10 Things They Don’t Tell You About Going Natural

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March 26, 2011 ‐ By


There’s this “new” movement amongst black women. I don’t know if you’ve heard about it. Not all, but many are abandoning the once coveted boxes of relaxers and replacing them with restorative oils and headwraps inspired by Erykah Badu. You know what it is. It’s a transition to natural. Going natural. If you’ve made the journey yourself read these revelations and see if you agree, if you’re thinking about it, heed these warnings and if you love your bone straight tresses read what your fellow sisters are going through out here.

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  • Timothys Rambo

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  • embracesme

    My last perm was May 2012 and it now January 2013 i didn’t do the big chop i don’t know what that is all about but i always keep my hair condition do a hot oil treatment once every 3 months i do breads and someday i just do my Afro and sometime i use flat iron but my hair is not thick

  • rad

    this article sucks. it makes women feel like going natural may not be the best thing to do. who cares what WHITE societal beauty standards are? Sisters stand proud of your natural beauty!

  • Nk18

    I hate when ppl think they are better because they have natural hair, you are not more black than I am and you are not more secure. If you were you would not need to compete and compare so shut it :)

  • chae

    I feel your pain, DJ. Black women have self esteem issues regardless of hair. We could all have straight hair down to our butts and it'll be something else. The hair is NOT the root of our problems. Pun intended! Most Black men are so used to the ever changing hairstyles we undertake that they really no longer care. What they care about is how we feel about ourselves. We do NOT holler in rage when we see derogatory images of our self in media. Regardless of how you wear your hair, if don't think you're attractive, they won't either. We, Black women,are no different than white women in respects to hair. Ask one about a bad dye job or perm. I have been natural for almost 3 yrs and now I'm going back to relaxers. I don't want to, but my lifestyle is just not conducive for my thick multi-textured hair. I don't have the time to spend on it. Period. I've had braids, cornrows, micros, weaves, and the hot comb. Granted my hair has grown tremendously, but what's the point when I'm limited to 72 hour straight hairstyles? I'm tired of having all this hair and can't even enjoy the length of it.

  • MissDee08

    In the US, YES you will be judged off your hair. I am often met with confused looks, when I open my mouth and speak. I have a head full of coarse, thick hair that I wear either in a puff or twists. The author did hit the nail on some points, and when I am asked what I do to my hair and what my natural story is, I always start with: THIS IS MY DISCLAIMER. As our hair comes in varying textures, it's always important to let your fellow sister know that her hair may not look like your hair, and vice versa. My closest friend and I are both natural. She can use products geared towards biracial people. My hair will laugh at all of that. I have one more to add to the list: natural hair, because it is natural, because it is me, definitely freed me of some of my insecurities, and I love that.

    Peace and blessings,

    Miss Dee08

  • SiSi

    Wow! Judgement?! Are you serious?! People judge becuase they want to judge you. People will tell you that you look mean if you have permed, dyed, curly, or braided hair. So why must I forwarn all woman who intend to go natural that people may judge you. NEWSFLASH: if your a person of color, a woman, disabled, fat, short, tall skinny or anything people have judged you. Why should anyone stop themseleves from trying something they like because they might be judged? People judge and its life. 0If your dad, brother, boyfriend or husband doesn't like your hair, so what! Are you living for them or you? I understand people have their own thoughts about what other people do but you live for yourself. As for husbands and boyfriends that might not like your natural hair. Ask them this"am I only beautiful because of my hair?". If the answer is yes you need to find yourself a new man. Yes, hair enhances beauty but that shouldn't be a deal breaker in any relationship. The arguements being made don't just make sense for people with natural hair. You could easily change the title to "10 things the didn't tell you about dying/perming/texturizing/etc.."

  • http://twitter.com/whitberries @whitberries

    So when is the ridiculously exaggerated article about the horrors of relaxed hair being posted, Madame Noire?

    • 1YearNappy

      EXACTLY let's talk about how after going natural a lot of women go through scalp pains for months like their head is going through withdrawal from creamy crack aka relaxers. Plus I love how she points out that both natural and processed hair can be unhealthy but doesn't point out the fact that the whole point of processing your hair is to break down the cuticle…so if your relaxer isn't damaging your hair, it isn't doing it's job. The article assumes that this movement of a lot of Black women going natural is all about empowerment and not at all about health. Maybe we're tired of putting drano in our hair or burning the hell out of it with flat irons to achieve some look. I just think the article would have been much more useful if it gave a more in depth discussion on the pros and cons of going natural.

  • eLP

    Sounds like Ms. Wells has self esteem issues. Most of your points are about 'other peoples' opinions. Life is about DISCIPLINE. It isn't usually convenient and neither is natural hair but it's much more healthy than having a perm. And you're such a negative lady. Go and seek counseling. All I hear is negativity and encouraging people to take the easy route. You're delusional obviously and must not have struggled a day in your life. Stop throwing ignorance at the people with gullible tendencies, I beg of you.. if any one decides to be nappy, LET THEM BE. Face your own 'straight for a while' hair. Kapish?

  • Marie

    I just went all natural on Jan. 28th 2011 (Big Chopped) and I love it!!!!!

  • Patricia

    late reading this but I would really like to SEE the person that wrote it. I choose my natural hair because the oppositie of that is UN-natural. And the harsh chemicals are UN-natural. If a Black woman actually wrote this article I'd really be amazed

  • Deb

    It's so funny. Some folk get so out there about black women being "brain-washed" into liking european hair they never stop to consider that there are less than exceptional grades of black hair just like there are less than exceptional grades of white hair. My hair is extremely fine AND extremely kinky curly. It's a fight no matter what I do to it….I just know I do not have TIME for a wrestling match on a day to day basis. My hair has already told me what time it is–no relaxers. I rock the braids most of the time. Rarely do I do a straight weave anymore because I've come to realize my face likes the volume of my natural hair–if ONLY IT WOULD $##@$@! cooperate–like my mothers!

  • Betty C-Heart

    I'm 6 months post relaxer–rockin a fast-growing TWA. And I am ABSOLUTELY in awe of & deeply moved by the warmth & support I receive when I encounter a sista with a more seasoned natural look.
    I adore the dialogue that ensues when I comment on their hair, "how long since your big chop…i began my journey back in…" It amazes me b/c she begins to share her story & we begin a new friendship…talk 'bout the TIES that bind!!
    It is particularly soul-satisfying for myself as a woman of a certain age…my tresses not only tolerate but seem to adore my hot flashes—now lovingly referred to as my "powered surges." Peace to All~

  • http://nappturallyspeaking.com MoZaic

    The writer had some good points but there was some bias information written. I’m natural and I was scared after reading this to go natural. If I was a transitioner or curious about naturalhair I would be reluctant after reading this. When I look for articles to read and share I want to feel encouraged and I didn’t get that at all. The naturalhair journey is as hard as you make it yes it takes courage and a good support system, yes it can be aot of work but its worth it and can be done.

  • http://gritsxcheese.tumblr.com futuresupernova

    it all depends on hair texture. my hair is very thick and long (1/2 down back) and i've been natural since day 1. no relaxer no perm, but i did use to straighten it, an still do from time to time. but wearing my "natural" hair pattern is not a task. i have wavy/ curly hair, so it's not hard to comb through most of the time. when it gets tangled all you need is detangling cream or conditioner. also to fight tangles use apple cider vinegar (make sure you rinse it out)… works like a charm. it's also perfect to skip out on shampoo because is strips the hair of natural oils, it should only be used when the scalp and hair is in dire need of cleaning. a product called WEN is great to use. it's a conditioner that can be used as shampoo (if you have thick hair it might not clean scalp good like reg. shampoo) nonetheless it made my hair detangled and it had little to no breakage.

  • NaturalBlackOne

    These words aren't encouraging… Mostly true but not encouraging. it's like saying we can't really be happy if we aren't relaxed, or natural hair is difficult to manage (that old dying stereotype). So what my hair isn't straight in the sink… Was that a reason to put in this article? Sorry that was plain stupid. Any Black woman knows if she doesn't straighten it, how it's gonna look…

  • Tiphany

    This lady is just tryna persuade black women from going natural. Saying our hair looks like pubic hair? She hates the natural hair she was born with, thats why she tryna bring natural hair down.

  • Queen Sheba

    WHAT A CROCK!!!!

  • Lindsey

    Hmmm…I've been natural for about a year now and honestly, the thing that has surprised me the most is how great people say it looks. It's usually other black women rocking a fro or random guys touting how much they love natural women. Another thing, naturally kinky hair doesn't look anything like pubic hair. At least mine doesn't. Shrugs.

    Anyway, I think the one that has rung especially true is that my hair doesn't turn out the same as some of the girls I see on youtube, or on the natural hair blogs. I still use their techniques and I've learned not to get frustrated because my hair doesn't turn out exactly like 'so and so.'

  • nadine

    As a sister who went natural 23 yrs ago, and wore every style long and short, it really still boils down to the ingrained notion that nappy hair is bad and ugly and relaxed/permed/straight hair is right and desirable. When you free yourself from that thinking, you are truly carefree. Every sister should go natural to learn how deeply rooted our self-hate/self-esteem issues really run. Those who declare it is a preference are in denial unless you have done it; it will rock your world. When you get through the realization that your main detractors are other sisters (men love it, across ethnic backgrounds) and that most employers want neat and professional appearances and don't know/care that much about texture, you will be liberated. Once you have comfortably gone natural, you will understand and not let hair control you. You can just live in your beauty and move on. It takes effort to have a good-looking head no matter your texture. I love to swim and play and go out in the rain and have a predictable do. While my absolute favorite style was a very short fade, locs have been my solution for 10 of the past 23 years. It costs little to maintain and looks great all the time. Go natural and be free!!!

    • Drew

      I hate MY natural hair. But to each their own. Everyone has to do what they feel is right for them.

  • Lynn

    This article is ridiculous. I have never read Madam Noire and after reading this article, I will never read or visit this website again. How very disappointing.

  • zaksmama

    I've been natural for 16 years, and I tell you, the thing I don't miss at all is spending every Saturday in the salon for 48 hours of decent looking hair, then looking at Hell's Own Coiffure for the next 5 days. I love being able to style my hair myself without a beautician's license or professional-level tools. I love it that my hair can grow past my ears and not look like it's been through a shredder due to over-processing for that bone-straight look. I love not having to fear water like the Devil, even with a perm. Go for a relaxer if you like the look and the upkeep doesn't drive you mad, but I swear I could have bought a car with the money wasted trying to make my hair look passable when God made it beautiful.

  • nauturagal

    When I wore my hair natural, I got more compliments from non black men than black men.

    • maru-chan

      Right??!!?! White dudes have been stepping to me since day one of rocking my 'fro but when I got locked a lot of east Asian dudes, especially Chinese guys complimented me and asked me on dates. I was like "whaaaa?" It blew my mind!!!

      • Jyoung Jm

        I think when white men see a black woman with natural hair they think she’s “liberated” and “free” and will give it up quick, I dont like the assumption and I’m natural at the moment myself but some white men have told me that and I give them absolutely NO reason for them to think that way.

  • http://www.mygmagazine.com Vivian

    Thank You for this! I have been debating going back to my natural or staying with my perm. Thanks for your honesty! :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/APeachJ Ashley Jones

    I've read so many negative comments about the article but what I find most interesting is that every one of the negative posts took the article as saying that if you had natural hair, you was unsure of yourself or if you had permed hair, you didn't love yourself…ppl the article was written to given a different point of view on the journey of going natural!!!!!!! Some of you are so ignorant to the concept of respecting other's points-of-view, it's ridiculous!!!! I for one can agree with many of the points touched on. As an AA woman who works in Corporate America, who is extremely active in sports, and is in her first six-month stretch of transitioning to natural, I have experienced many of the points discussed.

    • http://www.facebook.com/APeachJ Ashley Jones

      I have gotten "the look" from people when walking down the street or in business meetings. It has been extremely difficult for me to maintain my hair especially on those days when I have gone to the gym and worked out. The nap's growing on the back of neck does look like little pubic hairs. I have encountered several black men that do not like women who wear their hair natural! Just because all scenarios don't fit your life, they obviously fit someone's life! Stop being so damn confrontational….There are ways to express your points of view without being so defensive. The author isn't attacking U!!!!! U all sound like a bunch of ANGRY BLACK WOMEN who needs to understand that your hair represents who u are, not the other way around.

      THAT IS ALL.

  • Denean

    Interesting points. I have been natural for about 4 years now and I have to say that I concur it takes a little more effort to maintain, but it's fun at the same time to see your hair thickening back up and seeing your true hair texture. Perming my hair made it thinner, but that's just me, everyone's hair is different. So, no I do not see myself going back to permed hair.

  • Aimee Jason

    Wow! Where do folks get this crap at? I have been natural for 9 years…it will be 10 if I live and breath to see June 2011. I decided to no longer relax my hair due to an experience that had nothing to do with the chemical treatment itself…or just wanting to be me. I had a relaxer put in my hair by a friend and while washing out the relaxer in her drain I had a panic attack. I am claustrophobic so the no breathing space in the drain freaked me out. I had to jump in her shower n wash my own hair out. The thought of the chems touching my skin freaked me and not to mention the length of time the relaxer was left on my hair. So I stopped relaxing after that. I never did the BC. I just went through phases of growth n fall out. But one things for sure I wish i had stopped relaxing sooner…I love my natural texture…it's all me..and like everything else about me…its uniquely me! I find that its all about confidence in you…how you look…what you like..knowing and appreciating who your are. Knowing yourself is a battle sometimes. All I would tell folks that are considering going chem free is don't do it if its just going to be just a fashion trend or statement…do it because you want to…do it because you feel like its time to let go and embrace the natural beauty that God had blessed you with. Treat your mane with kindness and love…and it will love you back! And that goes for any hair type or style. Love yourself…and know yourself…and don't worry about what others may think…they don't live for you. If ya don't like my doo…too bad for you! Peace & Blessings!

  • Reese

    Great article! KUDOS!!! I definitely could relate to many of the points raised. Transitioned for 2 years (no BC here) and been natural for 9 years.It is not an easy road. Finally someone is keeping it real!!! I do not think this article is meant to discourage women from going natural. Unfortunately we tend to only highlight the positives of being natural without talking about some of the frustrations. I feel this is doing a disservice to those who are transitioning or newly natural because they 1. Are unprepared 2. Think they are the only ones facing some of these issues.

  • Hadasah

    When are black women simply going to love themselves for who they are and how they were born?!!!!!! How is the hair that comes out of the pores of your scalp hard, unacceptable, difficult etc….whose standard do we have to live up to? Who told you that your hair was hard to deal with unless you were comparing it to someone else of a different race or culture. I bet they don't feel that way in Africa…our homeland…where this stuff on our heads come from. Let's all stop frontin' !!! It's not about hair management or social whatever….You were born this way…think about it! Who told you there was anything wrong with your hair…who said it was too tight, tangled, hard, or coarse, or too ethnic!!! Black women have thicker, stronger, curlier, kinkier, or more coarse hair because of their African descent!!! When did this become a problem for a lot of you? It's natural for us to have this hair. In fact all throughout this article everytime you read the words going natural, afro, locks, braids, twists etc…just insert the words being black or being African..We should train them to accept our hair the same way they have to accept our presence, our skin, and our culture!!! Peace

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Shannon-Melanie-Scott/503182843 Shannon Melanie Scott

    Honestly, Natural hair is the best way to go. I can say this because I was relaxed for 20 years (sounds weird cuz Im still really young) and my hair is just about the same length it was before I did my Big Chop (20 months ago). I had medium arm pit length hair the majority of my life never getting any longer just thinner because of the chemical from the relaxers. So in less than 2 years later I'm back at the same length but my hair is SOOOO much healthier and its all mine. Just imagine what the next two years will bring. Check out my Youtube video I'll prove it :D http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u-kg6bgwrDo

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Shannon-Melanie-Scott/503182843 Shannon Melanie Scott

    If you saw balls beads of hair dangling off if was simply time for a trim. I've been natural close to a year now and I love it. My hair is back to its original length when I did my Big Chop medium/arm pit length (APL).

  • MsG.

    I have a hard time understanding women who are natural that choose to act out defensively in their online posts. Really the underyling problem is the disunity that we have as black women. we should be celebrating the diversity of our beauty, rather than forcing our ideals on others- and this works both ways. Sometimes I feel that women who choose to "go natural" – and i say this to refer to women who are "newly natural" want to judge others. Women who relax their hair are not necessarily brainwashed, self-hating, unhealthy, vain, or any other negative qualities that sometimes people tend to associate us with. Feel confident about the choices you make in your life. Don't seek validation from others.

  • Shell

    This is a good article that makes MANY relevant points… Maybe I'm biased, but it seemed to take to many anti-natural jabs..

  • a girl named eddy

    This article was spectacular. Thanks for posting

  • hahahahaha

    ok the article is what it is. As a natural, I love my hair and I will leave it at that for now. But no one has commented on the picture of the litte girl getting her hair detangled with a FORK. Ummmm wide tooth combs exist for a reason Ok go back to your debte. hahahhahaha

  • lkanony

    (cont.) Later, the perm became a beauty “fad”. Also note that blond hair color (along with red hair) is looked upon as being rare and unusual, thus, blond hair also became a beauty “fad”. The article is merely stating what DOES/CAN happen when some women get “gung ho” about natural hair. I've been witness to it myself and even been the target of innuendos when it comes to my hair (which YES, I personally prefer perms, wigs/weaves to natural looks) from peers who are wearing their hair natural. Now would it be fair for me or anyone else to discourage THEM from wearing their hair in a natural hairstyle as oppose to wearing their hair relaxed/straightened or in weaves? What may suit some women doesn't suit others….I agree with the article that it's merely a preference, and it doesn't have to imply that a woman with relaxed hair “…doesn't love herself…” In fact, she may be a woman that loves herself enough to know that she DOES NOT need to conform to blond hair or the natural look (ESPECIALLY/PARTICULARLY if it really doesn't suit her BEST) in order to receive acceptance (less judgment) from peers that do, or because “EVERYONE ELSE IS DOING IT”.

    • Belmoun Ibolele'

      @ Ikanony, I respect your opinion regarding the preference issues when it comes to black hair. However, The majority of black women who perm their hair do it for lack of self-esteem. Yet, black men are responsible for all that mess. Black people in the past and until now, have never been seen by the world with a positive view when it comes to beauty, therefore, we try to assimilate with the European standard of beauty. Subsequently, that effects us in every way possible. Black athletes in general prefer to have children with women who are light skin/ curly hair. To make matter worse black people are more racist against themselves than any other groups. that's the reason when a person such as myself who is pro-black speaks, a lot of people give me the crazy look, because it's not common for black people to to show love and admiration toward their hair and skin color. Blacks always want to be lighter in complexion and definitely wish they had curly hair. You can't be be truly free, until you reject the European standard of beauty along with their religion and the names the gave us. Although, slavery has been over, but the fact still remains with the names with carry today. We should have changed our names a long time ago.

      • Dmommie

        Belmoun Ibolele, every minority group has issues with regard to the European standard of beauty. The light skin vs dark skin complex is prevalent in Hispanic, Indian, Asian and even white folk. Permed hair does not equal lack of self esteem. Personally, I would prefer short, relaxed hair to long ,unmanageble natural hair. My hair is extremely thick and coarse. Have you considered the fact that perhaps black women choose to relax their hair because it makes their hair easier to manage? No, I don't love hair that it hurts to comb out and that I have to spend countless hours to maintain. Don't be so judgmental.

        • http://www.demeriese.com Demerise

          If your hair hurts to comb it out, then you're not using the right products to style it. You can't use the same products on natural hair that you use on relaxed hair. Natural hair also requires a lot of moisture too. I used to have a thick afro also, but after I did some research on how to take care of my hair it was plenty manageable. But I do feel you on wrestling with thick hair, that's why I just locked my hair. Best hair decision I've ever made.

  • lkanony

    I like your point in regards to White women dyeing their hair blond. But in a way, this point becomes contradictory to the rest of your comment. You see, you're making a point about women "inhancing"/changing their look but it seems to state it's "O.K." for White women to do as they please with hair alterations but the Black women shouldn't feel comfortable doing the same when it comes to perms and weaves. Personally, I feel that blond doesn't even suit all White women the same way I feel all natural hairstyles don't suit all Black women, but women do it anyway. Remember the perm was initially invented to make natural hair more manageable. Later,

  • MsT

    Well I for one thought it was a good article. The author was trying to make a point that going natural aint all “peaches and cream” for a lot of people. It is difficult. And all the ppl who have been natural for years this article wasn’t for us. It was for those who are going natural now, and some of the unforeseen difficulties they might encounter. If you were used to the idea that “nappy= ugly” (like many of us were, before thinking of going natural) the transition stage can be difficult as far as learning to accept your hair as is. And I totally agree with her that a lot of natural women are on this high horse, and they wanna convert all black women. But let’s face it, not all women look good natural!!!! Yep, I said it. Us black women like for our hair to LOOK nice. Now I do believe that most women look better with natural hair just bc I like big hair, but few women look better with straight hair. If that’s their preference, who are we to tell them otherwise?? It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realize that anything that burns your scalp, and can leave sores and blisters is bad for it.

  • BeaMea

    I remember that!!! Skuddles the Seagull. Well damn now i feel old…lol.

  • Alexis H

    To me it sounds like we didn't even read the same article. This article in no way bashed natural or relaxed hair.(It actually seems more PRO-natural) It simply explained some of the difficulties of being natural. Being natural is no walk in the park. Kinky hair IS difficult. It's delicate, easily tangled, and prone to dryness. That's not to say relaxed hair is easier because it too has it's challenges. But obtaining healthy natural hair can be done and is BEAUTIFUL! Also, once women have become naturally successful with their hair some DO tend to get over zealous and try to force there natural hair views on relaxed women who don't want to hear it. At the end of the day hair is a personal choice. Relaxed or natural. Both had their pros and cons. As a natural woman, I personally liked the article.

  • Joyce Noel

    I am a natural sista going om 4 months now…I wouldn't turn around 4 anything!

  • SAMURAI36

    I can't believe that there is an anti-natural hair campaign on a black website. I didn't even bother to read all the points (flipping thru all these pages was annoying). But most of them were down right insulting, ignorant, and uninformed. It's clear that the person who wrote this A) doesn't like natural hair, and B) doesn't have natural hair themselves.

    The reality is, having naturally hair will more than likely entail and entire change in lifestyle and mindset. I find that most natural Sisters that I run into, live a conscious lifestyle, which means eating healthy, being proud of their heritage, and not subscribing to any/most of society's ideas.

    So, if you're just a blind, deaf, and dumb Negro that gets their idea of beauty from the Bible or TV, then clearly going natural isn't for you.

    • CGC

      Interesting – been natural for 10 years and identified with many points in the article. Also posted it on my facebook friends and all my friends"liked" it. Guess it's a matter of interpretation.

      • CGC

        oh and they are all natural as well :)

  • Guest234

    I love natural hair. But I also notice the gestures (some) people do when they see certain natural hair styles.
    Also, many Black men I've met prefer straight/relaxed vs. natural. Whether style, or the notion we don't wash our hair.

  • niyah

    New Movement my ass! Did we come out of our mothers blowing a chemical Breeze? It's yours and you'll handle it whether it be natural or straight. We have no choice but to make the best of what we got. Tired of Brainwash Meditations.

  • journeytomyroots

    This is an AWESOME article! ICAM with every single point!

  • CurlyQ

    This is a good start for people who want to transition or new naturals. A guy actually told me that when he thinks of an Afro, he thinks of a confrontational black woman- a woman that’ll FIGHT you…..interestingly messed up huh?

  • Keedy

    OH I agree. It seems they're downplaying natural hair smh. Little do they know natural is the best way to go. Obvious whoever wrote it probably wears a relaxer or never has gone natural or don't know how to take care of natural hair. Shame.

  • Keedy

    I never had to do the "Big Chop", I just kept wearing weaves and different hairstyles etc and that enabled me to grow my relaxer out with re-touching or cutting it. I'M NATURAL all the way after 1 year and I love it! My hair is naturally curly and I get it pressed every two weeks or whenever I want it straight. I use an organic shampoo and conditioner on my hair, and its just as manageable as it was when I had a relaxer. This article failed to mention that going natural is also more healthier, I don't recommend for every woman to do the "big chop" though because it makes the transition a little more difficult.

  • Millermiz

    I stop getting relaxers in 2009 & since then I've been wearing & maintaining sew-in weaves, interlocks and for a brief period I got my natural mane washed weekly at the salon & flat-ironed & styled. While I never want to go back to chemically treating my hair, I've never had a desire to wear it in it's 'natural' state.. locks, twists, Afro, etc. Its also a LOT of work. Even more so than when it was relaxed. I enjoy when it's flat-ironed, but in the summer months, it doesn't last. My stylist recently mention a brazillan keratin blowout when I am ready to wear my natural hair this spring, but I've heard terrible reviews about this process & in my opinion, it's just anoypther chemical treatment that I want to steer clear of. What can you do when you want to stay away from relaxers & keep your hair in it's natural state, bu you want the look of a shiny, straight, flowing mane?

  • monique

    natural dosent look good on everybody but its a beautiful thing, i on the other hand wouldnt do it

  • Sunny

    I thought I was the only one that felt like this article is crap. If you are worried about what others are going to think of you esp a man then honey you are not ready to go natural. Being natural isnt all about how your hair is styled but so much more, it is about being confident and sure of yourself, it's about learning and coming into yourself and embracing yourself for who you are. And above all it is about loving yourself

  • Nzinga of Ndongo

    LOOK WHAT YOU DID MADAME CJ WALKER!

  • okay!

    Preach relaxedandhappy! I have gone back and forth with natural and then relaxed and my hair is fine and healthy. Of course everyone can’t do it but natural gals need to chill sometimes with this self hate thing some of them try to put on those of us who aren’t. If I wanna rock my fro one min and then look like Beyonce the next its my choice and because I want too. Some of us don’t like looking the same

  • relaxedandhappy

    *choose, sorry! Lol

  • relaxedandhappy

    I don’t understand when some women say that women with relaxed hair should give up perms and embrace our “natural” beauty. Sooo…I’m unnaturally pretty because I choosed to chemically straighten my hair? One thing people seem to forget is that it is JUST HAIR!!! I think it’s a shame that some women are so negative about another woman’s personal choice. I tried going natural and it wasn’t for me, simple as that. I am NOT my hair, which btw is relaxed and EXTREMELY healthy! =))

  • Jayvon

    Natural is not cute I don't like it

    • Guest234

      Thanks for your honesty, I know many men and women will agree.

  • TemperateSoul

    Going on my second year relaxar free…but I do continue to visit the salon and my hair is straightened with a flat iron bi-weekly. While I do not want the thinning that comes from the use of a relaxer, I still like to wear my hair straight and find the flat iron every two weeks to be a good option. Deep conditioning (w/steam) is a great idea…and I actually added color highlights to my natural hair w/out it damaging my hair.

  • Natural Sistah

    This article clearly was inspired by the "creamy crack" companies who obviously are loosing millions of dollars from this so called movement to natural hair! When I started reading, I expect substantive reasons/warnings about natural hair. Instead, its filled with ideas about what your family, your boyfriend/husband and strangers on the street will think of you and reasons why they might reject you. What does that have to do with sistas not wanting or willing to spend hundreds of dollars of their pay checks on hair care cost (not knocking those who prefer to) not to mention saving our scalps from all that unnecessary frying week after week after week.

    Depending on where you live and how you carry yourself, my male friends have told me they admire the natural look more because it shows a sense of confidence and they enjoy being with a woman who is willing to have her own sense of style!

    very disappointing reading (sigh)

  • toshya

    You can also try a satin pillowcase.

  • W. Reid

    Also include the IMMENSE feeling of liberation many women experience.

  • W. Reid

    This post was cute in it's attempt to bring to light some of the scenarios women may encounter when making the switch. I didn't take it too seriously. The last time I had a relaxer was 1994 and I'll never have another.
    My one issue was this notion of "preference". While how we wear our hair is a matter of choice our personal decisions are often rooted in centuries of teachings which instructed us that our natural hair is NOT beautiful. The next question is can straight hair ever be an act of unadulterated preference for a woman who's never worn her hair natural as an adult?

    • Eugenia

      Yea it can because I've worn my hair natural a couple of times in my life, so here's news for naturals that some don't seem to get. I don't hate myself and the reason I went natural was not to make some movement or learn to love my blackness, my blackness ain't going away for because I have a perm and it isn't coming at me because I'm natural. I actually went natural because at that point in my life it worked and I do my hair in a way that can help me not have to bother with it. Sometimes that's natural, sometimes that's perm. I'm lazy and I own that so natural hair was the way to go, now it's permed. I'm thinking of going back to natural this fall and again not because I'm hating on myself currently. So here's a clue, maybe some people just do what they like with their hair because it's their dar hair and they can do what they want. If you want to be natural because you were hating your blackness, good luck with that but stop projecting your issues onto other people. Black people do that way too much.

  • DC's Finest

    You must know that to maintain healthy managable natural hair requires special hair care products. It must be deeply conditioned and oiled on a regular. You just can't wash it in the shower and go sweetie. I've been rockin my natural flexi-twist-out afro for over TEN years & I've gotten comments from men of ALL races. If you use the right products i.e. Carol's daughter TUI line, there's no need to go to the salon every week. I go every two weeks but could go three weeks if I wanted to. Permed hair is POISION-PERIOD Any product that requires you to base your scalp to prevent BURNING is not ment to be used.

  • Lisa Bennett

    I'm sorry but,
    going natural is NOT harder than being relaxed.
    I've had my hair natural for 10 years now and I've NEVER looked back,
    and I'll be damned if I go back.
    At first yes, it is a bit more tedious, but that's because I was so used to styling and taking care of my relaxed hair that when I went natural, I didn't remember or have any Idea of how to style and take care of it.
    I had to learn how to deal with my hair……
    just like I had to learn how to deal with my relaxed hair and make it work.
    For some that takes months, for others years, for me 1yr and a half,
    but once I got the hang of it, my hair was much thicker, had more body, and
    it grew longer than it did with ALL the years of relaxing that I had.
    I go back and forth between "pressing" my hair and
    letting it flow free and I don't care what kind of hair you have,
    I've gotten the tightest curls straight with a good blow dry & flat iron.
    The keys are CONDITIONING & MOISTURE!!
    Our scalps are oily and since our texture of hair is curly, it's harder for that oil to run alongside all of your hair shaft.
    So half of your hair strands are oiled and the ends of them are not.
    That causes breakage if not properly moisturized so it's important to have an olive oil based shampoo and a great conditioner such as Motions CPR.
    I suggest you find 2 conditioners that work really well for you
    because your hair can also get too used to a product and you might not be able
    to maintain the same results after a while.
    How can you know if it's a good conditioner??
    If your hair feels like a newborn baby's hair when it's coating your strands
    and you can pull your hands through it WITHOUT getting clumps of hair
    stuck between your fingers….it's good.
    Then I would suggest a good light oil to place in your hair while it's still wet and freshly washed from conditioning.
    I've noticed that it's very common among Indian woman to oil their hair
    with an Amla based oil and it has worked really well with supplying my hair with moisture without
    making it greasy.
    They also have some that smell like jasmine and it's always a great refresher both smell wise and with adding softness to my hair.
    Also while your hair is still wet a good mayonnaise such as African Best Organics Hair Mayonnaise.
    Over oiling can be bad as it stifles your hair but conditioning never hurts.
    At that point, you can either let your hair dry naturally or if you don't have the time
    twist or braid your hair in sections and blow dry on light until almost dry and remove braids/twist by shaking out with hands and styling with fingers.
    Every time I break it down in my head it takes way less time for me to wash, blow dry,
    and style my hair naturally than when it was processed……..
    unless I'm "pressing" my hair…..cause I'm not gonna lie….that takes time,
    but the results are worth it.
    I can fling my hair in the wind like I'm on a Ultra Sheen commercial
    and have the satisfaction of not having to deal with that damn
    "fish" chemical smell and ending up with my scalp being burned or pasted to my scalp the next
    morning cause "I wanted to make sure it took".
    It's natural baby, and I'm loving it.

  • kram

    The article screams of low self esteem for black women. Hair hair..booty..titties..fake nails, toes..be yourself people and not what he wants you to be. Another one of the many reasons why we are in the poor economic state today

  • Linda

    Amazing! I was able to identify with all 10 of these! Although I haven't given up on wearing my hair without chemicals in the future, I did go back to relaxed hair after maybe 1.5 years of wearing it natural…primarily b/c I just couldn't get it to look as nice as I had envisioned it looking (including the fact that I COULD NEVER keep it moisturized sufficiently!) Maybe I'll have it more together with a future attempt! :)

  • bee

    Id personally like to see an article telling black women about the harms of relaxers. like permamnent hair loss, respiratory diseases from long term use/inhalation, some have even linked it to fibroids and certain cancers! I am natural (for only the last 2 1/2 yrs due to excessive burns)and dont have anything against relaxer use, but if were gonna warn black women about going natural, we may as well be upfront about the DANGERS of relaxers too.

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  • imnotmakingthisup

    I have been natural for almost 2 years and this article is missing 2 key components.. Exercise and Summer/humidity.. Get it together and really do research and give women real tips not something you rush to put together.i

  • msnainai

    My hair is natural and its looks nothing like the women hair in your article. You can go natural and your hair can be as straight as a girl hair with a relaxer. There are other ways to get your hair straight like flat irons straighten comb. Me, myself I get blowouts to get my hair straight or just flat iron it.

  • Naturalmom2

    I went natural three years ago and it has been a wonderful experience — i am healthier because I now swim everyday for exercise , then co wash and keep on pushing — my daughter loves her hair now that mommy is not burning hers up with chemicals — when I miss the straight look, I go to my Dominicanas and get a blow out and it looks better than when I was relaxed — the key to natural hair is research, you have to find out what works for your hair — It used to be hard for me to do my natural hair but now (because of lots of experiments) my hair is soft and beautiful any way I wear it — this article is not exactly flattering the tone is condescending and sarcastic but I appreciate the fact that they are at least examining the topic.

  • WASET

    This article is very ignorant and merely perpetuates the white man’s view of us and his brainwashing of us. Anyone who listens to others idea of individual beauty and then changes themselves based upon others ideals is sick. Blacks, especially American Blacks are a lost people. Sad.

  • GOLDEN BROWN

    You read between the lines to i can see, Just trying to keep us DOWN in any way the can BLACK WOMEN WE ARE BEAUTYFUL HOW EVER WE WEAR OUR HAIR, WHAT WE NEED TO DO IS COME TOGATHER , WHAT A MIGHTY BOND WE CAN MAKE THAT IS THE BIG " SCARE"

  • content

    This article seems like it was composed to discourage african- american women rather than to encourage them. our hair is OUR hair. this is the hair that we were born with. there is nothing wrong with relaxed hair, it just pains me to know that our community has become conditioned or shall i say poisoned to beleive that there is something wrong with what we are and how we look. I think it's wonderful when a woman (ecspecially in todays society) can look in the mirror and be happy with her natural state. So don't look at your attributes as a burden. uplift yourself & others around you! you don't have to have HER hair to be beautiful. confront yourself and take charge.

    • Reese

      I disagree. I have often been tempted to write an article/blog similar to this. I have been natural for 9 years and I think this article makes some valid points. I think this article simply pointed out that it is not all a bed of roses. Unfortunately many of us are so excited and pleased with our natural hair we only talk about the positives and none of the frustrations (maybe you have no frustrations). People make the transition to natural hair with many false expectations because of this and are discouraged early in the journey. Kudos to this article for keeping it real (In my opinion).

  • Confused

    I am thinking about going natural it has been about five months since my last relaxer, however the transition period is horrid. I like the fact that with a natural style you have more versatility you can straighten it or just wear it curly. However I must admit I am tempted to go back to the relaxer being in New Orleans and approaching summer the humidity right now in the spring makes my hair curl and I am not a fan of weaves or wigs. So I have no idea what to do and this article is not any help. Many of my sorority sister did the chop but I am not comfortable nor do I have enough hair to just chop it off. Any advice on how other women did a gradual transition minus the chop weaves or wigs or are those my only option.

    • Naturalmom2

      Condition, condition, condition — Suave coconut is the best for transitioning and it's cheap too — also do not use harsh shampoos — go check out Whole Foods — my personal favorite though is Elucence — check it out and see what works for you — but while you transition use lots of leave in conditioner —

    • curlydiva85

      twist-outs and braid outs are your best friend as of right now. make sure your hair stays moisturized because it will break. Most people transition for too long and have a lot of breakage. I say go for big chop and own it you only live once!

    • M.A.J.

      I was growing out my hair using braids but eventually I had so much natural hair that the line of demarcation where the natural & permed hair met got weak & started to break.

      Braids can help you deal with keeping you hair hidden for a while during your transition. Or you can go with curly styles that help hide the 2 different textures.

      For more in depth suggestions you cant try longhaircareforum.com or blackhairmedia.com (I prefer the latter). There are a bunch of tips for hair care and styles and whatnot on those sites.

    • Goldie

      You can always wear box braids or twist. When I transition about 6 years ago. I wore braides alot. I never really did the big chop I just let it fall out naturally. I just recently got my ends cut after all this time. Just know that water is our best friends and natural oils. Check out a website – The Natural Haven they are the best at explaining how black hair in its natural state can be properly taken care of.

      Good luck and be happy Nappy :-)

      Tee364

  • http://NaturallyAshley Ashley jones

    This hasty generalization is appalling. Not everyone with natural hair feels this way or goes through this. Usually going natural starts with research so you don’t damage your hair secondly if we can inspire other women with perms to go natural they should tell us our hair is nappy and wrong!!!

  • JV

    Everybody’s experience is different…as is with different hair textures. Just because your hair is coarse, does not mean you’ll have a hard time. It is a neccessity to EDUCATE yourself on your “new” hair (as it’s new and/or different than what your used to) as you would any other drastic change. I have been natural almost 7 yrs and my hair has never been healthier or longer. Wouldn’t change my decision for the world! I started from the “big chop” and part of MY hair success was learning to deal with MY hair texture and investing in some good ($$) products. I’m shocked nobody has said that which in part shows that there needs to be more eduaction. Once you’re natural, you shouldn’t use the same products as you used on your permed hair. And yes, they may cost a lil more, but trust me, regardless of your hair texture, once you find products that work with/for you and your hair texture, it makes a WORLD of difference. This article obviously comes from the personal experience(s) of some that possibly did NOT educate themselves prior to the big chop, so hence why they had the experiences that they did. Not saying because you educate yourself everything will be easy and wonderful…just better than the things portrayed in this article. Good luck ladies on your NATURAL journey!

  • minx

    Question? Why is there a fork in the hand of the hairstylist, over the little girls head?(Pictured above) Should'nt it be a styling comb? JTS

    • TemperateSoul

      I asked the same question to myself…what was that about?

    • http://sassybrowngirl.com Keya

      That's actually the little girl's father. He's a professor at Emory who adopted her from Africa, this picture is from when he was first learning how to style her hair. He has since upgraded to combs lol.

  • Naidy

    I'm a 30 year old with natural hair and it just works for me. I would never begrudge a black woman who prefers relaxer or weaves. It's all about wearing your hair in the way that makes you feel most confident. For me, I was always more confident with the natural. I've got very thick, coarse (read: nappy) hair, the kind that my mother dreaded combing, hairdressers hated to dress, the kind that shrinks up, breaks combs and got ridiculed to no end when I was a kid. But when I stopped caring what everyone else thought about it and started getting to know my own hair, I realized how much I really like it. I had dreads for the past 7 years but two weeks ago I chopped them off and now I've got a short 'fro. I love it!

  • J2J

    Shaved my head the week before Halloween last year and I love my natural hair. The only thing is I don't like to put a lot of grease/oil on my head, so my hair is dry a lot. I just got into oiling my scalp at night and wearing a silk scarf-this is another thing I don't like, whether it's natural or perm, I hate wearing a scarf on my head at night nor do I like the way silk pillow cases feel. But my hair is softer and hold moisturizer if I do. I have not experienced any of the problems listed above, well the only thing I experience was at my job I get a lot of "what happened to your hair?" questions-(white folks). And regarding other hairstyles my texture isn't meant to wear those styles if I want another look,I'll rock a wig. I love my natural hair and don't see myself going back to perming it. Ever.

  • kyrah

    i dont understand why u cant have the best of both worlds…i never relaxed my hair.. if i want it straight i use a straight iron… if i want it curly i wash it and put some scurl or pink lotion in it…

    • MsG

      It's not that simple for all women. I work out reguarly. I would not pay to get it pressed and then sweat it out two days later. My relaxed hair is still thick and long, but I can manage it on my own without doing a lot of damange. Again, it's MY hair and I wouldn't reccomend my own regimine to another woman who has different hair than mine. That's the point of this article. Do what works for you without passing judgement on others.

    • CElle

      Pink lotion? Girl step your product game up.

  • Blackskin

    Yes I got teased Indystyle but thanks for your words of courage to me I will now really think about going natural !

  • 80′s girl

    Good article but let’s not forget how difficult it is to EXERCISE having natural hair! It is literally hell. Some people don’t want to wear wigs/weaves while they workout. Other than that, going natural has been a good idea for me. My hair is so healthy and the length is down my back! Just hate the maintanence!

    • Naturalmom2

      Before you go to exercise, slather on some cheap suave conditioner — you will find it must easier to deal with afterwards — it works for me!

    • W. Reid

      I would think excercising would be a breeze with the natural. My issues come when I straighten my hair and then I can't move. Be mindful of the style you select during your work outs.

    • http://sassybrowngirl.com Keya

      I have never heard that complaint before, exercising while natural is easy for me. I just throw my hair in a high bun and afterwards I co wash in the shower. You'll get the hang of it! Finding you niche will come soon :).

    • Dmommie

      Honey, that is why they created relaxers! The maintenance on natural hair is too much! I am saying that because I have the thickest, nappiest hair ever! My stylist has told me that my below the shoulder length hair would grow longer if I stopped relaxing it but I can't COMB it without a relaxer. I also don't want HAIR to rule my life. I can only imagine what would happen if I tried to exercise.

  • Indystyle

    Your beautiful forehead is part of your face! Somali women like Iman and others like Sade have pronounced foreheads. Embrace it. I suspect your being hard on yourself because someone teased you!

    • Chaveevah

      I agree, Indystyle…I was teased as a young girl about my forehead ["Five-head", "Headquarters," "Moon Pie", etc] but wanted to get rid of my bangs 'security blanket'…when you accept/embrace yourself, your looks, your forehead, etc, any style you choose will suit you–been dreadlocked for the past 16 yrs, love it every day :-)

    • LMS

      I found that after I went natural I had a completely different hairline – so now I am way more comfortable with my "big" forehead bc it is no longer so big…I have goten so many of my friends/family members to go natural bc I had the coarsest hair & now I have the longest & healthiest hair out of all my friends :-)

  • Tia

    The only thing about going natural that I couldn’t do was the big chop. I cut off about 2 inches and I’ll cut 3 more this summer. By the end of the year I’ll be completely natural. It’s hard because I have to roll my hair to blend the straight ends. But my hair is thicker. I just keep it moisturized and wrapped. Oh, the tangle teaser brush has been a huge help too!

  • meeeee

    I’ve always had relaxed hair. Even as a child my natural hair was thick course aka nappy , and hard to do much too. I tried to go natural in November and not for me! As pretty as everyone was sayin I looked I didn’t look pretty to myself. So I went straight to my hair dresser and relaxed my stressed hair. :)

    • LMS

      Its funny how you called your hair stressed when it was natural – uuuhhhhh what do you think perm will do to it ?

    • Krissy

      Good for you for doing what YOU want with YOUR hair. :) Natural may be awesome but at the end of the day it is a choice, not a commandment.

    • maru-chan

      I have very VERY nappy hair and I locked it. It was the best choice I have ever made in my life, hands down. If you're like me you probably have A LOT of hair, very thick, very healthy. You can still have healthy hair with perm but I'm sure you know its kind of high maintenance and it can get expensive. I dunno if you have considered locks but you can maintain versatility i.e. color and styling and proudly rock your thick hair with LOW maintenance, LOW COST [no cost if you do it yourself!]. Nappy hair loves to lock!

      http://www.sisterlocks.com
      -you can get sisterlocks with permed ends, you only need 1.5 inches of new growth
      http://locksblogsphotos.blogspot.com/
      -there are MANY different ways to lock, seeing some of these sisters stories helped me decide path was best for me

  • Indystyle

    Yes, I am old school graduate high school on 71 undergraduate 75. We rocked our afros back the and beaded braids….I had a Angela Davis size afro. 2 years ago I went back natural oiling my scalp with TCB hair food at night, little leave in conditioners and a weekly wash. I got my Angela Davis afro back and natural waves. my daughter gave a color update and my friends and family are going WTF your hair is beautiful :-). I am no longer paying $250 monthly to shady hair stylist. I brought wigs for change but have not used them.

  • Blackskin

    Good article!I would love to go natural but I have issues with my hair I like the woman who have the strength to do so.My forehead is so damn big because I know if I was to go natural u don’t have bangs I’m used to relaxers and having a bang that’s my issue .Maybe that day would come for me to love myself the way I am

    • Sam

      Oh! I thought the same thing! I also have a big forehead and I was so scared! But you know what…The natural hair has so much personality that it somehow makes up for it. It is fuller and I guess all the patterns distract away from the forehead. Also as the other reader states, you can have bangs. They are real funky and will get you lots of comments. Do not be afraid! Good luck!

    • Candy

      Actually, you can have a bang! Either with twists, braids, or straightened. If your hair gets big enough, it will often just fall over your forehead in a natural bang. I was afraid my forehead would look too big and shiny (and bright! lol) when I shopped my hair to a quarter inch, but surprisingly enough, it looked good! It made my eyes look huge, and as it turns out, my big forehead isn't ugly after all. Everything's doable.

      Blessed Be

  • 4lovehers

    I’ve been natural for about 13 years now… and im young… I begged my mom to stop putting relaxers in my head when I was 9… I never struggled with my hair. I learned how to maintain it, and I learned how to keep it healthy. If you’re struggling with many of these social aspects of having natural hair, you’re probably not ready for it (if you ever will be)

    • guest

      good for you!! It definitely takes practice and patience.

  • Guest1

    This article was in my opinion (as a girl with natural hair), an over-exaggeration, specifically about the social part. I go to a HBCU and people don't stare or give me sympathy looks or "power to the people" looks they don't go out their way to approve or disapprove because my hair is natural. I think people are looking WAY too much into this natural thing as though it is some kind of revolution or movement, like another commenter said it's definitely nothing new, the variety of having natural hair, permed hair, or extensions have been around so long, usually the only people that act brand new on the subject of natural hair nowadays are blogs/articles.

    • Paula Maouyo

      I go to a very "elite" school (not to pat myself on the back, but just to share the social situation in which I find myself) that, while "diverse," still has a majority of white prep-school legacy kids. And yet, went I did the big chop, I got the same reaction as my (Asian) friend did when she cut 8 inches of her hair. People obviously noticed the difference, but then they were like, cool, let's move on. It's actually not the alpha/omega/whathaveyou of the world–not to me, not to the black community that is present, not to the larger (mostly white) campus.

  • Vero

    After years of relaxing, I went natural for 5 years. My hair is thick coarse and it was really hard to maintain.. doing braids, cornrows, bantu knots myself… never an afro since it would tangle too fast. I got tired of it so I relaxed it back. It was beautiful for a while, started to shed when I had my son.. I went back to braids, cornrows… I haven't relaxed it in a year.
    Now I found the instant wigs so maintenance doesn't take so long any more… I cut the relaxed ends, and will let it grow out for a while again, until I decide if I relax it again or not…
    My point, it's just hair. It always (almost) grows back !

    • DC's Finest

      well with your crazy routine, in time it most certainly will NOT grow back.

      • NaturalGyrl

        LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was thinking the same thing!

  • Intrinsic Beauty

    #11 Your arm strength will greatly increase while experimenting with new ways to fix your natural tresses.

    • guest

      I agree Intrnisic!! I love being natural with all its ups and downs:). Patience is the key. Peace

  • jjv

    I'm sorry Belmoun, but you misread the article. Madame Noire neither said nor implied that being natural is counter productive. This article also did not say that relaxed hair is the only way to be. What the article said (and very clearly) is that when a woman with natural hair criticizes a woman with relaxed hair in attempt to convert the relaxed woman that this criticism is counter productive and offensive. I'm natural and have been so for the last 12 years and I realize that it isn't my place to tell another woman what to do with her hair. It is just as offensive for a woman with relaxed hair to criticize a natural woman as it is the other way around. Learn to accept yourself and let others accept themselves. I really think you should re-read this article.

    • Belmoun Ibolele'

      I have to admit that I was a bit angry when I posted my comment, as a result I say a few things which were celarly out of place. I would like to thank you for calling me on my ignorance.. Peace and love to you all.

    • lkanony

      I AGREE.

  • http://writingbeauties.blogspot.com/ Candy

    I love my natural hair and it has nothing to do with being inspired by Erykah Badu, it had to do with wanting hair that was full and healthy (perming my hair really thinned it out). Anyway, you can go natural and still wear your hair straight. Check out this post: http://writingbeauties.blogspot.com/2011/03/we-ca… that I read and loved because it mentions the same ceramic flat iron I have, that works wonders! No one knows I have natural hair because it gets my hair straight and it looks full because its natural. Just a tip in case you ladies ever considered natural. Its not bad at all!

  • Lovingmyrelaxedhair

    I don't understand how you got that assumption from the piece they wrote.All they were saying is that some women don't want to go natural, so it doesn't make sense for the ones that are natural to make them feel bad about not wanting to "return to their roots". It doesn't make you more black just because you have natural hair.

    • lkanony

      I AGREE….I'm loving my relaxed hair too….and my wigs/weaves :-)

  • newmoneyeducation

    Good article. The only part I found a bit ignorant was the comment about natural hair being mistaken for pubic hair when found in the shower drain. Not really sure who would think that or who's pubic hair sheds as fequently as hair on the head. sigh…

    • koleykole

      My boyfriend teases me all the time about the hair in the shower or the hair on the floor when I comb it out. Obviously it is way more hair then anyone could possibly have down there, but I have do admit it does have a similar look to pubic hair.

    • J-Juice

      I agree! That part made me frown; it just seemed very ignorant to say. First off, there are different curl patterns, so to assume that one's natural curls will resemble pubic hair is asinine. Second, that comment sounds like something a non-Black person would say due to miseducation. Pfft. Get it together Madame Noire!

    • Wishes

      I've had natural hair and it really does resemble pubic hair, so that was not an ignorant comment.

    • http://www.demeriese.com Demeriese

      That is not ignorant at all. when I was in college I shared a bathroom with my suitemates and they mistook some of my natural hair that came out in the shower while I was washing it for pubic hair. I can see how one could come to that assumption, especially if they're not used to seeing natural hair, like my suitemates.

  • ayannadjenaba

    I was terrified to go natural…because of my location (Iowa) had to go to Supercuts of all places….1st cut a little than a little more…love it!! Go figure…I'm just as attractive with natural hair and my boyfriend loves it…

  • Prissy

    I'm relaxed but I have heard plenty of my natural haired friends saying these same things.

  • http://meshaha.blogspot.com/ Meshaha

    A 'new' movement? Black women have been rocking natural hair since the dawn of human.

    • Blkqwn7

      I agree Meshaha. I am a 46-year-old woman and I have never permed my hair and what do I have? Thick long hair that is very manageable rather I wear it washed and natural or flat iron it. After washing it, it is more work, but not necessarity more difficult. When you keep it natural , know about natural hair and use the right products it behaves. But, I have noticed those who have permed for years, go through changes when they switch to natural. I believe that's because the hair needs to adapt to the huge change of permanently straghten to natural and it definitely has to fall mostly out of your head first, or they tend to cut it all! I wanted to say though, I believe it is sad that we have come to this, where we have to become use to being who we are, naturally kinky hair! Many Black folks, including some Beauticians, haven't a clue about their natural beautiful locks!

      • Raialli

         Im a license barber/stylist for  18 years and i’ve lost clients because they didnt want to go through the process of cutting the relaxer off before going natural and yes their hair did transform…breakage that isl! And as a stylist we get the blame but i’ve always let them know the consequences of the transformation.I agree with your statement but i think people need to get more educated about natural hair before they take that step. I wear a relaxer and im good. Natural has been around forever…its nothing new. But i believe if natural makes your boat float sail on…just know what your doing when you take that step…thanks again!

        • Chanel

          I’m sorry to hear that you lost your clients due to them not wanting their hair relaxed anymore. So you say, that their hair broke off cause they didn’t cut it while they were going through their transformation. That’s crazy. Well, I think so. I just decided that I’m going natural after seeing a picture of myself and I’m not gonna cut my hair to go natural, plus my hair grows fast anyway.

    • Yes it's Me

      you're crazy if you think that's true! i'm 31 and have had natural hair my whole life. I have gone from being THE only one in the room, to now being a handful. There is indeed a movement , and there is no denying that. Take your head out the sand.

      • skh_stellar_one

        I hear you, but I wouldn't say it's a "new" movement… also there are pockets. In some neighborhoods and among certain "subsets" (i.e. many Brooklyn- and Harlemites) natural is the rule and not the exception.

        • TheWhy

          Wow ok which part of harlem do you live, I went to school in Harlem and I go all over my hometown of nyc and trust natural is not the rule lmao

    • thejanelleshow

      seriously that line made no sense… lol

  • lacquerglamour

    I'm natural and I STILL don't won't folks touching my hair…

  • Keesha

    good article.. now you tell me

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