8 Reasons to Spank Your Kids

February 8th, 2011 - By LaShaun Williams

Editor’s Note: Another writer of ours recently wrote about how spanking is not necessarily the right way to discipline a child. LaShaun Williams has a different take on that…

Spanking has become a highly debated form of discipline in recent times, with some arguing swats on the bottom are crimes. A generation ago, most kids felt the sting of a belt. Now, it’s time out. As with everything pertaining to kids, the effectiveness of discipline depends on the child.

Timid, approval-seeking kids are usually good with a time-out. But there are some children who like to push their limits. Those are the children who may require a pop. Knowing your child is the key to nailing down the most effective forms of discipline. While some studies have shown the negative effects of spanking, today’s disrespectful youth have shown what happens when necessary spanking is forgone. Controlled, purposeful spanking is not abuse. Impulsive spanking out of anger and frustration is abusive. Believe it or not, it is not unrealistic to teach a child to obey the first time—tough but not impossible.

If you’re not spanking and you have a child who is testing you time and time again, you may want to consider picking out a switch before he (or she) ends up on Beyond Scared Straight. Here’s why:

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  • Angela

    I can not stand when someone says that a non spanker must not have children. I do. I also worked for the Boys and Girls clubs for three years. First year, a Teen Center for the most troubled and rebellious teens in my county. My second year, a club specifically revolving around the most outstanding special needs cases. Third year, troubled children. We saw them more than their parents did. 14 hour shifts. My aunt is a child psychologist who worked with a group of children who were in need of serious help. They were burned, gang raped, placed in ovens as punishment and worse (and yes it gets much worse from there). If ALL of these children can have their behavior modified and their respect for our society restored without physical violence, what children are you referring to who *need* to be hit? The places mentioned above, day cares, summer camps, girl scouts, the little gym, there are hundreds of facilities that work with children that will teach you skills to correct behavior without harming ANYONE and they accept new volunteers daily. There are hundreds of free programs that offer advice and resources to parents. No child ever NEEDS to be hit.

  • wolfcat

    There are nearly 200 scientific studies proving that spanking is bad which is why it’s banned in 30+ countries. Some of the best people I know were never spanked. There’s a huge difference between discipline and punishment.
    One is teaching a child to be the best person they can be, the other is
    trying to make them hurt for upsetting you and does not teach them
    anything good. How many prisoners have you met who were ever spanked?
    It’s a very short list. There is always a better solution than violence,
    and violence only begets violence, negativity, and fear.

  • Mable

    I was under the impression that this was satire haha! Most of the reasons given are knowledge stunting techniques meant to beat children into submission! Fear is not the same as respect and I have never had respect for someone who wants to hit me. I value intelligence, creativity, empathy, and SELF control over blind obedience. Spanking doesn’t foster any of these qualities, ESPECIALLY not empathy or self control. Children don’t misbehave out of fear. Not out of understanding! They don’t focus on the right answer because they’re just concerned with what the wrong answer is! This stamps out empathy and self-governing behavior. I still kind of hope this was a satire piece :/

  • will

    This author does not make any sense. She seems to believe that spanking is the only form of punishment. “Some kids need it, period.” Well, that’s great reasoning. ” …you have to get that butt.” Are we supposed to take this seriously?

    Spanking IS weak. It is done by frustrated parents who themselves lack discipline and want a quick fix. Spanking teaches a child to fear you. Great, but it does nothing, NOTHING to promote self-reliance or self respect.

    Noted researcher Murray Strauss linked corporal punishment to “(1) increases anti-social behaviors such as lying, cheating, disobedience, and bullying; (2) decreases children’s IQs; and (3), increases the risk of sexual problems later on in life. ”

    Other reaserch shows higher liklyhood for depression, alienation and, “they tend to hold less desirable jobs and have lower earnings. For those and other reasons, many researchers are against spanking.”

    OR you can just take this woman’s advice.

  • Michelle

    It is not like parents just love to spank their kids: They don’t. Yeah, sure, you get abusive people out there, and those people do need to separate from their children until they can control themselves. But look at our generation now. It is not out of the norm to go to a grocery store and see kids throwing fits to the point of ridiculousness. I saw a kid actually smack him mom in the face for making him sit down. What does she do? “Now, now, Aiden, that is not nice.” What??? If I did that when I was young my butt would have been in the bathroom quicker than a president’s drop in approval ratings. And it would have been sore as hell. Don’t get me wrong, I am against kids getting smacked out of anger, that is not right at all. But some kids really do need that extra pop sometimes. Drugs are worse than they ever have been. Crime is worse than it ever has been. Between people thinking they are in charge of repopulating the planet and then on top of that not teaching their kids what consequences are, we are headed for some serious problems. I will not have my child be a part of that, period.

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