Third- Party Action: The Benefits of Couples Counseling Before Saying “I Do”

March 9, 2013  |  

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9. Fall in Love Again

Sometimes couples have been together so long that they forget what it was like in the very beginning. You know, the flowers, the romance, the butterflies in your stomach that drove you crazy with anticipation when you were planning to see each other. But when the honeymoon stage wears off and reality sets in, you may need help remembering why you fell in love in the first place. That’s not to suggest that you have fallen out of love, you may just need a relationship “pick-me-up” so that you can back to loving and feeling loved all over again. Sometimes, celebrating your love by getting a “tune-up” is a great way to get back that loving feeling. Appreciate the fact that you work at your relationship and relish in the union you’ve created. If you’ve been doing a great job at managing your relationship, counseling is a good way to give yourselves a pat on the back for a job well done.

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  • Annie

    I’m 41 years old and my husband has recently told me that he wanted out of the marriage and he actually left a few days later, after 21 years of marriage…
    …After the initial shock wore off and I was able to think straight…

    …I was able to persuade him to give me and the marriage another chance…
    …I had to wing it with only the strategies in the “save the marriage” book

  • Jazmine

    Most couples only think counseling is for AFTER the marriage, not before…because they think if they need counseling before the marriage, then they shouldn’t be getting married. Which MAY BE TRUE!! We would probably have a lower divorce rate if people did this. Good advice

  • Nikki

    Where I live, the marriage license fee is $30 more if you don’t go to pre-marital counseling. I think it’s a great way to discuss topics that make you uncomfortable, such as finances or grounds for divorce-if any. The marriage counselor might bring up something that you may have forgotten to talk about, like TV or no TV in the bedroom.