Ring Finger Getting A Little Lonely? 14 Legitimate Reasons Why He Hasn’t Proposed (At Least Not Yet!)

February 5, 2013 ‐ By Ashley Page
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You and your guy love each other. You’ve been dating for two years or more. You live together and split the bills — all of them. His parents love you and vice versa. You have a dog together and everything is basically his and hers, yet the ring still hasn’t come. Based on the way your relationship has been progressing, it’s clear that the next logical step would be a proposal, but it just hasn’t happened and you’re starting to get confused. Don’t worry just yet. Here are 14 legitimate reasons for why he hasn’t proposed to you.

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  • Babydoll 70

    Why are there always 10 to 15 reasons for everything? geesh.

  • Some dudes while in school or working to move ahead in their field aren’t trying to get married. They are perfectly cool having a steady while they focus on getting their status and their paper right. Often times once they get ahead, their “steady” isn’t the one they see themselves with for the rest of their lives which why when they talked about their future plans i.e. “I would love to live in Italy one day” she isn’t included. They ditch her and marry/get engaged to someone new within a year or two. I’ve seen it countless times.

    I met my husband while we were in college. We dated for two years and were engaged for two years. He told me pretty early on that I was going to be his wife one day as soon as he had the means to provide. So that BS that he’s just too focused on his career or his money ain’t right is crap. Even if he doesn’t formally propose he will state his intentions to you and take measurable steps to follow through on those intentions.


    And with this bit of information, women must…..?!?

    • TRUTH IS

      Sound like lame @$$ excuses to me.

  • Breezy

    Alot of these are reasons I am not ready to get married yet and I am a women — focusing on career, having a significant amount of money saved, and not being sure about parenthood.

  • Breezy

    Alot of these are reasons I am not ready to get married yet and I am a women — focusing on career, having a significant amount of money saved, and not being sure about parenthood.

  • VaMay

    No offense, but some of these reasons seems like things that should be discussed before you get seriously involved in a relationship.

    • Patricia

      That is true. Those things should be discussed prior. As for a huge diamond ring, if the guy does not make that type of money to get you that 10 carat ring, he can’t do it. You cannot not pressure him to buy something that will put him in the poor house and struggling to makes payment the rest of his life. Women need to be realistic, It does not matter the size of the diamond, as long as the marriage last when two parties agree to work at it. It sad that you have women fixated on the size of the ring and just getting married. People getting divorce does turn a lot of men off. Just because somebody in your family, your friend got divorced that does not mean it is going to happen to you as I indicated if the two parties has to agree to work at the marriage. Also, I think most guys don’t want to get married because they come in a lot of money and work hard to keep it, they don’t want to pay out all that money in divorce settlement, alimony, or child support payments. If you live together or “shack up” your chances are slim if they guy will marry you because you are already living together as if they are married.

    • Star Marroquin

      Ur def right

  • Ms. Kameria

    I’m not wasting my life chasing after a ring. If it happens it happens. If it don’t, oh well.

    • If you do want to get married there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with making that known and more woman should do so. And not with an ultimatum by that point you’ve stayed way to long in a relationship without direction. Reserving some of yourself (like your credit, home, and uterus) for only a man who wants to wife you is a HUGE first step.

  • bluekissess

    MN enough with the list of a million reasons why: you shouldn’t get married, shouldn’t be a mother, shouldn’t talk to your man, shouldn’t be the angry black woman, shouldn’t have a career and be a mother.