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The average woman has probably been declining sexual advances since high school. At this point, it’s just a part of life. However, being turned down for sex is probably something that many of us are not used to.
During a recent taping of “The Real,” the ladies discussed instances where the tables are turned, and the guys are the ones saying “Thanks, but no thanks.” Specifically, they explored a viral screenshot of text messages exchanged between a man and his date. Apparently, he decided that he did not want to have sex after one of their outings, and his female companion demanded to know why. From the sounds of it, she spent a healthy amount of time before their date preparing to get busy, and when he decided to pass on the horizontal mambo, she was left quite frustrated.
As the conversation progressed, Tamera Mowry-Housley asked her co-host, Adrienne Bailon, whether or not she would be offended if a man turned her down for sex. Adrienne confessed that if she happened to be dating a man for an extended period of time and he turned her down, her “ego would be a little bruised.”
“Absolutely! I would be a little offended like, ‘Is something wrong? Does my breath stink? What’s happening here?’ I absolutely would want to know. ‘Are you just not into me like that? Do you just like hanging out with me? Are you not sexually attracted to me?'”
She went on to explain that she has experienced this before; however, she later learned that the guy she was seeing desired to establish a meaningful, substantial, relationship before hitting the sack.
“He actually ended up telling me that he was hoping we could build a respectful relationship based on other things other than being intimate. I actually stood back like, ‘Oh dang; I feel really stupid and I kind of sound like I’m trying to move things kind of fast.’ So yeah, pretty much he wanted to be respectful and wanted to take his time. He was like, ‘I don’t want it to be about that.'”
While Tamara and Jeannie Mai found his gesture to be sweet, Tamar and Loni Love thought it to be a little suspect. Tamar, specifically, felt that a man turning down sex either means that he is gay or not that into you.
And this leads us to our Serious Question of the day: Would you be offended if your guy turned you down for sex?
