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When Keshia Knight Pulliam first announced her engagement (and later, marriage) to Ed Hartwell earlier this month, it’s safe to say that most people were shocked. The last time that everyone had checked, she was still dating her longtime boyfriend, Darian “Big Tigger’ Morgan. And anyone who scrolled just a handful of rows down her Instagram feed could confirm this. Just thirty-nine weeks before her announcement, Keshia posted a photo of herself with Tigger. They were happy, smiling, and celebrating her thirty-sixth birthday. Of course, fans were not slow to point out the fact that she still had photos of Tigger on her page. And some questioned why she hadn’t erased them, especially considering her new situation and all.
While discussing the whole surprise marriage situation, as well as the remaining photos of Tigger, with my coworkers, we began to discuss our preferences in regard to what we do with photos of our exes when someone new comes into the picture. As with everything else, our opinions varied. One of my coworkers, who is getting married soon, realized that she accumulated approximately fifteen to twenty photos of two boyfriends from college and one boyfriend from high school on her Facebook page over the years. She never really thought to delete them, but during our discussion, she decided that she would. My boss, however, doesn’t believe that you should delete old photos just because you’ve met someone else. She feels that every part of your life is important and that you shouldn’t try to get rid of those memories simply because you have a new partner. Personally, I’m not really sure how I feel about photos of past lovers and social media. By the time I met my fiancé, I had pretty much purged my Facebook account of any traces of my ex. I didn’t do it until years after our split and only did so because I shared so many mutual friends with him and his new girlfriend and things started to get awkward. What do you think?
Personally, I’m not really sure how I feel about photos of past lovers and social media. By the time I met my fiancé, I had pretty much purged my Facebook account of any traces of my ex. I didn’t delete all of our pictures immediately after the split. In fact, I didn’t do it until years later. Part of the reason I finally did get rid of the photos was that the relationship became such a distant memory. That period in my life has become such a fog for me that it almost feels as if it never happened, but the old photos were a nagging reminder that it did. The other reason was that I share so many mutual friends with my ex and his new girlfriend, and according to what I had heard through the grapevine, things started to get awkward because of them.
What about you? Do you usually delete your ex’s pictures when you meet someone new?
