Third- Party Action: The Benefits of Couples Counseling Before Saying “I Do”

March 9, 2013  |  
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7. Learn to Anticipate Challenges

All relationships will encounter challenges, so learning to anticipate scenarios that can or will cause conflict in the relationship is key in overcoming those challenges when they arise – or in keeping them from rearing their ugly heads at all. For example, if you know that a potential new job will require you to travel, but you know you want to start a family soon, this is something you can discuss with your partner proactively so that you can come to an agreement on you guys’ next move. Having a strong relationship requires work, which means you can’t passively sit back and wait for situations to creep up that could negatively affect your relationship. You have to take ownership of your partnership and a counselor can help you learn how to keep your relationship alive.

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  • Annie

    I’m 41 years old and my husband has recently told me that he wanted out of the marriage and he actually left a few days later, after 21 years of marriage…
    …After the initial shock wore off and I was able to think straight…

    …I was able to persuade him to give me and the marriage another chance…
    …I had to wing it with only the strategies in the “save the marriage” book

  • Jazmine

    Most couples only think counseling is for AFTER the marriage, not before…because they think if they need counseling before the marriage, then they shouldn’t be getting married. Which MAY BE TRUE!! We would probably have a lower divorce rate if people did this. Good advice

  • Nikki

    Where I live, the marriage license fee is $30 more if you don’t go to pre-marital counseling. I think it’s a great way to discuss topics that make you uncomfortable, such as finances or grounds for divorce-if any. The marriage counselor might bring up something that you may have forgotten to talk about, like TV or no TV in the bedroom.