“I’m Tired Of Missionary! What Are The Best Sex Positions For Plus-Size Women?”

October 4, 2013  |  

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From Essence 

Dear Abiola,

I met a man that is so awesome to me. It’s hard to put into words how fantastic our relationship is. We have such amazing chemistry and I do not want that to ever go away.

Let me just say, the sex is good and has always been fun. We talk and laugh during sex which I think helps me get in the grove a lot better. Even though I have some serious insecurity issues due to my physique, he makes me feel special in moments of intimacy that allows me to be open.

Problem? I am plus size and he is average (both is height and in “manhood”). He can handle me pretty well given our height differences but when we are intimate we typically stick to just missionary. However, I want to try something else to spice up our love life. He is totally OK with being on top but I fear that one day, he will get bored of our love life and want something more.

We’ve tried a few new positions but due to my size in weight, it was rather difficult. I am finding that with missionary, I do not always have an and sometimes it takes us having sex multiple times in one night before I get off.

What are some positions or intimate moments you can suggest for women who are a bit larger that allows us both to enjoy sex?

Thanks in advance!

Wondering in Wisconsin

Read Abiola’s response at Essence. com 

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  • JerzeeGurl

    Wow just looking at these comments lets me know that there are a lot of butt holes in this world.

  • Tonyoardee

    The best position is a gym membership

    • nyPie88


  • Lilly Pop

    Girl you just lazy. Seriously.

  • vanelle22

    doggystyle and the scissors work best with me when I gain weight….when I lost my weight I love being on top and doing the crouching tiger…..its def great.

  • Nope

    “I am plus size and he is average (both is height and in “manhood”).”

    She was able to spin this better than a Republican. Look lady, it’s probably because you have a whole lot more body mass for him to work with to begin with.

  • datruth

    How about a diet and the gym. That would really satisfy your husband. Do you really believe he likes your rolls, cellulite, and stretch marks. Every time you guys have sex he is thinking of something slim and beautiful. LOL

    • JustSaying

      I’m sorry but I know plenty SLIM & BEAUTIFULs that are LONELY, DESPARATE & NEEDY!!!js


    The best positions are the Squat,the Bench press and a really good one the stair climber.If you don’t weight 300 pounds then you would love missionary.

    • chanela

      DAMNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN i thought those were actual positions. sMH

    • cb

      bench press?

  • FromUR2UB

    “We talk and laugh during sex” I don’t know why that strikes me as hilarious. That just really struck my funny bone…picturing these people laughing it up during sex. Is this real?

    • Bits

      Right! If its good like its suppose to be ain’t nobody gonna be laughing! Sucking your thumb, curling your toes or scratching the hell out of his back maybe. But laughing? I think not.

      • Let It Be

        LMAO @ sucking your thumb!!!!!

    • Candacey Doris

      It’s actually pretty sad to me that you never talk or have fun when doing things with the one you love. Sex is pretty ridiculous a thing no matter how it feels.


    doggy style no doubt

  • Get thee to a gym. When your weight starts limiting your life its time to drop some.

  • Justine

    I’m a size 14 and I love my sexxx in doggy style and cowgirl, my husband and I love both those positions. I feel my g-spot more when I do those positions and my hubby loves to grab my butt and give it a little spank during DS and grab my breasts and butt in the cowgirl. Missionary just seen so boring to me.

    • Let It Be

      Oh well damn! Lol!

  • charrisse