Are You In An Unhealthy Relationship? 15 Weird Signs Indicating That Things Ain’t Right

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September 19, 2012 ‐ By Julia Austin
"Couple talking about money"

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He “advises” you often

It’s great to have a man that cares about your wellbeing. But, he should believe in your ability to make decisions about such fundamental things as your friendships, your career and your finances. If you’re with a man that constantly advises you to do something completely different than what you were going to, then he could just be trying to control you. He certainly shouldn’t be telling you which friends to have, or what passions to pursue.

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  • Mark E. Desod

    I’m glad it didn’t say anything about making her kneel on rice, naked, in a cold damp basement begging for forgiveness and affection or I might be in trouble.

  • eddie

    This list shout say “a girls point of view on…” this list is horrible and wrong.

  • jay

    This is spot on. It is not saying if you do one or two of these. If you are saying yes to the majority you might want to start looking into it. This goes for guys too. I was in a very toxic relatioship but didn’t know it until it was over. I had to put up with almost all of these things and it eventually lead me to fall into a deep depression to the point I contemplated suicide. At first I saw this from a link on another news site and was just like oh what the hey. Now I am like holy crap I was doing that and that and that. It was creepy. Lol

  • Dave

    How are these obvious problems classfied as weird

  • WooBad

    WTF lady!!! You want some cheese with that whine, you little biaach? Or maybe a wahburger and some french cries? How ’bout a whineken?

  • Blessed.the.2nd.time.around

    Signs you are in a great relationship: if he tells you how cute/beautiful you are & you’ve been awake less than 10 minutes and not out of bed yet; if he worries about your future after his death enough to sit you down and discuss/plan for it–and he’s perfectly healthy; if he notices neglectful friends/family enough to talk about it to you, and doesn’t tell you to get away from them, but encourages you to work it out; if he thanks you for random acts of kindness months or years after the occurrence; if he loves your pets more than you do; if he takes good, attentive care of you when you don’t feel well, even if it’s just menstrual cramps or PMS; if he turns off the tv during his favorite sport because he’d rather be with you; if he loves your parents and treats you as well or better than they do; and if he falls head over heels for you, but waits for you to feel the same without ever saying it…wrap him up, take him home, and always use the Golden Rule because he has respect, support, and love for you that will last forever!

  • Blessed.the.2nd.time.around

    Signs you are in a great relationship: if he tells you how cute/beautiful you are & you’ve been awake less than 10 minutes and not out of bed yet; if he worries about your future after his death enough to sit you down and discuss/plan for it–and he’s perfectly healthy; if he notices neglectful friends/family enough to talk about it to you, and doesn’t tell you to get away from them, but encourages you to work it out; if he thanks you for random acts of kindness months or years after the occurrence; if he loves your pets more than you do; if he takes good, attentive care of you when you don’t feel well, even if it’s just menstrual cramps or PMS; if he turns off the tv during his favorite sport because he’d rather be with you; if he loves your parents and treats you as well or better than they do; and if he falls head over heels for you, but waits for you to feel the same without ever saying it…wrap him up, take him home, and always use the Golden Rule because he has respect, support, and love for you that will last forever!

  • mam

    This is a BS, ultra feminist article…

  • Kimberly Lawley

    I agree total B.S… i have been so married for 12 yrs. We have sec daily we are always around each other and ya he gives me advice but doesnt tell me what to do.. who wrote this story??

  • jimmy

    So we should blame everything thats not right on our mate ? Who wrote this a divorce attoney ?

  • LG

    Terrible article

  • mayra

    Umm no not all women are like that. I think that if the Guy loves you for who you are you don’t have to be all beautiful all the time. He will love you and show you that he loves you just by telling you and showing you even in your sweats

  • Gail

    What a terrible article. I am happily married and we don’t put all of our “stuff” on each other. This article encourages this. Happy marriage need happy BOTH people with enough love to be there in each other’s ups and downs day. Tear, fears, passions and joys. That word again…”relationship” what exactly is that? A no nothing term. I am married. Simple/

  • Just Peachy!

    After reading the first one I am done because that was a poor example and I don’t want to click 14 more times to see any more. The comment thread also helped.

  • http://www.facebook.com/gloria.modin Gloria Modin

    wawo so i allmost pinn in all the points. well the relationship its over now so what ever

  • L-Boogie

    Eff that stay single.

  • Britt

    This was a terrible list…i have seen PERFECT relationships where 1 or more of these things occured…..so your man should’nt spil u, u shouldn’t gain or lose weight, and too much sex is bad sex?? WTF?? I wonder if the author of this article has a great relationship…..cuz listening to this list will get u DIVORCED!!

    • Tamara

      Thanks for summing it up Britt. I wanted to read the comments to get an idea of what the list contained because there was no way I was clicking through all that (it annoys me). Good grief! We shouldn’t have to fight to read an article. Smh

    • jenn

      Awful! I didn’t make it all the way thru

    • Howell

      My thoughts

  • JustSayin

    I think one that is missing is and is a HUGE sign is when you are constantly looking for reasoning or validation from individuals. Like those who go on Social Media and vent about their situations as if they are in group therapy. That is a HUGE sign that the communication is broken in the relationship and that you are seeking advice from complete (and unreliable) strangers. There are PLENTY of those on Facebook and Twitter. Especially; if one day they are bad mouthing their relationship, next day they’re single and the day after that their status says, “I love my boo, forever for life!” Matter of fact… that is more of a constant roller coaster of emotions. Oh snap… I thought of 2 more! :-)

  • TRUTH IS

    The first five threw me off….it’s a catch 22, either your lose or you lose