Good Reasons To Keep Your Relationship Status Off Facebook

March 25, 2013  |  
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Social networking is no longer about getting back into touch with people we haven’t talked to in years. Instead, it’s become a platform for people to spill and share their life on a 24/7 basis. You see people Facebooking their relationship, Tweeting their work day, and Instagramming their dates. When you’re in a relationship, it’s likely that you feel the need to tell everyone about it. However, there are some positives to keeping your relationship on the down low. Like these:

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Sharing makes room for negative comments

When you first begin dating someone, you’re bound to get comments, but you’ll get even more reactions when you publish it on Facebook. Once you open your relationship to your social circle, be prepared for some commentary, some of which you really may not like.

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It makes for easier breakups

Ending a relationship is tough enough, but having to break the news to all of your Facebook friends is even worse. No one wants to share with hundreds of people that their relationship has just ended. Going from “in a relationship” to “it’s complicated” draws a lot unwanted attention in a time that’s already painful.

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It creates pressure in a relationship

This can go either way, but maybe you or your guy insists on changing each others relationship status. Or maybe you feel inclined to change yours because you want to show that you’re loyal and you know it’ll cause some drama if you don’t change it. This can cause all sort of resentment and can bring negativity into your relationship.

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You’ll have less explaining to do

Even if your relationship is on the rocks, it isn’t usually wise to share that information on Facebook by changing your status to say “it’s complicated.” This change will only open up a world of explaining for you to do. A good amount of your friends are bound to ask “what happened?” “are you okay?,” and so on.

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Less people will hound you

Facebook has somehow become the new dating site, and if your relationship status is set to single, you may be in for a rude awakening. It’s all but promised that you’ll get a lot of winks, messages, pokes, and invitations, all because your Facebook implies that you’re single (and looking). Beware that other singles, looking to change their status, are always lurking.

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There’ll be less drama all around

By keeping your relationship off of Facebook, you are bound to have less outside drama. Girls can be petty, just like guys, and there is always someone out there who would love to ruin what you have. Add all of this to the pettiness that you already have to deal with off the web, and you’ve got your hands full. No public relationship status, less problems.

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You avoid bringing your ex into the loop

If you’re like a lot of people, you still have your ex as a friend on Facebook. When your relationship changes to “in a relationship,” it’s all but certain that there will be some bad vibes coming from his direction. This can easily push your ex to become a stalker who tries to disrupt your relationship. Keeping your relationship status private may keep your ex at bay.

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Less people will be interfering

When your relationship status is set to” in a relationship,” you’ll find that a lot more people take interest in it. Even if you want to share the happy news and details, remember that the relationship is between you two, and no one else. It’s sometimes wisest to only share your relationship details with those closest to you opposed to all of the 600 friends you have on Facebook.

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It lessens the opportunity to be blackmailed

This may sound a bit extreme, but it has happened. Maybe a girl your guy is friends with likes him. Or maybe she was interested in him but he choose you over her. Whatever the case may be, publicly showing that you’re in a relationship with this guy can lead to all sorts of blackmailing from girls who just don’t want to face to facts.

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You avoid unnecessary outside pressure

Some people really get into a rut about how they will share the big news with their friends. Should you post a Facebook status? Change your relationship status? Create a new hashtag on Twitter? Post a picture of you and your new boyfriend? Obviously all of this can be eliminated if you just keep things on the down low and tell people as you see fit.

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There will be less judgement from others

One week you’re in a relationship with one guy. The next week you’re single. And two weeks later you’re seeing someone new. While this may not seem like a big deal, announcing it to dozens, if not hundreds of people, opens your life up to a lot of judgement. This will be problematic if you’re sensitive.

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Relationship information can be viewed by employers

You’ve likely seen all of the stories about employers checking up on their employees or potential employees’ Facebook profiles. Maybe you’re in a relationship with someone who isn’t an exactly upstanding person. Or maybe you’re dating someone who already works for that employer. Sometimes your relationship status can get in the way in the professional world.

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There’s less room for confusion

Sometimes people become so wrapped up in other parts of social networking that they forget all about what they have set as their relationship status. Even if your “its complicated” relationship has since ended, you may forget to change it. This could cause issues in the future if you start talking to someone new.

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You avoid letting your parents know too soon

Even if you’re above the legal age, your parents may still be strict about who you can and cannot date. Some parents want to know the person their child is dating before it’s made official. This also applies if your parents have yet to meet the person you’re dating, but you’ve already made it public on Facebook.

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  • For the life of me I will never understand why people post ANY of their personal business on-line in the first place! Ah, the perils of being young….., and not so smart!.

    • miap990

      if i could go back i would have never joined any of those social networks.

  • Sagittarius81

    Last year, my cousin was dumped by his girlfriend on FB when I saw when I saw that she is “In A Relationship” with another man on the newsfeed and I told him about it. He totally closed his FB account afterwards. Since I’m married, why not let the world know about it?

  • Akiko

    No need for a list. Unless one is married, there is no need for others to know your relationship status. Oh, and it is so funny how when you change your relationship status (for pretend), people come out of the woodwork wanting to know your business.

  • Chey

    Let’s not forget the people who put their insecurities on full BLAST on fb, and then wonder why people look at them crazy in person. Like, don;t do do that to yourself. Save it for people who actually acre about you and have your best interest at heart. those other people you call “friends” are probably just laughing at you.

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    I really try not to complain about this site because I enjoy many of the articles but the layout is pretty bad. Please reduce many of the clicks in your articles, it is annoying and prevents me from reading the full piece. I know why you do it…for the clicks and advertisers but it makes the site less reader friendly.

    • Chey

      Lol, how many times will people have to say this before they change things?

    • Charla

      Or how there’s only about 3 articles on the (mobile) home page so you must click on page 2. But page 2 only gives you 4 articles, 3 of which were on the first page. {sigh} Anything for more “hits.”

      • yeppers

        I was WONDERING why they did that, and probably why articles like this dont get many comments… I dont even click thru them I just comment on the topic at hand. And its usually 1 completely unrelated RANDOM picture with 1 sentence under it. YET I HAVE TO CLICK OUT OF 5 ADS BEFORE I CAN READ THIS 1 SENTENCE….Chile Are yall serous MN???

  • YES gAWD

    I will not be airing my laundry clean or dirty on any social networks… Its not a lick of these strangers business what is going on inside your home. If you have kids, share pics, vacations etc. But who I am dating, marrying, breaking up with. ETC is nobodys business, nor is our date nights or anything else personal. I want to keep somethings for myself ONLY. Its not just a celebrity thing its real, those social networks can take over people lives. I know people that live so much for what people on TWITTER have to say about them THAT THEY HAVE NO LIFE OF THEIR OWN…OR THEIR OWN LIFE IS IN SUCH A SHAMBLES THAT THEY LIVE OUT THIS AMAZING LIE ON THESE NETWORKS AND THEN HAVE NOTHING TO SHOW FOR IT IF YOU KNOW THEM. PEOPLE NEED TO STOP…. ITS GETTING OUT OF HAND.

  • TRUTH IS

    Facebook is the devil’s playground, I swear

  • Melyssa

    No need to click on all 15 reasons as to why… I am sure we have all witnessed and read people relationship statuses on FB and watched them play out from “In A Relationship’ to “Single” to “it’s Complicated” and comments from people wanted to know what happened, wh,y who, and what..* smh* I left that part blank.. social media is not your personal diary or journal although alot of people seem to use it as such, it’s sad because social media has wrecked havoc on alot of relationship in one form or another but in the end you only have yourself to blame because you chose to put whatever out there inviting other into your space.

    • Kenedy

      Preach. People use facebook as their personal therapists…but unlike therapists, facebook tells everyone and their grandmama your business….which doesn’t really help you get over issues…unless you’re attention seeking

  • pickneychile

    When I started dating my husband he sent me a request to change our status. I was like sure, I have nothing to hide. Lahd Jesus, everyone had something to say! From some guy who was not so secretly pining over me back in JA, to random people I forgot I was even friends with. Then some chick who used to talk to my husband way back when got upset and tried to add me so she could check me out…wth. It was a high school hot mess and we weren’t even in high school! I have a tolerate/hate relationship with facebook lol.

    • yeppers

      YESSS GIRL!! OMG I actually was minding my business and the new WIFE of a dude I had not talked to since college and mind you we are well into our 20s almost 30s, and she befriends me on facebook out of the blue the day after they got married, I DONT EVEN LIVE IN THE STATE, have NEVER sent any public or personal message to this dude…only thing she knew was that we had this love/hate relationship thru high school/college. But I moved away and never looked back SINCE. Plus if i happen to visit the state and see her out she gives me dirty looks! GIRL, WHY DID YOU REQUEST ME AS A FRIEND IN THE FIRST PLACE?? social networks bring out the crazy in people. I WILL NEVER TALK ABOUT MY RELATIONSHIPS ON THESE NETWORKS…..NEVER.