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Whether you had a harmonious childhood or a long term contentious relationship with the woman who created you, chances are you’ll find that relating to her as an adult may come with a new set of challenges. It should be no surprise the woman who carried you in her womb for nine months, changed your pee-soaked diapers and may have even fed you from her breast may have a hard time seeing you as an adult and you may also find it hard to break your ‘mommy’s little girl’ habits as well. Here are a few tips for having a grown-up relationship with the woman who made you.
Anytime you put several people in the same room together for any extended period of time, drama is bound to ensue. While you might think coming from the same blood line would alleviate some of the drama it can actually enhance it. No one knows how to push your buttons like your family members. But at the end of the day, they’re your family and for better or worse you love them. If you have a reunion or gathering of some type coming up in the near future here are some coping mechanisms so your reunion doesn’t end up looking like a boxing match.
In the latest conservative fumble, Politico reports that an Iowa based group is now retracting a line in its marriage vow which suggested that black children born into slavery had a better family life than black children born today.
The marriage vow, created by Family Leader, came out last week and was signed by Michelle Bachmann. The original preamble read “slavery had a disastrous impact on African-American families, yet sadly a child born into slavery in 1860 was more likely to be raised by his mother and father in a two-parent household than was an African-American baby born after the election of the USA’s first African-American President.”
The group’s officials said that “after careful consideration and wise insight and input from valued colleagues,” they decided to remove the offensive language from their preamble. They still maintain that all must work to strengthen marriages between one man and one woman.
Bachmann’s spokeswoman said that she signed the candidate vow, which made no reference to slavery, and relayed the congresswoman’s belief that “slavery was horrible.” It’s unclear whether or not Bachmann actually read the preamble.
Of course, as with any other outrageously offensive comment, the group claims it wasn’t meant to be racist, “just a fact that back in the days of slavery there was usually a husband and a wife.”
(Washington Post) — A socially conservative group has apologized for including a passage about slavery in a pledge it asked the Republican candidates to sign as a prerequisite for the group’s endorsement in the presidential race. Rep. Michele Bachmann had been the first GOP hopeful to sign “The Marriage Vow,” which included in the introduction a section that lamented that “the Institution of Marriage in America is in great crisis.” One piece of evidence it offered was the claim that a black person born into slavery “was more likely to be raised by his mother and father in a two-parent household than was an African-American baby born after the election of the USA’s first African-American president.”
In a recent article in The Washington Post, Colbert I. King ponders the idea of celebrating Black History Month at a time when we’re continuing to witness the disintegration of the Black family. “When Black History Month was celebrated in 1950, according to State University of New York research, 77.7 percent of black families had two parents,” he wrote. “As of January 2010, according to the Census Bureau, the share of two-parent families among African Americans had fallen to 38 percent.”
Although the number of two-parent households has fallen across the board since changes in the work force and the economy have made it more feasible for households to rely on one income, the image of the single black mother stands out as a common reality as compared to other ethnicities. In a way, it has become the norm and what is expected.
King uses data from the D.C. Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, to illustrate the connection between the short and long-term effect of single parent families on offspring.
To read more, continue on to The Washington Post
The Christmas holiday season is one of the most beautiful times of year. It is the pocket of the year when people put aside personal agendas to spend time with family and friends. However, along with delicious dinners, catching up and memorable roundtable discussions, there is usually a little (or a lot) of drama.
Every family has their tokens, like the pretentious aunt or cousin who strips. Varying life experiences, choices and opinions tend to breed conflict. Why? Someone always crosses the blurred line separating inquisitive from insulting, asking rhetorical questions rooted in judgment. Sometimes, for the sake of the aura, it is best to keep conversations P.C. (or politically correct). Christmas is one of those times.
So, even though you think (and don’t understand why) your brother is a disappointment, stay tight-lipped. There are better times, aside from Christmas, to have these arguments:
(theLoop21) –It’s not often that a rapper emerges as a voice for conservative thought, but this week Grammy nominee T.I. may have unwittingly done just that. In an emotionally raw letter penned in his prison cell he expressed his desire to make sure that his own children never end up where he is. His solution for insuring this: being an involved father. He writes:
“A lot of folks had fathers or father figures in the house to raise them into manhood. I’m not trying to make any excuses for my situation but my father was a hustler that lived in New York … My mother and grandparents did the best they could but I found my manhood in the trap and in prison systems. But I found it.”
Despite the fact that the percentage of children born to single mothers has skyrocketed from 5 percent to 41 percent over the last 50 years, and has increased to over 70 percent among black Americans, T.I. is not alone in fearing that this trend is having a detrimental impact on children, and society at large.