The Rolling Stones once professed, “I Can’t Get No Satisfaction,” but with all due respect, they must have been speaking only for themselves. While millions of women may have danced along to the 1965 release of that song, a great percentage of those women had long before figured out countless ways of achieving “satisfaction” on their very own.
Be it with the help of eager fingers, a vibrating foreign object, or with a showerhead, orgasms have been achieved without the assistance of a significant other since there’s been grass on this green earth. There have been depictions of female self-stimulating in artwork since prehistory; and there have been devices constructed to facilitate female sexual stimulation no later than 1734, when French inventor Dr. Joesph Mortimer Granville patented the first modern vibrator, called the ‘Tremoussoir.” The modern woman knows the benefit of being able to stimulate oneself, and finds the act of self-pleasuring as natural as walking. Though failure to doesn’t conflict with ideas of modernity in women –after all, only about 63 percent of all women do it.
Perhaps, these new attitudes are a result of the sexual revolution, or because we’re in the age of instant gratification, or perhaps it’s an inevitable reaction to the comparable ease in which men have been able to achieve their own sexual peaks. Either way, the act of “loving oneself” has become easier as technology has become more and more interested in helping women reach that critical point. Also, the advantages have become more apparent in recent years: it eases depression, lowers blood pressure, can lead to a high sense of self-esteem, and can create awareness as well as a system of balance within sexual relationships.
That said, many women find guilt and fault in the fact that their lovers are unable to bring them to a climax, though they, alone, can reach that point through private practice. But, the simple fact is, no one knows your body quite as well as you do. If your boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other simply can’t access that “spot” after well-appreciated but exhaustive accumulative hours trying, there is absolutely no shame in literately taking the matters into your own hands, and showing them how it’s done. The act, all-in-all, is entirely about being selfish –in an enjoyable way. It’s about accomplishing a private goal, and learning that the effort and time invested in pleasing someone else should also be invested in delighting yourself and learning about your wants and desires.
Become the master of your own satisfaction. Browse the countless websites, books, and blogs which provide tips and insights to help women learn about self-exploration. Discover one of the hundreds of stores dedicated to the effort, stocked and geared toward helping women with what comes so easily to some many men–an opportunity for a solo sexual release.
