Russell Wilson And Ciara Are Abstaining From Sex [Watch]

July 6, 2015  |  


Ciara and Russell Wilson went from being fairly tight-lipped about their relationship to letting it all hang out, in just a few months. Now that they’ve officially come out as an item, they’re confirming what’s going down in the bedroom as well. Simply put, the answer is absolutely nothing. Over the weekend during a special Q&A session at San Diego’s The Rock Church, the Seattle Seahawk revealed that he and Cici have chosen to abstain from sex.

According to Wilson, while waiting in Ciara’s dressing room during one of her tour stops, he heard God speak to him regarding the singer.

“She was on tour; she was traveling. I was looking at her in the mirror. She was in the dressing room getting ready to go before she went on stage, and she was sitting there, and God spoke to me and said, ‘I need you to lead her.’ And I was like, ‘Really?’ And he was like, ‘No, I want you to lead her.’ So I told her, ‘What would you do if we took all of that extra stuff off the table and just did it Jesus’ way?’ And she was relieved.”

Oh, and if there’s any confusion about what doing it “Jesus’ way” means, he made it clear that he’s talking about getting busy.

“We’re talking about sex,” he clarified.

Of course, those who have embarked down the path know that the abstinent lifestyle is not easy.

“I knew that God brought me into her life to bless her and for her to bless me, and to bless so many people. With the impact that she has and the impact that I have—we’re not going to be perfect by any means. Life is not perfect. Nobody is perfect. But He’s anointed both of us, and he’s calling us to do something miraculous. And I told her—and she completely agreed–that we love each other without that. If you can somebody without that, then you can really love.

I ain’t going to lie to y’all now, I need y’all to pray for us. I know y’all seen her on the screen. If there’s a 10, she’s a 15, so pray for me. I gotta keep my mind clear and my heart clear.”

The Superbowl champion also didn’t hold back in regard to his feelings about his new lady.

“She’s a sweetheart. She’s everything you could ever want. Yeah, she’s a special girl, honestly. I met her like five, six months ago. The funny thing is, I told somebody that she was the girl I wanted to be with before I even met her. It was before I met her, I was like, I’m probably going to end up with Ciara. True story.”

He continued:

“She’s been through some heartaches; I’ve been through some heartaches. I was married before. I married a person I went to high school with. I met her when I was 15. That didn’t work out, unfortunately. For me, I just trust that God would do the healing process; that he would figure things out for me. I’ve gone through some ups and downs and all of that. I had to really, really focus on walking in the Spirit and living in it. I met this girl named Ciara, who is the most beautiful woman in the world. She is the most kind woman in the world. She’s the most kind person; the most engaging person. She’s everything I could ever want.”

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  • dawn.stanley2
  • esh

    wonder what would happen if all celebrity relationships started like this. no news to report i guess…..

  • Simone Mackey

    Awww they are too cute!

  • Malecia B. (Malodey)

    I love this and it’s so refreshing to hear of 2 people being in love without engaging in sex; now that’s real love. I’ve always believed that if you can love someone without the sex imagine the love with it. Not enough people are adopting this method and I think it would help everyone build stronger and long lasting relationships with their significant other. I know for me, I choose to wait.

  • Trini_Angel

    Anybody had a WTF moment ……in a good way of course??? My Goodness!! Its so refreshing and I believe this is DE FIRST time I’ve heard a celebrity, black, male speak like this. He’s wearing his heart on his sleeve and damn sure am wishing them all the best and that they continue to make this work!!! Future who?!?!

  • Trudy ‘Mtram’ Rozani

    But, are they eventually gonna marry and then be free to, you know….

  • Isis

    This is the kind of respect most men should have for women that they are dating.It just seems that both men and women lack a great deal of respect for each other. not all, but many men don’t even care to get to know you. Personally, I don’t care if you wait until marriage, but make sure it’s something that both partners want to do. Most of the time it’s women that are willing to wait, and not the men.

    • Run

      I’ve practiced celibacy, and women I dated all turned into Lynn from “Girlfriends” when they found out, and I became Lynn’s celibate boyfriend, Savaad. They couldn’t handle it.

      Here’s the pattern:

      They hang on at first, because they want to see if you’re for real. Then it becomes a challenge to them – reversing the usual gender roles – so they play games to tempt you, and eventually start to chase it. Finally, they give up, after putting in 6-12 months and feeling like they wasted their time.

      Hence, you’d be surprised at how many women DON’T really want to wait. Most are just using the cooch as a tool to control men, and their relationships with them.

      • Isis

        LOL! my theory is that you meet more women who practice celibacy compared to men. I have probably only met 2 men in my entire life that were not sexually active and waiting on the right woman. Most women know that most men will break down, because the power of the kitty is sometimes too overwhelming for them. I really think you should date a woman or man that is also celibate and not looking for sexual relationship. I’m currently celibate(over 1 year), and I have no interest in sleeping with any man right now at the moment.The quality of men out here is not really worth my time or a romp in the bed. I find that most men don’t stick around long, but a woman will wait around for a celibate man for like you said, 6 to 12 months. We are sexual beings, and there is nothing wrong with that. I think sometimes we need a break from sex,especially when coming out of a bad relationship or the dating scene is wack.

        • Run

          Of course more women practice celibacy than do men, but that doesn’t make my theory any less true.

          A lot of women try to withhold s3x to control men, but when they meet a guy who can actually hold out their sense of control is gone, and they don’t know what to do. This means they are essentially liars.

          They should try walking the walk and actually DOING what they claim they want men to do, which is get to know their dates/mates on an intellectual, emotional and spiritual level.

          • Isis

            Again, most people don’t want to be celibate, and to impose that on any man or woman is silly. It’s best to date someone that is also celibate or has strong religious beliefs against sex before marriage.Women hold sex and men hold money. Men buy big cars and women try to look good to attract men with big cars. Human nature, especially when it comes down to being sexual beings. Don’t get mad when latoya wants you to finally make love to her, it’s human nature. I’m honest from the first date, and most men are honest and tell me that they can’t handle that. If a man agrees, but he starts to act funny and I let him go. Most men are not willing to spend money if your legs stay closed. They manipulate you also, they start to act funny also. I would prefer to date a man who isn’t focused on sex until marriage. After a year of dating a woman with no sex you should know where is this relationship going. Are you working towards marriage? Or just a couple more years of pointless celibacy that leads to nothing. I’m more concerned with the goal,not being your sexless girlfriend.

  • Teek

    To everyone HATIN LOL yall need to stop. All that “I aint buyin it” etc. Yall just mad cause aint nobody trying to wait on your tired sex. LOL Congrats to Ciara. Never met her, don’t know her from a can of paint – but I know ppl who have met her and says that she’s just full of life and awesome. And if this man who is trying to follow moral principals is after her, really courting her, then I give them both much kudos and respect.

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  • Brittney Boots

    Well I guess they could always dance like they’re making love lol (that’s the name of one of her songs fyi). This is so beautiful! Hope it works out for them.

  • chaz

    How you doin (Wendy Williams voice) ain’t buying it.

    • Selena McQueen

      Omg thank u I was looking for somebody who shared my point of view lol I’m not buying it either

  • slimpickens2916

    I really respect this young man now. I was not a fan of his team and of course I included him in this as the team leader. However, putting sports aside, he sounds like a good man and this young lady should be happy for this kind of relationship. I wish them both much happiness!

    • Run

      If you’re not a Seahawks fan you are missing the best in life. They are one of the most exciting, stylish and creative sports teams I have ever seen.

      They have true swag, and the players are really likable. Furthermore, they are AGAIN the favorite to win it all, so you might as well get with the program.

  • Joshua McDowell

    Who cares. Future is her son’s father. Let it go already. I’m sure Lauren London would never live down the fact that she had a baby with Lil Wayne either.

  • Joshua McDowell

    I like that they are abstaining from sex and just focus on getting to know each other and enjoying each other’s company. Meagan Good and her husband Devon Franklin did the same thing when they met.

  • joresab

    I really love them together. So fresh and sweet. She really deserves someone to make her happy. No wonder she is glowing like never before.

  • OLR

    if only she met him before future..dayum

    • Jane

      Then Ciara would not have her beautiful baby.

      • Run

        I wish more people would recognize that. The baby is a blessing, and may be the reason Ciara wised up and started making better decisions.

  • TheEsquireof212

    If a man comes here trying to spit on this situation, better stay away from HIM.

    • Run

      Just FYI, whenever you write “HIM” (in all caps) it refers to God.

      You mean to stay away from any man who spits on the situation, not to stay away from God, right?

  • Diane

    Absolutely understand, I get it! This is what I’m saying… Think about it , he’s no virgin & neither is she, so its not like they haven’t had the EXPERIENCE. Besides they probably won’t wait too long? I want this!!! Someone who can wait for the right time. Someone who isn’t in a RUSH to get inside you! But wants to spend quality getting to know you, just chillin in each others company doing life together. Becoming friends & then LOVERS. There is nothing wrong with saving it for each other. If you want a relationship based on a spiritual connection with each other to grow, try this! Then imatamacy and sex will be better because you have all these other factors going on that’s so positive. We women give in to soon because we don’t won’t the man to lose interest. Im not saying having sex sooner is bad because I have read women stories who did, and they have been married or in a loving long term relationship for yrs. But times changed, this is 2015!! this is not the 70’s anymore. We have to be more conscience of our physical & mental health. I just think we should focus more on our compatibility more so then sex. If you are right for each other this can work. If not then it wasn’t meant to BE. This can especially be beneficial for women 18-35 then there wouldn’t be so many unplanned pregnancies, or men stressed out because of all the child support they gotta pay when most are undereducated.

  • No ma’am

    For those mentioning what she “should have done” with Future..give it a rest already. Yes, there are many things she could’ve done to avoid being baby mama #4 to a cheating rapper. But she didn’t. She’s obviously trying to make better decisions on who she dates and is intimate with. Is it necessary to mention Future on every dern Ciara post for the rest of her life?
    Story: “Ciara Celebrates 50th Wedding Anniversary”
    Commentators: “See if she didn’t get knocked up by Future she could be celebrating her 55th anniversary.”

    • Chanda

      People are so miserable, always looking at the downside of every situation.

    • Libera_Free

      Right, we all make mistakes. The difference with Ciara and Russel right now is they are trying to learn and grow from theirs. That is where your character comes into play…Not what knocked you down but how you got back up.

  • No ma’am

    Gotcha. What do you consider “right away”? 1 year? B/c there are plenty of couples who do have sex that get engaged after one year of dating. So, for arguments sake, let’s say he does propose within one year, it’s not really fair to assume it’s b/c he wasn’t getting any.

  • Panama Mama

    Just made me like them even more. They seem happy together and I really hope things work out for them. Sounds like they’re starting it off right by making sure they include God in their relationship and with a strong foundation they can build on a strong & loving relationship with one another.

  • No ma’am

    Is it that hard for you to believe that a good looking, successful man can also not be a creep?

    • Joshua McDowell

      Meagan Good and her husband Devon Franklin abstained from sex when they got together.

      • Melvina King Barnett

        You are exactly right! I think Russ really loves Ciara and they are going to get it right. I think it is better to abstain before marriage. Russell seems very sincere.

  • mmmdot

    Awwww! How adorable is this! As for the not sleeping with each other, if they like it, I love it. If it works for them, I wish them lots of love and lots of luck!

  • Libera_Free

    It’s amazing how some can take something so positive and potentially healing for the both of them and make it negative.
    My husband and I made a conscience decision to do things differently when we started dating (before we even became serious). We have been married for 16 years and not a day apart. We put God first before anything else and it worked for us…

  • themeowster

    I don’t know if I necessarily agree that being “god-fearing” guarantees a good, healthy relationship.

    But alas, we’ll see if this relationship makes it past the year mark. I think everyone is smitten in the first few months, so the way he’s talking about her sounds pretty normal. It’s interesting that she’s so comfortable flaunting him so early on.

  • POWERose

    Yes, GOD!!! To get what you’ve never had before, you have to do what you’ve never done before. Oooh and to hear Him speak on it! Yes. RW speaks so lovingly of her…

    • Libera_Free

      Speak it!

  • OpalCR

    I doubt it,he seems very sweet and caring,i don’t know how many men will accept to be with a celibate woman after she has obviously been around and vice versa,the celibate women that i know are not here to repair someone’s damaged ego. I think he truly likes her.

  • Love it !!

  • Guestest

    The way he talks about her is so beautiful. :). I can’t lie, at first i thought he was going to end up leaving her heartbroken and i wasn’t too sure about this relationship but i like them as a couple and i hope they last! Abstaining from sex is great too!

  • Ms_Sunshine9898

    oooh girl stay with it! doing it God’s way might just work for her this time!

  • Marcie

    Absolutely beautiful! One day I hope I can have this.

    • wveronica7

      Me too.

  • Just Keeping It Real

    I really wish the good success in their relationship. With God all things are possible!

  • No ma’am

    Wow this really just warmed by heart! I sincerely wish them the best. The fact that he even wants to practice celibacy with her speaks volumes of his intentions.

  • DatsSweet

    Mannnn, I am awwwing over this! I really wish them well and it is refreshing to see this as most men or women these days will tell you, they wont have you unless sex is in the equation. ( No judgement) but this is nice.

  • Charles Adams

    Ciara The Body upgraded.

  • Mimsy

    That’s so sweet! I hope it works out for them.

  • Jessica

    Nothing like a man that hears from God. I love it!!!!! Best of luck to you both. God’s way is the best way!

    • distance

      God’s way is the best way!… I love it!

      My husband and I abstained, as well. And years before getting married, I honestly believe that I heard God speak to me at the church alter…He told me my husband’s. And now im married to a man with that name.

      • Jessica

        That’s awesome! It’s sad that people think God doesn’t speak to his children. He delights in EVERY aspect of our lives! 1 Corinthians 2:14 states The person without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God but considers them foolishness, and cannot understand them because they are discerned only through the Spirit.


    ‘What would you do if we took all of that extra stuff off the table and just did it Jesus’ way?’ And she was relieved.”

    Suggesting that it was on the table before. This is a good sign. Seems like their headed towards marriage soon.

  • bean83

    He sounds smitten. I hope this works for them. Every girl should have a man talk about them like this. I really wasn’t sold on them but I want them to be happy together!

    • Bee

      I absolutely agree. “Every girls should have a man talk about them like this.” This kind of made me emotional – what Russell Wilson said and your quote. 🙂

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    • Ce1999

      He sounds like a good man.

    • givemeabreak