Good Reasons To Keep Your Relationship Status Off Facebook
Social networking is no longer about getting back into touch with people we haven’t talked to in years. Instead, it’s become a platform for people to spill and share their life on a 24/7 basis. You see people Facebooking their relationship, Tweeting their work day, and Instagramming their dates. When you’re in a relationship, it’s likely that you feel the need to tell everyone about it. However, there are some positives to keeping your relationship on the down low. Like these:
Sharing makes room for negative comments
When you first begin dating someone, you’re bound to get comments, but you’ll get even more reactions when you publish it on Facebook. Once you open your relationship to your social circle, be prepared for some commentary, some of which you really may not like.
It makes for easier breakups
Ending a relationship is tough enough, but having to break the news to all of your Facebook friends is even worse. No one wants to share with hundreds of people that their relationship has just ended. Going from “in a relationship” to “it’s complicated” draws a lot unwanted attention in a time that’s already painful.
It creates pressure in a relationship
This can go either way, but maybe you or your guy insists on changing each others relationship status. Or maybe you feel inclined to change yours because you want to show that you’re loyal and you know it’ll cause some drama if you don’t change it. This can cause all sort of resentment and can bring negativity into your relationship.
You’ll have less explaining to do
Even if your relationship is on the rocks, it isn’t usually wise to share that information on Facebook by changing your status to say “it’s complicated.” This change will only open up a world of explaining for you to do. A good amount of your friends are bound to ask “what happened?” “are you okay?,” and so on.
Less people will hound you
Facebook has somehow become the new dating site, and if your relationship status is set to single, you may be in for a rude awakening. It’s all but promised that you’ll get a lot of winks, messages, pokes, and invitations, all because your Facebook implies that you’re single (and looking). Beware that other singles, looking to change their status, are always lurking.
There’ll be less drama all around
By keeping your relationship off of Facebook, you are bound to have less outside drama. Girls can be petty, just like guys, and there is always someone out there who would love to ruin what you have. Add all of this to the pettiness that you already have to deal with off the web, and you’ve got your hands full. No public relationship status, less problems.
You avoid bringing your ex into the loop
If you’re like a lot of people, you still have your ex as a friend on Facebook. When your relationship changes to “in a relationship,” it’s all but certain that there will be some bad vibes coming from his direction. This can easily push your ex to become a stalker who tries to disrupt your relationship. Keeping your relationship status private may keep your ex at bay.
Less people will be interfering
When your relationship status is set to” in a relationship,” you’ll find that a lot more people take interest in it. Even if you want to share the happy news and details, remember that the relationship is between you two, and no one else. It’s sometimes wisest to only share your relationship details with those closest to you opposed to all of the 600 friends you have on Facebook.
It lessens the opportunity to be blackmailed
This may sound a bit extreme, but it has happened. Maybe a girl your guy is friends with likes him. Or maybe she was interested in him but he choose you over her. Whatever the case may be, publicly showing that you’re in a relationship with this guy can lead to all sorts of blackmailing from girls who just don’t want to face to facts.
You avoid unnecessary outside pressure
Some people really get into a rut about how they will share the big news with their friends. Should you post a Facebook status? Change your relationship status? Create a new hashtag on Twitter? Post a picture of you and your new boyfriend? Obviously all of this can be eliminated if you just keep things on the down low and tell people as you see fit.
There will be less judgement from others
One week you’re in a relationship with one guy. The next week you’re single. And two weeks later you’re seeing someone new. While this may not seem like a big deal, announcing it to dozens, if not hundreds of people, opens your life up to a lot of judgement. This will be problematic if you’re sensitive.
Relationship information can be viewed by employers
You’ve likely seen all of the stories about employers checking up on their employees or potential employees’ Facebook profiles. Maybe you’re in a relationship with someone who isn’t an exactly upstanding person. Or maybe you’re dating someone who already works for that employer. Sometimes your relationship status can get in the way in the professional world.
There’s less room for confusion
Sometimes people become so wrapped up in other parts of social networking that they forget all about what they have set as their relationship status. Even if your “its complicated” relationship has since ended, you may forget to change it. This could cause issues in the future if you start talking to someone new.
You avoid letting your parents know too soon
Even if you’re above the legal age, your parents may still be strict about who you can and cannot date. Some parents want to know the person their child is dating before it’s made official. This also applies if your parents have yet to meet the person you’re dating, but you’ve already made it public on Facebook.