Explaining your relationship with a casual sex partner to anyone who is unaware of your arrangement is generally very awkward. However, we imagine things get even hairier when death comes into play.
A 26-year-old man, who we’ll refer to as “John,” turned to Reddit Monday for advice on how he should handle his friend with benefits’ untimely passing. John explains:
I’ve been sleeping with this girl for a little over a year now. We’re not actually friends outside of having sex, so “friend with benefits” is a little misleading. Still, I’ve always liked her, thought she was cool. Definitely enjoyed our time together, we just weren’t compatible as romantic partners. I found out this morning that she died yesterday in a car accident.
In addition to grieving the 25-year-old woman’s death, John is unsure if it’s appropriate for him to attend her funeral.
I can’t really talk to anyone about it, because I don’t actually know any of her friends, and my friends aren’t really aware of the situation.
Her funeral is in a few days, and while I’d like to go and pay my respects, I’m worried that it would be weird. I don’t know whether she told any of her friends that we were hooking up, or anything about me. Obviously, if I go and someone asks how I knew her, I’ll make something up, but I’m worried that it’s disrespectful or something.
This is obviously a situation that is both unfortunate and uncomfortable; however, we see no reason John should miss out on paying his respects to this young woman.
What do you think? Should he attend the services?
