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Over the years, I have grown extremely close to my coworkers. They’ve literally become like family, and it’s tough to imagine my life without them sometimes. With that said, as close as we are, they’re still my colleagues and in the workplace, there are some lines should just never be crossed. However, not everyone gets that concept. A concerned wife, who we’ll call “Ebony” recently took to Reddit in hopes of getting advice regarding her 33-year-old husband Phillip’s peculiar relationship with his co-worker, Kelsey. Phillip and Kelsey have worked together for two years, and Ebony really thought nothing of their relationship, but something strange happened after Phillip learned of Kelsey’s pregnancy five months ago. According to 31-year-old Ebony, Phillip has been going above and beyond to help the 23-year-old expectant mom with her pregnancy—including spending hundreds of dollars, buying gifts and tagging along for doctor’s appointments. Of course, this would make any wife uncomfortable, but when confronted about his behavior, Phillip scolded Ebony for being selfish and trying to discourage him from doing a good deed. He insists that he simply wants to help Kelsey because her child’s father is not in the picture. Performing good deeds is great, except Phillip have never been the “charitable type” and Ebony’s common sense mixed with women’s intuition left her feeling like something else is up.
“He won’t acknowledge what I think is very worrisome behavior. At this point, I wonder what I’m supposed to do. I think he really is trying to do a good deed, but part of me worries that something else is happening,” Ebony initially explained.
When asked if there was something going on between him and Kelsey, Phillip called Ebony jealous and insecure. He also declined his wife’s request to meet the young woman that they were helping. However, after witnessing enough red flags, Ebony took matters into her own hands and reached out to Kelsey, who confirmed what she had known all along: she’s pregnant with Phillip’s baby. Ebony discussed the heartbreaking experience in a follow-up post.
“I decided to contact Kelsey the next day,” Ebony explained. “She sent me a very nasty message back. I will spare you many of the details. The basic gist was that I was old and unattractive and unable to satisfy my husband, so he found someone better (i.e., Kelsey). Among other things, she claimed that the baby was my husband’s and that he was planning to leave me but felt sorry for me and couldn’t bring himself to do it. She ended the message by telling me that I should let him go so they could be together. It hurt a lot to read that message. It still hurts me to think about it.”
When confronted with this new information, Phillip broke down and confessed, but claimed that he wanted to work things out with his wife.
“I showed him the message. He got really quiet and admitted that she was telling the truth but denied telling her all of the horrible things she said about me. He said it (getting her pregnant) was a mistake, and he was only trying to do the right thing by her and the baby. He denied that they were still sleeping together and said he wanted to stay with me and have a baby with me. I have no idea if either of these things are true.”
Ebony has already begun scouting divorce attorneys, but she’s still unsure about whether or not she’s going to file.
“I’m not sure what I’m going to do. Everything has happened so fast. A couple of days have passed now, and I’m still thinking things over. He wants us to go to counseling to try to work through this, but I don’t think I’m interested in working on our marriage.”
I would ask what you all believe that she should do, but I’m pretty sure that at least 95% of you will recommend chucking the deuces. So instead, I’ll just ask you to leave your thoughts on this situation below.
