Black Woman Berates White Girlfriend In A Harlem Barber Shop, What Would You Do?

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December 9, 2013 ‐ By
What Would You Do

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If you’re familiar with the show “What Would You Do?” You know they put people in tight, yet realistic situations that test people’s moral fiber. And even have you asking yourself what you would have done in the same situation. In one of the latest episodes, an actress “Rachel” is pretending to be a stylist in the popular Harlem barber shop Denny Moe’s. She’s giving eyes to one of the male customers, a black guy, when all of a sudden his white girlfriend walks in. And instead of playing cool or sucking her teeth and rolling her eyes on the low she begins to question the black man for his choice and out and out disrespect the white girl in the place. I mean, she goes in.

Take a look at the video to see how the women and men in the shop respond in this scenario. And then ask yourself–though you could never know until you’re in it–what would you have done in this situation?

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  • TheTimeToStopPostingIsNow

    Aw, poor misunderstood and oppressed white woman. She must face so much racism and hatred for choosing to date a Black guy.

    This is a stupid scenario that depicts Black women in a negative light. Let’s see Black men harassing an interracial couple that included a Black woman instead, because that’s more likely.

    Racism and colorism affect dating preferences, this should be acknowledged and not ignored. Propping white women up on pedestals does not help Black people.

  • http://www.mybootybook.com/ MyBooty Book

    finally something positive. Things are changing for the better. Soon the ignorant will be outnumbered and we can focus on educating young people not to act stupid.

  • fed up

    I wouldn’t do a damn thing. I find it unbelievable that this is even an issue. Are white women some sort of prize or idol that now even the black community jumps on each other for them? Are they THAT much above any sort of criticism? I despise all those jackasses in that video jumping to her rescue. They wouldn’t have done that for a black woman.

    If it’s the black guy’s business who he comes in with it’s the stylist’s business who she rails on. If it were me all those brainwashed black bastards could get up and get the hell out if they had a problem with me talking about Blondie. I deeply despise blacks who break their neck to defend white people and won’t defend each other. If we spent that much energy defending each other we’d be ahead by now.

  • Prince bobby

    I was sitting in the barbershop the other day, a black girl walks in with her white boyfriend, no said anything, but she doesn’t like dudes though. She’s one of those kind of black people who dates interracial and doesn’t like the other sex of her race. Met a of black guys who can’t really stand black women, now I’m seeing a lot of black women who date interacially who are the same way, what’s wrong with these people.

    • Prince bobby

      She doesn’t like Black dudes.

  • Live & Let Live

    Allow me to speak on this because I am the reverse of this scenario. My fiance is white, I’m African American young woman, we’ve been together for five years. I receive racism from white women and black men (sadly)nearly every time we go out. For instance, we went to Chipotle & while we were walking out of the restaurant this black guy had the nerve to roll down his window shout “sellout” & throw A WATER BOTTLE AT ME AND MY fiance. ridiculous. I’ve lost a couple of my friends who are black males bc of our relationship. On a separate occasion, my fiance came to take me to lunch at my place of work and my manger , a white woman, decided to be sneaky and approach him while i was getting my purse she told my him in a very smug tone “wow I didn’t know you like black girls” (he previously worked there & she had a thing for him. Most of the women working there do). I’ve had white women completely give me the most dirty evil looks or purposefully not acknowledge me when I’m with him. So yes I have received the eye rolling and rude comments from white women & black men on multiple occasions. Either way it does not affect our relationship, nor the love we have for one another.

    So to everyone in an interracial relationship, ignore the rude comments and stares. Remember love conquers all :-)

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  • IluvPurdue

    To those saying this wouldn’t happen in real life – it’s happened to me in real life. I once tried to take my son (who is biracial) to a barber on E38th in Nap, and got crap from one of the *men*. Unlike the woman in the video, I didn’t cry – I just got up and took son and my green (which was the only color dude shoulda been worried about anyway) to another barber – and explained that to him on my way out. I’ll love who I want to love, and why I want to love them. If you can’t deal with that for the most ignorant of superficial reasons, then that’s your own ugly, bitter, petty little problem. Miss me.

  • Jason Alan Glazier

    lets reverse this see how many racists people are out there bring a white guy to a harlem barber shop with his black girlfriend

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  • kk

    okay

  • Not a fan of it either

    AND loving your race and wanting to see your race sustain its love within its own group doesn’t mean you’re racist! Please know how to use the word before you go posting it around and labeling everything.

  • Not a fan of it either

    The actress never disrespected the white girl individually. She checked the brother. Im aware that who he’s dating is none of her business in the first place but, what saddens my heart more than anything is that the black people couldn’t wait to come to the white girl’s defense. DO YOU HONESTLY THINK that if this was a white salon in rural georgia, other white ppl in the shop would’ve stuck up for the black woman sitting in as her white bf’s guest EVEN OF THEY FELT EMPATHY?!?!. They stick with theirs regardless of ignorance. We’re always SOOO wiling to bring them into our communities and parade them around as lovers and friends. THEY DON”T EVEN HAVE TO TRY OUT FOR THE TEAM< WE INSTANTLY PUT THEM ON IT. We may get to do that as well in their communities but I bet its with caution. They respect (however ignorant, racist, or biased) the beliefs of a lot of their loved ones are, feelings about race. WE DON'T. At least be sensitive to other people's feelings. A lot of black women WANT black men. A lot of us do wince when we see interracial couples- particularly black men with non black women. especially if we're single. For many of us black women, black men are OUR FIRST CHOICES.

  • Keland

    This experiment won’t be done in the reverse, because White people wouldn’t like it.

    • Weedras

      you don’t watch the show much it seems…

  • Keland

    “Black Woman Berates White Girlfriend In A Harlem Barber Shop, What Would You Do?”

    Okay, this title led me to think this was about a Black woman dating a White woman.

  • James

    I wouldn’t of said anything. Its not my place to get in nobodies argument.

  • Momma Dee Tha Q.U.E.E.N

    Man, that’s not my cup of tea ( white girls & black men,) but I woulda told ole girl 2 chill & leave the white girl alone. I would t say ‘leave the white girl alone…’ I would say leave her alone ( just wanted 2 clarify)

  • yuneygirl

    I have been in this situation before. I could see how uncomfortable the other person was and invited her into my world to let her know that she was no different than I was. She was dating a black man because she loved him and they eventually went on to marry. She admitted to me years later how she felt when I was the first person that treated her respectfully. My mother raised me to be kind to everyone because we never know the shoes people have walked in and we all deserve to be treated with respect, no matter the color of our skin.

  • I_am_a_Gladiator/Scandalista

    Omg, I teared up just a little bit on that last one. There is so much racism in the world and that woman was such a breath of fresh air.

  • http://sexandcola.com/ Arden Christopher

    So this man is getting his hair fresh while he let’s the hairdresser berate his womyn infront of him. On the real, I know he’s an actor and all, and although they didn’t show it, but you know dude was def getting grilled HARD by everyone there, like, “Ayo, you ain’t gonna stick up for the womyn YOU’RE dating tho?”.

    The experiment was alright. It was touching in some areas, but in others it rubbed me the wrong way. Can’t entirely put a finger on what though. The validating of the black aggression trope was one of them though, white tears (although I can understand in this situation), etc. Kind of face-palmed when the Black president as proof of Black people moving forward argument was brought up. *shrugs*

    • hollyw

      LOL you are all the way right. This situation was unreal in sooo many ways… thank you.

  • Modern Curiosity

    This was VERY TOUCHING/HEARTFELT……However, I will also like to see this research done in reverse. White woman being disrespectful in Harlem or anywhere else towards a black girl with a white man. Lets see how many white people are going to speak up even in this modern society

    • Not a Fan of the swirl

      THANK YOU! MY POINT EXACTLY!

      “The actress never disrespected the white girl individually. She checked the brother. Im aware that who he’s dating is none of her business in the first place but, what saddens my heart more than anything is that the black people couldn’t wait to come to the white girl’s defense. DO YOU HONESTLY THINK that if this was a white salon in rural georgia, other white ppl in the shop would’ve stuck up for the black woman sitting in as her white bf’s guest EVEN IF THEY FELT EMPATHY?!?!. They stick with theiR OWN regardless of ignorance. We’re always SOOO wiling to bring them into our communities and parade them around as lovers and friends. THEY DON”T EVEN HAVE TO TRY OUT FOR THE TEAM< WE INSTANTLY PUT THEM ON IT. We may get to do that as well in their communities but I bet its with caution. They respect (however ignorant, racist, or biased) the beliefs of a lot of their loved ones are, feelings about race. WE DON'T. At least be sensitive to other people's feelings. A lot of black women WANT black men. A lot of us do wince when we see interracial couples- particularly black men with non black women. especially if we're single. For many of us black women, black men are OUR FIRST CHOICES."

  • Leah Robinson

    I loved the first women’s approach…but if this were in the D..everybody would be silent out of fear of what may happen once you step out that barber shop.

  • Isi92

    Made me emotional. I love to see people stand up for love in a world that can be so filled with hate and animosity. I’m proud of those who spoke up.

  • 4realdoe

    Remember, the Woman hurling the insults is an ACTOR! This scenario is so UNREALISTIC. They just want to see if black people would take up for a white woman. They should know better. This was just an experiment. They were so disappointed at the women who kept their mouths closed. LOL! What would I do? hell, I’d be looking at her man like, what the hell, you going to let this Women talk to your woman like that. You a punk. I’d wait for him to speak up, that ain’t my place, that’s her man’s place. See how ridiculous that was?

  • VStaccato

    I know my mouth. I would have asked her to be more concerned with getting her massive overbite corrected than trying to chin-check someone in such an ignorant manner. In other words, we’d have probably going toe-to-toe, unfortunately. I can’t stand hateful bullies.

    • VStaccato

      “been going toe-to-toe…”

    • FeelsGood

      You proved my point (again). You are angry for no good reason. Instead of calmly articulating your position, you would resort to name calling and fighting? Go get some help.

    • Not a fan of the swirl

      Feening to attack the black woman. You don’t get it.

  • foodforthought

    I wonder what the outcome would be had this happend in a white environment with a Black woman and White Man…

    • Not a fan of the swirl

      The actress never disrespected the white girl individually. She checked the brother. Im aware that who he’s dating is none of her business in the first place but, what saddens my heart more than anything is that the black people couldn’t wait to come to the white girl’s defense. DO YOU HONESTLY THINK that if this was a white salon in rural georgia, other white ppl in the shop would’ve stuck up for the black woman sitting in as her white bf’s guest EVEN OF THEY FELT EMPATHY?!?!. They stick with theirs regardless of ignorance. We’re always SOOO wiling to bring them into our communities and parade them around as lovers and friends. THEY DON”T EVEN HAVE TO TRY OUT FOR THE TEAM< WE INSTANTLY PUT THEM ON IT. We may get to do that as well in their communities but I bet its with caution. They respect (however ignorant, racist, or biased) the beliefs of a lot of their loved ones are, feelings about race. WE DON'T. At least be sensitive to other people's feelings. A lot of black women WANT black men. A lot of us do wince when we see interracial couples- particularly black men with non black women. especially if we're single. For many of us black women, black men are OUR FIRST CHOICES.

  • blogdiz

    I’m familiar with this show and i cant believe that this is its “such a problem ” that they decided to take it on .. I have NEVER seen a BW do this in all my life and IM Sick and tired of The Media and thier Angry insecure BW Stereotype ranting against IR the umpteenth time WE DONT CARE .! WW and BM need to stop playing the victim and admit that the most venomous attacks to these relationships is often within the WW own family …Lets do a piece about that …shall we

    • A.H.

      They’ve done pieces about racist white families before. They’ve covered just about every scenario possible–except this one. Just because you haven’t seen it before doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist and shouldn’t be called out. Wrong is wrong.

      • hollyw

        WRONG. Wrong is portraying a rare incident as if it’s an epidemic, and in this country’s most historic Black neighborhoods, no less.

        To be noted, in almost all WWYD episodes, there is someone who fails the test and shows their ignorance. In this scenario, NONE did. Because it doesn’t happen!

        This was nothing more than a fetishized attempt at getting a glimpse into Black society, and it didn’t work.

    • Not a fan of the swirl

      We don’t have to be angry to care.

  • PolkaDotAfroCircus

    Dating white men, I was spoken to very rudely by black men and white women. Black women seemed to have no problem with interracial dating then. It seems to me that the real problem is jealousy. And small people always use the default insults to justify their feelings. They weren’t mad because the men were white and I was black. They were mad because we looked good and happy together, and they were alone and bitter. Racism is an outward expression of inner self-hate. If you’re happy inside, and you love yourself, can a swirl really anger you?

  • Cheryl Christopher

    I am a firm believer that when you duplicate what was done and become what you hate, who aspires to that? My name is Cheryl Vernett Green Christopher and I KNOW why I am here.

    • Chey

      LMBO…good to meetcha!

  • educateyourself

    I am a blubbering mess right now.

  • Guest

    Look, I see black men with white or other non-black women and black women with non-black men everyday, do I let that bother me? Hell no! We have a right to date whomever we want. There are people who don’t find love in their race and happen to fall in love with people from other races, that’s their preference and it doesn’t affect me at all, as long as they’re in love and not abusing each other. I have a cousin whose been married to his wife for 19 years and have 2 kids together and she’s white. At first my female relatives couldn’t stand her, my grandmother, my mom, 3 of my aunts and I (me being 14 at the time) got to know her and she’s has a big heart, even watches my children when my husband and I go out on date night every Friday and Saturday and don’t charge us a dime to watch our 4 kids even though we pay them anyway. Even though they’re acting on this show, in real life people especially black men and black women need to let other people be and stay out of other people personal lives.

    • Guest

      Who would thumb this comment down, oh year a bitter person who can’t stand to see the world changing. Good for you to not act ratchet and hateful to your cousin’s wife, my uncle is married to a white woman and none of us aren’t peed off about it, that’s his preference if she’s making him happy then so be it.

  • alexa

    black women jus ghetto plain n simple whit women have class and know when 2 shut up i cant stand black women the only black women i like is beyonce n kim kardashian so ghetto all the time ewwwwwwww

    • Devil’s Advocate

      Guess if you’ve been known for s*xing black men all your life, you’re automatically become Black? Kim Kardashian is middle-eastern you ignorant woman.

  • IAmMe

    I am replying because this episode spoke volumes. We as people must to realize that we are all within a race of humans. My race, color, or creed doesn’t define me, my personality and attitude defines who I am. What one person doesn’t see, the next person will. I love this show!

    • Straight Up

      “We” black people don’t need to realize that, we are not the ones exporting oppression across the globe. Why don’t you save that bull hockey for your caucasian friends

  • Jennifer Rita Harris

    I’m a white woman married to a black man. I’ve white men and black men and men from other countries but it happened to be that I fell in love with one man and he was black. We have a 17 year old daughter who is gorgeous and smart and passionate and identifies as black and I’m happy with that. I have never had a black woman say anything to me in public, but online I have and I take it. I nod my head and I accept how they feel and I validate it. How can I not? I have a gorgeous, strong and beautiful black daughter. I’m not going to get all knee jerky if a black woman takes issue with my relationship because while I can’t relate to the struggle of the black woman, I know it exists. I love my black sisters because over the years I’ve met many wonderful women that have help me raise my daughter and help guide me with issues that I can’t understand being a white woman. I appreciate them for everything they do and everything they stand for.

    • Suchalady

      Awesome

    • Michelle Kirkwood

      Sweet! You get it!

    • Not a fan of the swirl

      hmm I’m sure I’d be one of those grimacing black one to roll my eyes at you and your husband, but at least you’re respectful and you get it.

      • liveandletlive

        That just makes you look bitter and sad…

      • Jennifer Rita Harris

        LOL, I do..well, I TRY to..I can’t say I always get it but I do my best because my daughter struggles at times with messages that are bombarded at her that she’s not as beautiful (which is bullcrap, because my daughter is gooorrrfreakinggeous!!!) But, if it means a thing, he also loves black women..he just loves..women. ;)

  • Thoughts:::

    I’d really like to see the reverse because I know as black women we get more “hurt/inquisitive/confused” than angry at interracial couples. We don’t have a history of racism. Let’s see the reverse of this and find out how much racism still exists in the white community??????

  • dhgwen

    Are poor white women being persecuted so much on the streets and in barbershops across the nation that ABC had to take on this issue? PLEASE gimme a break! I don’t know one black woman that would take the time to berate a white woman over dating a black man. This scenario just plays into the stereotype of the angry/bitter black woman and the poor helpless “all I wanna do is love” white one. I call BS on this hype.

    • Just My Opinion

      I’m glad I’m not the only one drinking the kool-aid. I said the exact same thing. I don’t know if you all watch the show regularly but they often switch the race but keep the same situation. It’s funny how this particular scenario wasn’t done that way.

    • LoveJoy02

      Cosign, this is so hyped. I have NEVER in my life seen any black woman berate some white woman on IR relationships. … and I’ve lived all across the U.S. and in 2 different countries…
      They needed ratings and sensationalizing the supposed ABW is sure too get ppl watching…
      It must be a slow month. ..

      • 4realdoe

        Yes, this was so unrealistic!

      • hollyw

        A friend of mine posted this yesterday, and when I said the same thing, I swear everybody was like, “You must be one of those women…” What?? Lol I live in Harlem! This NEVER happens! Ever!!!

      • loveandlove

        You have never seen it? You must not be around many IR couples in public. Even if no one says anything, there’s always somebody giving the side eye or looking like they just found sh** on the bottom of their shoe.

    • Cheryl Christopher

      Perhaps the point has been missed: Maybe every person in that barbershop felt EXACTLY as you do — Ain’t NEVER seen no SH*T like this. Publicly taking issue?Vocalizing dissension? In your face? Scenario was provided, reaction recorded. And it is STILL being recorded via our comments. Let the compilation of the statistics commence. You know, social experiment.

      • dhgwen

        A wack, nonsensical, irrelevant “social experiment”, that once again, paints the always blameless white woman as a victim of so-called black intimidation. Clutch your purse and cross the street. FAIL!

        • 4realdoe

          OMG! yes, these comments need more likes. Thanx Yall!

    • Ray

      CO-SIGN

    • Self-Hating Negro Slayer

      “Conspiracy to Destroy Black Woman”. I ordered the book around November 4. The seller claimed it was mailed on the 11th. Still have yet to receive it. I’ve been ordering from Amazon for years, and have never had an issue with an order until now. The dude/woman said they will mail out another one…. we shall see.

      What is my point? Every d@mn thing is my point. Conspiracy to Destroy Black Women!!!

    • I_am_a_Gladiator/Scandalista

      I sort of see what you are saying but I saw it as the black actress being the actual voice of what a lot of black women think inside their heads when it comes to black men dating white women. While most would not be so open about voicing their opinions, we do speak on it to our friends/family or think it.

      • hollyw

        But it still defeats the purpose of the show, which is what would you do if faced with discrimination, crime, a beggar, etc., but things that happen on a regular basis. They had to hype thI’d situation up 10x to get a response from strangers, just so the host could call this blatant “racism”.

        Most people would react in the face of harassment, which was what was being depicted.

    • Toni Osinubi

      Exactly!!!!!!!!!!!! Overhyped. Another white women are innocent/ black women are evil discussion. I have received so much animosity from white women for dating white men. They look down on me and gossip behind my back and they always voice their disapproval so ummmm white women are worse cuz they’re fake to your face.

  • Brooklyn_Beauty_Danni

    I’m in an interracial relationship and I cannot believe the stupidity that exists! I experience it more from AA than any other racial group. This video brought tears to my eyes!

  • EE Blue

    Switch roles now. White barbershop and Back dude comes in with a white gf.
    Or a White guy comes in with a Blck gf.

    • EE Blue

      Black.

      • FeelsGood

        I see your point….but let’s not go there.

        • VStaccato

          Why not go there? What’s the difference? OHHH! Because us Black women would clown like MFers if a White girl (gasp!) went in on our man! Please, let’s DO go there!

          • FeelsGood

            Why the hell are you so hostile? And by you “clowning” would make it right? Grow up and take your azz to anger management. You got issues.

          • Not a fan of the swirl

            Exactly!
            The actress never disrespected the white girl individually. She checked the brother. Im aware that who he’s dating is none of her business in the first place but, what saddens my heart more than anything is that the black people couldn’t wait to come to the white girl’s defense. DO YOU HONESTLY THINK that if this was a white salon in rural georgia, other white ppl in the shop would’ve stuck up for the black woman sitting in as her white bf’s guest EVEN OF THEY FELT EMPATHY?!?!. They stick with theirs regardless of ignorance. We’re always SOOO wiling to bring them into our communities and parade them around as lovers and friends. THEY DON”T EVEN HAVE TO TRY OUT FOR THE TEAM< WE INSTANTLY PUT THEM ON IT. We may get to do that as well in their communities but I bet its with caution. They respect (however ignorant, racist, or biased) the beliefs of a lot of their loved ones are, feelings about race. WE DON'T. At least be sensitive to other people's feelings. A lot of black women WANT black men. A lot of us do wince when we see interracial couples- particularly black men with non black women. especially if we're single. For many of us black women, black men are OUR FIRST CHOICES.

            • liveandletlive

              WHY would she “check the brother” over something that is none of her business? Bitter.

    • hollyw

      It was already done. They recapped it in this same episode.

  • Joy Gerardi

    Big applause to Madame Noire and WWYD. This is subject rarely gets talked about. Being in a long term interracial relationship, I would say from experience that most of the racism we’ve gotten was from black women. I am quick to engage in discussion with them about the subject: “hey! that comment really honored the civil rights movement and advancement of African American people. Never mind racist politics, media oppression, cyclical poverty, lack of opportunity, segregation, and income disparity. Nice job fueling your energy on the real problem. White bishes!” “Please do take me dating him as a personal attack. I had absolutely no business falling in love with him as a person. Guess I’m busted for fueling the agenda of “taking away all of the good black men.” Shame on him for not being black enough for wanting to be with me. Never mind that I am a good, hardworking, educated woman who treats him well…Shame on us!” I really liked what everyone had to say in the video. Independent of my relationship (prior to), I have always been a civil rights advocate/champion. I would like all races to engage in minority empowerment discussions- one gentlemen in the video said something to the effect of drugs use being a problem, not interracial relationships. Thank you very much for the discussion, Madame Noire.

    • Toni Osinubi

      I hate when I read this. Somehow making black women out to be the haters. I’ve dated 4 white men seriously in my life and the difference is white people are very low key with their disapproval. White friends I swore were my friends said evil stuff behind my back like “why are so dating a N-word” “why can’t you date one with light skin?” And white girls were the biggest haters. They always gossipped behind my back and I walked in on one saying “you know black girls are loose he’s prolly with her cuz she sucks his d**k” real scenarios. So stop making it seem like it’s only black women who are hateful. Funny thing is none of the hate was ever directed at my white boyfriends. But always at me. White people called me turd-colored nigger,slut, good digger (despite me having more money than my boyfriends).

      • Joy Gerardi

        Sincerest apologies for the late reply. I could only speak from my own experience and I did not at all intend for this to be a blanket statement. Not to quote the cliche “but my best friends are black,” but they are and I am well aware that just because I don’t engage in that behavior that it isn’t still rampant in our society. Again, I am truly sorry that you, too had to experience this. You said it yourself, “white people are very low key with their disapproval.” I do not receive “low key” approval. Nevertheless, I wish that our society was more progressive and less hate(r)ful. Thank you for sharing. All the best, truly.

    • Jennifer Rita Harris

      Wow..really. There is so much micro-aggression and institutional racism that exists in this country to this very day. All you need to do is look at how the congress deals with her TWICE elected VERY qualified President to see. I can’t hate someone for being frustrated with my relationship. End of story. However, depending on the color is going to gauge how I react. White person has a problem with my relationship? Well, to effing bad (can we cuss here? I hope we can. LOL), get the heck over it..however, black person has a problem with my relationship..I understand. I’m not gonna divorce the man I love and have been married to for 17 years but you know what..I’m gonna freakin’ understand. It’s the LEAST thing I can freaking do as a white woman (and let’s not even get into how feminism has abandoned the black woman, that’s a rant for another day). You know, Einstein once said that racism is the disease of white people.and it is. It is OUR freaking disease. OUR freaking problem. There is NO reverse racism..yes, there is bigotry but the institution that brought black people here, then proceeded to subjugate them after their “freedom”, the institution that proceeded to oppress them with Jim Crow, the SAME institution that jails black men (for things like simple drug possession) and the incarceration gap is widening (even though white men possess drugs at the same rate) and then I’m gonna get a butt hurt because a black woman may or may not be uncomfortable because of my relationship. No, sorry..I don’t play that game..if it’s not a woman’s fault she is raped then it’s not a black person’s fault there is racism and I’m not gonna throw attitude back on a woman of color for being hurt or angry or whatever she’s feeling because a) it’s not right and b) if someone did that to my daughter they better not do it in front of me.

  • enlightenment

    Some black people harbor tons of resentment towards white people because of our history and ongoing race-war. It’s more than just the interracial relationship, it’s deeper than that. Some black women might look at the black man like “why are you sleeping with the enemy?!” Or think that the black man has self-hate.

    But it’s just none of our business who someone chooses to date. We really can’t help who we love or who we’re attracted to. The same woman who chastises the black man for dating a white girl might find herself dating a white man one day; you never know. Don’t be bitter, do better. The man who spoke up articulated it the best, we just need to move forward.

    • VStaccato

      Beautifully stated and true!

    • Straight Up

      that man that spoke up was a deluded idiot. Only black people buy into that “come as you are” “love everyone” nonsense. If blacks were more tribal and unified, we’d be a lot further along than we are today…..instead we are too busy loving our oppressors. SAD!

      • We are not mad because we care

        Right ON!

        The actress never disrespected the white girl individually. She checked the brother. Im aware that who he’s dating is none of her business in the first place but, what saddens my heart more than anything is that the black people couldn’t wait to come to the white girl’s defense. DO YOU HONESTLY THINK that if this was a white salon in rural georgia, other white ppl in the shop would’ve stuck up for the black woman sitting in as her white bf’s guest EVEN OF THEY FELT EMPATHY?!?!. They stick with theirs regardless of ignorance. We’re always SOOO wiling to bring them into our communities and parade them around as lovers and friends. THEY DON”T EVEN HAVE TO TRY OUT FOR THE TEAM< WE INSTANTLY PUT THEM ON IT. We may get to do that as well in their communities but I bet its with caution. They respect (however ignorant, racist, or biased) the beliefs of a lot of their loved ones are, feelings about race. WE DON'T. At least be sensitive to other people's feelings. A lot of black women WANT black men. A lot of us do wince when we see interracial couples- particularly black men with non black women. especially if we're single. For many of us black women, black men are OUR FIRST CHOICES.

        • Janae

          I thought that the barber was wrong but I have never seen this before. I would not be sitting there arguing with another black girl defending a white girl. However, I would not stay in there and hear any two women argue, black/white, black/black whatever. I would not be preaching to anybody to accept anybody’s relationship because I could care less either way. A lot of black women care a lot less than people think.
          And a lot of black women want black men but a lot also want to date out. I don’t get particularly mad because I think that eventually the rest of black women are going to see that black men did them a favor by going after white women and others.

        • liveandletlive

          Wince away. Sorry ’boutcha!

        • WholeHeart

          If the white people in rural Georgia are caught on camera not sticking up for the black girlfriend in every take, doesn’t that just end up showing black people as morally superior? That’s what I came away with when I watched the clip. But then I read the comments, especially this one, and am reminded of the complexity of views from both races, which is reality of course. You could redo your imagined scenario in another part of the country and have a different outcome. It saddens me to see that you’re saddened to see any human come to another human’s defense.

        • Anthony blak martian Tinney

          Please explain why was it o.k for the actress to “CHECK” that man about HIS LIFE CHOICES.Black women have a real bad habit of sticking their noses in affairs that do not concern them.I`ll say it once again ATTN BLACK WOMEN:THE BLACK MAN IS NOT YOUR PROPERTY!!!!!

          • Prince bobby

            I you truly believe that, then why do you identity yourself as a BLACK. It’s much deeper then that, this is a community, if you see yourself as an individual, the you have to disenfranchise yourself from the black community. Something that’s very difficult for people like you to do, but I see no reason for you to have racial identity.

    • Michelle Kirkwood

      There’s a really good film called THE SALON in which a sister confronts a white girl who’s dating one of the brothers who works there about being with him at all—it’s one of the best scenes in the film, and is also funny as hell since the white girl gives as good as she gets.

    • Not a fan of the swirl

      You have it wrong sweetheart, perhaps you’re already married to a wonderful black man and you’re not bothered. But we’re not bitter, we simply want our men. It is much deeper than the surface. We’re missing a lot of love in our communities. Until little black girls can go to school without being chastised for their natural curl or we can look on tv and see and black love portrayed A LOT MORE other than on BET, we will continue to wince.

      • Janae

        Please, please stop wincing! Most of us don’t care.

      • enlightenment

        Go ‘head & wince on your own. Ain’t nobody got the time or the energy to focus on who someone else loves.

  • FeelsGood

    This has a powerful message. The last scenario brought tears to my eyes. Racism of any kind is just wrong…and sad.

    • not a fan of the swirl

      Wanting to strengthen and sustain love within your own group is not racist. We can love ourselves without hating you or whomever.

      • oneracehuman

        Let someone say that about white people “strengthen and sustaining love within your own group” and see what you say to that.

  • thatonegirl

    Racism on any level is unacceptable. However, to be real who brings their girlfriend to the barbershop? It’s like bringing your man to the salon. Also who would feel comfortable enough to bring their white girlfriend to a barbershop in Harlem? I know people should feel comfortable anywhere they go but let’s be real here for a second. What Would You Do was reaching on this episode, sorry.

    • enlightenment

      I can’t agree. I used to go to Dominican Salons every week and I would see tons of women ask their boyfriends/husbands to come in and for a short conversation or to bring them food.

      Same in barbershops. I’ve seen women just sit there to keep their man company. While some people wouldn’t feel comfortable bringing their white mate to a Harlem salon/barbershop bc of the stares/looks, I don’t think it’s a completely unrealistic fantasy or something.

    • Marsha Booker

      I have gone to the barbershop with my husband several times and yes he has had to be at the salon with me for whatever reason. If you had interracial grandchildren or family members that are in an interracial relationship would you sit by and be silent when they were being attacked for the same thing? I prefer that my sons marry Black women and that my daughters marry Black men, but that is my preference. However if their mates loved them I can certainly look past their color and accept them with open loving arms. By the way I do have family members that are from bi-racial relationships and I don’t recall at any time when our color was ever mentioned. Is Harlem out-of-this world where Blacks and Whites don’t have relationships? I think this was a great episode and two thumbs up to those that took a stance.

      • MLS2698

        Let me tell you a little secret: Men in barbershops look like simps when they walk in with their women; and some get dogged out later for it. The only exception is for single women who bring their young children. As for a man who goes to the salon with a woman…well, why don’t you let him be surprised at how well your hair was styled, instead of letting him see the whole process? Also, don’t make him hold your purse while shopping……

        • Michelle Kirkwood

          Who the heck cares? As far as I’m concerned, men should how you get your hair done so they can see just how much work actually goes into it, and that excellent hairstyles just don’t pop up out of nowhere. Seriously, this is the 20th century–it’s a waste of time to get hung up on whether a man rolls up in the barbershop with his sig nif or not.

          • MLS2698

            And this, my dear, is how simps are made…..

            • James Andrew Baggett

              Nah…simps are made of men that are human doormats. I don’t see how accompanying one’s girlfriend/wife to the hairdresser does so. I go with my wife when she gets her locs touched up…of course I walk around the local stores. then come back when she’s done. But I fail to see how a man is a simp by just chilling in the waiting area.

              • MLS2698

                Congrats! You are on your way to being one. You’re walking around now….but soon, you will be in the salon.

                • James Andrew Baggett

                  Whatever pal, I’m happily married….what are you? I ain’t sitting in there with her…I still do my own thing until she’s done and calls my cell phone so I can rendezvous with her. So before slapping a label on someone, how about thinking outside your own narrow point of view and grow up.

                  • MLS2698

                    Pal? You sound like ” Don Johnson ” from the 1980s ” Miami Vice ” episodes.

                    • James Andrew Baggett

                      Not necessarily a bad thing….I like the reruns of that show.

                    • MLS2698

                      Okay. But please keep up with the newer posts!

    • ExperienceIsEducation

      There were several women in the lobby during the 1st scenario- maybe this doesn’t fit the typical barbershop. It’s not like she was the only woman there. Harlem or not- if the sole purpose someone isn’t comfortable going into a shop is because it’s a “black place” or a “white place,” that’s undertones of racism. You need to listen to the message some of the non-actors were sharing. Rise up together…we can’t do it alone.

    • Keland

      This wasn’t racism.

  • Resa

    You failed ti mention that the male customer and his ‘girlfriend’ were also actors. What bothers a few does not bother the majority. Love has no cokor.

  • Crystal Yasmeen Lewis-Milledge

    Id call her out on it because im in a interracial relationship and so many people are quick to speak because very little people do anything to help

  • heyheynow

    Man that video was powerful. I’m not sure what I would have done. I don’t think that anyone should be embarrassed and called out like that despite how I feel about interracial relationships. No I don’t always support them but I might have said something I’m not sure. That HR representive today all I can say is preachhhhh!

  • Chey

    That’s a toughie… I can understand both sides.

    • Herm Cain

      Ain’t no both sides if black women shouldn’t be publicly berated in disrespected white women shouldn’t either take color out of the situation it’s just plain unnecessary disrespect

      • Chey

        Who said that? I simply stated that I can understand both arguments, not that she should be publicly berated.

      • Prince bobby

        Well, maybe it is disrespectful, but maybe they shouldn’t bring that type of relationship around this community. Both sides gotta be respectful though.

  • Laine

    This made me cry…wow…!

  • Trisha_B

    I love this show!!! It always leaves me wondering if i would speak up. & honestly, idk lol
    if this was a real situation, no one else would have to jump in b/c her man would have (& should) defended her

    • heyheynow

      exactly and then how ever the manager was of the store should be the one to say excuse me can I see you in my office and tell her that her behavior is inappropriate.

    • hollyw

      EXACTLY! This ish was so staged. I have never seen a Black man date a white woman, in a Black neighborhood, no less, and not walk around like he’s preparing for battle everyday! I thought the dude had left, for a minute lol…

      • Keland

        Of course it was staged. That is what ‘What Would You Do?” does.

        • hollyw

          Yes, I’m aware of this…lol. I mean the scenario was fake, like, trumped up. It never happens in the way they staged it to get the reactions.

          • Keland

            I understand.

  • cryssi

    Okay, that video was moving lol….I would like to believe I would speak up.

  • coolyfett

    This is one of those moments where you pull out your phone and start texting as if these girl is not even in the shop.

    • Karin

      lmao. This show actually covered this before; using technology as a distraction. haha