Love in Hardback: 15 Of The Best Relationship Books On The Market

February 13, 2013  |  
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Most dating and relationship books today are just regurgitations of what you could read in any eHow article, simply repackaged in a cute, well-branded way. But we’ve done our research to find which relationship books actually offer innovative, helpful theories, exercises and tips for finding and maintaining long-term love. Check out our picks:

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He’s Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt

Written by a stand-up comedian, the harsh realities in this book become a little easier to digest with his funny twist. Essentially, Greg Behrendt teaches us that men act from their intentions. They don’t play games (if they’re serious about you). If he likes you, he will pursue you. If he is not pursuing you, he does not like you. Don’t read into ambiguous actions. Only accept clear signs, at face value.

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Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson

Based on Emotionally Focused Therapy, this book details the various stages of healing work that couples struggling to keep emotional intimacy can do together via certain exercises—otherwise known as the 7 conversations. Couples have praised this book because they can practice the exercises on their choosing from their home.

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Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey

Another comic shoots us straight about men. Harvey emphasizes that men are simple creatures. Women seek to have countless subtle, involved needs fulfilled. Meanwhile all men really want from a partner is support, loyalty, and sex. So long as those are provided, men won’t question your other moves.

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Why Him? Why Her? by Helen Fisher

For those who like organization, this book breaks people down into 4 categories of partners: the Explorer, who is creative and seeks novelty; the Builder who takes precautions and is conventional; the Director who is assertive and single-minded; and the Negotiator who is empathetic and idealistic. Fisher shows how we attract and repel others based on our type.

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Why Men Love Beyotch*s by Sherry Argov

The name says it all. Argov teaches us that if you act like you’re a prize to be won, men will believe it (even if you don’t believe it!). This book takes an aggressive approach to valuing yourself, and demanding to be equally valued by men.

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Deal Breakers: When to Work on a Relationship and When to Walk Away by Bethany Marshall

In this get-real-with-yourself book, psychoanalyst Marshall encourages you to figure out your deal breakers before dating someone, and stand by those. This helps you avoid wasting time, building a connection with someone it just won’t work out with in the end. In other words, put your mind to work before you let your heart get involved.

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Non-Violent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg

A welcome guide to couples who just aren’t “getting each other,” this book helps partners learn to communicate in a peaceful, productive manner, highlighting easy ways to minimize blame and judgment when resolving issues, so they can get straight to the underlying needs that have to be addressed.

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How to Set His Thighs on Fire: 86 Red Hot Lessons on Love, Life, Men and Especially Sex by Kate White

In this book, the beloved Cosmopolitan editor-in-chief Kate White gives you every tip you can imagine to “tease, tantalize and torture” a man. Just consider it a consolidated version of every sex article from “Cosmo” every published.

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Why Hasn’t He Called? by Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal

A reporter and once-womanizer teams up to help women understand men in this insider’s guide. The pair emphasizes the fact that because of a woman’s sexuality, she has complete power over a man.

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The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate—And What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top by Steve Santagati

Santagati calls us out: we like bad boys. And in his book he teaches women how to beat bad boys at their own game, instead of being heartbroken by another one.

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Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix

In this book, Harville Hendrix, a couples counselor, introduces readers to a form of therapy called Imago Relationship Therapy. Essentially, this form of therapy focuses on having you understand your unconscious image of the opposite sex or, simply put, what you’re subconsciously looking for in a partner.

 

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Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the sensual and The Domestic by Esther Perel

In this book, Esther Perel, a psychotherapist to less-than-enthused couples, helps you learn ways to keep the passion alive in a long-term relationship.

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Find A Husband After 35 by Rachel Greenwald

After graduating from Harvard Business School, Rachel used what she learned about marketing to create this 15-step program to finding love. Many have praised this practical, strategic approach to finding love because it empowers one to take action.

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Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman and Nan Silver

Great for those who appreciate a practical, scientific approach, this book picks apart common misunderstandings about divorce and works to make clear what happiness in a marriage really means. John Gottman is himself a world-renowned marriage researcher and clinical psychologist.

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  • JustSayin

    I feel like this list is missing Hill Harper’s “The Conversation.” That book is really accurate as far as how men and women view relationships. It is honest and it is the opinion of real men & women. It really shows how communication is effected by pride, lack of affection and/or first impressions. That book is highly underrated and should definitely be on this list.

  • AmyFinehouse

    The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman is AMAZING. It teaches us that everyone wants to be loved in a different way and sometime the way you give love, isn’t the way your partner feels loved. There are 5 different languages of love and once you decipher what yours is, and which one your partner is, you can communicate love better.

    For example, if your language is Physical Touch, you might show love by being touchy feely but your partner might not feel loved through touch. They may be a person who feels loved by Quality Time, Words of Affection, Receiving Gifts, or Acts of Service. VERY INTERESTING AND EFFECTIVE !

    • Nikki

      Mine is quality time! Even if it’s just the two of us walking the dog for 10 minutes, that means SO much to me!

      • kierah

        Mine is Quality Time but my husband’s is Acts of Service. I think if we had realized these things about each other earlier, we could have reduced some conflicts.

  • kierah

    I can not say enough about The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. My husband and I were introduced to this book at a retreat. Within minutes of deciphering our individual love languages, we learned something new about our relationship. It is relatively easy to understand; however, it does take practice to implement it practically.

  • kay

    I am sorry but I am not the biggest fan of self help books. I am a huge lead by example kind of girl. If i need advice on dating i normally go to people who have been married for years. Sometimes those books are so general. It really depends on the realtionship you want.