Third- Party Action: The Benefits of Couples Counseling Before Saying “I Do”
1. Determine if You Are Compatible
Sometimes folks can fall in love before they even discover if they’re compatible. It may be chemical, it may be lust, or sheer infatuation, but a lot of times people can find themselves in relationships with people they have nothing in common with. This isn’t to say that opposites can’t attract and have successful relationships; but most times, if you don’t share core values, the relationship will quickly deteriorate. A therapist can help you determine if you both are on the same page when it comes to topics or issues that are near and dear to both of you. If one of you is deeply religious, for example, while the other is an atheist, a counselor can help you both determine if that will be a deal breaker or something you both can respect about each other and move forward. Once the allure of the “in love” feeling wears off and reality sets in, you have to really “like” each other in order for your relationship to last, so compatibility is key.