow White and The Seven Dwarves (the first time, not one of the re-releases). It’s absolutely fine to still want to be catered to and find someone who induces butterflies in your stomach and makes your heart flutter and your knees weak , just know those feelings won’t last forever and they aren’t the makings of a stable relationship anyway. What will create a solid foundation is a man who is loyal, honest, trustworthy, reliable, dependable, responsible, who wants to honor his wife and their commitment and the children they choose to bring into the world. If you fantasize about finding that type of man and have the good fortune of him actually coming into your life, you could never be disappointed.

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Brande Victorian is the news and operations editor for madamenoire.com. Follow her on twitter @Be_Vic.

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The devil is always in the details. It’s especially true if you’re technically married but dating. You can get labeled a homewrecking sinner because those papers just haven’t been processed. Too many are in such a rush to move on to the next one when they don’t need to be.

Couples stand before God and pledge their love until death do them part. Or until they can no longer stand the sight of the other which is becoming the norm. However, it’s not just a covenant with God which has been broken. You might give your spouse the pink slip but in the eyes of the law, you’re still married until a judge decrees otherwise. So should you hit the clubs and mix and mingle for a new mate before then?

Divorces are often a lengthy process and many people begin dating before officially putting their previous relationships to rest.  Kim Kardashian and Kanye West are the latest high profile example of this practice. She is still legally wed to NBA player Kris Humphries, but that hasn’t stopped her from flaunting her romance du jour for the paps. Jennifer Lopez is also reveling in her status as a cougar with Casper Smart despite her marital status with Marc Anthony. And how many folks have given women like Alicia Keys and Gabrielle Union crap for getting involved with men who were separated or getting divorced (without placing blame on the man)? Hollywood is glamorizing moving on to the next one at breakneck speed, but starting something new while the “something old” hangs over one’s head is asking for more drama than a Tyler Perry movie.

The only constant in life is change. All too often, feelings change. When they do, many yield to the temptation to act on impulse. Some think that they have more breathing room if so and so is legally separated.  Granted, there is a marked difference between stepping out with a significant other who is still wearing a ring and one who has taken it off. But at the end of the day, married is still married. It’s not over until the ink is dry.

For those who insist there are infinite shades of gray in a sensitive matter such as this, that argument cuts both ways. No relationship is strictly black and white. Love and hate can co-exist between two people. You can read someone to filth in the morning and enjoy the best make-up sex in the p.m. hours. There are so many couples who have filed for divorce only to change their minds and reconcile soon after. Everybody plays the fool but one can avoid being one by avoiding placing yourself in a dynamic that hasn’t been settled.

There is nothing wrong with being single and dating. The trouble exists when you’re dating and the one who still has the title is still in the picture. A relationship is hard enough with two people. Unless of course everyone involved co-signs on threesomes, but that is a discussion for another time.

Ultimately, dating should be like the ideal shopping experience. Layaway has its uses but it’s always been better to buy what you want outright. If it’s not on the market, there’s always another item that is.

Stephanie Guerilus is a journalist and author. Follow her @qsteph

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Dating Jennifer Lopez is good business. What was supposedly just a little fling has turned into a huge come-up for Casper Smart because not only has J Lo been caking him with allowances, jewelry, cars, and fancy vacations, she just got him his own show on Oxygen.

After promoting Casper to a choreographer for her tour, J Lo reportedly sold a reality show to Oxygen based around his new gig. According to the NY Post, the show will “follow Smart as he whips her other backup dancers into shape for the tour.” Making the Band dance style?

What’s funnier is the show is expected to focus solely on J Lo and Casper’s professional relationship but I imagine those lines get quite blurred considering they’re sleeping together and he owes nearly everything he has to her. A rep for Oxygen wouldn’t comment to the post but word is they’ve already picked up the series and some speculate that this is why she’s expected to leave “American Idol.”

That’s a bold move considering “American Idol” is a pretty cushy gig that’s brought J Lo a zillion endorsements and put her back in the spotlight. I hope she knows what she’s doing. Casper obviously does.

What do you think about how J Lo has been hooking her man up?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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While Marc Anthony and Jennifer Lopez have been separated for about nine months, Anthony just decided to file for divorce last Monday. Word on the street is, he was hoping that the renaissance woman would want to reconcile, but she passed because she’s in love–with someone else.

You’ve guessed it, she’s allegedly head over heels in love with her young new boo, and background dancer, Casper Smart. Though both Anthony and Lopez thought they were being cute flaunting their new relationships around, including Anthony with a young woman named Shannon De Lima in photos he posted on Facebook, he must have not been as serious with her as he led folks to believe. According to TMZ, Anthony tried to have a serious sit-down with Lopez a few weeks back to see if there was a possibility they could work things out, but she allegedly let him know that she’s in love with Smart and that she wants to see where that relationship can and will go. Marc was allegedly upset at the fact that Lopez was trying to make more of this new relationship rather than working on their issues. He assumed that she and Smart were just a temporary rebound, but it looks like he was wrong.

Lopez has really been open with the public when it comes to her boo-ship with Smart. I mean, homeboy has been getting the chance to help direct her recent videos, he’s been seen jet-setting everywhere with her, dancing with her on TV, canoodling with her in music videos, etc. (It’s like another Bennifer all over again.) I can believe that she’s sprung, but she needs to be careful. She didn’t allow herself any real time to just be alone post-separation and now all eyes are on her and her new man. Yeah, I know the saying: love is blind. But Jennifer, there’s also a better saying: “Don’t be no fool.” The whole dating while separated thing…I just don’t get it, but to each their own.

Do you think they should work things out? Or do you think Jennifer is happy and her relationship with Casper will last?

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It’s been painfully obvious that Jennifer Lopez barely waited for the word divorce to leave Marc Anthony’s lips before she started dating again, and for the most part her soon-to-be-ex-hubby took her public displays of affection with Casper Smart on the chin, but the tables are starting to turn just a bit.

Last week, Marc Anthony posted photos of him loving up on Venezuelan model Shannon De Lima, and over the weekend they went “public” with their relationship by sending each other “look at me” tweets and retweeting congratulatory messages about their new relationship from followers. Meanwhile, J Lo was busy setting up a weekly $10,000 allowance transfer for her 24-year-old beau and back-up dancer so that he could feel like a man when they went out in public together.

Initially, both sides just seemed to be attempting to make the other jealous—which suggests they aren’t really over each other anyway—but now Marc has reportedly said J Lo needs to see a psychologist to figure out why she can’t stand to be without a man. It’s clear this divorce is about to get ugly—first comes psych eval, then comes full custody of the kids.

While bopping around town with their new lovers, neither J Lo nor Marc Anthony appears to have thought too much about their twins who are in the middle. Sure Jennifer took her children on vacation to Hawaii with Casper but that’s not exactly a good look. Most people wait a little while to expose their children to new father figures, and in some ways it’s just irresponsible to bring a bunch of side pieces around your kids. Yeah, mama has to have a life too, but mama also has to set a good example. Having uncle Casper’s and uncle Bradley’s rolling in and out of the house on rotation is not it.

And if Marc is about to play dirty, he should think about the repercussions of speaking too ill of his children’s mother. If you’ve already decided to split, there’s nothing else to say, go your separate ways and do it quietly. There’s never really any good way to get divorced but there’s definitely a better way than what these two are doing and I think it all started with J Lo’s dating. Separate, about to get a divorce, filing for the divorce, and anything similar means that you are still currently married and you should still carry yourself like a married woman. Marc Anthony could easily try to prove she’s an unfit mother and take the kids away from her, would that be worth her cougar rendezvous? I know being civil and actually waiting til things are final before you date again may not be the Hollywood way of doing divorce (or a lot of other American’s) but maybe they should try it. If they had, they wouldn’t be making a media spectacle of themselves and setting their children up to be right in the middle.

What do you think about the way J Lo and Marc Anthony are handling their divorce? Do you think they’re both just trying to make each other jealous? Are they both wrong for dating again so soon?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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J Lo’s new boo thang must be laying some major pipe! What else could explain why the pop singer felt the need to purchase a Bentley for her new 24 year old boyfriend, Casper Smart.

Excuse me, that’s a tad rude. Maybe Casper is really making J Lo happy… emotionally and she just had to show her love for him this way… even though he’s run into some legal trouble for drag racing and driving without a license. Hmmm…

Anyway, get the rest of the story and check out pics of the new ride, here.

If Dr. Drew could take a break from talking about interracial dating and trying to figure out black women’s hair, I’d like him to get J Lo, Eva Longoria, and Demi Moore in a room and tell them to have a seat. These women take the phrases “on to the next one” and “here today, gone tomorrow” to a whole new level when it comes to relationships.

Demi Moore might deserve a little slack, there’s no confirmation that she’s really dating beauty mogul Scott-Vincent Borba, and after six years with Ashton Kutcher, she probably needs something new; but the ink was barely dry on the divorce papers when Eva Longoria started showing up in photos with Eduardo Cruz (and she may potentially be creeping with Matt Barnes).

The worst serial monogamist of them all is J Lo. There has barely been a minute to write an article about this chic and who she’s dating as quickly as she switches it up—Marc Anthony, Bradley Cooper, Casper Smart, Marc Anthony again—nobody knows, and that’s just recent J Lo. Diddy, Ben Afleck, and Chris Judd were also substituted pretty quickly back in the day. Until Rihanna recently declared her disdain for the single life, she received similar side eyes for her suspected man hopping from Chris Brown to Matt Kemp to Colin Farrell to Dudley O’Shaughnessy, and whoever else in between.

I know celebs tend to march to a different drum somewhere high up on a pedestal coated in gold and laced with Swarovski crystals, but I think the breathing period in between men is a universal dating recommendation these women missed the memo on. People are particularly concerned about J Lo vacationing with a new man and her kids so soon, although presumably, as her backup dancer, Casper may have already known the twins before he and Jenny from the Block became more than coworkers.

All of these women seem to suffer from a need to have a man around, and that can be pretty dangerous when you’re already vulnerable after a recent break up. I know sometimes you just want to get back out there and find someone to preoccupy your time, but getting boo’d up too quickly reeks of I-need-a-man-to-be-happy syndrome and may be the reason these ladies haven’t been so lucky in love overall. All I’m saying is 3 months of solitude wouldn’t kill you would it, ladies?

Who are some other stars who never seem to stay single for long? How soon do you think is too soon to start dating after a breakup?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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